April 2014 thread! - still continually supporting one another!

[Cupcake92]

New thread :)
I want to see lots of our old faces back!!
Come on girls!

Yes I said I wanted a second opinion so that's why I got another apt with a different doctor. Just hoping they can help me. Just want to be a good mother to my children and I can't do that if I cry everyday want them to always remember me happy!

Aww glad your scan went well!!! :) can't believe she'll be here soon for u! When has the viewing been rearranged for?

I know! Have had lower back pain on and off all day, so not sure if things are starting or not. I know she's back to back at the moment, and so was ds and the pain I got is like when I went into labor with ds.

Am viewing the house on Friday, just hope I get it, although this late it's unlikely that I will get it to go to after I have dd, there will probably be a delay.

Get on ur hands and knees and rock back and fourth and it should help her turn :) how exciting tho!

I'll keep my fingers crossed for the house for u! Really hope u do get it.

Tonight I smashed my last mug I have in the house !! my other mug I had was my 21st mug and that just gave way the other day and this was my last mug, it was a piglet one from the Disney store! I just knocked it off the side and it smashed ! So currently trying to enjoy a cup of tea out of a glass will have to go mug shopping tomorrow

Hope you sorted your mug situation cupcake! Tea is very important!

I'm struggling at the moment, ds has most definitely reached the terrible twos. He constantly throws awful tantrums if things don't go his way and I don't really know how to deal with it.

I'm wound up because stbxh is playing dad of the year on social media, I don't know what he's told people but he only sees him 1 to 2 hours 3 days a week, and then he doesn't do much with him. He doesn't have to deal with the epic tantrums and things.

And my solicitor has done absolutely nothing so far despite me paying the start of last week for her to do a few things.

I went on the safe side and got a pack of 4 mugs from ASDA
So I have 3 back ups if I smash one haha

My ds1 was exactly the same Ducky!! Since turning 3 and going to pre school he's got a lot better. He's changed a lot! I would just ignore him when he was having a tantrum then when he would finally chill out and come up to me I'd tell him what he had done wrong and tell him to say sorry. If he did I'd give him a hug and just carry on as normal. It's exhausting tho. It will pass tho honestly.

Oh typical thing ex's have to do! Just got to ignore it all and know it's u that does everything! This is why I got rid of social media not had it for ages cuz I'd get wound up by what people say
I'd deffo chase ur solicitor up!! If you've paid them they need to do something!!

Well tonight I was putting ds2 to bed (he was already fast asleep bless him) and ds1 as usual went to the toilet. Next I heard a massive bang! ..... he had fallen off the toilet and banged his head on the door. He's got a bump and a bruise but he's okay now.
Funny thing is I said to him 'who on earth falls off a toilet silly billy' and he said 'me. I'm so sorry mummy my head hurt the door' I had to explain the door was absolutely fine and felt no pain

We told SIL and BIL tonight about me being pregnant.They were lovely. If they are having trouble conceivng it didn't show in their reaction. We will tell PIL on Saturday.

Looks like moving date should be 3 weeks tomorrow if everything goes well. I actually did some packng this afternoon. I packed two boxes n the spare room - of my shoes and bags. Sealed up and labelled.It's a start. DS was having a sleep.

We asked him tonight if he would like a baby brother or sister and he shook his head and said 'No, I like a duck.'

I hope ds is ok cupcake! How does ds2 get on with stbxh? Will he be there for the birth of ds3?

Haha oh no lulu a duck?!
Not long for the move then! Are you excited?

So I thought I went into labor tonight. Regular contractions, was timing them, lasted 2 hours. Got all my hospital bags ready, contacted the midwife, then all of a sudden they slowed, then stopped false alarm.... a long one! Induction Thursday if nothing before then.

Starting to get pains again now but I don't trust them!

Aw your SIL and BIL must be happy for you lulu :)
Haha I love how ds wants a duck I'm pretty sure my ds1 would have preferred a duck he wasn't too pleased when I told him about another brother!
Good luck with the move lulu! Hope it goes smoothly :)

Oh gosh ducky! How u feeling now? Anymore pains?
Oh ds was fine I sat in bed with him for half. Hour watching the iPad and he was okay so let him go to sleep. Ds2 is in that phase where he's obsessed with stbxh ! When I drop them off ds2 is so excited and couldn't care less that I'm going and yes he'll be there for ds3's birth.

It stopped again! I was reading about it online and apparently this part can go on for hours... days... or even weeks!

Going to view this house today.. keep your fingers crossed for me!

How did the house view go???

How are u feeling tonight ducky?

It's a lovely lovely house. Very small but absolutely perfect to get me on my feet.

There was one other person viewing it.

I have got the forms to send off first thing Monday and hope to hear back by mid week.

Fingers tightly crossed!!

It felt so cosy and safe. Sounds silly but it did, it had a very relaxing atmosphere.

Ducky, I hadn't realsed you were so near the birth. What a few weeks you're having! Hope it all starts soon and is quick and painless

How are you doing Cupcake?

DS woke us up this morning by shouting 'Is wake up time'. When DH went in he was standing in his cot with his hands in the air shouting 'Hurrah Daddy'.

I really hope u get it ducky :)

Lulu, I'm not doing great tbh. I went back to see a different GP yesterday and they said every antidepressant has a risk of baby ending up in neonatal care once born and also can be born with widthdrawal symptoms. She said because I have a history of having a baby in neonatal then it's too risky for me. :/
Ive been referred to counselling. But that's all I can be offered. She's setting a plan up so I can go straight onto my meds as soon as baby is born. I feel like I'm just being left to get on with it. My aniexty is bad and I'm getting panic attacks and heart palpitations! I was told to go out for walks to solve that!

I get what your GP is saying Cupcake but at your stage of pregnancy the increased risk of any effects on the baby are less than 1% so if you really needed them you could have them. I am very prone to depression and walking really helps me keep it at bay and feel positive. I walk DS miles in his buggy along the seafront- sometimes 5-8 miles a day. Just the fresh air and the being out and doing something physical makes a big difference. Easier said than done with two small children I imagine (although I'll be finding out)
We told PIL today. They came up for the day. They were over the moon. Honestly, you would have thought DH had performed some amazing feat! He was hugged and kissed and MIL actually said 'Well done!'
I was hugged too but he is just Goldenballs as far as they are concerned.

They asked Ds if he wants a brother or a sister and he said it again 'I want a duck'.
We took them to see the house we are buying - just the outside- and they thought it was lovely.

Am 37+3 now lulu gone so fast! Ds still set on his duck then haha. Do you still see the old lady you used to see? If that makes any sense!

Cupcake, I hope you get something sorted very soon. They must be able to offer you something else. I don't know much about the effects of ad's during pregnancy at all but I'm sure I've seen threads on here of people on them. Hope your feeling a bit better today

Yes Ducky, we do see her. She is amazng really. She is almost completely independent. DH takes her shopping for big stuff but she likes to potter round the supermarket herself and talks to all the staff. He calls in for a cup of tea with her. She came for her tea the other weekend.

He is sorting the garage out today. We have a small skip that lots of rubbish is going in. He is not a happy man. It's cold up here and wet and he's got the doors open into the garden. He's got a coat, woolly hat and gloves on.And there are spiders. DS was 'helping' but has had to come in because he's a hindrance more than anything. He and I are going to have a walk round to see SIL to get him out of the way, then I am going to cook a nice Sunday dinner for later.

Hope you get the house and that this week goes well. By next Sunday you'll be a new mum again!

Lulu I'm glad everyone's so pleased about the pregnancy! :)

I've been trying to go out for walks but it's not so relaxing when I have the 2 of them. It gets stressful then. I usually go out when ds1 is at pre school and take the dog. I feel relaxed doing that it's nice.

Ducky how's things with u? Any more pains etc? Can't believe this time next week you'll have your little baby!!

I went out yesterday with my mom my auntie and the dogs. And both the kids. I was having a bad day already and my dog decided to misbehave and I just broke down. I physically couldn't help myself. My mom didn't realise how bad I was feeling. I'm fed up of how I'm feeling and I just don't understand why I am feeling this way. It's making me feel like such an awful mother.
My auntie is a nurse and has told me I need to contact my midwife on Monday as she said there is certainly things I can take/do to help me and she will be able to get me some support. I just keep crying it's awful feeling like this :(
My mom took ds1 back to hers and gave him dinner and then I met her later on at some fireworks.

Depression is awful Cupcake I would not wish it on anyone.

How is your dog? What did her test results show? I hope it wasn't cancer.

Hope dh managed to get enough stuff done

Cupcake I really hope your midwife can help. It's awful you have been left feeling like that. Can stbxh have both the ds for a day to give you a break?

Pains have been on and off midwife said it's normal and just he cervix getting ready. Ideally I need dd to hang on until Thursday because hopefully I should have at least a moving date then if all goes to plan.

Have received draft letters from my solicitor for the divorce. I need to approve them to be sent tomorrow. Scary stuff.

It is awful lulu. It's strange as I've seen people go through depression but just never thought I'd be one as I'm usually such a bubbly happy person.
My dog is absolutely fine now :) he results just showed a benign growth. I've been told it's possible it will grow back but it's nothing to worry about as it wasn't cancerous. Tho she has to have 4 teeth removed to get to the tumour
So she's a gummy bear now as they were her adult teeth!

Ducky, with me just starting work at my new job he has them the days I work all day, which is a Monday and Thursday atm. Then hes at work the other days so I don't think he'd take them another day :/
But I miss the DC's too much when they aren't here

I really hope u get the house ducky!! That'll be a nice weight off ur chest and u can give birth knowing u have a house to go to soon ! :)

That is such good news about your dog Cupcake. You must have been so relieved.
Depression is a chemical thing. It can strike anyone. If it happens at a time when things are tough it makes things even more hard to deal with. I would ask for medication and tell them exactly how tough things are and how much you are on your own. It is hard having a baby with a DH around . They change your life and it can feel very lonely. DS keeps me busy but whole days go past where I only speak to an adult when DH gets home. If he wasn't so nice and caring about me, and was selfish all the time (rather than occasionally ) I could feel invisible. I am a servant to DS- everything revolves around him. Being pregnant again is tiring. I sleep when DS has his nap. You must be exhausted .
DS has been in bed since 7 so we have had a quiet night. DH was so fed up after his day in the garage. But he had a bath and enjoyed his tea and cheered up. He is reading about Tutankhamun as I am writing this. Apparently he was mummified with an erection. Why would anyone do that? Now his penis has disappeared.

Hope the house application goes well Ducky. If that goes well and the divorce papers go off to the solicitor, you will be well on the way to being settled.

Have you spoke to the midwife cupcake?

I hadn't heard about the erection lulu!! I wonder where his penis went

Had the most amazing news. I got the house hopefully getting the keys Thursday. Dm will take ds with her while I'm in hospital and get them and start moving things.

Will be on my own there most the time but I could do with a break! ds gets upset seeing me in hospital so will have try and avoid him being there too much.

That is great news Ducky- your own house! Hurrah! A new start! What is it like?

Are you having a cesaerian?