Trying to Conceive....7

[ChaCha]

Well you never know, might get lucky!!
Good luck everyone....here we go!

wow, how weird! Yes, I can imagine where you are now! All those picadilly line journeys into Holborn with no escalators were not missed at all though I have to say!

By the time I come back, you will probably be expecting and on your way out (well, let's hope so for your sake!). Will this be your second if all goes well?

Yep, trying for #2. I did conceive last year (after a year of trying, though not very hard) but m/c at just under 12 weeks. Almost all of the women I knew who were pregnant at the same time as me have now had their second, mostly within the last month. As the baby I m/c was due a fortnight ago, it seems very unfair. DS is 2.9.

Oh, I am sorry. It is very unfair all this conception and miscarriage business. There is no justice to any of it. It must be awful to see people pregnant and having babies when you've lost one due at around the same time. I can't imagine what it must feel like. My thoughts are with you and May/June is such a busy time for births as well.

My second one is around the same age as yours (3 in November and we've just been told we have no place for him at any pre-school we've applied to AAARRGGHH). I'll be thinking of you and I'll keep my eye on this thread. I really hope you have some luck soon.

Just a quick question - I feel pretty rotten today, Ive come out in loads of spots and have no energy (hormones) its making me feel as if we have missed it again this month, surely my hormones would be acting differently. Anyway feeling and looking pasty and pale and thought I would treat myself to a few sunbeds (the whole of my family have gone to Spain today, without inviting me - another story) and I need a boost. Is this a dangerous thing to do, I don't think I am PG but if I am, is this something that could harm.

Also parents have left me in charge of my 93yr old great aunty whilst they are away, she was diagnosed with Shingles last week, I feel guilty about no wanting to see her, but can't let on why I don't want to be in contact with her. As I said I'm not sure if I am PG as only on CD17

gold, if you've had chicken pox then there should be no risk to you and possible unborn child. I believe the bigger risk is at the very end of pregnancy when your immunity may not get passed to unborn child before delivery (takes about a week) and therefore baby would be born with cpox. I am sure you would have nothing to worry about if you visited your aunty for a short time. Sorry you feel lousy though. I too am a bit spotty at the moment and very tired - hoping its ovulation! Not sure about the sunbeds, probably best to avoid until you know for sure, something to do with raising your body temperature. When did you ov this cycle?

I really don't know when I ovulated, I had no pain this month and I haven't been tempting. I had slight CM on Sun CD13, we BD on CD9, 11 & 14.

I am used to my hormones doing weird things throughout the month and know around this time spots appear and I get tired, next week I will probably feel sick ! so the fact that I am keeping to my usual pattern makes me think that nothing has happended, because if it had, wouldn't my hormones be doing something different?

I am really hacked off with feeling like this - when I went to see GP she told me the only way to level out my hormones is either get PG or go back on the pill. I want to be PG, but am wondering if this imbalance is causing me not too. I just want to hold a baby and place my finger in the middle of its hand and watch it fingers curl up. I can't believe how this is affecting my life at the moment, I seriously thought I didn't want another a while ago.

I need to put REM - sometimes, on the stereo and have a good cry or go and have a tantrum, screaming ITS NOT FAIR

Thanks everybody, I am so glad I have a place to go and air my thoughts

Hi, thanks for filling me in on the abbreviations.
Finished the pill last month and am CD22; thought I was ovulating last week at CD14, slight CM, but no - MEGA stretchy eggwhite yesterday, so it was a week later than I expected. So another fortnight rather than just a week before we can officially start ttc! Like most of the other outed lurkers, I haven't told most people I'm ttc, except in vague 'oh I'm sure we'll have another at some point' terms.

Good Morning everyone its 6.55am here in oz. pitty about the time difference one night i will have to stay up for a chat live. sorry to hear your story Azure it must suck especally around your friends with their new borns. Really hope something happens soon for you. do you get many people from oz on these threads? Shouldknowfriday - thinking of you hope your pg and iam sure DH will be over the moon. fingers crossed

Tania2..yes I believe there are some people from OZ on Mumsnet..don't know if any are TTC?

CD 19 and still no OV...nothing at all on OPK and my temps are just strange anyway! Trust my luck that this month I am due to have blood tests I won't ovulate and next month I am on holiday the week that blood tests would be taken!!

On the positive front had funky haircut yesterday to cheer me up and because it is my 30th on Monday (boo hiss!). Also booked reflexology session for next week as I need to relax more and I have heard it helps TTC in some people. Looking forward to it anyway.

Sorry chacha Ive only just caught up.

Sorry for my little outburst yesterday, must remember CD17, my hormones are obviously at a high and should go and lock myself in a cupboard for the day. I'm OK now

gold, we're all entitled to an outburst every now and then - we all feel the pain of ttc. Isn't it frustrating when gp's say get pg and your hormones will improve - what do they think we are trying to do!!

miranda2, yep I do the vague thing as well, but people are beginning to wonder as at the time of ds, I said I'd like another with a gap of about 2-3 years and now it wil be at least 4 years. I try to avoid the questioning with most people and change the subject. Just adds more pressure doesn't it?

futurity, happy birthday for Monday. I'll be 30 later this year too. Hope you ov over the weekend. Would give you something to remember your 30th by if you conceive!

Well my temps are flat and have been for over a week. Strangely FF has now decided that I have ov'd and now put me at 10DPO. Not sure I believe that as I've had a small amount of cm on a couple of different occasions and twingy pains too. Bit shocked if I did ov that early but at the time I thought I was and since then my temps have hardly risen so I assumed that I hadn't. I had a slight dip on 7DPO so who knows what will happen this month. I have been extremely tired this week and grumpy and stomach feels weird but I've been here before so not getting hopes up.

Let's hope we get a positive on here soon - it's gone quite again!

Gold, I know exactly what your saying! Sadly enough i was listening to an old 'tears for fears' track the other day..guess which one...tee hee
Hormones are everywhere, poor DH, i wouldn't put up with me if i was him!

Azure, i find full time work and TTC all a bit much at times. This month i was so tired and stressed about work it was all i could do to keep my eyes open and ...well.. show an interest really!

Shout! Shout! Let it all out! Tra la la la....

Right, I am really confused. Took preg test at 6pm but negative so not feeling good. Before going to bed at 1.30am, noticed a pink tinged discharge (sorry ladies)and thought "OMG, AF is about to start". Studied it under halogen light to make sure I wasn't seeing thingsand then felt lousy and went to bed sulking, but discreetly so DH wouldn't notice! Woke up in the middle of the night thinking "But usually AF is bright and very obvious, can my AF have changed character?" and then it dawned on me:

IS THIS THE STUFF YOU GET WHEN EGG IMPLANTS?

I was also cold during the evening and put on the fire and reading back on this thread one of the Mums mentions that a cold temp indicates implantation. I remember looking out for this pink tinged gunk when I was ttc last time (and succeeded) and I felt quite smug when seven days after ovulation, I got this little pink show which you can't imagine, it's either there or it isn't. SO!!

But that means my cycle is up the creek as it's day 32. I looked up my last pregnancy and I ovulated on day 21 so a longer cycle is possible.

Anyway, shall try to forget all about it. Thank you so much for the words of encouragement Tania2 and Azure. Hope you are successful too as I hope all of you are VERY SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOON!

ShouldKnowbyFriday, implantation typically happens 10 days after ovulation, so if you ovulated day 21 it could very well be that. AF would not be due (again, typically) unti 14 days after ovulation, i.e. day 35. Sounds promising - fingers crossed.

ShouldKnowByFriday, hope it's good news for you. What other MN name are you known by then or is it still a secret?

I feel really confused by my cycle and for the first time in many months, I don't actually know whereabouts in my cycle I am. My temps usually indicate ovulation quite significantly but this month as I've said before they're quite flat but they do change by .1 & .2 daily. FF has changed again to 9DPO which is more likely but I don't feel so sure of FF as I usually do. Arrrrgh!!

Damn, drat and fiddlesticks: AF arrived at 6pm on Saturday .I was away overnight and after putting kids to bed this evening, and getting away from DH, this is my first opportunity to confess my non-pregnant state. I saw a little bit and then nothing for six hours so then thought "Is this spotting?" and then later on there was no denying it. I really cried (in secret away from DH).
But the good news is: It's stupid to ttc using coitus interuptus as it doesn't always work. So! Plan B next month: holes in diaphragm . If any of you have done this and succeeded, how many holes, where and how big?
Yes, I do have another name on MN but as DH anti more children, am keeping a low profile IYSWIM!
Thank you so much for your support.
Okay, so forget a Feruary baby, am now taking zinc, folic acid and iron and hoping for a March baby.

CD 22 and at last result on the OPK! Combined with temp drop this must be OV at last...it was obviously waiting for my birthday before it appeared! Busy day today though so will have to wait for my birthday BD until tonight! Happy though as it means I can have blood test next week after all.

Happy Birthday futurity
shouldknowbyfriday

I see from some of the messages that OPK's seem to be the order of the day. Well, I've been having a problem with them and wondered if anyone would be able to help me out with some advice or encouragement.

I have a 30-33 day cycle and started testing this month (May) on cd15 until cd22 and then gave up because I had used so many and they are soooo expensive over here in sunny S.A.

Am I doing anything wrong? Is there any particular, specific way I should be testing to get a positive result. I know I do ovulate as we 'took' the first month of trying with my daughter (who is now 13 months old). So I'm not sure if I'm just being stupid and not testing properly. I know the tests are quite sensitive so you need to follow the instructions to the letter. I use the Ovu-sure brand, one of only 2 brands available in South Africa.

Thanks for any assistance.

Jinty

CD 232 .... and counting

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OPK's are much cheaper here .

ShouldKnowByFriday sorry it wasn't your month BeckiF - DO THE IVF!!! Jinty123, yes OPKs are ruinously expensive - I can't see what you're doing wrong, unfortunately it is a case of just carrying on. For some people ovulation doesn't even happen some months. Have you tried taking your temperature, using the Fertility Friend website as a guide? It may give you a better idea of your cycle and help you to "target" the use of the OPK better.

Good morning. Looking for advice again please! For all those who don't remember me, I've been ttc for 18 months, currently on 1500mgs Metformin a day (week 10). I think I may be getting some cycle back after 16 months with no af, I had af in March, and May. Now on CD13. Feeling very strange, keep having hot flushes, and bad af type cramps?? Any idea what this means?