TTC after miscarriage - new thread

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I just spotted that the old thread was now closed to new messages so thought I'd start another. The old thread for reference: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2457787-TTC-1-after-miscarriage-looking-for-some-buddies

It's due tomorrow. I had sore boobs from 6 dpo abs was sick a couple of times so ended up feeling like it could happen. I've always got positive tests at thus point when pregnant. Plus I've got every af symptom. I know I'm out because I don't feel pregnant. I 'knew' with dd and my lost baby. It's given me a push to sort my food and drink intake out though. I need to stop eating crap and start exercising again. I'm not bothered about losing weight because I'm not overweight but I need to be healthier. I'm going to cut the wine right down too. Try and pull myself out if this funk I've been in since I lost my baby.

Sorry to hear that Loki. I think I'll be the same. I'm pretty sure I've either just ovulated or about to but we haven't dtd since before my little tantrum the other day and I think it's just thrown us off a bit. Defo out this month.

Morning all.

I can add to everyone else's confusion and frustration. I am going out of my mind!!

I had faint positives on Thursday and Friday and then woke up this morning and had a heavy burst of blood, then tested and it was negative. Went back about 10 minutes later and it had a very faint line again.

Then of course, like a crazy woman, I decided to do two more tests, different brands, (I have a little stash, like I say, crazy) and they were all negative.

I just don't get it. Yesterday I had all the symptoms, extreme tiredness, bloating, wind, weeing all the time, but then today, I feel a bit more normal. Still very tired but I think that's because I have been crying since the crack of dawn at the stress of it all. I have stopped bleeding now but have tugging in my belly like I do when I have a period.

As you know, I have been spotting for over a week now, so it looks like my body tried to get pregnant and maybe was for a day, but then it didn't happen, and this is AF on its way.

It would have been a miracle as haven't had a cycle since my MC, but then again, why can't I have some luck?? Why can't any of us have a little bit of f*cking luck PLEASE!

I have had two MCs on the trot, after being told I never been able to conceive naturally (by a private clinic who wanted to charge me £14k for IVF mind you!).

It has been two of the most stressful and distressing years of my life. I am 36 in two months time and never would have dreamed this if how life would turn out. I don't mean to sound sorry for myself. I know we are all in similar boats, but collectively I am just venting frustration! Why the hell are our bodies so cruel?

Why get a positive and give me hope and then dash it away again?

Has anyone else ever had positives then negatives and then faint positives again??

Sorry to rant!

xx

So sorry Kate. I've no idea or advice. In the end, id sooner get BFN than have another mc. But you are right. ttc is torture.

Started spotting.

and to everyone having a rubbish time, ttc certainly has it's highs and lows. For me it's highs in a weird way just now - I'm taking an effervescent c and b vitamin supplement (b active from tesco) because I read C and B vitamins can help lengthen the luteal phase, and I'm also now drinking red clover tea every day for the same reason - the red clover is also meant to help thicken the uterine lining and lead to better implantation. What I'm finding is that I'm feeling in a hyper (probably a bit too hyper) mood all the time, and feel compelled to keep busy constantly. Definitely more motivated to exercise. My sleep's also knocked a bit, but I'm not feeling tired. Will wait and see if it has the desired effect on my luteal phase, think I might find it hard to keep this up for more than a month or two though as I miss my normally calmer moods. If anyone is feeling sad and fatigued and wants a pick me up with fertility benefits though, those supplements might be worth a try.

Hi Mirian sorry you are here.

Loki I temp. You need a good, accurate thermometer. You should take the temps at the same time every day. I use the earliest time I normally get up. At the weekends I still have the alarm going off then, I just wake up, shove the thermometer in my mouth and lie down again until it beeps. Then I enter the reading in the apps and go to sleep again. The thermometers store the temperatures though, so you could just pop it back and turn it on and get the reading and enter it later in the day too.

I use this thermometer.

www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B002VF8EXC?psc=1&redirect=true&ref_=oh_aui_detailpage_o04_s00

Sorry Paco. It is tough but you can start trying again at least.

That sounds like it could be a chemical pregnancy Kate. Although it could just be very early on. You can have bleeding and then go on to have a healthy pregnancy anyway. Fingers crossed this is the case for you.

I have finished the wedding cake and delivered it. Then been to work and fed my cells. DH got home last night and we managed to DTD to completion today. I am on CD8 so hopefully this month we are going to manage to keep this up.

Hello everyone. Just popping back briefly. I went totally ott last month with charting, temping, doing 3 opk a day, testing from 6dpo. I've decided to have a break this month. I'm only cd3 so that could all change but hopefully just dtd every other day will help. I get so upset by everything and then the disappointment when AF arrives again, I need to focus on something else.

Good luck to everyone this cycle

Aw hopeful Kate I'm so sorry to hear it has been a tough couple years. Like you my life isn't exactly what I had planned either. Just don't know where I am at the moment. I'm questioning everything. Big hugs.

Jo Malone- I hope I can just step back like you too. The only thing I'm doing is taking the pre natal supplements and keeping an eye on the calendar. Not temping or using OPKs. Although I was all grumpy when DH was busy to dtd and then got even more upset when he didn't come to bed after I highlighted it was the right time in my cycle. Still not done it since then and I'm on cd 18. As I said earlier most defo out this month. Maybe not a bad thing though. Another normal AF may give me some comfort.

I have thought the same Brenna - I imagine it probably is a chemical pregnancy, and in a way it would be good to have a normal cycle before TTC again, as it would help with my anxiety. Will stay off tests until Tuesday which will be 2 weeks from when I think I ovulated.

Thanks so much Cheeky - hugs to you back. It's hard isn't it?

Jo I can totally emphasise.We just need to be kind to ourselves xxx

After ttc for 22 months and 2 miscarriages I got a BFP on Thursday. Think I'm about 6 weeks already as I hadn't tested as we didn't plan much last month.

I have everything crossed for a sticky bean this time.

Does the anxiety go away the further along you get? Every time I go to the loo I am terrified expecting to be bleeding.

Congratulations and good luck, Snowy!

Congratulations snowy. I know how you must be feeling but someone said to me to enjoy it because even if it doesn't end well then the pain is still the same and if it does end well then you will regret not enjoying every minute. Either way it's not in anyone's control unfortunately. Remember that two pregnancies are never the same though! There is no reason to believe it will go badly. Good advice but really hard to implement ! Good luck xx

Thanks cheeky.

I had the tiniest fleck of blood in some discharge just now. Far too small to mean anything I'm sure but still really anxious.

I had some brown discharge a week ago that I assumed was a light period and so was surprised to find out I was pregnant. Bean seems to have made it through that so hoping this is a sticky one.

Congratulations and good luck Snowberry. I'm not surprised you're feeling nervous, it'd be hard not too. I hope all goes well though

I really want to not symptom spot because I know I'll drive myself mad but I am getting so many odd symptoms. If my app is right I'm 6dpo but I'm feeling really nauseas which only subsides when I eat and then comes back again, incredibly sore nipples, mild cramping, and occasionally this strange sharp shooting sensation that goes right up my foof! Oh and cloudy, stretch cm too. It's FAR too early for such symptoms, although my app has me ov'ing at cd 16 and going from when I had ewcm, I'd guess it was closer to cd 13/14. I normally have an average 29 day cycle but occasionally it's as short as 25 or as long as 35, most commonly between 27-30. So that would put me at 8-9dpo which still seems early but in my last pregnancy I was feeling really nauseas from 9dpo and got a faint bfn at 11dpo. Earliest I think I could test is Monday if I'm 9dpo, want to hold off until at least Wednesday. Oh it's all too overwhelming. I keep feeling really teary from the constant anxiety of it all!

Any good films or TV shows I could keep myself entertained with and distract my mind? I've run out of good things to watch.
Hope you're all having good weekends ladies.

Congratulations snowberry

So dh spends all afternoon at the football, leaves me to do all of the cleaning (usually we do it 50/50) which I am midway through when he gets home. I come down from cleaning the bathroom to find him playing on the x box . I unleash the full force of the PMT demon currently residing inside of me and he gets into a huffy strop. This strop consists of him huffily cleaning the downstairs toilet, putting a load of washing on and announcing he is ordering us a curry for tea. That'll teach me to tell him off for being lazy!

Hi everyone, threads gone mental in the few days I've not been on! Not quite caught up yet.

Hugs to everyone having a rough time.

Kate have my fingers crossed for you.

Still no af, still tracking my temps and they've dropped right down the last few days so I'm thinking maybe she's on her way now. Fertility friend says I'm 14dpo but I'm not sure on that one. Did an IC and negative obviously.
Still feel pretty crappy. Had horrendous back ache all week, booked myself in the Drs and they've given me antibiotics for a uti as there is blood in my urine now.
DH is doing my head in, he's not doing anything he's just annoying me for breathing at the min and I feel awful for feeling this way.
Work has been crap too, stressful to say the least. End of life care is awful. One of our ladies is 104 and if fooling us into thinking she's dying then running around the building (literally) like a woman possessed, she's the most mobile and able patient we have, still continent too! The only problem is, she thinks her mum is coming to pick her up at any moment and thinks we're holding her captive.
Oh the joys, love her but she's a handful.

Day off tomorrow, no relaxing for me. Laundry day, have to get school uniforms washed and ironed whilst entertaining my hypa active 6 year old and an almost 8 year old who thinks she's 15. Would love to stay in bed all day, I could sleep for a week right now!

Insufficiently that's exactly how I felt when I got my bfp! Sounds really positive. Hang in there. My early scan put me 6 days behind where I thought I was, meaning I must have got a BFP at 3 weeks (a week before period was due - not entirely sure when I ovulated) I think it is possible to have symptoms super early. All the best xx

Mrs I have only been ttc since September - I have no idea how you cope after 2 years. Have you had any investigations done?

Congratulations Snowy! So understandable you're nervous, but hopefully this will be it for you. Please keep us updated!

Mrs, I'm so sorry you're out for the month. Have you been referred to a specialist yet? I'm not as far down the road as you, we're only about to hit the 12 month mark soon, but I understand feeling like it's just not going to happen. I hate that it feels like some unattainable goal for us now

I'm about 4dpo, and very excitingly I finally finished my very stressful job on Friday! I still need to get a new DBS before I can start temping, so I'm going to have to have a few weeks of not doing anything. What a shame!

15dpo, spotting!! Is this af? Please be af!!
Weirdly though the cramps have chilled out!

Hope everyone is having a nice Sunday xx