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TTC after miscarriage - new thread

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InsufficientlyCaffeinated · 12/01/2016 13:25

I just spotted that the old thread was now closed to new messages so thought I'd start another. The old thread for reference: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2457787-TTC-1-after-miscarriage-looking-for-some-buddies

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Loki17 · 01/03/2016 18:14

I'm not particularly stressed. Or I haven't been. The absence of af is now making me stressed. Good luck, Snowy!

Fedupithink · 01/03/2016 18:48

It's so hard Loki

I'm in the 2ww (could be 3ww with irregular cycles) and trying hard not to notice that I'm still having cm, fuller boobs and twinges... Took a test yesterday as my husband said I'd been more emotional that my new normal which was of course negative. Devastated. But it's only cd24 today so what did I even expect?!!

TTC is making my crazy!

Loki17 · 01/03/2016 18:55

That was me last week. Tested practically everyday because I've had achy boobs from 5dpo. All BFN. As tomorrow's test will be if AF doesn't show.

Waitingformiracles · 01/03/2016 19:20

Wow that is an amazing cake Brenna! That must have taken hours. How on earth did you do the Lego?

Thinking of you Snowberry and hope your scan goes well tomorrow.

Fingers crossed for all you ladies in the TWW.

I had surgical management at the start of February but still getting faintly positive tests and no sign that I might ovulate at any point in the near future but feeling suprising chilled about it. Maybe it's because I know that I can't do anything about it so not much choice!

Loki17 · 01/03/2016 19:23

How long should I wait for af before speaking to a doctor? I absolutely do not want to waste my doctors time. I rarely go to the doctor; my last visit was a year ago when I had tonsillitis and a chest infection, before that it was to confirm my pregnancy with dd who is now 4.5. I only had telephone appointments for my mc - one to ask for a sicknote and one for antibiotics due to an infection. I'm not the type of person to bother the GP for everything but Im obviously really worried and anxious about this. Considering I'm normally a 28 day cycle, how long should I leave it before I ask for some medical help?

AmyB1986 · 01/03/2016 19:56

Loki I'm not sure about how long to wait. I know sometimes you can skip a period completely. This usually happens if you didn't ovulate though, remember you having a positive opk did you have any other signs of ov apart from that and the spotting?

Snowberry hope your scan goes well tomorrow.

Feel a bit fed up at the min, I've eaten 5 cookies I got from Costco earlier which had not helped my mood! Drank too much coffee too. Still want more coffee and more cookies Envy

LuckyinOctober · 01/03/2016 19:59

Hi Loki It's hard, isn't it? I was a 28 day cycle person for 5 years before my miscarriage (admittedly that was on the pill though), since then I had two 31 day cycles and my last cycle was 27 days. From that, it seems to me that miscarriage can reset your normal a bit and it can take time to get into a definite regular pattern where you would need to worry about being 2 days late? I'd personally give it a week or so longer before going to the GP, what were you hoping they'd do? My guess is they'd just reassure you and suggest waiting a bit longer (i.e. a week or maybe two) for AF to show up naturally. Could you ask them for another telephone appt to discuss it? I'm the same as you, I rarely go to my GP and didn't go during my miscarriage at all, I just dealt with the EPU. I don't want to give you false hope, but is it just possible that you could still be pregnant, until AF turns up? Could you have ovulated later this cycle? In my recent longer cycles I ovulated 4 days later than on my most recent cycle which explained the variation. I wasn't pregnant, but if you were, ovulating later would mean HCG took longer to build up.

Thinking of you *Snowberry", all the best for tomorrow.

Update from me is I now have definite EWCM, although Ovia says my fertile window doesn't start until tomorrow and my OPK today was negative. My temperature dipped a little this morning though, so this time I'm going to listen to my body rather than the fancy gadgets, it's been right before.

Loki17 · 01/03/2016 20:09

Thanks all. I think af might be on the way. Had a tiny bit of spotting. My previous post feels a bit dramatic now!!! I just never imagined, after being told my baby was lost on the 23rd December, I'd still be feeling the physical effects in March. Really appreciate the support Flowers

Brenna24 · 01/03/2016 21:38

Hi Loki I would give it a while yet. My cycles have been a bit up and down since mine. My niece is currently on day 43 (hers are normally about 35 days). It is so frustrating though when you just want to get on with it. I hope she gets you soon.

Waiting The cake took 2 days to bake and decorate. I made the lego bricks using a week rubber mould I got from Etsy. It was so much fun to do.

Mrsunsure123 · 01/03/2016 21:56

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Brenna24 · 01/03/2016 23:07

I hope it works for you Mrs

InsufficientlyCaffeinated · 02/03/2016 09:46

Good luck today Snowberry, I'll be thinking of you.

MrsUnsure I'm sure I've seen a TTC on Clomid thread on the Conception board so if there isn't anybody here it might be worth checking it out. I hope it works for you.

Loki I second what others have said about waiting. I think anywhere between 24 and 35 days is considered a normal cycle so your doctor will probably tell you to wait and go back after a week. I hope you either get a BFP or AF soon though save you waiting in limbo.

Thought I was out after all yesterday as I had light intermittent spotting all day. Woke up this morning fully expecting AF to have arrived but nothing! Allowing myself a tiny glimmer of hope it was perhaps implantation bleeding... AF is due at the weekend, either Friday if I ov'ed when I think I did or Sunday if my app is right. Going to test as soon as my internet cheapies arrive (Amazon says delivery between today and Friday). So terrified and excited all at the same time!

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ActLikeYouKnow · 02/03/2016 10:19

MrsUnsure I'm also sure there is a thread here on MN Conception that talks about Clomid a lot.

Well tomorrow is my Uncle's funeral ladies, and this sounds horrible, but all my built up emotions over his death and the loss of my babies will give me a great excuse to have a good cry and no one will worry - everyone will see it as normal!

I feel somewhat delusional and on edge today, I paid a ridiclous taxi fare to work because I got up at 10 to 9 (I start at 9) Blush.. I just feel really out of sorts at the moment. Sunday is my super fertile day, so I'm hoping DP doesn't go to his Mum's for the occasion (Mother's Day). We aren't really trying as such, so he wouldn't be happy if I mentioned it.

I feel like I am lying to him :( Although we aren't using anything and taking a 'what will be will be' approach, I don't think he knows quite how calculated I actually think, although I am very relaxed compared to how I was before.

Have a lovely Wednesday ladies xxxx

Fedupithink · 02/03/2016 11:22

Ohh Insufficently fingers crossed for you!

Snowberry thinking of you today, I hope all goes well.

Act I feel the same, my husband doesn't want me to tell him about ovulation and cm so I fibbed this month, if it's any consolation it really seems to work keep him pressure free even though I know where I am.

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Loki17 · 02/03/2016 16:32

AF arrived today. Relieved and happy! Thinking of you Snowy.

AmyB1986 · 02/03/2016 16:35

Hi all

Mrs glad your appointment went well and you have some treatment in place. My friend had clomid and conceived on her second cycle, she has a lovely 1 year old boy now. What dosage have they given you? I think she started at 50 first cycle and didn't produce a dominant follicle so they upped it to 100 and she conceived with one dominant on her scan.

Work was ok today, I didn't overflow my mooncup either thank goodness. Emptied it during my shift as I was worried it was getting full. Shattered now though and wanting my bed already (yawns loudly)!

Snowberry86 · 02/03/2016 17:09

Scan done. There is an egg sac and yolk but no baby so they are dating the pregnancy at around 5 weeks. I'm sure those dates don't work though so think it hasn't developed.

Have to have another scan next wed to see if anything has developed.

AmyB1986 · 02/03/2016 17:10

Have my fingers crossed for you snowberry xx

Loki17 · 02/03/2016 17:35

So sorry you are going through all of this worry, Snowy. Really hope it's better news next week Flowers

smellsofelderberries · 02/03/2016 17:49

Oh Snowberry, so sorry it wasn't the news you were hoping for this morning. Isn't this your third pregnancy?

Will keep everything crossed for you IC, that's exactly what happened when I was pregnant! Fingers crossed it was implantation spotting Grin

I can't even describe how relaxed I feel not having to go to work anymore. Will be glad when I can get back to temping in a few weeks but for now I just feel so positive about everything. I'm 7DPO today which is usually when I start feeling really moody and angry because of PMS, but I'm just so calm and happy. It's bloody wonderful!

Brenna24 · 02/03/2016 18:08

So sorry the scan hasn't helped Snowberry. I have everything crossed that he or she is just a little behind and actually is ok. I am sending you virtual cake and hugs. xxx

Snowberry86 · 02/03/2016 18:40

Yes smellsofelderberries this is my third. Lost the last 2 very early on.

Mrsunsure123 · 02/03/2016 19:16

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redstrawberries101 · 02/03/2016 21:56

Aw really sorry to hear snowy. Hopefully it will be good news. I hope the EPU was helpful and kind X

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