TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided - all welcome!

[Kwick709]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Ps. I am waiting until 12 weeks to do the Facebook update though. Even I have limits!

Shoes yeah I did quite a lot of debating around the "who do I bring, if anyone" dilemma. Cos yeah, it's not the normal thing friends or family ever experience. But in the end I decided I wanted someone with me. If it was good news I wanted to have someone to share it with, if it was not so good news I wanted someone there to comfort me or at least to distract.

As my family live in New Zealand I'd decided to ask a good friend of mine (who has a two year old) to accompany me. However my boyfriend long story, who lives in the Netherlands, when I told him the scan date he arranged to be over here for work so he could come with me, bless his cotton socks.

Next dilemma was do I have him in the room with me or not?! I mean, he's a grown man, we've been together nearly 18 months, and he has a son already, so it's not like he hasn't seen it all before, and I think it'd be nice for him to hear the heartbeat too. But legs up, with someone rooting around is not the most elegant of situations and it's pretty nerve wracking as it is. In the end, when I told him it was an internal scan he volunteered to stay outside. But I am so glad he came with me! I think, for me, finding out good news, but not having anyone to share it with, would make it sad in a way.

Of course the bigger dilemma is who do I have in the delivery room?? (All going well of course...)

Eeeeek cloud!! I'm so happy for you :)

I totally understand about telling some people for support in case anything goes wrong. That's why I chose to tell my parents, my sister and my SIL. Chose not to tell my wife's parents and BIL as we're not as close and my MIL is a nutter (did I say that out loud?!) and would probably tell the world and his dog. I'm actually leaving the wife to tell her Mum he he he!

Also told my best friend and my wife's best friend (who is also currently doing IVF so we've been sharing stories all along). It's nice to be able to share the news. And also kinda nice to tell people one at a time rather than the obligatory facebook update where everyone finds out at the same time. Need to work out how we tell the rest of the world. Waiting for the 12 weeks scan first. 9 days and counting!

I've just sown the seed today to allow me to not drink for my leaving do this Friday (I'm on antibiotics as I have a dental infection/absess). I even went as far as checking out antibiotics online and the ones you really can't drink on. Also meant I got a lay in this morning as I was 'at the dentist' he he he.

Sorry all I am very behind... Crazy week!

cloud what a fantastic picture!!! Well done you!!!

LOL taydex yep I was wondering how I could describe my nephew so that they still realised it would be my first time!!!

I may have taken a Spanish preggers test this morning just to reassure myself

Hope it's ok to come on and lurk a bit. We're thinking about IUI and I just want to get up to speed.

Hey Robins - lurk away. More the merrier! Let us know if you have any questions.

welcome robins!!! Please explain your name?!

taydex today is your last day right? Have fun and do not do any work!!!

Hey Kwik - Yes, today is my last day at work. Well, at this company. First day in new job (new company) on Monday. Excited and nervous (especially as fingers crossed I'll have to tell them I'm up-duffed pretty soon).

11 weeks today... 7 days and counting.

Oh, and I've not really done any work for the last 2 months since I handed my notice in... next week is going to be a shock!

Thanks for the welcome taydex. It's been really reassuring reading this thread and getting a little more of a sense of things. I think at the moment what I'm wondering is the unanswerable bit - how long will it take, will we manage, etc. But it's reassuring hearing about people doing IUI.

Can I ask about the various things people are taking (progesterone etc)? I'm really ignorant - is that just a standard part of the process, or is it specific to different treatments?

kwik - thanks! My name is just a response to our garden situation at the moment. I love robins, but we've just moved house and if you do anything to the garden you'll be followed about by an indignant little thing tweeting at the top of its voice and dive-bombing back and forth. The blackbirds are terrified of them!

Hi ladies - sorry I've not been active, I've been quite poorly with my UTI! That's gone now - finally - but I'm still getting some pain where my cyst is. It's just under three weeks until I see someone from gynaecology though so I'm just going to wait I think.

Cloud - what an excellent picture of your little baba! you must feel so much more relieved now you've seen him/her and have heard a heartbeat?

Shoes, what's going on? I've skim-read bits and it seems like you're having a bit of a hard time you by no means have to explain to me, just know that I'm sending lots of positive thoughts your way.

Kwick, how're you feeling? When's your 7wk scan?

Taydex - you've got to be about 10wks now, haven't you?! How are you feeling??

Pickle, any update as to when you're going to have surgery? :)

Lots of love ladies. X

My sisters 12 weeks pregnant....I'm going to be a real auntie :)

Welcome robin :)
caution sorry you've been so poorly :(
Surgery bkd for 25th April....just over 2weeks away eek! Aprehensive but excited.

Hope all well with everyone,I've got a horrid snot cold feel like poop but I'm going to be an auntie did I mention that already haha so yayyyyyy

Yay for aunty-ness Pickle. You can practice on that bubba!

Caution - 11 weeks today!

Robins - I think the Crinone (progesterone gel) is standard for anyone doing IUI or IVF. Just helps boost your chances of keeping it in there.

Thank you :) proud face I have 9 babies/toddlers/young people that have called me auntie holly over the last nine years so lots of practice :) but this one will really be my real niece or nephew so won't get the...."so your not really their auntie" crap.cant wait....altho don't want it to be October yet I need to enjoy the spring and summer first as def favourite time of year

caution so sorry you have not been well I still think 3 weeks is a long time to wait if you are in pain

pickle Congratulations!!!!!!!! great news! . Being a real Auntie is the bestest thing... I was just thinking (before I decided to chcek this thread) what a lovely relationship I have with my nephew and how I will strive to keep it that way even when kwicklet makes an appearance.

robin I should have mentioned I love the name but just did not understand - now I do. Perhaps I should change my name to SquirrelseateverythingIplantthebastards

So in terms of medication with IUI it will depend on your protocol. I did 5 "natural" IUI where the only meds I took was an injection (self administered) to trigger ovulation and then fanjo gel (crinone) during the 2WW (this is progesterone). Then I did one medicated cycle of IUI, where I injected Menopur in the lead up to ovulation to stimulate egg production, did the trigger, then the crinone. Finally have done medicated IVF - too many drugs to list out (and remember) but let me know if you want that detail and I will describe. I am still taking 3 different types of progesterone 7 times a day, plus a anti-clotting agent....

Actually this week has been a nightmare for the intramuscular injections - which I had been finding relatively easy to do. They have just become so painful to actually get the needle in... I thought I had some blunt needles but 3 times in a row... Perhaps it is my skin that has become sensitive - I had to start on my left leg yesterday... And even that was hard.

Right well I am off to watched classic "Presumed Innocent" whilst I pack up all the things I sold this week on ebay

Well done for the selling stuff kwick (sorry, just realised I don't think I've ever spelt your name right!), I really need to do some of that. Have a proper clear out and get rid of some junk. You may have inspired me. Or I may just sit around in my jammies all weekend! When is your 7 weeks ish scan again? In my head it's Monday but there's a lot of wrong in my head!

Robins - Thinking of joining in the fun and changing mine to ILoveMyDogsButTheFcukersWreckMyGarden. Well, that's my excuse for the garden always being a mess!

Pickle being a real aunty is the best. Fake aunty is nice but something special about it being real. My sister now has 3 boys and I love it. Brother in law has 2 girls and that's good too but we're not as close and don't see them that often.

Feeling smug about no hangover the day after my leaving do (due to no booze). Maybe I'm getting old and boring actually enjoying this! LOL.

Taydex your head is just fine - it is on Monday! and I am freaking out!

I defo recommend doing a clear out - I still need to do one with all my papers (can you believe I have never got rid of any bank statement in all my 41 years...?????). I have decided that I will turn over a new leaf on maternity leave and lose loads of weight and then be justified in having all new clothes...

I just found another IVF due date calculator... I am apparently 7 weeks preggers... GULP!!!!

7 weeks congrats:) good luck with your scan tomorrow

As like everyone around me, IRL and here are pregnant I've been thinking even more about when I'm going to start-worked out finances again so around Jan/Feb I'm going to go to an informal clinic session where you get a free 20min chat to ask simple questions... So want to ask how can fit into work life, when to come off pill etc then hopefully April can start all tests then fingers crossed first try in May (2017) depending on what they say I'm thinking 1 possible 2 iui (not sure whether medicated or not,can't decide) and then if that doesn't work go straight for egg share ivf to try and limit how much I have to spend on treatment vs money that'll I'll have to spend on bubs.not that I'm wishing the year away but can't wait....wish I could just win the Heart radio -whose on heart game where you can £100,000.then I could have lots of tries from now and still have money for baby and when on mat leave

Oh, pickle, that's lovely about being an auntie! I am, and it's great.

Kwick - Good luck tomorrow! Please let us know how it goes.

Pickle - May be worth coming off the pill earlier. I read 6-12 months so came off it a year before we started the whole process. Maybe read around a bit online see what they suggest.

I now have 2 appointments to squeeze in to my first week at work. Midwife and scan. At the same place but handily (not) one at 11.45 and one at 3.20... Hopefully can phone tomorrow and get one moved so they're at least together. I don't want to be faffing my new work around in the first week!

Yeh I'll have a look thanks taydex, I did ask when I went to the clinic day think at lwc but they were a bit fluffy! The thought of periods again don't feel me with joy-not had a proper one for about 7years due to the mini pill so the least I need the better haha

I was just going to suggest the same thing taydex ! Great minds and all that! pickle please consider coming off pill sooner!

Sorry I've been away from the thread. I've been visiting friends this weekend and had naff internet signal. I hope everyone's feeling ok.

Pickle another voice chiming in to say come of the pill as soon as you can. The more regular your cycles are when you start treatment, and the more you have got to know your cycle, the easier it will be to plan/time treatment. And I know quite a few of my friends took a lot more than six months for their periods to come back reliably.

Kwick I'll be thinking of you tomorrow. I hope the scan goes well!