TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided - all welcome!

[Kwick709]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

This is going to sound weird, but because my nausea has completely disappeared, which is adding to my paranoia, I envy you! I would be delighted to wake up tomorrow and throw up. Congratulations on the vomiting :-)

I keep thinking that the nausea is going - Friday to Sunday this last week I felt like it was getting better and I felt almost normal again. Then I panicked that the pregnancy was over (also the Crinone came out a little pink yesterday, but not really enough with hindsight to worry about... I think...). But this morning the nausea is back with a vengeance. I've not actually been sick so I probably should shut up with my whinging. I just constantly feel hungry/sicky. It means I end up eating all the time. I have put on about 6 lb since about the beginning of the year. I very much doubt this is baby (the books say generally you don't gain any weight in the first trimester and can even lose some due to the nausea/vomiting). Much more likely to be all the extra biscuits/cake/chocolate/sweets I have been eating. Anyway, I decided yesterday after a week of pasties/fish n chips by the sea/cake/Easter eggs/cream teas (and standing on the scales) that I would try to be a bit more healthy. It's not going great. So far I have had maltesers and gingerbread men (little ones) that someone has brought into the office. Drat. Ah well.... Hopefully some of my work clothes will fit for the start of my new job next week! (I've been in jeans and scruffs at work since I handed my notice in 2 months ago!).

Ha ha, I did wonder what you meant by committing!!! Shoes - I feel your pain. I panicked over the weekend when mine went away.

shoes I really really feel for you and I bet the next two weeks will feel a million times longer than and 2ww. I am glad that you staying strong with a good PMA - that is half the battle.

cloud you probably do not want to hear this right now... But I think it is reassuring to have morning sickness... I really do not have any symptoms to right home about which I am finding very disconcerting. I have been stockpiling air sick bags ever since I decided to TTC... So I feel prepared for vom....!!!!

Sitting in lounge waiting to board Eurostar.... Going to be an intense week of work.

Oops! Should read "write"!

See Kwick I always reconned that's just something they say to make the women who have it feel better! though, yes I will admit I do find it reassuring (well, till the vomiting bit!!) However, don't despair Kwick and Shoes I know quite a few women who hardly got any symptoms at all and they delivered just fine!

I also know others who have vomited every day and some who had no symptoms whatsoever and both types delivered healthy babies. We are all different and our bodies react to things in different ways. Also morning sickness can come and go any time between 4 weeks and 9 months. Helpful, I know! Generally it's between 6 weeks and 12/14 weeks...

Taydex can I advise you check your work clothes THIS week...?

I just went in for a meeting and had to put on a pair of trousers I haven't worn in two years cos I can no longer do up ANY of my jeans!!

I mean, technically I haven't out on any weight, still more or less the same I've been for the last three months, but where the jeans were tight before, now I can't even do the zipper up! I wear jeans at the office so I'm now gonna have to go buy maternity jeans at week seven!!

Maybe the vomitting will have a benefit after all...

He he, good plan Cloud - then I can go shopping at the weekend for new work clothes! Yay! He he. Ideally I would like to wait until after the 12w scan on 15 April before I buy any more maternity clothes. But maybe a couple of tops the next size up (and maybe a pair of trousers) would be a good plan. I know for sure that I have work clothes in varying sizes (and a particularly comfy pair of suit trousers that are on the larger side so should be fine). But yes, I will check. Might try a few items on each evening after work. I only need 5 outfits for the week before the scan (as a minimum).

I have 2 pairs of jeans that still fit (out of the billions of pairs I have but never wear - actually, I've only put on 2 pairs that don't fit, I've not tried the others). 1 normal pair and 1 pair which have always been my fat day jeans (luckily they're still too big so should do me a while yet). My sister has offered me some maternity clothes. She's usually about 1 size larger than me so hopefully they will be OK (and I'm sure after a few months it won't really matter as they'll all be massive! LOL).

Which area of clothing is getting too small may I ask? Is it the waist? I already have a mahoosive tummy and upper tummy, but still have an almost waist. Weight loss plans are not going at all well... I nearly fell asleep in a meeting today so ate to keep awake as I could not have anymore caffeinated tea....

God I have to have a chat with someone tomorrow and ask them what is up with their teeth... Anyone have any ideas how I can do that tactfully?

I'm intreagued what is up with their teeth?
Ru watching Creme de la Creme? I watched the first battleship yesterday too seemed quite good.
Neighbours tho-jeez did u watch last night-sob!!!! Devastating tv
Anywhooooo....back to babies lol....

So many teeth missing and ones there are not nice colour.... Any advice plese?

Confessions from Paris: have had to stop Neighbours - not enough space on Skyplus to record; did not ,anage to set for Battlechefs... Bugger! Am watching creme de la creme... Is that on now? Bugger wish I was back in Blighty!!!!

Eeek tricky.... I hate icky teeth. Don't really know what to suggest,maybe ask what their thoughts are about teeth are and whether planning to fix?? Good luck with that one!!

Kwick When I was at the hospital yesterday I noticed a poster that said 'If your BMI is above 25, you can join our midwife-led group to help manage your weight'. It looked like an NHS-wide scheme. Is it worth phoning your local midwives and asking if they have a programme you can join?

I used to be overweight and the best advice I can give is to concentrate on getting all of the right nutrients in a day (so plenty of protein, dairy, veg and wholegrains) rather than on cutting stuff out. If I make sure every meal has protein in it I eat less snacky stuff. When I say 'less' I have to point out that I still have cake and/or chocolate every day but I seem to manage to eat slightly less of it than I used to when my meals weren't so nutritious. Avoid low-fat stuff! It's a con. Since switching to full fat milk and adding an egg to breakfast most days I haven't put on a single pound, which can only be due to the extra protein helping to stabilise my blood sugar levels.

Tell me to eff-off if I'm overstepping the line in giving advice, but I wish someone had done the same for me all of those years when I was avoiding fatty meat and dairy.

shoes you are not overstepping anything - I am very grateful for your advice!
I am meeting the Slimming World leader next week and will see what she suggests. If that does not work out then I will try NHS group.
I find it most hard when travelling as I am not good at walking past trays of goodies!!!

Cloud Good luck for today. I hope all goes well.

Just out of interest, of us single ladies I'm wondering whether you're taking a friend or family member with you when you go for your scan?

I felt very alone (which isn't like me at all) at the Early Pregnancy Unit on Monday. All the other women there had nice men with them who were doing a good job at providing a distraction for their partners ahead of the appointment.

My parents are visiting next week so my mum will be able to come to the scan with me on the Friday, but do I leave her in the waiting room or take her in with me? It's a tricky one. If everything turns out to be ok then it will be lovely for my mum to see the foetus on the screen, but if it's bad news I don't know how appropriate it is for me to put her through the stress of being there at the point I get upsetting news (she's not brilliant at emotions stuff).

Kwick my SIL had great success with Slimming World and a lot of their recipes are very tasty.

When I lived in Paris the novelty of the patisseries did eventually wear off, but not before I'd been through a chausson aux pommes phase, pain suisse (OMG have you had a pain suisse? - they're amazing!) phase and a beignet phase.

Morning ladies,

Kwik - The area of clothing that I am starting to feel a little tight is around the waist/tummy (so I can put jeans on (with a bit of a struggle over my bum) but the fly won't do up). I am pretty sure this is not really baby related but just cos I've been making some poor food choices and eating lots of cake, crisps and chocolate over the last few weeks. I went through a mantra of eat whatever you fancy as your body is craving it so must need whatever's in it (like ready salted crisps, I thought maybe I wasn't getting enough salt so that's why I was fancying them). I am now trying to be a bit healthier but it seems biscuits keep finding their way into my mouth! For me, whenever I try to be healthy I try 2 things: 1) make sure I have at least 5 a day (I'm not great at this) and 2) make sure I drink lots of water during the day (I have a water bottle which I try and make sure I drink 2 of during the work day). I find that by doing this I am not so hungry so I don't have as much space for cake! Also I agree with the protein thing, that's probably particularly useful in times of up-duffed-ness. I would also say that now is probably not the best time to be losing weight. But it's do as I say not as I do as I am currently trying to lose a bit of my extra gut and ar5e that's appeared over the last month or so (the chub bit, not baby bit which I'm pretty sure is up and showing yet!). I am sure the Slimming World lady will be able to offer advice. I also think I snack out of boredom - and I'm pretty bored at work right now, but that should all change on Monday when I start my new job. Eeek! Eugh, gross teeth are disgusting. Good luck with that! Maybe I've watched too much Embarrassing Bodies...!

Missed Creme de la Creme this week so may do a sneaky iplayer catch up at my desk. Me so bad. Still, gotta get away with these things while I'm here before I move and have to be good!

Cloud - Good luck for today. I hope it all goes well. Please let us know. And share a piccy if you can. I love to see these things (even though I mostly haven't a clue what I'm looking at!).

Shoes - I would recommend taking someone if you can. Just make sure it's not someone who will stress you out. I got really stressed the morning of my 7 week scan and my SIL was over and ended up coming with us (and the 2 dogs) - why these couldn't have all stayed at home is beyond me! It's not too bad when I go to the IVF/IUI clinic for appointments, a couple of which I've had to do alone, as there's all types there. But I guess in a regular hospital everyone is all coupled up in regular boy/girl couples so feels a bit weird (being there with my wife, or I suspect on your own too). I think I would take your Mum in if I were you. But I am basing this on my Mum. I think it would be good to have some support in there. I wouldn't want to be told anything bad if I was on my own. But hopefully it won't come to that. 1 final thing (and I'm sure you know this), you are aware it's an up the front bottom scan and not an on the tummy scan, aren't you?

shoes you are NOT helping with my quest to lose weight! Fortunately there has been little opportunity to be naughty today and now I am waiting to board plane, destination: Barcelona.

The only time in all this I have been accompanied was for hysteroscopy and egg collection as you have to have someone there for that. My mum wanted to come for egg transfer but I am really not keen on having my mum be there - she is invested in this but she would not normally "be in the room" during chukka- chukka. I am going to my scan alone - if it is bad news then I can process a bit before sharing.
I have wondered about giving birth... But figure it will sort itself out. Bad news is that maternity awards dont seem to let children in unless siblings... I have already told my nephew that he will have to pretend to be my son

Hello little one!!!!!

Eeeeek!!! Seriously!! It's actually a baby!! OMG!!!!!

So incredible! Confirmed 7 weeks exactly, all measurements bang on. Strong regular heartbeat. God, hearing that is incredible. I cried!

On another photo you can even see an arm bud and the spine!

She had a bit of difficulty getting a good picture as my uterus tilts backwards , but after a fair amount of rooting around she found a good angle.

She did notice quite a lot of cystic fluid around my left ovary, which she wasn't too concerned about, but she wants to check it again next week just in case. So I've got a follow up appointment next Thursday. But otherwise it's confirmed as a viable pregnancy!

Oh. My. God.

Woohoo!!! This is brilliant brilliant news

I'm so pleased for you Cloud . It must be such a relief to know that everything is progressing well!

Are you going to start telling people now that you've had a good scan, or are you waiting until your 12-week scan?

OMG OMG OMG Cloud! That's awesome!!! Well done you. That is awesome. And what a great picture. It really is amazing hearing and seeing it for the first time, isn't it? Makes it all suddenly incredibly real. Does that mean you get a cheeky extra scan at 8 weeks? If I could I'd want one every week (although I did read in my book the other day that you shouldn't request too many (now you can just go and pay for them it meant) as there's no proof it's not bad for bubs - I'm pretty sure they meant don't ask for 20 scans, not don't do what the hospital are recommending). Well done you - when will you start telling people? We've only told a select few and are waiting for 12 week scan before we tell more, but each to their own.

Kwik - Don't forget your nephew is your "adopted son" in case they think you've already pushed one out and therefore know what you're doing

Thanks ladies! :D yeah, it's is totally suddenly real! And yes, a big relief.

And can't say I'm complaining about getting a cheeky 8 weeks scan either! Will be interesting to see if I can notice any changes!

And ah...as for telling people, I've been telling people since the morning I found out!! I am one loose-lipped momma over here!!! Even my hair dresser knows!! (So bad)

My theory was (especially when it came to close friends and family) that I want to be able to share the excitement and the worry with others and if things go wrong then I'll need all their support! I guess part of that was driven by the fact I'm doing this solo so I don't have the "other half" to share everything with.

I suspect if things go wrong, I wouldn't be telling quite so many people so early the second time around, but fingers crossed this goes well and everything will be fine! Plus, it is fun telling people!!