We're Gonna Need A Bigger Sleigh!!! December Hopeful's say AYE!

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I filled up the last thread - sorry ladies... so thought I best start a new one since there is still a long ol' time to go in December!

Congrats to festivefettle and snowydiva.
As for me AF appeared today - 4 days early - a real disappointment and very strange as usually have regular 28 day cycle - how could that be?
Oh well guess I can enjoyed myself at Xmas party tonight
For all the rest of you waiting to hear - very good luck xxx

that should be 'can enjoy myself' by the way!

hello all

congratulations festive!!! what a gr8 xmas pressie - santa has come early!!

sorry for a/fs that have arrived.

been reading the posts -

mrsmcclaus - you have kids? i thought you were trying for your first. shows how much i pay attention have a memory like a fish!!

hope everyone else is ok, i attempted xmas shopping today for the food on my own as dp is ill (chest infection) and what a nightmare still didnt get half the things i need!!

xx

mrsmc - please dont feel down, your dh has gone through a tough time and i know sometimes they dont admit it but i bet he is feeling angry at himself at not being able to do the deed when he knows how much it is hurting you too.
i wrote off this last month of ttc and left it up to dp to decide when we bd'd to let him feel i wasnt pressurising him after our big discussion before (where we fell out)
i think me and you started ttc again together on the positive july thread! seems like ages ago but actually i am just going onto my 7th cycle now.
it will happen for you - i just keep thinking to myself in an attempt to stay positive this will be mine and dps last drunken xmas alone together as next year we WILL be holding our own bundle of joy!!!

Greedy - lol at you keeping patients waiting so you can mn

MrsMc - I nearly fell off my chair when I read you thought 7 st 6 was too fat to get pregnant . I read the other one, but can't really comment as I am heavier than you - by quite a bit - but taller too (that's my excuse!). I know I really need to lose some as well, but finding it hard to do. This is not really the right time of year to start dieting either, is it?

Snowyowlet - so sorry about af . Hope you have a lovely Christmas and I look forward (iykwim) to seeing you back here in January.

Mirry - for you too!

As for me, heavy boobs for the last couple of days, but now I have a cold sore, which definitely means af is on the way. Oh well, I'll be on the cooking sherry then

Good luck to those testing in the next few days

just realised i shouldnt even be on this thread!! oh well lol

Ladies!!! How are you all??? I've missed you all so much, couldn't stay away any longer It's taken me ages to catch up on everything, and haven't I missed out on a week of news

Greedy... How are you? I PMSL at your flush/no flush survey. I am a strict "wrap and bin" girl, but I use pads, so can you imagine how awful it is to flush those Thanks so much for thinking of me (hug) I'm getting there, I am trying not to think of sex as BDing from now on

Sparklytreeangel... How's it going?? The break did help actually, AF hit me a lot harder than I ever imagined it would!! Thanks for thinking of me, I missed you all too!

MrsMcClaus... What is this I see? You all down (hug) Your little face for me and saying you missed me was really sweet, thank you. Although at your comment about my "funny sense of humour" is that funny weird?? Heehee. I am mental! First of all you are to stop worrying about your weight being an issue for ttc, you sound like you are a curvy woman, and I was always told curves are a sign of fertility!! So long as you are comfortable in your own skin, that is the most important thing! Second(sorry if this sounds like a lecture, not intentional!!!) you and your DH need to talk about all this. He has just had an op and he is stuck on his own all day, all the while probably worrying about not being able to make you happy and give make a baby (men don't like to admit these things though do they!!) You are worrying about putting pressure on him and the stress you are both under is really not good for ttc!! Can I ask, is the "deadline" of moving to Spain on your mind a lot?? I hate to think of you feeling so down! (hug)

FestiveFettle... WOW!!!!!! I am sooooooo excited for you!! A little I must confess, but you know that is from a good place!! Thank you for saying you missed me, and I told the ClearBlueFairy that you apologised for testing, but she didn't mind since you got a BFP All the best for a wonderful pregnancy. Pop back in from time to time to let us know how you are getting on!!

FestivelyFrostyFloss... We aren't cycle buds anymore Hope you are ok?? Fingers crossed for you!

MerryKitKatMas... Thanks for asking after me. How are you? I think you are a cycle behind me?? (I'm on cycle4) Fingers crossed.

ImpatientElf... How is it all going?? Last I knew the EWCM was early, any other signs to show OV was early?? Fingers crossed.

Ticklemepinkwithtinsel... Sorry about your BFN but it's not over til it's over!! Fingers crossed that AF stays away for you!

KittiwakeSnowflakes... I'm all geared up for next week, in fact we've started already Fingers crossed for you!

Snowdiva... Congratulations!! All the best, keep us posted with everything.

Everyone else, I hope all is well. Fingers crossed for lots of wonderful BFPs for christmas.

x

Congrats to Diva and Festive
I feel really happy for all you girls with BNF's ... really I do... but am getting a tad selfishly panic stricken ....thinking its all happening for you all and you're dropping from this spread like flies and I wonder if I might at some point be the only one left panic, panic, panic Oh gawd I really hope this doesn't come accross as selfishness as I don't mean it that way at all
Well AF pains are still coming and going for me still and have been doing for the last 4 days so I should imagine AF is still going to arrive sometime mid next week. Onto cyle 8 or is it 9 nine now ....I'm loosing count

MrsMcClause - is you DH in any pains since his op or even taking any anaglesics? This could be to blame for his lack of Mojo. Is he up and walking around ok? (still convinced about the endometriosis - dear god I hope I don't have twins!!)

Cityangel - How are you holding up this month cycle buddy?

MrsMcClause - don't use Boots OTK they are hopeless and so are many of the other brands. Try First Response, they are more accurate and far easier to read

Has anyone used the mens home sperm testing kits? Are they any good or accurate at all?

Dont worry bojingles, i expect i'll still be here for a while!!!!

Babylove - Thanks for the words of comfort. Lets hope it happens soon for us all have you been trying long?

Hey bo, this is my 5th month. I expect in comparrisson to a lot of women thats nothing but i am surprised it's taking so long. I thought being young was supposed to be good!!!! lol

My way of thinking is that "so what if it is taking so long, it just means that when it does happen, it'll be the best thing ever and you'll cherish that child so much forever"

Not that anyone who does get pg quickly doesnt cherish their child! (just to point that out!)

Babylove . I know exactly what you mean, I came off the pill an April and really thought it would happen in the first 3 months. Then I got into the OTK, figured out my days and symptoms etc and still nothing. Its so frustrating but I've now come to accept this is the one thing in life where you cannot have control over it, no matter how much you want to. I've got an appointment in Jan to see what happens next - as I'm heading toward 35yrs very soon so I went to get going with treatments ASAP if there's a problem . How old is "young"?

In the first 3 months, i felt awful. I do everytime my af comes. Feel like a crap mum.....cant every get pg! I think every woman feels like it at some point. Last month, my af was 3 days late and i came on at work. Dealt with it pretty well (considering no one knows we're trying i couldnt tell anyone) but when i got home, i cried for hours, just seemed to ring true

This time im 14 days late but with neg tests so the waiting is getting to me!

Lol, young = 20......

I came off the mini pill in may, started trying July and its now Dec. You're so naive when you're trying to not get pg. Its like "oh, im taking the pill but we'll need another form of contraception just incase" then when you're trying to get pg, it doesnt happen! Sods law!

ah babylove i am 20 too and trying for our first.

following my m/c all i got from people was "oh your young you have plenty of time itl happen" but when somthing inside you is telling you you NEED a baby it just doesnt help.

when are you 21?

hi decorative,

omg, if i had a penny for everytime i've heard those words i'd be rich!!!!!! Ok so it may be true, time is on our side but it doesnt make it easy and without hurt!

Sorry to hear you've had a m/c. I've never been told i've had a m/c but my doc said that twice its likely i've had an early m/c, that really hurt so i cant imagine having one later in the pregnancy

im 21 in june. bf and i been together for 3 yrs, living 2getha for 2 1/2, now moved into flat 2getha and loving it discussed the whole marriage thing but altho i do wanna be married 1 day, i'd rather spend all the money on having children and enjoying life with them! When do you turn 21? Hey, u got msn? It would be great to be able to chat to a fellow young ttc'er

wow!! i turn 21 in june too on the 14th!!

unfortunately my 21st will be the 1 year anniversary of my m/c but i am determined not to dwell on it.
i havnt got msn as yet my bf has but i will get an account this week and let you know the address. likewise would be great to chat and compare notes.

i have been with my bf 5 years january he is quite a bit older than me and we have been living together for 4 1/2 years. all we want is to have a baby together and be a proper family.

im not too concerned about marriage if it happens it happens...

Hehe, im 2 weeks later on 28th!!! How cool?!

Awww both of us have crappy birthday reminders. A friend of mine died on my bday last yr and this year it was horrible, didnt celebrate and didnt want any presents.

How old is your bf? Ever get the feeling that being young means that a lot of ppl dont understand your motives for wanting to be a mum? Its hard sometimes because i wanna say "dont judge me, we're trying for the right reasons!"

Keep me posted on the msn

Ready - so glad you to see you back sounding positive again. I can quite understand the , but believe me you don't want to envy my long, irregular cycles!. I do so hope that this one sticks, I know Greedy is right and there is no point worrying about things I can't control, but it never crossed my mind in Jan this year when I finally conceived for the 2nd time after nearly a year of trying that I might lose it. So having that security blanket taken away, makes these next few weeks all the more scary. However, don't get me wrong, I'm so blissfully happy that I've finally managed to get another BFP.

The only thing I can say to you all and I know myself how hard this is, is try and not focus on it all too much. I've been worse than most of you for the last year, thinking/stressing so much that it overtakes your every waking thought. But every time I've conceived has been after deciding to stop trying so hard. This current cycle, I'd just given up and we only bd-ed once for enjoyment around the time I actually ovulated in the end. I think it also helped getting referred again by the GP

Anyway, we're off very early tomorrow, so just wanted to wish everyone (again) a very Merry Christmas. And I hope to see lots more BFPs when I get back.

lots of love, luck and babydust to you all

x

ohhh so im the oldest!!

sorry to hear about your friend and your early m/c life can be so s**t at times but i guess it only makes us stronger people in the end.

my bf is 41 and i know that sounds way old and people will more than likely judge because yeah a 20 yr old with a 41 yr old at such a young age does sound weird but he is so not like an older guy we are best friends! its only people with narrow minds that will judge.
a lot of my friends from school have all had children and personally i think they did it for all the wrong reasons and way too young.
i totally understand where you are coming from on the age thing.

just signed up for msn you can be my first contact lol

loudini at hotmail dot co dot uk

Hey Festive, have a great Christmas too and take care!

Decorative, i've added you! Hehe you are the oldest but 2 weeks is nothing! Well tbh, reading that your bf is 21, there is a big diff BUT, if you're happy, and are together for the right reasons, who is anyone to judge?!

Thank you, i still think about her lots, was a massive shock.

a friend of mine is 23 and had her baby a couple of months ago but she is married so its seen as "acceptable", someone i know was 20 when she had hers and everyone judged her so im worried i'll be in the same boat. Have you told friends/family you're trying?

Hey you, decorative, less of the 41 being way old, if you don't mind

it is a big age gap but i act way more maturer than him!! and we are more than happy so i couldnt give a damn what anyone else thinks...anyone who meets us changes there first opinions anyway.

my friend has just had her baby she is 2 months and soooo gorgeous!!!

i think it depends on the person to when they are "ready" and i am definately READY!!

nooooo i didnt mean it in that sense i meant it as in a 41 yr old bloke being with a 20 yr old girl lol some people find it odd

41 is never old he has got soooooo much energy.... im not complaining