We're Gonna Need A Bigger Sleigh!!! December Hopeful's say AYE!

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I filled up the last thread - sorry ladies... so thought I best start a new one since there is still a long ol' time to go in December!

Just thread-crashing to say a massive congratulation to DIVA (and to the other BFP ladies!)So pleased for you , and fingers crossed for everyone else .

Just nipped in to say congratulations to everyone with a bfp am hoping it will be me too by the end of the month!!

Congratulations to snowdivaflakes & festivefettle on your bfps. Hope you both have healthy & happy pgs x

Hi Juciy - just emailed you. x

Congratulations ladies on you BFP!!!!!!!!!!!

Well i couldn't hold out and did a test yesterday ( cd 30 of a 33) and it was BFN

I couldn't believe how devastated i am as i truly convinced myself that this was my month.
Feel like that it is never going to happening and the due date of my m/c is going to be here and i will still not be pregnant.

my and Dh have decided to give it a rest of actually trying once Af arrives, and in January im going to join a gym get fit lose weight, all that type of stuff as i have put it off as i kept thinking ' well ill be fat with baby soon " -
Feel that i am putting so much pressure on myself every month and just end up soooo disappointed!

Will stay on this thread until AF comes then ill be sad but i have to say goodbye xxxxx

snowdivaflakes & festivefettle - massive congratulations

We are doing quite well this month so far, aren't we? Hope it continues.

MrsMc - sorry dh is not doing his conjugal duty! Hope normal service is resumed soon

Ready - hope you are doing ok

Juicy - thanks

Tickle - so sorry about your bfn, it's not all over yet though. Hope you have a good break if you do go.

Thank you so much for all your congratulations.

Congratulations to you also Snowdivaflakes!!

So sorry about BFN, Ticklemepink. Are you sure it might not just have been too early to test? I do know what you mean, I was gutted when I wasn't pg at the due date of my mc back in September, but I've managed to conceive to within a year of last being pg, which is fantastic. I'm now obviously going through all the "what if" scenarios again, but I must try and stay positive. I do so hope you conceive soon.

Merrykitkatmass - what did I do differently? I drank grapefruit juice everyday from CD1-CD30somthingish, then just gave up, as I felt this cycle was never going to end. What wasn't new, was BD-ing everyother night from CD14 until CD30 somethingish, and then also just gave up. So I think we actually conceived on a non-TTC BD!

Hope everyone else is doing well
take care all

Many, many congratulations FestiveFettle!!! This will be a very long cycle for you then! So delighted for you chick! Tell us how it is done. What a lovely early Christmas pressie!! ? maybe Miss Santa will have to make an early appearance though doubt it?ll help . I offered to buy DH some material so he can see if he is still ?working? on his own but he won?t let me go to the garage we get our Sunday paper from! I don?t care!

And another well done and congratulations Snowdivaflakes!!! Wishing you a very sticky one! Tell us how it?s done!! I?m so chuffed for you, really I am!

Hello ladies, feeling really down. DH is having real problems with BDing, we have tried twice this week and have had to give up because he can go on for ages with no "result". I cried myself to sleep last night. I am cd13 and I know that I will Ov in the next few days and that if we don't get some BDing in soon, there will be no chance at all this cycle. We've only BD once and that was last Sat. I know I should probably just write this cycle off in my mind but I just can't, my way is to put everything I have into something and if it then doesn't work, I know I've done all I can. This is different because DH is different, he's just not like me. I feel bad putting him under pressure but I am also angry that he cannot put the effort in that I am. Is that really selfish? It is scary how strong the desire for a baby gets isn't it, I'm getting to the stage that it's hard to hide my anguish from my friends and I have had to tell a few of them why I am so "burdened". They don't help much, I keep getting the "relax and it will happen" chat, well, no it won't if we are not BDing .

Rant over, thanks for listening!

Snowyowlet ? fingers crossed for you!! Thanks for your empathy. Why can?t I be a heaemaphrodite?! (sp!)

FactsandFigures ? hang in there hon, no news is still good news even if the BFP is being shy!

Welcomewhoops! Good luck with the early Christmas pressie!

Hello XmassyCharlotte ? I know what you mean about the emotion of a BFP, each time someone gets one it reminds me that I might too one day.

Thanks Firststar ? hope you are well!

Kittiwakesnowflakes ? you might be right!

Ticklemepink ? it?s not over yet hon though I totally understand the instinct to expect the worse and want it over and done with. I need to lose weight too. I have always thought I was ok and just being figure conscious about wanting to lose some but Zita West?s book seems to suggest that even with a BMI of 26, that could be preventing me from conceiving, I was quite shocked by that. Hope your AF never arrives.

Thanks Yuletideways

Juicy ? hearing about how you are doing makes me so, so happy!

Have lovely weekends all ? DH is sleeping at the mo, went to sleep as soon as I came home from work .

thank you mrsClaus for your kind words. I Just feel that i put in so much effort and NOTHING!!

I am at the same weight now as i was when i fell pg with DS 5 years ago so that dont worry me but i have put on 1 stone since getting married and stopped going to the gym so i need to Tone up which i think will make me feel betteer if i look better, lots of mixed emontions today! xx

Oh MrsMC - big {{{{HUGS}}}} I can understand how truely frustrated you are. Do you think he is still suffering post-operation? Tell me shut up, but you really must try and keep talking through this, if you don't it could spiral out of control. DH and I became very close to falling apart during the 2 years we were TTC DD. That's when we decided to take a step back from TTC for a bit and go away on a relaxing, drunken holiday. It did wonders for our marriage. Also if your DH feels stressed that he can't "perform", it could become a never-ending circle perpetuating itself and that will actually become a problem. Please take care of yourself and your DH, you really need eachother.

On the BMI front, my cycles were more regular when I was within the healthy weight range, but I'm currently at the top end of overweight. However, I think actually being pg will be much easier if you are fit and healthy.

Take care - it's so sad to hear you down, when you are normally so positive.

x

MrsmcClaus-
I really feel for you. I spent a couple of nights crying last month because I felt my DP was ignoring me at my fertile time. It is very stressful thinking..."i've only got x amount of days to BD to get PG...or I'll have to wait another month..." Unfortunatley it is a very vicious circle. The more we want to BD the less our DP/Hs want to! For some guys the relentless BDing can really turn them off. It's a pyschological rather than a physical problem.
This month however, I have tryed to be more impromptu about the whole BDing, rather than the awful bang bang banging... when is he going to blooming come... kind of BDing. That is soul destroying and very damaging to a relationship. Try to remember, you dont want any baby, you want your DH's baby.
Big Hugs,

Hello again
Well unless this weeks bding has worked I don't think I will get another chance for a while as dh had some bad news at work that his pay review which should have been last week will now not be til April so he wants to wait and see what happens

Hey whoops, sorry to hear about the news. My boyfriend and i arent on particularly well paid jobs so we've had to think long and hard about ttc too. Its not easy

Big congratulations to festivefettle and snowdiva!! I haven't checked in here for a week or so...and look what I missed! Excellent news !

MrsMc - I'm just dropping in to say that I recognise so much of what you have been saying and so sorry that you are feeling down - I was exactly the same last cycle and we ended up having horrid simmering rows with DH saying he couldn't "perform" under pressure, all really unhealthy now I look back. Like you i felt that I was doing absolutely everything I could but getting zilch effort from DH. Easy to say but try to clear the air then relax and just remember why you love him. Hope that you feel better about everything over the weekend

Hi All,

Just popping on to say Happy Christmas to all. I'm away on holiday this weekend and probably won't have any opportunity to catch up with you all until after the big day.

Will be keeping my fingers crossed for you all.

Congratulations to the recent BFPs

Not sure how this cycle is going to go. Been really stressed with work and suffering serious confusion about all sorts of things otherwise. I am due to ov during second half of holiday, so hope that the recent stress hasn't delayed that.

Sorry about those of you having ttc problems. No matter our good intentions, we can't help but get obsessed by this, can we?

Anyway, Happy Christmas - hope you all get what you want.

xxx

Congrats to FestiveFettle

MrsMc - sorry you're feeling so down about the whole BDing thing. We're a few cycles back from you, but I can already sense how very very difficult this is for DP... this pressure to perform exactly when asked to. It's funny, isn't it, how having a baby is something you both want very much, yet we're not the ones that feel 'under pressure' to perform (I don't know about you, but at the right time in the cycle I'm happy to get on with it whenever I need to). Men are different though, and I think performance pressure is something that has hounded many of them since they first started having sexual experiences. When I first met DP I found that he had secretly been taking Viagra occasionally, without telling me, because he was worried about his ability to perform (sorry, TMI).

So much of their ability to perform, and impress us, is tied up with their egos, and I really do feel for your DH. I feel for you too, of course!! I can only imagine your frustration, having been tinkering, plotting and charting for the past 6 months, feeling as though you're doing more and more and more to help the situation, and get you both where you want to be. I have tried to put myself in their position... and think how I would feel if dp was able to take pills and potions, lick a microscope, wee on a stick, plot his body temperature - and then say to me one afternoon "RIGHT - YOU! GET SEXUALLY AROUSED..... NOW!!!". Because of course WE don't really to get aroused in order to BD - whereas THEY do.

I wish I had more answers for you, but I think others have already given great advice (although it's easier to say than to do, I'm sure) - really try to focus on your relationship with DH... after all, you two and the love you have for each other is what has brought you to the brink of wanting to become parents.

Hi All
Just dropping in to see how you all are?

MrsMc so sorry you feel bad, but remember it only takes the once, easily forgotten when TTC, also what about trying mornings, or afternoons for that matter. My dh is much more of a morning than night man, and i'm the opposite most of the time.

also think i was having trouble ttc coz i was ov later than i thought, cycle changed on me.

OMG!!!!!!!!!!! i am away for a day and you go and get your BFP festivefettle!!!!!!! i am SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO truly happy for you. well done! what a fantastic xmas present for you, i bet you just cant stop smiling! who am i going to moan about long cycles to now hey?! dont leave us will you? keep coming in to check on us! well done again! i hope you have the happiest, healthiest pregnancy ever!

congrats to you to snowdivaflakes! another wonderful xmas present!
hello everyone else, sorry couldnt read the whole thread i have got a patient waitnig for me in my waiting room! they think i am working hard when i ask them to wait in there! if only they knew!

Greedy of course I'll keep popping in to see you all - I'm a bit scared to move on at the moment to be honest. Now I've got a BFP, I'm not really feeling pg anymore, so I'm terrified I'm going to lose this one, as I did the last one. I must keep thinking positive

We are off tomorrow for 10 days for Christmas and then we have my brother's wedding over New Year, so a hectic next couple of weeks to keep my mind off things. I do so hope your next long cycle, is an extra long (9 month) cycle!!.

Take care everyone on this thread, thank you again for all your wonderful support.

Happy Christmas

xxx

thanks festive! i know it sounds daft cos i dont know you, but im going to miss you!
try and stay positive about this pregnancy, i have no experience of miscarriage so have no idea what its like, but i do know there is no point worrying about something that is completely out of your control. so just try and enjoy your pregnancy as much as possible.
xxxx

Ticklemepink - hope you are feeling better today I know what you mean about the effort!! I'm not far off the weight I was when I got pregnant before either (I'm 5ft6 and weigh 7st6 - show of hands ladies, do you think my weight is affecting my ability to conceive?)

Got to go and get ready for viewers! Back later to talk to you all!

11 stone 6

Hi folks, well, no need to test cos AF arrived today . Wishing you ladies who are all waiting all the very best and a fab Christmas to all will pop into MN in the new year. Thanks for all your support and catch up in 2007.

sorry to hear that snowy. will you be the first to start a 'positive january thread'? someone has to!

MrsMcBigBoobs! i was staring at that for ages, thinking '7st 6lbs! and she said she was dieting !' i was all ready with a very harsh reply and then i saw your next post! as if that is affecting your chances of concieving! for someone so smart you are very daft sometimes! you are hardly obese at a size 12/14 are you??? GET A GRIP GIRL!!!!! also, 6 cycles is the average amount of time it takes to concieve isn't it? just remember that!
oh dear! i do despair of you all sometimes!