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TTC following an ectopic pregnancy

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PinkElephant · 01/01/2007 18:35

Hi, My DH and I have been TTC for the last 8 months and finally found out I was pregnant before christmas. Since then I have been in hospital and have been treated for an ectopic pregnancy. I was given a hefty dose of Methotrexate which has made me feel rotten and should induce a miscarriage soon. We can't start TTC for 3 months now which is really hard to take as it took us a while the first time - but everything will have to be on hold until the summer now. Has anyone experienced this?

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lissielou · 20/04/2007 21:19

you know aitch i walk down the street an there are gloriously pg women walking around with their lovely bumps and i feel like they are looking at me as they pass and they can "see" all the babies that have been killed by me iykwim.

i know its not rational and i havent actually done anything wrong, but in my darkest hours.....

the nurse said that asprin may help and wanted the specialist to prescribe then. he wouldnt but she said that if i wanted to she would support that.. the last mc was kind of a last straw tbh. i cant just let nature take its course now, i have to be pro-active

AitchTwoOh · 20/04/2007 21:26

oh dear, sweetheart, it's not rational at all but sometimes the mad wee thoughts just get you, don't they? i wish they didn't, but they got me too. it's nice to feel you're doing something, isn't it? what about some reiki and/or reflexology, have you thought aobut that? i went to a woman and it was amazing, i just about flew off the table when she touched my right heel. turns out that was the spot that corresponded to my right ovary/tube etc. left heel was fine... i thought that was amazing as i'd told her nothign about the op.

lissielou · 20/04/2007 21:31

really? have been toying with that, had appt booked before i found out about the ep!

am ok most of the time but my SiL is due in 2w and im dreading it. i feel so bad about it but we were pg at the same time with our ds's and my 3rd mc due date is in june.

AitchTwoOh · 20/04/2007 21:47

maybe, just maybe it won't be as bad as you think... this might be a child with whom you will always share a special bond. i did freak out quite a bit after visiting my friend's new wee baby in hospital but then i've always kinda loved seeing him a bit as well just because, weirdly, i think of him as carrying a bit of a torch for my baby no 1. who knows? i'm sure you'll try your best to be brave, and then you can come and cry with us when/if you get upset.

lissielou · 20/04/2007 21:50

thank you. ive been quite aggresive about her rights this time around and quite bossy. part of me cant wait, part of me is so jealous i want to die!

99redballoons · 21/04/2007 10:18

Hi girls, have sent email on to Aitch and have CAT'd you lissie

Off to a wedding this afternoon. Mil is minding ds and spotty dd. I hope she(mil) survives. I have this terrible feeling dd will be crying 'mamma mamma' for the four hours I'll be out She slept through from 12am to 6:45am so I hope she's finally on the way up now.

Have a good weekend.

99redballoons · 21/04/2007 10:21

another link I came across about aspirin during pg.

lissielou · 21/04/2007 13:09

have started taking it (and am ttc) so fingers crossed

AitchTwoOh · 21/04/2007 20:38

they're crossed. i'd mention it to the doc, though, i only didn't cos i wasn't seeing him iykwim?

lissielou · 22/04/2007 09:02

i will. next appt is on june 4th so will mention it then. am trying not to get too optimistic but its obv that getting pg is no prob at all, so hopefully thisll give us all a better chance!

AitchTwoOh · 22/04/2007 10:36

fingers crossed that your june 4th appointment will prove redundant...

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PinkElephant · 22/04/2007 20:44

So much to catch up on ladies....!! I think I ovulated on friday, so fingers crossed. Not holding out hope for this month...but wouldn't it be lovely Must stop dreaming and try to be realistic . I am having a few cramps and am a bit worried about what they are caused by. I had an awful moment today thinking it could be the start of another ectopic but surely I wouldn't get pains this soon would I? I had cramps last week as I normally do on the build up to ovulation but they soon settle afterwards so maybe it will all settle down this week.

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lissielou · 23/04/2007 09:14

oh dear PE, i had that panic right after my last mc coz during my ep i got backache after the 1st lot of bleeding stopped and before the ep was diagnosed, i had bad backache again and spent a fortune in pg tests out of paranoia. will keep everything crossed for you sweetie

cedar12 · 23/04/2007 11:16

I hope it all settles down soon Pe, I am sure it will. If you only ovulated on friday it would be to early to tell if it was an ep as it doesnt implant until 6-10 after ovulated I think. I get all sort of funny cramps and aches around ovulation and afterward this month. My mum thinks I am just super aware after everything which has happened. I hope you feel better soon its so stressful tcc again.

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PinkElephant · 23/04/2007 18:55

Thanks Cedar and Lissie for your calming words. I am still have cramps, boobs are so sore and stomach is bloated and hard. Yes you're right, if ovulation was friday it's too soon for anything to be happening, I'm sure you're right Cedar and I'm sure I'm just feeling everything because I'm more aware this time around. I feel sick at the thought of having to go through all that again. I promised myself I would keep cool about the whole TTC and here I am fretting already
How are you both?

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cedar12 · 23/04/2007 19:32

I am ok thanks Pink elephant. Had a bit of a crap week last week but feel a bit better now. I am 8dpo today and have been also having funny cramps etc not painful and on both sides. After my first ep it took a long time for my body to settle down so I supose its the same this time.

lissielou · 25/04/2007 18:46

well, its official, if there is a god, he/she's a monty python-esque figure with a truly warped sense of humour! my lil sis's 1/2 sis is 4m pg, she's 17 and doesnt know who the dad is. til recently was living with a violent drug addict and has never had a job!

im so fucking pissed off now, i dont know if i should laugh or cry!

got the usual urban myth about women who try for years, blah blah. and i should stop worrying about it!

cedar12 · 26/04/2007 10:43

I think who evers up there does have does have a worped sense of humour sometimes. Sorry Lissie its so not fair.

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PinkElephant · 26/04/2007 18:07

Jeeese Lissie talk about feeling like someone's stuck the knife in!! It's always the way. Just think she's got a long road ahead of her alone though....you have to kinda feel sorry for her but I know its toturous for you!!

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PinkElephant · 26/04/2007 18:08

Cedar - now I never thought but its could be after the HSG which is causing us some extra cramping this month. I usually don't get it for this long but it is the first time I've ovulated since the HSG so maybe its a bit inflammed still

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Tutter · 26/04/2007 18:11

hi all - hope you don't mind me sticking my nose in but i'm afraid i'll always be a lurker here from time to time - just can't keep off the post-ep boards

i spotted cedar's post and just wanted to let you know that both of my successful pregnancies post-ep resulted from ovulation on my tubeless side

that's it really

good luck all x

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PinkElephant · 26/04/2007 18:15

Really ....how does that work tutter? When they remove the tube is it still open to receive and egg still?

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Tutter · 26/04/2007 18:20

no, the egg travels from one "side" to the other

i say "side" because in fact the two tubes aren't in fact a million miles from each other - just looks like that from a 2D image in a text book

tubes emit a signal and kind of waft to attract eggs into them - it is perfectly possible for them to suck in () eggs from the "other" side

my right tube is very good at getting eggs from my left ovary

99redballoons · 26/04/2007 19:48

Sorry, had meant to say I had forwarded the email onto Cedar, not Aitch, in my last post.

Hi cedar, it was nice to see you on the other thread. 'Wiping bottoms' def keeps your mind off other things!
How are you? It's funny, with my last pg I too felt lots of cramping litterally a few days after ovulation and thought this just doesn't feel right, not how I usually do when waiting for AF. I knew I must be pg so it wasn't such a shock seeing the BFP this time round (well of course it was really!). Having said that I have only mc twice and not had an ep so not sure if you feel 'more' post ov the first few cycles. My pains were like constant ov pains which I just don't get except at ov.

lissie

Hope you're feeling a bit better PE.

Must admit I'm feeling better now AF has finished. Also feel quite content about not charting this month! The break of not worrying about getting pg again is allowing me to focus more on ds & dd. I feel a little like I've 'not been paying attention' to dd growing up, always thinking I'll be having another one to experience it all again with. But now that we're not ttc atm I'm so wrapped up in her '-isms' and loving seeing her blossom from a baby to a toddler. Happy mummy atm!

cedar12 · 27/04/2007 08:34

Hi everyone, I am afraid I need to have a rant feeling like shit cd28 feeling really down so af must be on its way. Dh being crappy cant understand why I get so angry. I got really upset last night and angry with everyone. I think dh thinks I am going mad feeling really angry about other people being pg. I even explained the stages of grief to him, hes just shit. I wish he would just understand that I am going to get upset every month.
Pink elephant I think you are probably right about hsg. Especially as you had a lot of pain at the time.
99rb I hope has started to wipe! You really good at the moment maybe I should stop charting etc I think its doing my head in. But I worry i will miss the vital days.
Lissie I gave in today did a test bfn. I will be joining you at clear blue anonymous.