TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided - all welcome!

[Kwick709]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

poor thing Kwick! How long do you have to use it for?

I think today is the last day but I am not going to use it anymore.
Anyway I have made an appointment with my consultant to discuss next steps - may as well take advantage of not being at work. I wish I could go for a swim - but not allowed until bleeding stops.
Gonna have a nice cup of tea

How are you doing today kwick ?

AFM - AF has arrived early for once. Day2 bloods tomorrow. Wishing I'd not moved our consultants appointment back to June now.

Morning ladies,

Kwick - that sounds horrible. I don't blame you for giving up early. And good plan re getting next appt ASAP. At least you will be informed. Hopefully they won't make you wait too long till you can try again.

Talulah - Yay for AF! I never thought I'd hear myself say those words! Fingers crossed you start to get a bit more regular now.

Right, I'm off to sneak in a full caffeine coffee. Whoop whoop! Shattered. I'll probably go mental, not really had caffeine for ages. Eep!

Sorry I haven't been active ladies.

Kwick I am so sorry. I'm heartbroken for you. Take good care of yourself & allow yourself to grieve... Sending you lots of positive thoughts & hugs. Xx

pickle I think you were having your op this week? Sorry scatterbrain is even worse at the moment. Anyway I hope you are doing well.

caution thank you so much for your kind words.

I am not feeling so good... Womble pain... Could be stomach pain? Itchiness still there but a bit better. Days flying by... Not sleeping so great...
Really tired. Anyway have consultant appointment tomorrow. Hope I do not blub all over her.

Morning all,
Kwick hope your appointment with the consultant goes ok, don't hold back tho if you need to cry sometimes it helps xx

Yes had op late Monday afternoon-didn't have any pain until 4.30am the next day and only had 2 paracetamol the whole time. Leg is very swollen and uncomfortable but not really pain anymore. Surgeon thinks may only need 1 or 2 more.got a review 17june for a check up :)

Kwick I hope your appointment today is useful. I'm sure your consultant can cope with a bit of blubbing - I bet they're used to it!

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pickle does that mean you get to see the handsome surgeon again?!

Consultant chat was good - will go ahead with natural ivf in 2 afs time. Feel good that I have something decided.

I just had dinner with my mum which was really nice - I had first glass of wine since September... Very nice

kwick I'm glad you have a plan to focus on, that's great news. I forget, are you doing this solo like me?

I've just come back from acupuncture where I promptly fell asleep while full of needles, I'm really enjoying the sessions. My doctor showed me an image of her twin girls as embryos, three days after transfer to help me focus my mind. And it really did.

Have a good night all!

Bet that was the nicest wine you've had ever. Glad you have a good chat with the consultant and have a plan....be time to save up a bit and give your body a little rest.

Yes I get to see him in June for check up and device plan of whether need one or two more of the same surgery. I'm in no pain now tho so feeling pretty good that had less than 24hours of discomfort....already a little fed up of the stitches tho,want them out,so impatient and can't have a bath until stitches out I love my baths so this is really hard but so worth it,already looks so much better!!!!

Blood tests done today, yay. I'm going to email the clinic and ask if there's a cancellation, I really want to get cracking now. Everything about IVF seems to be wait wait wait.

^eek exciting :) hope u manage to get a sooner appointment

Right, off to my first antenatal appointment, and with a stonking headcold! Will update how it goes.

stork yep I am footloose and fancy free

pickle you say that - but I had a headache throughout my sleep last night and still one present. I only had ONE glass for the love of God.... Back on the wagon for me! I am so glad that you are no longer in pain. I completely get you about the baths.... All through this process that has been a killer for me - can't even bathe now due to risk of fanjo/womble infection and I do so want to have a nice comforting bath.

talulah you are right about the waiting... Even doing natural IVF the protocol is 2 months... I naively thought it was just a month. But it is all worth it in the end. What clinic are you going to?

cloud best of luck with your appointment!

I'm with Oxford Fertility Unit at the moment. But if we can't cycle with my eggs (highly likely, just need the results of these tests) then we will be self referring back to Institute Marques in Barcelona where DD was conceived. Fully anonymous egg donation there so pros and cons, especially ethically.

Appointment now May 25th. Not too long.

Glad you could bring the appointment forward talulah I hope you do not mind me asking but why might your eggs not work?

So this lark of being off work has pros and cons... Have been able to do quite a bit of sorting but seem to be unearthing more problems... Like I need a filling, landline broken...

I'm a stupidly poor responder to drugs, high FSH, low AMH and family history of POF/early menopause. So after 3 failed rounds we opted for donor as the best chance of having a baby.
We are trying with pre supplementation with DHEA and coq10 this time and probably a modified natural cycle (depends on what consultant says) to give my eggs one last chance. I'm not fussed about the genetics but at the same time DH is, and really wants to use my egg if pos.
Goodness knows what the future will bring.

talulah such hard choices... Fricking hard road this

pickle are you following Masterchef UK? Is it just me or is Annie the most annoying person ever? I think I may be turning into a very aggressive person... Really want to deck her!

Ok so not sure what is going on... Either womble is exploding or my stomach is... Chinese I just guzzled has probably not helped but discomfort was before too... Hope it is just trapped wind

Right, the antenatal appointment went fine. Fairly uneventful, though I was really surprised the midwife (I'm assuming she was one) didn't seem to know much about IUI. I had to explain what the acronym stood for! You kind of expect someone in the profession to be up to speed with something as common as IUI. Was odd. But the rest went fine.

Because I had a cervical biopsy, and LLETZ procedure about 5 years ago she's requested I get a special scan done where they measure the cervix. Apparently having a cervical biopsy can leave scar tissue causing structural issue which may lead to the cervix failing. I'll have to get two more internal scans done 3 weeks apart (joy) and if they find structural issues then they basically sew the cervix shut. Charming. Still I'm not worried. It'll either be fine or it'll be fixed. The joys of being a woman!

On a positive note my nausea has been much better this week and I've even started to get my appetite back a little (yesterday I had TWO lunches in the space of an hour!). Here's hoping it continues to improve!

12 week scan booked in for the 20th May so not too long to go now. Have decided I'm going to pay to get the advanced screening done (99% accuracy on Downs). Plus you can find out the sex at the same time. Amazing!

So yeah, all ticking along okay so far over here. Really hoping that lasts!

Morning lovely ladies and how are we all feeling on our individual journeys? Xx

Just had a breakthrough with my mother. Holy cow. I'm totally shocked. She's still wary, but now understands everything a little better. I'm more than relieved.

Hi ladies :)

Kwick - sorry to hear you're not feeling great. What are the next steps? Have you miscarried naturally? I'm still so gutted for you.

Cloud, I'm glad your appointment went well. Weird though how your MW didn't know what IUI stood for...!!

I've had my gynaecology appointment. They're scanning me end of next week to see what's happening with my cyst. All the gynaecologist did was bang on about my weight and how I need to lose 10-15kg - he said I need to lose this before they operate on my cyst. He also said he was going to operate to look at my uterus and ovaries to make sure they all look fine.. At least somethings being done, I guess, but could be a way away yet as I need to lose the weight first.
He also said that he'll refer me for NHS fertility treatment if I get my BMI down to 30..!!!! . Looks like I may not have to fork out thousands to get the treatment done!

kwick yes I'm watching masterchef uk-just catching up with Friday's episode. And TOTALLY agree Annie is IRRITATING...can't work out if it's her accent or her arrogance or her mouth/teeth that disturbs me most (judgemental I know!)

caution wow that's amazing about being referred to NHS for fertility treatment, I didn't think that was funded unless fertility issues??? Not just that we lack the little swimmers part of the equation

cloud glad everything went ok at your appointment. Hope the following internal scans go ok