April 2014 thread! - still continually supporting one another!

[Cupcake92]

New thread :)
I want to see lots of our old faces back!!
Come on girls!

It went okay thanks ducky. Just feel like the new person again lol

I got my belt through physio
:)

I was in the kitchen this afternoon and I heard DS giggling. I turned round to find him putting his face in the cats' water bowl . It is a big pottery bowl- to stop them shoving it round the floor- and he was soaked. He must have drank some of it. Didn't like having his faced washed!

He has been playing with his little football with DH in the garden.

Hope everyone is okay?

Ds2 is doing well sleeping in his cot
And ds1 is doing well having his brother in the same room as him!
:)

I brought a dog as well! A gorgeous 11 week old border collie. She's beautiful. :) the boys love her and she seems to love them!

Picture cupcake!!! that's great news about the sleep.

Lulu ds loves the dogs water bowl too!

My 12 week scan today. Am feeling very nervous

Picture attached

Good luck ducky! Sure all will be fine :) let us know how it goes

Omg so cute!!! is she well behaved? Do the boys play nice with her?

Went for my scan, they put me forward to 13 weeks. They think it's a girl but couldn't be too sure at the moment, they said I have an anterior placenta again which has worried me as that's what I had with dd and I get so anxious about movements. They said she came from my right ovary.

That's great news ducky!! :)
And don't worry about the placenta n just go see ur midwife any time ur worried :)

She's really good atm!! And the boys love her! Ds1 has been constantly playing with her and he's been that tired he's slept through the night and not woken up at all!

Hope everyone's doing well! :)

Your puppy looks lovely Cupcake. What have you called her? How has Ziggy taken to her?

I am ok. I am fed up with DH and his self-obsession. It feels like everything is about things being as easy for him as possible at the moment- what he wants to do and what he doesn't, what he complains makes his life hard, what he would prefer to happen.

He wanted to go to see his parents this weekend in Yorkshire so I told him to go but me and DS were staying here. Resulted in row but I did not go. He won't be back until Tuesday. (Hurrah!)

Am having a nice time with DS. Life is much nicer when it is just us. We went for a lovely walk yesterday on the beach and he found another little boy to be friends with and I chatted to his dad- it was nice to have someone not grumpy to talk to.

Today we are going up to the country park, duck feeding and for a walk.

Hope you are ok.

eillenram

i had a miscarriage 2 years ago, and only now i get a chance to become pregnant again but i think im having again a mc. my last day of period was april 19 and on may 22 i had a pregnancy test and its positive, i make 2 test though the line is faint but still visible. i made a test again 23 and same faint line.by those days i feel cramping and lower abdominal pain. on 28 in the morning i feel dizzy and got spotting. light brown. and in evening it became red. this morning its not a spotting anymore. its bleeding already. just like light period. and having serious cramps and lower abdominal pain. i went to doctor and go for ultrasound. she found a sack round forming but cannot determine if there is baby. because its still early to see. they make blood test and my hcg level is 24.something. and bleeding still continues and become more heavy. after 2 days i need to to blood test again and if hcg level becomes low then it is miscarriage. but if its become high maybe its ectopic.
but im still hoping as there are forums here i read which they also got heavy bleeding but still delivered normal..

may God help me coz i have been waiting for so long for a baby to come.

I thought everyone had left!

Sorry dh is giving you a tough time at the moment lulu, have you heard off him since he went? Hope he snaps out of it asap!

How's work going lulu? Is ds1 keeping up the good sleeping?

I'm still waiting to feel movement! Am starting to get a bump already though and am back in maternity clothes! 14+4 now. Have a private gender scan coming up soon to confirm if my last scan was right.

Hi Ducky. Yes he has rang and messages when I haven't answered. I have replied by text. Just a bit sick of him really.

I haven't been working, I wanted to make things as easy as possible at home while it is exam season- knowing he would be under pressure. That's why I am annoyed he has gone to Yorkshire. He'll be at work the rest of the week so half term will have gone. He has whinged on about everything being so hard and DS could not be an easier baby. Honestly, me and DS have a lovely stress free time without him.

Anyway, never mind him. You are almost 4 months! That has gone so quickly! Before you know it, you'll have a new baby! Are you excited? Have you told DS yet?

Is it all the exam stress still lulu? still, he shouldn't be taking it out on you and ds, and should want to spend his time off with you two!

I'm excited but nervous, it seems there's so many similarities between this pregnancy and with dd. Ds doesn't really understand at the moment but he does keep running around squealing 'babieeeeeee'. Which is a bit as I have been trying to keep it quiet!

His work is stressful Ducky but lots of people do his job without going on like he does at the minute. I did it and I didn't behave like him. It is bringing out the side of DH I like least.

Once DH feels badly done to and his ego is damaged he gets really selfish. The job is really testing him and he is scared he isn't good at it and he feels under too much pressure. In his head he won't be able to stand anyone thinking he isn't good at it. That is why we are having all of this selfishness- it is a kind of egotistical fear.

He wanted me and DS to go with him but I just wanted a quiet weekend at home. Me and DS took the camper van up to the country park and have been there hours. We walked round the big lake, fed the ducks and geese, played on the beach, had a picnic in the camper and then walked around the back of the dunes on the track through the reed beds and the fields. The sun was out. It was really quiet and we had a lovely time.

He is ready for bed now but not looking sleepy! Tomorrow I am taking him on a boat trip to the Farne Islands to see the birds and seals. It will take us all day and we'll take the camper.

I love the thought of your DS runnng round shouting babieeeeeee.

Hello girls!!

Lulu sorry to hear ur dh has been acting a bit silly recently! I hope the exams fly by and his stress disappears and he goes back to his normal self :)
Maybe some time apart is good for u all to destress!

Ducky! Can't believe ur pregnancy is flying by! Hope ur feeling okay?
How's u and H?

We have been very ill for the past week here! Ds1 was 1st and he was on the toilet day and night he got better Saturday. Then ds2 is very very poorly atm, he's not drinking much milk and refusing all food. He keeps getting a high temp and has a chesty cough sniffles and just looks dreadful :( and I also have sniffles and an awful sore throat!
We should all be in quarantine
Bailey our dog is doing great!!! Already house trained and is slowly starting to learn commands.
Her and ziggy have decided to be friends no more hissing at her!

Hello Cupcake, sorry to hear you have all been poorly. How old are DS1 and DS2 now?

I would love a dog but the cats would not stand for it. They are both very picky about people and other animals.

I have just had a row with DH on the phone because I told him me and Ds are going out tomorrow. He was really short and said what about him and he wanted to spend time with us. I said he should have stayed at home this weekend then. He said I was not being fair! I told him to bugger off and stay in Yorkshire. DS and I are going out tomorrow. Grr! Am so fed up with him.

Oh no lulu, based on what you have told us about him before this seems very out of character for him? Hope he comes back apologising! Or stays away a little longer! Hope you and ds have a lovely day today, I'm sure you will.

Cupcake, glad to hear the dog is getting on well and her and the cat have put their differences aside . Hope everyone is feeling better soon, me and ds have been ill too. My pregnancy seems to be going very slow to me! Me and h are still getting on, he's still trying but I am feeling fed up again not sure if it's just my hormones or something else

He drove home last night and arrived about midnight. I had locked the hall door which meant he could not get in so he had to wake me up by ringing the doorbell which woke DS up too. I was furious. We had a HUGE row - very unlike us, think we have only ever had one before. I just let everything rip at him. He got really defensive and accused me of not understanding how much pressure he is under. I understand - I understand how big his bloody ego is.
I felt strangely calm afterwards and slept in the spare room. He looks shocking this morning and I don't care. I really don't. I am not living with his ego dictating how we live.
Unfortunately, the weather is not good for sailing, very windy looking like a storm and the sea is rough so DS and I can not go on the boat trip. But I am not sitting here with DH. Am taking DS to soft play and out for lunch then for a walk.
DH has still not got it! He needs to get his head round his choices.

Took ds2 to the doctors today and he has a bad chest infections so is on antibiotics now.

Lulu ds1 is 3 in August!! Growing up fast! And ds2 is 7 months now! :( no longer a baby.
I'm sorry u and dh aren't getting along atm. I hope things change and he does something romantic and nice for u to say sorry :)

Ducky sorry to hear u and ds have been unwell as well!
Hmm it could very well be ur hormones ducky. Us women are very up and down when pregnant!

The weather is very dull here. :(

Sounds crap lulu. Didn't you do the same, if not very similar? So you would understand the stress. Maybe if his job is affecting his home life to this extent he needs to re think what he's doing! Have you spoke again yet?

Poor ds2 cupcake! How long is he on the anti biotics for? He doesn't sound wheezy at all does he?

DH is very subdued tonight. He is marking books. DS has been taking him toys. He had DS on his knee cuddling him and I could see he was tearful (DH not DS) But there is no point in him promising to change if he just does the same thing again next time he feels stressed. I am not feeling at all sympathetic. He can do this job if he can just get over his need for everyone to think he is wonderful. You can't do a Deputy Head job and have everything go right and everyone like you but he can't take that idea.

DS is in bed and I am going in the bath. He has just asked if I am sleeping in our bed tonight and I said no. He nodded but looked not happy.

I don't know where this is going really. Him doing something romantic won't help Cupcake. He needs to get a grip of his ego and accept he might fail sometimes. I don't know why me and DS have to put up with him bringing all the crap home. There are other ways for him to manage all of this if he can get over himself. Looking all sorry for himself isn't washing. I have told him he has a lot of thinking to do and needs to make some choices about his behaviour- then he can tell me what they are and I'll make my own mind up. He knows he is in the wrong. He is just stubborn and knows I am not liking him much at the minute. Needs to grow up and grow a pair of balls.

Hope your DS2 feels better soon.

Hope you had a better day today lulu

Thanks Ducky. I haven't talked to anyone except here to you and Cupcake. I don't want to talk to SIL, although she would totally get it because she knows him well.

Typical DH. This morning he came into the spare room about half 4 and said could we talk. Same old stuff- loves me, loves DS, most important things in the world to him, never wants to be without us, is sorry, can see it now I have told him, does not mean it to happen etc etc. Got tearful, feels guilty, would never want to hurt us.

I understand all of that but he is driving me mad because I just don't believe he won't slip into the same way of behaving again. It is like that is his 'setting' and he needs re-programming every so often.

Anyway, we have both just calmed down a bit. He got into bed and we had a cuddle and just were close and managed a sleep together for a couple of hours which made us feel more connected again.

Today has been ok. We'll see. Friends but not besties at the moment. On we go.

Glad you pair are friends again. And dh needs to get back to normal so we can hear about the crazy things he does again!!!