TTC for 10 months and the rest! 10 plussers welcome! Thread 3 (the one where we all get our bfps!)

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New thread ready for us chatty ladies! If you have been trying to conceive for over 10 months pop in and join us. We are a friendly bunch!

Star, getting baby bombed is bloody awful. You did so well to hold it together though. This time last year I was baby bombed by my DBro, once the stingy crying part was out of the way it got easier. Try and focus on your plans.

Enjoy your lunch today Banana.

Brenna. Rowan is a lovely name. Of course you will get a chance to find out for yourself.

PMT monster has arrived here. Which is good really cos it's the count down to AF.

Thanks so much ladies, you're a real help. yes it's tough but feeling marginally better now.

Banana, great plan - I think a fancy lunch is the perfect antidote to this shit! Wish I had infertility friends in real life.

Trixie, count down to af means you're almost off. How exciting!

Mpp, so glad your mums are supportive. I imagine mine will be too, when I tell her.

Stealth, brenna - hi! And thanks! :)

Oh star, bless you. It's so hard isn't it? It's the guilt of not feeling happy for people that really gets to me to. You did so well, hope you've managed to do something nice today to cheer you up?

I had my first acupuncture this morning. I quite liked it and am booked in on a fertility package so will have at least 6 more. It's very woo and I'm not sure how seriously to take it, but the lady says she is going to work on increasing my blood volume (which she thinks is on the low side), warming me up (I generally run cold... Probably the lack of blood!) and my lining. She's given me tonnes of tips on diet and supplements, and the name of a book she recommends.

How is everyone doing? Xx

Sammy, glad you enjoyed your acupuncture!

Star, so sorry about the baby bomb. It's so tough I've been through a fair few of them now plus I don't know how many pregnancy announcements in work and the endless talk of babies that goes with it. It really does suck.

Banana, hope you had a lovely lunch.

I've had some pink / red spotting / bleeding the last couple of days. I'm starting to get worried now. I don't think it looks good

Lucie It is not neccesarily a problem. I had some spotting quite early on in my pregnancy and got scanned both times. Both times it was absolutely fine, heartbeat, perfect growth and no obvious cause for the bleeds. I had no bleeding for 2 weeks after Rowan died and had no clue at all. One of my friends had huge bleeds during her 3 healthy pregnancies (so bad she was hospitalised for 6 hours at one point. She had no bleeding the ones she miscarried. If there is n pain as well it may be ok. The one thing I have learned is that there is no real way of telling for sure except a scan (and even then it onnly tells you for that very minute). I hope that there is nothing wrong for you. Contact EPAC or their out of hours equivalent if you are worried.

Lucie, Google says that spotting/light bleeding is common in pregnancy, especially the first trimester. Can understand that it must be worrying though. Sending sticky bean vibes your way x

Thanks Brenna, that's reassuring. I'm not having any pain or cramps but it's been there most times on wiping today and also a little bit on my knickers. I had implantation bleeding about 1.5 weeks ago but I was ok with that as there was a reason for it but this is just worrying me now. I don't think I can self refer to my epau. It would mean trying to get an appt at my gps and then getting them to refer me so nothing will happen before the middle of next week at the earliest so I guess it's just a case of wait and see. The worrying never stops.

Absolutely fuming. I can hardly type I'm so angry. Just got a private Facebook message from DHs uncle that says something along the lines of '2 of the best young people I know, I hope the child of the future is soon yours' which means mil has told him too. I now think the whole of DHs side of the family probably know. How dare she tell anyone, let alone everyone???? It is not her news to tell.

Sorry I've not done personals, but Lucie I'm keeping everything crossed that all is ok with you. Xx

lucie are you on the pessaries? These can also irritate your cervix. Big hugs lovely. My consultant said spotting or brown (old) blood was generally not a problem. If you're getting significant red (fresh) flow then that's a different story, but pinkish discharge is very normal (though of course no less worrying!)

Hope you ladies are all having a nice Saturday. I think the patrons of the restaurant we were in probably heard rather more conversation about sperm and dildocam than they were necessarily expecting!!

Thanks Banana, I have had fresh red blood. I think it's all over.

Lucie I'm keeping everything crossed and praying for you. Have you seen a doctor / medic? Lots of love to you.

Sammy so sorry to read that. Your mil is horrendous. Can you set your DH on her to stop her and find out who shes told what to? You might be able to manage the messaging / damage imitate that way. My mil has told us all about DSILs infertility woes hence we told her nothing until the day before ivf started.

for rowan and his strong capable mother who will be a mother again.

Will catch back up with everything else. X

Thanks Boris, I don't really know who to see on a Sunday or what they could do if I did see them. At 5+1 it's going to be too early to see anything on a scan i would have thought.

I think it's worth a call to your out of hours doctors surgery. They may confirm that and tell you to sit it out or they might be able to speed up an epu referal?

Lucie, I second Boris. Call them and see what they say. Or can you call an out of hours doctor at the IVF clinic?

Thanks Boris. DH has been fab actually. He's going to talk to her today. I don't want to cause an argument but she needs to stop. I also won't be telling her anything else. She doesn't know we've had a second failed cycle thankfully. I just dread the annual family party now that I know everyone probably knows. If anyone asks me anything I will be getting straight in the car and leaving that's for sure. Xx

lucie can you call the OOO service? I have everything crossable crossed - I really do know so many women who had fresh red blood and what was threatened remained just that. Sending all the love and hugs in the world xxx

Sorry cross post xx

Thanks all, I could call out of hours number but epu isn't open today so they wouldn't be able to scan or anything. I think we've decided to monitor it again today and then will call the clinic tomorrow and see what they advise if anything.

Lucie, I have everything crossed for you. Really hope this is nothing and everything is fine. I can imagine how worried you and dh must be. Try to stay as calm as you can until you can get some answers. So annoying it's the weekend and nothing is open. for you.

Lucie, keeping everything crossed for you lovely xx

Glad you enjoyed your acupuncture Sammy and that your DH is going to have a word with your MIL. Definitely not on for her to tell people.

Star, meant to ask before, when are you back at the hospital?

lucie everything crossed for you. As hard as it is, do try not to panic. Much love xx

sammy gah the infertility gossip! Hopeless. Glad your DH is going to have a word. Me and DH have a saying - YFYP. Your family, your problem! It has kept us on the straight and narrow in the face of many potential marital rows I suggest you invoke it here, don't give the ILs any headspace.

Anyone else having issues with posts disappearing???

Lucie Even though generally I've heard the same as Banana about the blood colour, I've also read alot of Internet stories that have involved the bright red kind that have been OK. I have everything crossed for you and hope you are OK xx

Brenna that must have been hard for you. Of course you will get a chance to find out. I'm sorry you've had such a hard journey so far. Thinking of you

Jesus sammy no wonder your annoyed! Hopefully your DP has sorted the situation. Glad you enjoyed your acupuncture!

Haha Banana if I'd heard a conversation like that in a resteraunt I would be nosey as hell and straining to hear quite interested and bemused I think!

Hope everyone else is OK!

AFM, I've still been very busy with James joyce who is currently defeating me but it goes in on Thursday and I can start the next one relax a bit. No temping/tracking/POAS for me this month, just patiently waiting for an email from reprofit.

I don't think I have sammy. Is it old posts that have disappeared or posts that disappear when you press post?

Yes, ones I try to post. They say successful but then are not there! I've lost two big posts now!

Lucie - how are things this morning? Xx

stealth, love the YFYP motto!

Sammy, glad you liked the acupuncture. I gave up after 3 goes as even though I found it really relaxing, they were really pushy with the herbs which were crazily expensive. Good luck curbing the gossip.

Trixie, back at King's 6 May - it gives us one cycle following 3 months on proxeed - to get the ivf ball rolling for hopefully June.

And yes Sammy - struggled to post this last night, think the site was a bit broken...

Mpp, has it felt good to lay off the charting? I've felt kind of liberated from it all, especially the early morning temperature taking! Period's due this week and it's the end of the proxeed course so I was supposed to start tracking again but not sure I can stomach it to be honest. My cycles are super regular and we can almost dtd every other day so I might just take it easy til ivf time.
Good luck with the essay, almost there now! Are you doing an MA?