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TTC for 6 months+ thread #1

271 replies

Shemozzle · 23/02/2016 22:25

Anyone care to join me? The monthly bus threads just starting to get me down, I'm starting to feel bitter about congratulating all the first month of trying BFP's and so I need to step away. I was very lucky to have conceived accidentally somewhat miraculously with my dd1 and dd2 and always imagined I'd struggle if actually trying, and here we are.

I'm 29, dp is 43
TTC number 3
Cycle 6
Cd1

OP posts:
bluebird3 · 29/03/2016 15:05

Boo for going back to work zoe. I work in a school so have 2 weeks off, which is great but we have family visiting the whole time so not much of a break! Cycles vary 28-31 days so af due between sun-tues. I think I'm out though as I woke up to sore boobs today...a standard pre-af sign for me. SadSadSad

LuckyBlackKitty · 29/03/2016 17:00

Zoe - I hope you survived being back at work and you're feeling better.

bluebird - I'll keep my fingers crossed for you just in case!

bluebird3 · 29/03/2016 18:02

Thanks lucky Smile

Zoefitness · 30/03/2016 19:58

Thanx lucky. X

Zoefitness · 30/03/2016 20:00

Eugh - think I chose the wrong line of work. Two weeks off!! - for Easter! So jealous! Not jealous of the family visiting though!

Really hope that AF stays away from you. You never know. Fingers massively crossed x

Aidycake34 · 31/03/2016 19:54

So i went to the doctors this morning about my pre af spotting and she's referred me to the gynaecology unit at my local hospital. She still didn't seem overly concerned about it but referred me because of the length of time it's been happening. I've just booked my appointment for 19th may so the waiting list isn't as long as I've been led to believe (I live in leeds).

bluebird3 · 31/03/2016 23:15

aidy if you don't mind my asking how long does your spotting go on for?

Zoefitness · 01/04/2016 09:54

Eeek. So eased that she's referred you Aidy. Hopefully you should get some answers - please let me know.

LovelyFishy · 01/04/2016 16:24

Yay for short waiting list! Hope you're feeling more chilled because of this. Smile

Aidycake34 · 01/04/2016 19:56

Bluebird the spotting usually lasts for 5 days and then the normal heavy period starts. It's fairly consistent actually, I have a 26 day cycle, I seem to ov on about day 13 and the spotting starts 8 days later. The gp said that I need to class the first day of spotting as the first day of my cycle but if this is correct then that means I have an 8 day luteal phase which is too short so I'm not sure I buy that. This whole process is just so difficult, why do some people have such difficulty getting pregnant and others can't stop having them. My granny had 13 kids and didn't want about 11 of those, it so ironic that I am desperate for more and can't seem to manage it!

Zoefitness · 01/04/2016 21:18

Omg Aidy that is so confusing. I heard that you should count the first day of your heavy bleeding as the first day of your cycle!!

I know what you mean about the whole process. It is just so unfair!

bluebird3 · 01/04/2016 21:40

aidy I have 28-31 day cycles and spotting for 3-5 days before. The first day or two is almost nothing but maybe pink or brown cm. Then it's more brown and stringy a couple days before af starts. I've always counted the first day of my cycle as first day or red flow. Now I'm worried I've got it wrong. But I'm same...it would make my lp very short. It's so frustrating not knowing what's going on. I'm having bloods done on day 2/3/4 and then 21. Not until May though as I'm on holiday during the first week of my next cycle. I better ring my GP and see when my cycle starts counting. Thanks

Aidycake34 · 02/04/2016 20:52

Bluebird my spotting is just like that. If I wasn't specifically looking for it I probably wouldn't notice it for the first few days and then it gradually gets heavier until it turns into a normal period. I've always counted the first day of my cycle as being from the first day of the red blood. I hope my gp is wrong about this. Will you let me know what yours says?

bluebird3 · 02/04/2016 21:32

aidy Af arrived today and I'm off on hols tomorrow for a week. I'll be ringing when I get back as I can now reasonably predict my next cycle and can try and schedule my bloods test for the May cycle. So may be a week or so but I'll let you know what my GP says.

simplydivine05 · 08/04/2016 13:24

Hi everyone, please can I join you? I am currently on cycle 10 TTC to conceive no2 and just fed up with it all. I am due to test on 12th April. My cycles have never settled since coming off the pill in Feb last year and I have been suffering with fatigue, ovulation pain, spotting before my period (2-3 days starting with red and then brown and then full period), and periods so heavy I gave to use pads and tampons together.
I went to the docs last week about these things and they want me to have full bloods on day 2-5 of my cycle. In a way I hope they find something and that's why it's taking so long and then I can be fixed. I know they say a year is normal, but really, is it?!
I also came off the buses because I was down about the constant well done for conceiving on cycle no 1!

Zoefitness · 08/04/2016 13:42

Hi simply divine - sorry to hear that your going through a rough time with Ttc also.

The positive thing is that you have been pregnant before so surely nothing could have dramatically gone wrong with your fertility between the conception of your DC and now. Also, that's great that your having tests carried out so hopefully if there is something wrong, you will find out soon enough.

I'm with you on the whole idea of it taking up to 12 months to conceive. If you know how to track your ovulation and you Dtd at the correct times, your not stressed out - surely if you don't conceive within a couple of months, there is a problem. I have always thought that and after six months, my DP and i had tests done and he has a lower than optimal SC so hopefully that is our only problem, not that it's a great problem to have.

simplydivine05 · 08/04/2016 14:18

Thanks Zoe. It's my second DC but first for my DP so could equally be him. If my tests show nothing I'll have the 21 day test and then DP with have a SA. It's 8 years since I had ds and he was an accident so there was none of this waiting. I was only 21 so maybe I was super fertile?! I didn't even know about ovulation then. I'm about a stone heavier now than I was then too and I understand fat makes oestrogen. I lost two stone last year before we started to get my bmi closer to a healthy range.
I'm just constantly looking for reasons why it hasn't happened yet. DP has dramatically decreased his alcohol consumption, he's a healthy weight and fit and has a good diet. I also make him take zinc every day. I can't help but think it's me despite having had no pregnancy issues in the past.

Zoefitness · 08/04/2016 16:00

How old are you now simply divine? Yes, I think 21 is a super fertile age. However, I can't imagine that there would be anything seriously stopping you from conceiving, just because you have before. You were very lucky before. It must be a bit of a surprise for you now in regard to how difficult you are finding it.

Congratulations on your weight loss by the way. I think that when you are trying to conceive, it's so important to be as healthy as you can but I don't think your weight would stop conceiving you unless you are really overweight.

Don't beat yourself up about it and think it's you. It could equally be your OH and if your stressing it really won't help you.

Do you use ovulation sticks?

Mbire · 09/04/2016 11:41

Girls honestly, there is probably nothing wrong with most of us! It just takes this long in many cases. from what I have heard not conceiving in the first few months does not mean there is a problem. 60% will conceive in the first 6 months, 80% in the first year and 95% in two years. There's hope for us all!Smile

Zoefitness · 09/04/2016 12:33

Yes your probably right Mbire. I think it's just difficult to think that there isn't a problem, especially if your doing everything right. Too much stressing perhaps!

MancombSeepgood · 09/04/2016 20:49

Hi all. Just checking in, now on day 10 of cycle 8. I am sad that there still hasn't been a single bfp on this thread. Zoe and divine, I am really sceptical of the claim that "a year is normal" and my GP even said two years is normal. Hmm, doesn't feel like it when other women are pregnant before they can say boo. I have my own ignorant and made up theory that once you are doing all the right things and you get past four to six months, its not that you can't get pregnant, but let's be real, there is probably an issue. It won't be as easy as it is for optimally fertily women. Just look at this thread compared to the busses where BFPs on cycle 1 are flipping ten a penny.
I don't know what my issue is yet but I am sure there is one!
I am thinking of trying Agnus Castus next, would this be a bit of a silly/bad thing to do? Anyone else considered it?
Hoping to see a bfp on here soon. Anyone in the tww?

simplydivine05 · 09/04/2016 23:46

I'm 31 next month Zoe. The nurse practitioner I saw said that like I was getting on a bit!!
I did use opks but found them to add stress as it was just another thing to have to squeeze into my day. I just temp now and have been for three cycles. My temp dipped a bit this morning like it always does before AF comes so I suspect I'm not pregnant and will be getting those tests done after all.
I'm trying not drinking alcohol during the tww this month. I have never drunk excessively but enjoy the odd glass of wine on a weekend.
I've never considered Agnus Castus MancombSeepgood. What is it supposed to do?

bluebird3 · 10/04/2016 16:59

Hi everyone. I was reading somewhere that women who take longer to conceive aren't necessarily 'infertile' but may be 'subfertile'. Meaning less fertile and will take longer to conceive and that if there isn't an obvious issue then they just may take a couple of years to conceive. I'm having day 2-5 and 21 bloods done next cycle (currently cd 9) and on month 13 Ttc. Feeling a little more relaxed as I've temporarily given up Facebook as I got baby bombed almost daily and it would turn an OK about not being pregnant day into a bad one. Fx for our first thread bfp soon. ThanksThanksThanks

simplydivine05 · 10/04/2016 21:29

Well that bfp ain't coming from my direction. Started with my usual cramps and spotting this evening. I'm only 11dpo as well. Will go get the bloods done this week and then get the day 21 bloods as I seriously think I have a progesterone issue.

Zoefitness · 10/04/2016 21:52

Hey Mancomb, I know right it's so hard to stay positive. That's exactly what I've always thought (don't know if I'm being a little dramatic) but as I said, it did turn out that my DP has a dodgy sperm count, it's not too bad but it's not perfect. Angus cactus is worth a try id say.

Bluebird that is such a good idea. I hate Facebook!!! If people aren't 'baby bombing' it's constant photos of their DC..drives me insane!!!
That's an interesting article. It makes sense really and I suppose your GP isn't necessarily going to tell you that. I struggle with the fact that the doctors are so unwilling to refer me to the gynaecologist for tests etc.

I'm worried about getting referred for IVF because of DP's sperm count and then it failing because I have undiagnosed endometriosis. i assume that you don't get tested for everything before you have IVF.

Aw simply divine - sorry I hear that. Flowers. I really hope that you get some answers. Fingers crossed for your blood tests. Keep us updated. Xx

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