April 2014 thread! - still continually supporting one another!

[Cupcake92]

New thread :)
I want to see lots of our old faces back!!
Come on girls!

Hmm not sure how to take this I was just doing ds some toast, I came in the lounge and he had h's phone opened on a message (h in bed).

The message was between him and some guy. I was v nosy and read what it said and it went like this:

Guy: how are you? Last time we spoke your wife was messing you around.

H: we're OK, we're trying to sort things out. Just can't believe she called the filth on me.

Guy: yea, that was lame. Are you getting on ok now?

H: she looked terrified of me, so I left, then she calls the filth. Mad. the relationship is changing as we speak. What ever happens I'll be ok, it's my house anyway.

What has confused me is, I have no idea what e means by 'the relationship is changing as we speak' and wtf to 'it's my house anyway' it most definitely is not. It is mortgaged in both out names and until very recently I made every mortgage and bill payment without him contributing a penny!

But I can't tell him I looked

I would tell Him ducky confront him about it. U don't wanna start feeling like u did before. Uve started anew and think both of u should be honest. Otherwise the relationship will go back to how it used to be.
Also why does it say 'your wife was messing around' ? I'd be asking
Him exactly what he's said to him

Had my doctors appt for my cervical examination and it wasn't as good as I hoped :( I have a lump on my cervix and been given an emergency appt on Monday with a gynaecology doctor. So I'm really worried now :(
U can probably guess what I'm thinking. I'm thinking the worst :(
What if it is the worst? My kids need me :( I'm the one that takes care of them.

This isn't what I needed

Do peaceful lives exist?

Cupcake how bloody scary for you. Have they gave you any idea what it could be?

I know it probably won't help but I have 2 friends who had the exact same thing happen, both turned out to be completely harmless cyst things.

Really hope it's all ok for you.

Is anyone going with you for support?

Well I'm hoping it's a cyst.
Just going to forget about it till Monday.
And no I'm going on my own, but tbh I prefer to.

How are u ducky? Do u have a 12 week scan booked?

Cupcake, try not to worry. Easier said than done I know but the chances of it being anything awful at your age would be miniscule. You have just given birth so it could only have been there a very short time. Much more likely to be a cyst or something hormonal. I would be scared too but try not to be. I have had three lots of treatment for severely abnormal cells but it was sorted and I have been clear for years now. It is very worrying when it happens but most things are sortable now.

Ducky, tell him you saw it and demand to know what it means. Don't let him get away with it. He was being disrespectful at the very least and you should call him on it.

I am lying in bed on my ipad.DH is asleep after telling me in detail all about Leeds social conditions in the 19th century.

Cupcake my 12 week is 19may... I think!

I told him. He denied it. I told him I saw it. He said he doesn't remember sending it

Liar liar pants on fire! Where do you go from there Ducky? It is a difficult one. Have you felt things are slipping back? Have you thought he has genuinely changed.

DH is just grumpy and tired at the moment - he is trying not to be but it is the run up to exams and he is working all hours. Will be in work every day at half term at the end of May running A level and GCSE revision classes. I am letting him get on with it- if he does not do it he will just worry about it. Trying to be supportive at home but not putting up with grumpy.

I didn't have a clue where to go from there really I just took ds out to the park and didn't go back until after he'd gone to work. Ds had a great time. I honestly thought he had changed after everything that happened, now I'm worried things are very slowly slipping back to how they were.

Oh no lulu, he went like that before didn't he. Hope he snaps out of it soon.

Bloody grumpy men!

Yes Ducky, when he first changed jobs. He is just tired and working too hard and stressed. He knows and is keeping a check and taking a telling - my raised eyebrow is a good sign apparently that he might need to chill. He has been out for a run tonight and we are going to bed for a cuddle up- he's in the shower. He needs some sleep.

How is your DS doing with talking? DS is coming along nicely - mumum, dada, kit (cat), mow (meow), NO, soos(shoes), me, iss (yes) , milk, dat (that), bambam (camper) and sounds for please and thank you. Lots of nods and head shaking.

That's really good of your ds talking!

My ds doesn't really say much, he says mam, da, nan, cat, dog. But he understands a lot, he knows his hair, eyes, ears, nose, belly, feet, toes and things like his clothes he can fetch himself. Oh he tries to meow as well!

I am loving him learning things. He knows bits of his body, the two cats, granny and grandad - points to them in photos, buggy- runs to it when I say, ducks- points to them and makes a noise a bit like a quack, coat- will fetch it like yours, his meerkat grub which we call Grubbo. I love him knowing things. I think he is a genius

It's great isn't it lulu! And mad what they learn so quick!

today ds fell over and scraped his knee. He then ran round to everyone pointing at his knee he didn't cry tho.

How you doing cupcake? Did you wear a support belt with ds2? I have been having bad hips already midwife told me she thinks I need to try physio and get a support belt but I have looked and there is so many. I'm so worried if it's this bad this early on.

Sorry I've been quiet past few days! It is as my friends wedding then my bank didn't Send out my rent for some reason even tho it's a standing order so had to call the letting agents and send the payment over then dispute over them
Saying its a late payment. Because I've never paid late and this was not my fault. Thankfully they decided to note it down as 'on time'

I have my apt tomorrow which I'm worrying about now, and I'm just so tired! Ds1 is in full on terrible 2 mode! He's been awful and it's absolutely exhausting me.

I still can't find a new house either! And ds2 is now in his cot sharing
A room with ds1 :(
So lonely in my room now!

Oh and I start work next week :(
I so don't want to!
Start on Wednesday :( :(

Sounds like you have had a tough week cupcake

Can stbxh have them both to give you a break?

Hope your appointment goes well. Does stbxh know about it?

Will ds2 be in nursery while your at work? You might enjoy it having a break.

How's your job going lulu?

Cupcake, I hope tomorrow goes well and everything is sorted and you get a good answer there and then. Will be thinking about you.

Can DS2 not stay in your room a bit longer if you don't want him in with DS1?

I haven't been working the last couple of weeks Ducky. It is consultancy so I can pick and choose. I told my friend that until exams are over I am not pickng anything up because I want to have as little pressure as possible while DH is so pressured, so I can support him. I won't do any projects for the next month.

Hope everything went ok today cupcake have been thinking of you.
And hope your rent is sorted too!

That sounds handy with your job lulu. When will this exam time be over? Bet you can't wait!

Any news Cupcake? Was thinking about you today and hoping you have been ok.

Mid-June Ducky. I will be relieved. Poor DH is having a tough time at the moment.

DS picked up a bee today! Amazingly it didn't sting him- it was exhausted I think. We gave it some sugar water and it had a little rest and flew off.

Quite a long time then for dh. Is he having to work long hours? at the bee not stinging, that's lucky!

Any news cupcake?

I finally got round to taking ds swimming today. He absolutely loved it. Had a bit of a strop coming out though. I paid for my ticket to the car park and found someone had parked so close I had to get ds in the other side and climb over! Then found out the barriers were broke so I didn't need to pay for my ticket anyway! Am hoping we can go for free next week as they charged me for ds when they shouldn't have.

Cupcakkkeee?

Hello! Sorry it's so hetic here atm, I went to exh's grandads funeral on Monday. He cried. I've never seen him like that so I just comforted him then took the boys to the wake afterwards. We talked so much, and I actually think he may slowly be growing up a bit!

Thankfully the doctors have said everything was normal!!! But my pill (cerezette) was causing my irregular bleeding so advised me to come off it and see if my bleeding normalises. And if it does then to choose a different contraception.

Ur poor dh lulu, he works very hard doesn't he.
Aw! Lucky ur ds wasn't stung! my ds runs away from them lol!!

That's good ds liked swimming ducky! :) it's nice to go swimming.

I just can't believe how busy I've been. Now I'm starting work in the morning!

That is good news Cupcake, I was worried about you.

I hope work goes well in the morning.

DS loves swimming too Ducky. He just loves the water. He goes with DH and they have a great time. They go to the cafe afterwards and have a snack!

That's great news cupcake! I was starting to worry! Good luck tomorrow, try and enjoy it (if you can!)

I was so surprised lulu, I was expecting him to be a bit hesitant/worried but he dived right on in and had an ace time!

Done 2 days of work.

I'm exhausted
Who knew having 2 kids and working would be so tiring lol!!!

How did it go back at work cupcake?

With your support belt with ds2, did you get it via physio? Or did you have to buy it? It's confusing me so much!