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TTC for 6 months+ thread #1

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Shemozzle · 23/02/2016 22:25

Anyone care to join me? The monthly bus threads just starting to get me down, I'm starting to feel bitter about congratulating all the first month of trying BFP's and so I need to step away. I was very lucky to have conceived accidentally somewhat miraculously with my dd1 and dd2 and always imagined I'd struggle if actually trying, and here we are.

I'm 29, dp is 43
TTC number 3
Cycle 6
Cd1

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Shemozzle · 18/03/2016 21:23

Thanks, but I've been googling and apparently the blue lines are notorious for false positives, particularly this Boots one. Maybe that is why it was in the clearance section?? I'm going to be gutted if the FRER is negative tomorrow.

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LuckyBlackKitty · 18/03/2016 22:48

Oh no. Fingers crossed! Let us know how you get on X

babyinthacorner · 19/03/2016 02:25

Hello all, can I join please? Am on cycle 7 I think although only 4 months in (very short cycles - a blessing and a curse!)
Hope that fulfills the requirements?! I'm also 36 in a few weeks, and got pg first month with DD. And family putting pressure on for baby #2. Also not telling a soul we're TTC, so need to vent!

Mbire · 19/03/2016 05:46

Hi babyinthacorner!
Oh wow those cycles are so short! A blessing I think!! I have to wait til the end of April til my next fertile window as I'm away this month. It's such a pain.
It's so hard not talking to people about it. Every time I hear of another pregnancy I want to ask them everything like how long have they been trying and did they dtd every day or every second day!!! But I just have to smile and say congrats!Grin
Fingers crossed for you Shemozzle!

babyinthacorner · 19/03/2016 07:47

Thanks Mbire!

Good luck Shemozzle! Think I recognise you from another thread? Maybe December bus?! Anyway - everything crossed for you! X

LuckyBlackKitty · 19/03/2016 08:51

Hi babyinthacorner
My cycles are on the short side but it sounds like yours are even shorter!

I can sympathise with the pressure from family. We get that. I'm 36 and we got married two years ago and do people have been expecting a baby for a while now. I even get it at work as well.

Mbire - it would be great if we could quiz everyone!

Shemozzle - have you tested?

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Shemozzle · 19/03/2016 08:56

Hi babyinthecorner yes I think we've been on the same buses. Smile

The FRER was a BFN. Sad so it was just a misleading blue dye after all. Need to go and buy some more tests today after reviews from the cheapies.

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LuckyBlackKitty · 19/03/2016 09:23

Oh no. I'm sorry! Sad

LovelyFishy · 19/03/2016 09:49

Sorry about the bfn. SadFlowers

Welcome Baby. I sort of like and hate the expectation you get from other people which really confuses me! Do you find that or do you just ignor it?

LuckyBlackKitty · 19/03/2016 12:06

Lovely - we tend to ignore it, literally. Which has led to a few awkward silences with MIL.

I'd love to hear others coping tactics.

babyinthacorner · 19/03/2016 12:33

Had a big old putting the world to rights session with girlfriends last night - they're both married, no kids yet, but talking about the pressure from family. We were all pretty indignant about it. I just tell people I can't imagine having two, it's hard enough with one... Which is actually true. They don't need to know we WANT to descend into the madness of 2!
What's REALLY great is when your 3 year old announced in the middle of a big family meal that "Mummy's got a baby in her tummy!" DH and I wanted the ground to open up and swallow us whilst my mum, sister and brother shot each other excited/shocked looks and tried to contain their excitement. I laughed it off and managed to explain it away - her best friend's mum is pg, so she assumes I am. Again, true. But oh the AGONY! I wanted to cry, I'm so desperate for a 2nd and would have loved for it to be real Sad

LuckyBlackKitty · 19/03/2016 12:44

Oh Baby, how awkward. That must have been awful!

LovelyFishy · 19/03/2016 16:06

I've not had anyone expecting me to be pregnant since ttc which is a blessing! Right after we were married there was a lot of talk and people "watching" us, if you get what I mean! Now if someone said something depending on where I was in my cycle I might end up bursting into tears! It's hard when people just expect it to happen and you have to explain that it doesn't work that way for everyone.

I love the ignore it method! Grin

Mbire · 19/03/2016 19:13

Oh no babyinthacorner, that must've been awful. But at least having one taker the pressure off. 3 of my siblings are having babies this summer!! It's mad! I didn't expect any of them to be pregnant and they all are! So happy for them all but each time I hear of someone new I just get this feeling of panic! Anyway, we'll all get there! We just have to wait patientlyWink

LuckyBlackKitty · 19/03/2016 19:41

One week into my 2ww and the symptom spotting has begun! Currently abdominal cramps - got to be implantation, right?! No other possible plausible reason. Conveniently blanks out all other months that cramping has occurred and resulted in bfn

Mbire · 19/03/2016 21:59

Hi girls! I bought a basal thermometer today! I put it under my arm and the temp just continued to claim and climb for about 3 mins!! What's happening?! Am I doing it wrong? I expected it to beep when it had reached its conclusion!! 😡😡

Mbire · 19/03/2016 21:59

**climb and climb

LuckyBlackKitty · 19/03/2016 22:08

Hi Mbire
To accurately measure your bbt, you need to take your temp via mouth first thing in the morning before you do anything - no moving, talking, drinking or it will drop your temp. Ideally leave thermometer on bedside table and grab it as soon as awake X

Mbire · 20/03/2016 07:51

Great thank you! I will try again later. x

LovelyFishy · 20/03/2016 11:26

So I tested this morning, bfn. Sad I'm getting to the "what is wrong with me" stage. DH and I are under 30, rarely drink, don't smoke, both within our recommended bmi's. We dtd at the right times, I took my vitamins, ate the right foods - why after 7 months can my body not make a baby?!

LuckyBlackKitty · 20/03/2016 14:02

Oh no. I'm sorry Lovelyfishy. It's so hard, isn't it.
It sounds like you are doing everything right.
Fingers crossed next month is your month xx

bluebird3 · 20/03/2016 14:26

I'm so sorry lovely

I'm right there with you. It's frustrating but it is normal for it to take up to 2 years for healthy couples to conceive. I have to keep reminding myself that, but it's hard when you are desperate for a baby and other people seem to fall pregnant within a few months. Nobody knows how painful this is unless they've been through it. Fx for next month for you. WineThanks

Mbire · 20/03/2016 14:58

Sorry to hear that. I'm at exactly the same stage and it's very hard. Even if I knew I had to wait another year but it WOULD happen! Try not to worry too much. It will happen. I have at least two friends that waited 10-12 months.

LovelyFishy · 20/03/2016 15:40

I must reclaim my zen. Maybe I should take up yoga or something, anyone here already do that? And at least I can buy a nice dress for my friends wedding without worrying I'll be too pregnant to fit in it!

LovelyFishy · 20/03/2016 15:44

And by the way, you are all lovely and wonderful. Thank you for your kind words!! SmileFlowers