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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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BorisIsBack · 24/02/2016 21:17

All aboard the bumsnet bus!

This bus if for anyone genuinely ttc, for anyone just starting on the tTC journey or thoes who have been trying for years.

No entry requirements, only that you join in supporting us all to destination BFP.

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Kellz92 · 01/06/2016 12:30

Dont know why that posted here, i was speaking about heart rates with my mum on email and its meant to rise but mines hasnt risen much, computer must have frozen or just went weird lol

DizzyN look forward to seeing all of your bfps :)
xx

GenghisKahnSchmitz · 02/06/2016 03:23

Ha ha Kellz I thought you were on about temps for a minute ;)

Good work on beating FF DizzyN - it's the small victories that count! Did AF show up? My temp rose today but is still lower than it has been from cd1 to cd11..confusing.

Hope everyone else is okay?

Kellz92 · 02/06/2016 08:39

Haha no no, i have stopped temping incase my temp drops and ill panic haha.

How are you today? xx

DizzyNorthernBird · 02/06/2016 09:00

Yeah Af came yesterday afternoon. I win Grin

Also, I randomly decided to experience Af cramps without painkillers. A couple of years ago the cramps were bad enough for painkillers (although I wouldn't have said they were severe) so I've taken them on cd1 ever since. Turns out I don't really need them at all!

On another note. DP's ex wife announced this week she's moving a four hour drive away with the step kids Shock. We knew a move was on the cards but she's been fobbing us off about distance. DP is devastated Sad. I don't know what this will mean for ttc now....part of me feels like the pressure is on now as a baby will distract him from not seeing his kids much anymore. But on the other hand I think ttc will be the last thing on his mind for a while. So I might be stepping off the bus properly for a while.

Kellz92 · 02/06/2016 09:07

DizzyN Sorry AF showed up!

Also sorry about the step children moving away, my step duaghter lives 5 hour drive away, DH got to see her for the first time in about 6/7 years at the weekend. Hope he is okay ( well you know what i mean)

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DizzyNorthernBird · 02/06/2016 10:27

Shock kellz - 6 years?! How does your DH deal with this? DP's problem is that he's had no say in the matter whatsoever. It wasn't discussed with him. They've made their decision and told him and that's that. She literally is taking his kids away from him. I'm sure he might feel a little bit differently if they had at least communicated their plans and reasoning with him. I don't know what to say to him, nothing will make him feel better. His ex has this weird way of striking when things are good....I.e we've been happily planning moving into our house and the kids were very much central to those plans. Now it's unlikely they'll be part of it at all and it all seems pointless.

Kellz92 · 02/06/2016 11:02

He struggles, even more so because his ex has always been letting his parents see her and not him, shes now trying to pan off her second child is his to, just because we went down, im not a judgemental person but shes 30, had 7 kids, which i have no problem with at all! but there are 6 dads, and because hes the first one, she doesnt know her dad so trying that. But anyway his daughter is just away to be 13 and is on facebook so he speaks to her on there and phonecalls which have started recently, think that helps but he just doesnt feel like he knows her as shes now a teenager and hes barely seen her, his ex would have him beaten up after inviting him down thats why he didnt bother going again. Shes getting her commupance with the latest ex.
He says now that he has DD and now were away to have another, he said it doesnt replace not seeing her but it helps.

Sorry thats a bit of a muddled up novel but i have so much hatred for her with he things she did to him and all she did was try make me feel sorry for her because the latest ex has filed for custody of his 2, and looks like hes getting it.

Right end of her haha.

She should have communicated with him, even if she was going to move either way she should have involved him as hes her childrens father!!
I think thats rotten, when DHs ex left him, he went home from work and their house was cleared and she had moved right down to england (were north scotland) Ladies like that annoy me as you get so much bad press about dads not wanting to see kids

xx

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BorisIsBack · 02/06/2016 20:38

DizzyN I'm sorry about the step kids issue. That's crap. It's entirely the kind of thing my dsc's mum would do. She's got a habit if taking DSC on foreign holidays when we are supposed to have them - with no consultation. Step kids issues definitely got in the way of our DTD efforts at times until it got to Ivf when DH put his focus onto that rather than being distracted.

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Kellz92 · 02/06/2016 23:06

Hey Boris how are you keeping xx

GenghisKahnSchmitz · 02/06/2016 23:30

DizzyN sorry to read about the stepchildren issue - your poor DP (and you and the kids as well of course). It just seems so unfair. I realise I know absolutely nothing about your situation but I hope for your sake that you don't have to stop ttc but understand you might need a break x

Sorry to read your stories too Boris and Kellz, it must be very difficult to navigate.

DizzyM and Rainy - I hope you're both okay?

DizzyMerry · 03/06/2016 17:00

Sorry to read about the step children issues dizzy, boris and kellz. It must be so difficult for your OH and obviously it affects you as a couple too.

Dizzy sorry AF got you. I do hope you can carry on with ttc, although I appreciate how hard the situation must be for you both.

DizzyMerry · 03/06/2016 17:05

I'm on cd17 and the ovulation test is definitely positive today. No mistaking it! It was Sunday when I first tested not Saturday and I thought it was positive and chucked it away in a huff as we hadn't dtd! The lines since have been quite dark so I wasn't sure whether I had ov'd it my body was trying to. I've had ewcm today too but have had it on and off all week.

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DizzyNorthernBird · 03/06/2016 18:11

Thanks everyone.

dizzym that's one hell of a line you've got there! Ov can't be too far away!

Got my gynae referral through, it's not until 12th July & I'll probably have to rearrange it as I'm hoping DP will come.....

Kellz92 · 03/06/2016 20:48

DizzyM dtd, dtd, dtd :) xx

GenghisKahnSchmitz · 04/06/2016 05:13

DizzyM Have fun dtd! Thankfully you kept testing...

Today is cd17 for me and I think this is a positive opk (first timer). I'm a bit confused as I could have sworn I had ov pains on Tuesday but clearly not! I'm annoyed at myself because I wasn't able to correctly take my temp this morning (had a momentary panic thinking I'd lost my engagement ring and jumped out of bed to search - I think I lost ten years of my life).

Great news about your appointment DizzyN - it's nice to have an actual date, though I hope you can reschedule easily and not have to wait longer (I was told to bring DP for mine).

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BorisIsBack · 06/06/2016 08:57

Genghis, that's a strong possitive, hope you can get busy for the next three days.

DizzyM hope you are doing ok and have had plenty of bum on pillow time.

DizzyN, I didbtvtake dH to the gynae appointments. It wasn't stricktly neccasary but if you want him there it should help to make it all more real.

Waves to everyone else.

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Kellz92 · 06/06/2016 08:58

I've done that before!! It's always when you really need to temp lol xx

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BorisIsBack · 06/06/2016 08:58

'Scuse the typos. Anyone else melting slightly with the heat?

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Kellz92 · 06/06/2016 09:01

I am, I walked 16 miles in the heat yesterday, was supposed to be 26 but started getting cramping :( so was told to stop by the first aiders

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BorisIsBack · 06/06/2016 09:44

Kellz sorry about the cramping. That doesn't sound good. 16 miles is still a good walk though! Keep up your liquid intake, and salt. X

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Kellz92 · 06/06/2016 10:26

I was checked over and they thought it was dehydration I was drinking lots but it was so hot but all calmed down. I did a ic test today and it was very positive still so I'm happy!! Off work today and lots of fluids xx

GenghisKahnSchmitz · 07/06/2016 03:46

Glad to read the cramping stopped Kellz, and well done on the 16 miles - impressive!

I wish I could have Boris but DP was away...agaiiiiiin.

Hope everyone is enjoying the weather!

DizzyNorthernBird · 07/06/2016 07:34

kellz well done on the walk in this weather! But be careful! You should get some high five zero electrolyte tablets, these are what I use when I have to train in hot weather. You just dissolve the tablet in water and sip regularly.

boris DP doesn't want to take the time off work to come to the appointments with me Sad. I guess I don't need him there but I would like him to be involved with what steps I need to take etc. He's just very protective over his free time now as he's going to need some hours and favours in the bank for when the kids move away. I can't really argue that. It's difficult.

Yes to melting! I was in crown court all day yesterday with one of my cases and will be there all day today too, which means I have to wear a suit Hmm. Luckily there's no windows letting the sun in but I don't think they have air con Hmm

GenghisKahnSchmitz · 07/06/2016 08:49

Sorry he can't attend DizzyN - one positive is that at least you won't have to change the date! I hope you'll be able to get out of court early.

MagpieCursedTea · 07/06/2016 09:17

DizzyN DH didn't come into my gynaecology appointment and it was all fine without him. As Genghis says at least it means you won't have to reschedule!