TTC with PCOS (Thread lucky #4!)

[RoseBud2016]

If you have been diagnosed with PCOS and would like a small group of very friendly ladies in the same position as you to talk to, then this is the thread for you!

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Cwtchy it's the same technology but it's illegal in this country to know the sex, except for if you're screening for specific genetic conditions carried on the X or Y chromosome

We didn't have it done for our first transfer but we will probably have our frosties biopsied and tested before a FET (hopefully in a couple of years time if this one sticks)

The first trimester would def be a lot less stressful knowing the embryo was chromosomally normal.

We're going for the Panorama test on Mon and similarly if we knew there were no trisomies already the 2ww for the results to come back would be avoided!!

banana how amazing - the technology is so advanced now isn't it. Hope all goes well on Monday. How are you feeling generally?

Yes ponty in theory fhey could tell us but it's not allowed here. I think it would be quite weird to have to pick - i probs have a slight pref for a girl, DH for a boy. Of course I'd be delighted with either! (And of course it WILL be a boy - that's how these things work!)

hey guys, sneaking out of lurking again! Didn't need the provera af arrived a week later than anticipated but at least I know where I am in this cycle.

villiage I completely empathise with you. I had an unplanned pregnancy with ds and it didn't go well I ended up having a c section at 31 weeks and he weighed 2lb at birth - so we had a long hospital stay and the whole situation was traumatic. It's taken me 3 years to want another child. But the main not I empathised with is doing it 'properly'. I really want a vaginal birth (may regret that later!) and to be able to hold my baby on my chest as soon as its born rather than being whisked away with breathing machines.. I'm bad with words but sorry you had a horrible time the first time around. Fx a smoother second time for both of us.

And congrats stealth it all sounds positive and exciting!

Feeling frustrated today - have been feeling rubbish for a few days so did a pregnancy test this morning but as negative as could be! Feeling like I'm not getting anywhere at the minute. Was offered clomid at my last appointment but didn't take it as was hoping metformin would start my cycles again, on cd 35 today so hope af shows soon so I can move into the next cycle. Very annoying!

Totally dreading my appointment tomorrow....

bananafish Thank you for the advice. What can you do if you have a thin lining? I guess I better have a look in to these scans. A consultation alone is £180, but needs must I suppose.

stealth So pleased to hear the good news! I don't know much about it all (yet?!) But sounds promising. Everything crossed for you.

Cwtchy Wow, so did Chrissy Teigan choose to have a girl implanted? Isn't that what Victoria Beckham is supposed to have done for her DD? And Kim Kardashian did for her Son? As much as i'm struggling to conceive, I still have a slight preference, but of course i'd happily take what I was given! I'd be delighted with an alien at this point!

Trying It's good to know i'm not alone! Where are you up to with things? What course of treatment etc?

Nurse Sorry to hear that. Will you take the clomid next cycle? Keep us updated.

Shell What's the appointment for? I must have missed you mention it.

Villagefete she chose a girl.. Honestly shouldn't be allowed!! You would think she would be happy and privileged with any!!

It's my scans after my 5 days of tabs 🙈 Xx

Posted too soon.

Does anyone else feel like they are in total limbo? I feel that I cannot make plans for the future regarding holidays or work commitments or career choices/changes because I don't know what the hell is going to happen in terms of conceiving? All aspects of my life seem to be affected by it. I'm just floating along, putting off planning and decision making due to it.

I'm starting to think how much easier only having 1 child would be. Listing the pros of it all (finances/childcare etc) because it's a self preservation thing. I have to find the good in it all incase I never conceive again. And then I look at DP and DD and see how desperate they both are for a little person to join us, for some reason we all feel something is missing, like we aren't a "proper" family. It's a feeling I can't ignore. I think ahead to future Christmas's and it doesn't seem right without someone else at the table? Had I had trouble conceiving DD, I don't think i'd have felt like this. I'd have enjoyed every second with her and accepted we'd probably be a family of 3 and i'd have been ok with it, i'm sure, because i'd have done it all properly. I wouldn't have put work first when I didn't need to, i'd have been at every single nursery/school event because I would know i'd never get the chance again. I've taken it all for granted, assuming there'd be a next time. I so wish I could start again! I've done so many things wrong. I can't remember having a newborn cos it was such a blur and I felt so resentful If I could just do it one more time, I swear i'd cherish every moment because i'd know it would soon be over and i'd never get to do it again. I know i'm so lucky to have a child and I have a cheek to moan and I feel greedy wanting one more, but you can't help how you feel?

I'm currently looking at the fertility centre i'm under and it's so difficult to see what treatment options I have? There's loads! Not just IVF. And it's difficult to total up the cost as none of them are packages, there's all hidden extras. What's the average price for a round of IVF?

Villagefete I am the exact same!! I am dying to book a holiday and also to get a new job!! To scared to move jobs just now incase I fall and would loose out on good mat pay!! Scared to book a holiday incase can't fly etc!!

The things you do and think xx

Shell After clomid? Oh keep us updated! Everything crossed for you! I wonder how you choose what you want? I can understand if you already had 4 boys or 4 girls that you'd choose the opposite to see what it's like to parent a child of another sex, but the first time? Why wouldn't you leave it to fate so to speak? I have a preference, but it's only for practical reasons, which in the grand scheme of things don't matter at all. I would just so love a beautiful, healthy baby.

Ive taken to living life on the edge and just booking holidays etc - yes I may throw money away but hey if we don't conceive in that time (as we didn't for our last holiday to Kraków) it gave us something else to look forward to and I think it was the best (and cheapest!) holiday we have had together. We actually drank so many cocktails and ate so much that at one stage I decided I no longer wanted a baby and told my husband this obviously by the time the cocktails wore off the next morning I was 100% back to wanting a baby but you know..... Lol!!

I missed out on so much stuff last time I was TTC because I was worried I'd be pregnant by then (and I wasn't for ages) that I'm trying hard not to do it this time. It's so difficult not to have it at the back of your mind though.

Shell good luck with your scan!

Thanks ladies!

Think I'm going to book a holiday shortly... Suppose I can't put my life on hold! Just don't know about he job thing xx

Hi all. Only me!

Mentally I finally feel like I'm getting into a much better place than I did a few weeks ago so I'm back to catch up on how things are going. I might not be around as much as before but I just wanted to let you all know that I'm ok.

Thanks so much for all of your support and kind messages. I was overwhelmed by the number of private messages and offers of support I received and feel very blessed to be part of such a lovely group of women

I've caught up on the thread but cant get through personals for everyone. However there are a few people I want to pick out in particular:

FeeFee Huge congrats on being PUPO! When is OTD? How many frosties did you get in the end? x

Village I would urge you not to waste any more time hoping that your ov corrects itself. In my humble opinion its time for you to move onto the next step and give the clomid ago. Make sure you get monitored in your first few cycles though to check that your lining doesn't suffer.

Stealth Good luck with your day 5 report tomorrow!

Shell and anyone else- Please don't put your life on hold whilst TTC! Shell you and I have been ttc for a very simple period of time. It's a long and crappy 'journey' Don;t let your life pass you be because of "what if's". I am miserable enough without having nothing to look forward to!!!! So we have book 2 holidays!!!! lol
Dubai in 2 weeks time for 2 weeks. Then Italy in the Summer! Just DO IT! You have nothing to lose and a lot to gain! x

AFM- The plan is to have a FET in April once we get back from our holiday. I'm on CD18 at the mo and will start the FET cycle once AF arrives (if she does!). I have a doctors appointment today to discuss possible tests and to get a Provera prescription in case AF doesn't play ball (when does she ever!)

Definitely don't put off holidays etc for TTC. You can always cancel them! Jobs are harder because obv there are mat pay concerns etc, but even then my view is that (assuming you want to return to work after having a child) you're better off taking the right steps to build a long term future and if that means changing job, so be it!

village oh my love, you sound like you are down in the dumps atm. I can't really give you much experienced advice as don't have kids myself but I will say that no matter how "wrong" you think you got it first time round, I am sure that your dc doesn't agree and you are an amazing mother. So whilst I'm sure that you WILL get there and have another, I wouldn't worry about it being absolution - your family is whatever it will be, and it will be great. for you, I really feel for you xxx

rose great to have you back too. Am glad you are on the road to recovery. We had a great day 5 report - clinic said that 13 "beautiful" blasts have been biopsied for PGS this morning and frozen, and there is 1 additional fully hatched they are contemplating now whether they are able to biopsy on (must be more difficult to do??), plus there are another 5 that are still early stage blast so they are going to keep them cooking for a little longer and will let me know tomorrow. Am so relieved!

10w scan this morning showed our baby has gone. Missed miscarriage

Saw a beautiful heartbeat at 7+1 and 8+5 but baby measured 9+3 so it died mid/late last week. Utterly heartbroken.

So sad for you bananafish. Can't begin to imagine what you're feeling. Sending you my thoughts

I'm so so sorry Banana You know I'm here for you if you need me xxx

Rosebud so good to see you back 😊 Hope your looking forward to those holidays!! You deserve them!! You are always in my thoughts

Thank you so much for the advice and you are so right!! Going home after to tell hubby we are booking a holiday!!

Stealth you are right!! I need a change of job with less stress!! Fab on the news!!

Bananafish thinking of you and sending love xxx

Oh banana I am so so sorry. It's just so fucking cruel and my heart breaks everytime I see someone else has or is going through the same thing.
Do whatever you need to do to release your emotions. I found talking with friends (MN and RL) and DP is helping tremendously - I'm also seeing a counsellor.

Also, I know you don't want to think about this right now but please don't make any hasty decisions. I chose surgery, and was offered the next day which was way too soon (I chose a few days later which also felt too soon) Give yourself and your DP/H a few days to process what's going on first.

I'm thinking of you and now exactly what you are going through right now. It's fucking shit and I'm so sorry. Much love xxx

Just out scan....
Lining measured 4.1, follicles on right side 1.1, 1.0, 0.9 and couldn't find my left side xx

Banana I am so so so sorry, it is so fucking unfair. I don't know you but my heart breaks for you, you will be in my prayers x

Banana I'm so, so sorry for your loss. There are no words for a situation like this, take care of yourself

Rosebud I have been thinking of you & hope you are as well as can be. I will be cracking on with clomid, I think, and am making an appt with a consultant in April. X

Stealth Thank you so much, you have made me smile. What a lovely post. Thank you for caring

Bananafish I am so, so sorry. There are no words. I am so angry & gutted on your behalf. It's so very unfair. Lots of love to you & hoping you find the strength to move forward with your journey in time. Xxx

Shell What do those results mean? X