TTC for 10 months and the rest! 10 plussers welcome! Thread 3 (the one where we all get our bfps!)

[lucieloos]

New thread ready for us chatty ladies! If you have been trying to conceive for over 10 months pop in and join us. We are a friendly bunch!

Wow!!! No wonder your ovaries hurt. Take it easy for the rest of the day. Xx

Yes it makes sense that I was so uncomfortable now

Am not getting my hopes up too much because of course a lot of them will not make it through fertilisation and then onto blast, but it's a good start. Curled up on my sofa with a cup of lemon tea and some biscuits. Bliss!

It's definitely a good start stealth I can imagine it's a lot less nerve wracking when you have 37 to play with than just a few even if the results are not massively different at the end.

The clinic have just called me. They want me to trigger at 9pm tonight but also take my suprecur and menopur at the same time. We are first on the list for egg collection on Friday. Praying they can get something!

Amazing news stealth - rest up while your eggs and DH's swimmers get jiggy in the love lab

lucie that's great news - everything crossed for some super eggs for you.

sammy how are you doing - excited for you about transfer!

waves to everyone else xx

Great news Boris, they must be good quality if they froze them.

Wow Stealth, 37!? Definitely take it easy. How are you feeling now?

Lucie, I think we're definitely going to have the intralipids Have everything crossed for you for Friday.

Good luck for transfer tomorrow Sammy

Heard from the hospital this afternoon re my nurses appointment, with AF being due over the weekend we can't start this month so booked in for beginning of April. Apparently my meds will be delivered before then.

That's great that you are all booked in Trixie. Excited for you to get going again and with full immunes. Have a good feeling for you.

Boris, when are you going to test? Are you an early tester or will you wait until otd?

Sammy, wishing you lots and lots of luck for your transfer tomorrow. Can't wait for you to be pupo!

New to the thread - I graduated myself from the regular ttc thread to the ttc for ten month as I'm coming up to close to ten months and feeling utterly defeated.

I'm 39, turning 40 in six weeks and we've been trying to conceive since June last year. At the end of last year I went to my GP just for reassurance and she suggested - just for reassurance - to test that I'm ovulating.

... you can see where this is going. At the moment they think I'm anovulatory and have referred me to a fertility clinic. My first appointment will be in two weeks. I hope they will prescribe me Clomid. But the appointment is on day 5 of that cycle, so likely I will have to wait yet another cycle to start taking it. (That is, if they're prescribing it.)

I'm just so down and defeated right now. My FB feed is full of proud parents and parents-to-be, and I'm so, so jealous. Even though I went to the GP very early on (and for good reason, as it turned out) I am too old to get IVF as the last resort. When we started, pregnancy seemed like something that could happen to me but with every month it seems to become less and less real and more distant.

I know other people have longer journeys, and it's still reasonably early on - how do you cope with the crushing disappointment? How do you keep yourself optimistic?

Trixie - april will be here so soon...

Lucie I'm an early tester but dH is adamant I need to wait the full two weeks. Is there a reasonable compromise? I assume if I'm not pg AF will show before the tww ends.

Hoo, how frustrating for you. I've found these threads helpful to keep me positive. Also having a new plan for each cycle so you don't feel it's same old same old. Ie trying soy one cycle, giving up booze, DTD eod or SMEP, also give up facebook for the rest of lent? Do remeber what people put on social media is how they want to present there perfect life, it's often not accurate.

boris when you're on progesterone it can keep AF away - your period is when the endometrial lining breaks down as a result of falling progesterone levels, so because your progesterone is artificially elevated during IVF, the only way to know for sure is to test

My Dr told me to test 12dp5dt which is equivalent to 17dpo! I think he probably said that knowing everyone tests early, so that way testing early was still a reasonable time

If you are going to test early I would use cheapies to test out your trigger to know for sure that it's out your system

I lasted till 8dp5dt and was intending for it to be a BFN practice run - so that on OTD I'd have broken myself in a bit and prepared myself for seeing a BFN. I wasn't at all prepared for that second line to come up that quickly!!

Good luck for transfer sammy! Sorry you're leaking

trixie just woke up and feeling fine. They pumped me full of pain meds and anti emetics though so I suspect they're all still in my system. Just lying in bed whilst my cleaner cleans around me

cthulhoo . This is a really hard journey. I can only tell you what keeps me sane, which is to keep telling myself that the worst case scenario is that i can't have a baby. In that scenario, I am still me and still blessed in many other respects (sorry cheesy) and I will have a full and fulfilling life. That said, I am using SCIENCE to try my very best to have a baby and I am allowed to be hopeful that it will help me.

I think it's also really important to be able to let yourself feel/grieve etc when you want. I find it's easier to allow myself to feel like crap for a couple of days when things go wrong, and let myself process it all naturally. Rather than feeling like I have to cheer myself up immediately. It's sometimes really shit and it's ok to acknowledge that - If that makes sense?

Banana thankyou. I have about 50 ics, so I can afford to pee on a few early :)

Boris, I was glad that I didn't wait the full two weeks as I started bleeding before otd and seeing a few negatives before that kind of going me used to the idea rather than waiting all that time and then getting hit with a bfn. I will test at 7dp5dt this time with a frer as most seem to get a pretty accurate result by then. Obviously have to wait a bit longer if I have a 3 day transfer and I wouldn't want to do it on a work day either so will have to see how the dates fall.

Hoo, I like boris' advice and that's very true about social media. I know exactly how you feel though as everyone around me is having babies at the moment and seem so happy. You are in good company here. We are all in the same boat and at various stages of treatment. It helps to have a plan in place and different things to try. Also just read stealths advice and love that. I kind of say to myself that no matter what happens I will hopefully have my baby one way or another. If our own eggs don't work we would probably look at donor eggs which have very good success rates and whilst not the situation we had hoped for would give us the family we long for.

The suggestion to have a plan resonates with me. I always feel better if I can do something. I've felt worse for the last few weeks because if I'm not ovulating there's nothing I can do right now until the appointment and hopeful prescription of Clomid.

I guess it's the waiting right now that gets to me. Perhaps I need to find something I can do so I feel I'm contributing -- anything other than just waiting.

Hoo - what you can do between now and your appointment is get yourself as healthy as possible. Cut out/reduce the bad things like caffeine/sugar/processed foods, eat more of the healthy things like fruit/veg/high protein, get enough exercise and sleep, you can even try eating Brazil nuts/pineapple/pomegranate juice at various points to improve your uterine environment. Sorry you find yourself here, but welcome!

Stealth - goodness, no wonder you felt uncomfortable! Congrats on the bumper haul
Keep drinking as much as possible, ward off that ohss. Did they say if you were at risk?

Boris - i tested early, and like Lucie I'm glad I did as AF arrived bang on time and I never made it to otd. It let me down a little more gently than just a stark white test.

Thanks for all the luck ladies. I'm not at all excited, I think it's self preservation. If I don't get excited then it won't be such a drop of it doesn't work! I'm ok though, just want to get there and get going! Xx

Arrggghh it's hard to keep up, and having a memory like a goldfish means I always struggle to remember what I want to say to everyone (usually on my phone, so scrolling is challenging!)

Wow Stealth, that's AMAZING! Hope you're feeling ok this evening :)

Glad you're all booked in Trixie. That's good news too.

Thinking of you, Boris. Fx for testing!

Good luck Sammy!

Welcome Hoo. I can't really add anything new to what everyone else has said, as they've all given great advice. This whole TTC thing sucks. Sorry you find yourself here, but good to meet you. Everyone is very kind and supportive.

sammy yes I am at risk of ohss. Am not having a fresh transfer for that reason. My doctor actually called me just now to check I was ok. Which was nice.

Am feeling absolutely fine though. Still v tender in the abdomen (kind of like how you feel when you've been hanging onto a reeeeeaaaaaallllly full bladder for ages and then do a really fast wee or is that just me?) and still quite dizzy but otherwise fine - not much pain and no nausea etc.

Now just deciding whether I can have a bath or not - fact sheet from the clinic says no, but it says to not do it before embryo transfer, and obv I'm not having a transfer. So maybe it's ok?

Stealth - are you taking cabergolin? Lovely for your consultant to check up on you. Xx

Yes I will take cabergolin - Dr wants me to start it on Friday though.

Also have clexane and aspirin as I have to fly long haul on Sunday and he was worried about blood clots

Good luck today sammy. Xxx

sammy good luck lovely!!

stealth good luck for the fertilisation call

lucie enjoy your drug free day

Sorry for lack of personals on phone so can't scroll back, but hello to newbies and welcome! Xx

Good luck Sammy! Can't wait for you to be pupo xx

sammy bestest of luck!

I woke up unbelievably bloated. Damn! Might wander down to the shops and get some Gatorade. I don't look good!

Oh no stealth! Get drinking. Milk/water/Gatorade/coconut water.... I sound like a broken record don't I? I just don't want any of you to feel as bad as I did, and I only had mild ohss!

Thank you for all the luck, I'm really nervous!
Clinic emailed back to say use the back entrance for this mornings pessary :(. But it was ok. Just getting ready to leave. Xx

Ps Stealth - I'm sure you could have a bath today. I think the day of collection is a no because of infection risk, but today should be alright. Can u call the clinic and ask? X

Eeekk let us know how you get on Sammy!

I have been thinking overnight about back up plans and things and if we are unsuccessful with this round I'm thinking of possibly going out to Czech as soon as I can for a frozen transfer! We have 4 blasts now so the thinking is put one in and if it's works that still leaves us with 3 for a possible sibling which isn't too bad. If it doesn't work then continue and do the 1-2 rounds of mini IVF and hopefully boost blasts back up to 4 or 5 again and then we also have our second NHS round. What do you think? My only concern is whether 3 blasts is enough for a sibling if it does work? I was talking with my acupuncturist last night and telling her how we were trying to build up a bank of frozen embryos so we possibly have enough for a sibling if we are lucky enough to get pregnant with one and how ideally we would like 5 or 6 frozen and she was saying don't get too hung up on numbers and it only takes one and things could change after you've been pregnant once and she kind of got me thinking about things and maybe we should just give it a go and not set so many targets and just get on with it?? I'm not 100% yet though so would love to know what others would do in my situation?