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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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BorisIsBack · 24/02/2016 21:17

All aboard the bumsnet bus!

This bus if for anyone genuinely ttc, for anyone just starting on the tTC journey or thoes who have been trying for years.

No entry requirements, only that you join in supporting us all to destination BFP.

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ThirtyNineWeeks · 16/03/2016 20:08

I flipping love IVF!! Well done, Bozzer! Thanks What did you make of Brno? Hmm

Sammy, my clinic wanted 7mm lining as the 'perfect' thickness and that's what mine measured. When are you testing, love? X

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BorisIsBack · 16/03/2016 20:18

Thank you all, I'm feeling the love today. I've told my boss, who is a bitch and knows how to manipulate employment laws but I had to, I couldn't have gone to China. She's accepted it for now. I await her next move, which may be to restructure my job and make me redundant - that's her style....

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BorisIsBack · 16/03/2016 20:20

Purdey Brno was 'interesting' not sure I'll go back there out of choice but reprofit were wonderful so all worth it. Brno is a cheap place to be though. Prague is lovely!!

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ThirtyNineWeeks · 16/03/2016 20:29

Oooo! So you took a trip to Prague? We flew there and immediately took the train to Brno because we didn't have the cash for sightseeing unfortunately. I'd've loved to have ambled around that beautiful city.
Reprofit has excellent credentials. I'm so chuffed for you, lovey.

loopylou1984 · 16/03/2016 20:32

OTD is the 23rd, but I might test Saturday. That's be 9dp5dt.
I'm so scared though. I honestly don't know what I'll do if it's bfn. I'm struggling today to be honest, I think the hormones are properly kicking in!

Boris - I'm glad you told your boss, I didn't want you to be stuck abroad at such a crucial time. Not to mention the fear of anything bad happening due to flying! You need to be relaxed right now.
Your boss sounds like a bitch though. Did you tell her it was an IVF baby? Xx

Beansprout30 · 16/03/2016 20:53

Congratulations again boris you've made the right choice to tell your boss and not go, after all you've been through to get here, you should definitely put you and your baby first. Your boss sounds like a nasty bitch Angry

sammy I hope you are not far behind with your bfp and to everyone else waiting x

Beansprout30 · 16/03/2016 20:54

Oops bold fail Grin

loopylou1984 · 16/03/2016 20:54

Purds - forgot to say thank you for the lining reassurance. Xx

ThirtyNineWeeks · 16/03/2016 20:54

Don't be afraid, Sammy xx

loopylou1984 · 16/03/2016 20:55

Thanks bean Smile
Where was your bold fail? X

Beansprout30 · 16/03/2016 20:59

When I typed your name sammy fat fingers Smile

GenghisKahnSchmitz · 17/03/2016 01:16

Boris happy to read you told your boss, and hopefully she will be supportive. Don't forget that you can't (shouldn't) be made redundant due to pregnancy - that is discrimination. Even if they try and hide it under something else, you are legally well protected, and it would be very foolish (and potentially costly) for your boss. However, before it got that far, I'm sure the HR dept. would advise her appropriately. How are you feeling about the pregnancy? Has it sunk in?

Sammy I hope you're feeling better today? I can only imagine what you're feeling...absolutely everything crossed for you x

DizzyM they want to do the HSG on cd10 but if AF arrives on Fri, that will be Easter Monday so I doubt the clinic will be open. I'll see when AF arrives and then talk to them as I really want to get the ball rolling, and not have to wait another month.

Strange (and annoying) about the spotting and headaches DizzyN I shall put them down as potential symptoms :)

DizzyNorthernBird · 17/03/2016 03:05

Yes genghis, af symptoms.....the bitch arrived this afternoon! Grin

GenghisKahnSchmitz · 17/03/2016 05:31

Oops! Sorry DizzyN Grin Hope you're okay? I poas (frer) today as I have to go out tonight and got a BFN so I'll be joining you on the next cycle shortly. Wine for us both...and sure, for anyone who wants a glass!

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BorisIsBack · 17/03/2016 06:31

Genghis sorry for the bfn and dizzyn for AF symptoms. Flowers

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NurseRosie · 17/03/2016 09:24

Sorry about the BFN Ghengis and the AF Dizzy. I know it's hard but keep the faith.

I'm in a bit of a predicament. I really really want a new job but I want z baby more. I worry if I get a new job and then get preg straight away I'll only be entitled to stat mat pay. I'm the main earner. I'm worried that my job is too stressful to even get preg and it's so hard to work there at the mo. Any advice ladies?

Hope you are all ok x

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BorisIsBack · 17/03/2016 10:02

Rosie - I've been wanting to change jobs for the last 18 months.... I kept putting it off as next month might be my month. I'd say don't wait, job hunt now if you want to. X

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DizzyNorthernBird · 17/03/2016 10:24

Sorry for the bfn genghis Wine commiserations to us both. On a plus side is your af shows soon we can be cycle buddies next month even though DP will have to abstain during predicted fertile window so no bfp next month either

I'm not sure what to do about taking soy again now Confused. Hopefully if I go back on the preconception vits it'll sort out the problem I had with early spotting, but if FF is to be trusted af has came 2 days early this cycle so my LP has been shortened, just say this is the soy that has done this? Do I go for it again or sack it off? I suppose on a plus side if we can't dtd this coming cycle t won't matter anyway? Argh decisions........

nurse I often feel like I want a new job too. For me it would mean a pay cut though as I'm not qualified to do anything else and let's say my current job is within a rather specialist field, so it would mean taking on something completely different without experience or qualifications. I just have to focus for now on the fact I have job security, good pay and working conditions and it makes things a bit easier.

How you feeling today boris? Star

MagpieCursedTea · 17/03/2016 14:31

DizzyN sorry for AF! I'd give it another month on the soy but make sure you take the vitamins. That way you'll know if it's the soy or the lack of vits that's messing with your cycle rather than wondering. Nothing to lose if you're having a month off for the SA!

Rosie I left a super stressful job when TTC DS, I fell pregnant within 2 weeks of being at the new job (which was actually a job I'd been in before, long story). I'd had 2 failed rounds of Clomid and I do wonder if stress was a part of it and being a bit more relaxed made the 3rd round successful. I also think it's important not to put your life on hold, it's just adding extra pressure.

Genghis sorry for the bfn, wine sounds good. I might join you in that later!

Sammy how are you getting on? Have you decided whether to test tomorrow?

Boris glad to hear you told your boss, really hope she's not a dick about it! From what you've said, it sounds like she knows how to play the system but get everything documented just in case you can build a case against her if she does decide to make your life difficult.

DizzyM how's things with you?

Blueberry any news from the laparoscopy?

My bleeding is still staying away. I'm still having PMT symptoms (complete with a full on skin breakout) and painful cramps. I'm not too sure what's going on. I had an acupuncture session earlier and my acupuncturist had a good luck at my chart and thinks I might have ovulated (or my body was at least trying to) and that my sleep pattern is messing up my temps. At this point I would give anything just to have a normal, regular cycle!

loopylou1984 · 17/03/2016 17:09

Hey magpie, I'm not testing tomorrow as dh and I have a nice day planned and I don't want to ruin it if bfn. Will probably test Saturday am. So scared. I truly don't know how I'll deal with another bfn. Xx

MagpieCursedTea · 17/03/2016 18:12

Sammy I only realised after I posted that it's Friday tomorrow and not Saturday! Blush
I hope you and your DH have a wonderful day tomorrow. All the best for Saturday morning, keeping everything crossed for you.

DizzyMerry · 17/03/2016 19:47

Sorry for AF dizzy. Give the soy another go as magpie says and see how things are then and continue with the vits. Fx you see an improvement.

Sorry for the bfn ghengis. I'll sit next you as I got a bfn today at 10dpo and waiting for AF to arrive now. This is no fun!

Rosie I'd say go for it! Don't put your life on hold for ttc as you just never know what to expect. Hopefully you'll invoke sods law and get upduffed. Fx the tww passes quickly for you.

Sammy wishing you lots of luck for Saturday.

Magpie it seems like your body is doing something and could be that the metformin is starting to balance things out. It's reassuring that your acupunturist thinks you could have ovulated or at least tried to.

I've convinced DH to go for a private SA as if his morphology is still poor then we'll need to look at our options rather than just continuing on like this.

blueberry549 · 17/03/2016 20:31

Sorry if I keep missing people / news but still in hospital and hard to keep track just on phone screen lol!

Huge congratulations Boris!! So happy for you and so glad you don't have to travel to China now. Really hope your boss doesn't give you too much trouble.

Sorry for AF DizzyN and for bfn's Genghis and DizzyM

I totally agree with the others Rosie don't put your life on hold coz you never know what's going to happen. I put mine off last year and in the end still moved jobs and still not got my BFP over a year later! I guess you do need to look at the financial risks with your other half but if you think you could manage I wouldn't put it off.

So sorry to hear you're still having loopy symptoms magpie I was really hoping you would have a 'normal' cycle this time around! Big hugs

I'll be praying for you sammy and really hope you get your BFP this wkend!

As for me it's been a very mixed week. The good news is that the laparoscopy shows I don't have endometriosis. The only problem with that being that there is no explanation whatsoever for my loopy cycles and fertility issues Confused

Turns out the ridiculous levels of pain are actually being caused by my bladder so currently still in hospital waiting to see urology specialist.

It's a relief in one way but not in another as now it feels like there's no real reason why I've not conceived yet but the continued pain is just making me miss more cycles of ttc!

Here's hoping I get sorted soon. Damn Nhs waiting times!!

Hugs to anyone I've missed xxxx

ThirtyNineWeeks · 17/03/2016 20:49

Sammy, just prepare yourself, that's all you can do. What's Plan B? How soon can you implement it? What will you do this weekend if it's the worst case scenario? You'll get there in the end, sweetheart, so don't catastrophise if you can help it. We're all here and we all love you xxx

loopylou1984 · 17/03/2016 22:07

Thank you for all the luck everyone.

Blueberry - sorry to hear you're in so much pain.

Purdey - our next step will be NHS, I've no idea when we'll be able to do it, but I would assume at least a couple of cycles. As for what I'll do this weekend, well dh needs to go to a few shops so I guess I could go on a big spree? Truthfully I'll probably need a day to cry and get used to it without having to face any other human beings.

Gah - stupid hormones, I'm up and down like a yoyo! X