TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided - all welcome!

[Kwick709]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

(Ahem and by Cloud I meant Hoping...I'm not yet talking to myself, honest!!! it's early...)

Hey everyone,

Sorry MN seems to have stopped sending me emails :(
How is everyone

Welcome hoping (just put an astrix before and after the word and it will turn bold) that's how I do it on the mobile anyway :)
Good luck on you 2ww keeping everything crossed

LOL cloud teeheehee I always talk to myself!

Just landed in Venice but no steps or buses... FOR THE LOVE OF GOD!!!!!

Evening! Has anyone heard of or used the CRGW clinic in Cardiff? crgw.co.uk

The prices for procedures are half those of the English clinics! That seems to be the norm for clinics in Wales and Scotland.....

No sorry but stork maybe search for this on MN and see if it comes up in other threads.

On my way home back from flying visit to Venice. Shattered. And completely swamped my grief again. My poor baby.

Oh kwick honey. Virtual hugs. Xoxoxoxo

Big hugs kwick xx

We understand kwick Thinking of you.

Kwick can you take some more time off now you're back from Venice?

The travel associated with your job sounds pretty full-on and you might need a bit more time before you resume everything fully?

Allow yourself to grieve. For me it's your rotten luck that I would need to come to terms with, rather than grieving the baby. At the stage you had your missed miscarriage the foetus was barely at all developed. My doctor says to always remember that only a foetus with a severe problem like a chromosome issue tends to miscarry so try to think of a miscarried baby as one that never would have been viable. I know this sounds really cold, but for me would help me deal with a miscarriage in the relatively early stages.

You don't always have to have a positive mental attitude. You could allow yourself a couple of days off being 'strong' about things, allow yourself to wallow in grief and a bit of self-pity and then pick yourself up and continue to make your plans for your next attempt.

Thanks everyone. Feeling a bit better today albeit stressed as have loads to do - as I am actually off the rest of the week (my mum and I are going away until sunday am to Lisbon and Porto). Good timing :)

shoes Thanks. Intellectually I know what you are saying is true but my heart has not caught up yet :(

Blood test results today, and hooray my LH and FSH are normal(ish)
They are not quite in the expected 1:1 ratio, but they are both below 5 which sounds good to me.
2 weeks tomorrow and it's the consultant appointment. There's no spare spaces in nursery to we are going to have to take DD with us. I'm already feeling guilty about that.

Good news talulah, I hope the appointment goes well!

Hugs Kwick, for now just feel what you feel. Thinking of you.

Right, off to my screening test scan. Feeling pretty nervous! Just seriously hoping everything is okay!! But at least I will know soon. Wish me luck!!

Frickerty f**k day at work... So much to do... Blubbed over one work friend... Have raging post cry headache.

cloud hope scan went well :)

talula why is it a prob for dd to come to appointment?

kwick mainly because I know that I used to dislike being reminded of the fact other people had children at my infertility appointments. Day to day life no problem, but coming out after bad news for whatever reason and seeing a happy baby :/
I feel guilty I'm going to do that to someone else, but needs must unless I can find someone to babysit.
I hope you have a better evening.x

cloud I hope everything went well for you, let us know.

Excuse my language, but holy sh!t I'm having a BABY!!!

Gawd I can't stop crying! I kept waiting for something to go wrong, cos I can't be this lucky, but everything is fine and healthy!

And no soft markers for Downs, so that puts me at very low risk, which was my other concern.

So for the first time I can finally believe I'm having a baby. It's really overwhelming!

Thank you ladies for all your advice and support! You've been a life saver over these last roller coaster months. You're all amazing!!

Awww cloud that is SO exciting! I don't blame you for crying!

Kwick I'm glad you've got plans for going away - it sounds like you need some rest and recuperation time.

Hey all.

I'm really confused. I just don't know what to do. My clinic says my next test should be done on day 8-10 of my cycle to check follicle growth. But a different consultant I spoke to says that unless I'm planning on a natural iui I don't need to bother with that test. So now I'm completely thinking my clinic are being money grabbing little beggars.

Do I do medicated iui? With a 10-12% success rate...
Do I just jump to IVF?

Argh....!

Ps love to all, cloud, bloody hell thats an actual baby!

Kwick, would that we could share and relieve your pain. Xoxoxo

Wow wow wow cloud what a beauty!!!! You are going to be a wonderrful mummy! Take a deep breath and repeat after me "I am a wonderful mummy and my baby is healthy and strong"

stork ah yes the IUI/medicated IUI/natural IVF/medicated IVF dilemma....been there, done that.... Still there doing that.
In my humble opinion you should do the scan to see follicle growth this will give them and you a very good idea if you really need meds or not. If you are considering IUI I would also recommend a hycosy - I did not do this and who knows if my tubes are a problem. IUI is MUCH MUCH MUCH less invasive and I just wish that I had been successful with it and I have considered trying again with IUI but seeing as time is a ticking I will go back to IVF - so much more intervention but then so much more likelihood of success. And if it has worked once it should work again - right????
Anyway I am always happy to answer question or just ramble on even when no questions have been asked

Stork I had my follicles measured on day 12 but I only had one and it was small, plus no hormones at all to say I was near ovulating, so they checked again on day 16 when the follicle was much bigger and then had the trigger for IUI next day. I think having the scans made me feel more positive that they were doing it at the right time

Eek cloud congratulations!!!!!!!!!! Such a lovely scan photo.

All bfps I have a public service announcement: just found an ace and affordable shop (at Stansted) called HEMA that sells online with a maternity range!!!! You're welcome

Hi everyone, I hope it's ok that I'm here. I'm 25 and have wanted children for as long as I can remember, well the other day I finally made the decision to go for it. In just over a year (when I finish university) I'm going to go ahead with IUI and either be a single mum by choice, or be in a relationship with a nice lady who also wants a baby haha I am excited, terrified, confused as to what I should be doing??? Just in need of some friends in the same boat lol

MattiR Welcome! There is so much good and excellent info on this thread, and the thread before if, if you head back to page 1 or 2 I came on board at that point and the ladies share lots of good info for what to do to prepare body and mind for this journey. Go make yourself a hot chocolate and get reading!

As you are still young, you could look at egg sharing to get a deal on IVF, I left it too long and my old eggs weren't wanted, alas!

Let us know how we can help. But for now I think its mostly preparing finances and your body and mind.you can of course start looking at local clinics, foreign clinics etc, depending on your budget and the possibility of egg sharing - all that will make a difference!

Welcome mattir!

stork we will have NO talk of old eggs...cos if yours are old mine must be ancient!

Rain stopped for a good chunk of yesterday and we did tram 28 in Lisbon, today we are doing the hop on hop off bus and then tomorrow train to Porto. It is soooooo nice to get away.