TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided - all welcome!

[Kwick709]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Caution - Well done on getting to he quacks. Hopefully the antibiotics will help but good to hear they've not ruled out the pain coming from the cyst.

Cloud - Thanks for the tip re certificate. I was only thinking the other day I could do with going to the dentist and if I can get it for free then all the better. Will look into it. So far not sure what doc would do as he's not even tested to make sure I am. Will look into it and let you know.

Shoes - Totally get where you're coming from re emotions. Add in to that the possibility that you've not really told people yet and I do find it hard. I keep trying to get my wife to read the partner bits in the books so she can understand more. She's not read them but has listened to some stuff I've said which is good. Talking of weird thoughts and feelings I have found myself occasionally thinking OMG what have we done, no going back now. I presume that's totally normal to feel...

Ha! Taydex thanks for saying you sometimes think "what have we done?!" I've had that thought too recently - even though I've been planning this for 18 months!! You think you'd be happy about being pregnant, and sometimes I am, but then you also get times where you're just like "wtf was I thinking??", very swiftly followed by "well too late now...". I'm gonna go with its a fairly normal response to such an unknown, life altering event, buried up to the eyeballs in hormones! Always reassuring to hear it's not just me though!

Thank you all :) I'm glad I went now because it probably would've just got worse. Hopefully the antibiotics start working, I'm still in pain!

Cloud, ooh. Can't believe it's your 7wk scan next Wednesday! That's flew round!

How have all you ladies been?? X

Phew, glad it's not just me Cloud, I didn't think so but nice to see others have the same thoughts occasionally. Sure it's normal after so long trying to get something to then wobble. Not wobble like we don't want this any more. Just wobble like I dunno, shit it's suddenly real and are we ready? And of course we are, ready as we'll ever be and probably more ready than a lot of others finding themselves pregnant.

In my head having a baby we will still manage to do normal stuff like go on holiday etc, and not turn into total recluse like some of our friends. But I think realisation of some things we'll be restricted by is making me worry. OK, not worry. This IS what we want, what we've been working towards for some time now. Our sensible heads know what it will entail. But then just some silly thing sneaks up and you're like darn, doing that will be hard in the future. But it's all so totally worth it and it's all silly little things.

Right, off to squeeze those last few cream teas in before we leave Devon tomorrow (which is 10 weeks day, Eep! ) Take care ladies xx

caution so pleased you went to Dr. Poor you with a UTI!!! Lots of water for you!

taydex sorry about wifi :( 10 weeks???? Wow were did that go!

Thanks for symptoms advice... I read somewhere that those with severer symptoms have a lower miscarriage risk - hence my preocupation.

cloudburn thanks for mat cert advice. You can apply for baby on board badge online!

I still have not assimilated that I am preggers.... So not yet got to WHAT HAVE I DONE????? stage

shoes what is a high HCG?

HCG is the pregnancy hormone that makes a test show positive, so you definitely know you are producing it. Some women are more sensitive to it than others.

High levels of it can indicate multiples and women carrying multiples will often have more symptoms early on.

I am primarily crossing my fingers for a healthy pregnancy but I have to admit I'm also crossing my fingers for a singleton as the prospect of dealing with twins on my own is scary!

Shoes I hear ya! One I can do (I think!), but twins?!? After all, there's only one of me - I'd be outnumbered from the beginning! Only five more days till I find out!

Who's your support crew Shoes?

Hmm.. I've had a bit of bleeding so my GP has referred me to the early pregnancy unit. I've got an appointment on Monday so at least then I will know how things stand.

On the one hand I'm happy to get an early scan on the NHS, but this feels too early to me and I know they can't always find a heartbeat at six weeks and so I think this could be anxiety-inducing rather than reassuring.

I'm not actually too worried about the bleeding in itself as there are plenty of reassuring statistics/stories of early bleeding in an otherwise healthy pregnancy.

Argh! This process is not easy!

shoes really sorry to hear about the bleeding - but love your approach. How are you feeling now?

I think it is good to have an early scan - you can always have another one after right?

I went to the clinic twice today - this morning for a blood test and then this afternoon to collect my meds. Progesterone was stable at 118 but lower than previous test, so I am back up to maximum dosage.... I did get their agreement to only use fanjo orifice - jacksie just getting so sore... and it is very hard to apply "there" when at work.

Apparently when you do IVF the day of your last period calculation is not right to use - she reckons I count from egg collection - so will recalculate later on... don't think it matters much right? Anyway she said that scan would give dating information. She asked me if I had been having any pain - she seems to think the danger of an eptopic pregnancy is almost passed - which is good news!

Anyway enough about moi - how is every one?

Hello ladies,

Back in the land of technology (well, my parents house but that will do till tomorrow). Ahhhh. Pathetic isn't it how we can't cope without the Internet at our fingertips when 15 years ago the mere thought would have been laughable!

Kwik - Yeah, 10 weeks today. That's 1/4 of the way there already. Eep! Sometimes it feels like it's going really slowly and other times really fast. Sorry to hear about the increased drugs. I think the website that Cloud? (Sorry if I've got that wrong) posted let's you see all timing based on various IVF dates. Give it a go...

I hear you all re multiples. There's 2 of us and we still really wanted just 1 at a time. Still, what will be will be hey? Early scans should be able to tell you how many you're having (just the 1 for us, phew!).

Shoes - Sorry to hear about the bleeding but sounds like you have your head screwed on about it. I've read lots about this in my many up duff books and you're right, it really can be nothing. It's quite common. My sister bled a little with her last one and her pregnancy was fine other than that. Please try to stay positive. Fingers crossed for you. And if you don't have the appt till Monday they must be pretty confident that all is well (or it would have been sooner).

Was in Gap earlier buying some clothes for niece #2 for her birthday and saw some super cute baby clothes. Took some effort to walk away and not buy anything. Only another 2 or 3 weeks to go (fingers crossed). Exciting stuff!

welcome back taydex... now promise you will not go away again where there is no wifi!!!!!

We are off to Borough market today!!!! Love that place!

Any recommendations for pregnancy books?

I'd recommend taking a nosey in charity shops at preggers books. I have the following:
What to expect when you're expecting
Rough guide to pregnancy

I also have a couple from the library, see photo. The day by day one is really good. Others all a bit hit and miss. Some helpful stuff in some. You don't need that many I just thought I'd have a nosey see what the library had. And then I got them all!

TD x

That is a great idea! My SIL volunteers in a charity shop so will ask her to keep an eye out!

When do you have to go for your first scan kwick?
Not long till your 12 weeks scan taydex-seeks to have flown by

My scan should be this week just coming but as I am away for work, I am booked in for next Monday. Gulp!

Gosh, already. Time is flying ladies. Good luck to all of you having your scans in the next week or so. Fingers crossed. I finally got my next scan date through, Friday 15 April. Less than 2 weeks to go... And exactly on week 12 day 0. You know how impatient I am when it comes to waiting!

Its strange taydex time seems to be flying for you but not so much for me!!!

I did a Yin yoga class this afternoon and there was a lady there 5 months pregnant and her bump looked so nice on her slender frame...any chance you think I can lose like 5 stone in the next 10 weeks?

Not suggesting you do this diet kwick but thought the info was interesting :)
Good luck for scanning everyone :)
Told 2work friends last night about my plans and they said how lovely. Does freak me out the idea of going solo but equally can't do the whole relationship thing and don't want not to not be a mummy :/

My scan showed a yolk sack but no foetus and the yolk sack only measuring five weeks (I should be six weeks today).

I'm relieved to know it's not ectopic, but upset not to have had the reassurance of a heartbeat. It means I have another two weeks of waiting to see if they can find a foetus on the next scan.

Oh Shoes that's tough! But it's still early days, even at six and seven weeks there isn't always a heartbeat, and yet the baby develops fine. But I can imagine the waiting for the next scan will be pretty tough.

What did the clinician say?

Oh Shoes - what does that mean? Can they not scan again before 2 weeks time? I feel for you sweetie. The not knowing what's going on must be so hard, and the wait agonising. Don't forget we're all here for you. I think chances of seeing a heartbeat at just 6 weeks are slim from what I remember reading up, that's why my clinic waited till minimum 7 weeks (even then chances aren't amazing - but I totally understand the reasoning for bringing yours earlier). Fingers crossed it's just growing slowly/well hidden. Even when we saw ours on the screen at 7 weeks it was very hard to determine what it was. I don't think I'd have even noticed it if she'd not pointed it out! How many people (professionals I mean) were in doing the scan? Was it just the 1 person?

Please try and stay positive if you can (I'm sure that's easier to say than do).

Oops just seen that auto-correct has been meddling - should say sac not sack!

Thanks for your support.

There was just the one sonographer. I think I'm happy to wait a fortnight because then whatever is seen should be a definite answer. The waiting will be hard though.

I've found some reassuring forum threads with similar scenarios going on to be healthy pregnancies so I'm clinging onto that!

Glad you're taking it positive. It really is too early to say what it means, if anything. More than likely it's just normal development and the next scan will be able to pick up more. Good to hear you're cleared for ectopic. That must be one weight off your mind!

I've got my seven week scan on Wednesday so will be interesting to see what it shows. It certainly seems like my body thinks this is gonna be around for a while - the nausea is horrendous! And just when I thought it might have been getting better I threw up my breakfast!! Definitely looks like I'm gonna be one of those committing types. So unimpressed....

And by "committing" I clearly meant "vomitting"!!