And echoing the ladies on here about knowledge star - you will be great
There is no one size fits all approach so what's right for one of us won't be right for another. That's certainly def the case when you look at stealth and I - same age, same Dr, even the same drugs but different shape treatment.
Stealth: PCOS, v high ovarian reserve, high AMH, very low dose stims, short protocol to minimise risk of hyperstimulation, no fresh transfer because of high response
Me: diminished ovarian reserve, very low AMH, very high stims starting dose (although dose was then halved and halved again in line with my response), short protocol to avoid risk of over suppression given risk of poor response, fresh transfer OK from an OHSS POV but needed lining support because of thin endometrium
So whilst we can all learn from each other to be able to ask the right questions (my Dr is used to a proper grilling by me, probably thinks 'oh god, she's got the notebook out and I see a loooong bullet point list I'm going to be interrogated with 
) we also have to remember that our treatment isn't necessarily going to look the same as someone else's - and that's a good thing!
And thanks v much indeed for asking about me v sweet of you. I'm doing OK - reassurance from Saturday's scan lasted about a day, and now bricking it about Monday's 
! Dr recommended we have the Panorama test, one of the none invasive prenatal tests for Downs etc, it's much more accurate than the nuchal test and involves a simple blood test, which goes off to America where it's analysed for the fetal DNA circulating in my blood. Apparently you can ask to find out the sex from this, although I don't think we will, as I'm not sure I'd want to know it's a baby boy or girl so early - esp as the results will come back before the 12 week scan. They'll do a scan then too so hoping everything is OK. Sat was my first abdominal scan - felt very civilised not having to get my knickers off for dildocam!!!
I'm absolutely terrified of going into the first NHS scan - which is in the antenatal
department - and discovering MMC or severe abnormalities, and having to then come out into a waiting room full of pregnant women and babies. At least fertility clinics (and early pregnancy units, if you end up there) are away from the normal preggos! By this point if something goes wrong it's unlikely I'd be able to medically manage a miscarriage without severe discomfort (where you take pills and let the sac pass naturally ie mini labour), I'd probably have to have an ERPC. Which risks uterine adhesions which is all my crappy endometrium needs. Obv now we've see a good strong heartbeat twice, the odds of mc are low, but we're not out of the woods and the legacy of infertility doesn't leave you, so you're just mentally planning for the worst case scenario.
I do look quite obviously upduffed as I have a massive swollen tummy from progesterone enormobloat!! Friend last week took one look at my boobs and belly and busted me immediately. I had to fess up but say it was bloat not bump!!
Love to you all xxx