April 2014 ttc thread - come on baby cupcake!

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Shiny new thread and this time I got the title right!

We're all waiting for baby cupcake to come along

It's all so scary! But it's exciting at the same time. I'm utterly miserable with him and I know I can be happy again. The thought of ds growing up seeing this as what a relationship is makes me feel sick.

I think he knows that something is about to happen, he keeps dropping wierd stuff out like earlier he said to ds 'me and your mommy will be together forever' and I think it's his way of trying to remind me that he thinks he is in control of me and he has some grasp over what I do.

I'm just so worried about what his contact with ds will be, ds screams if I go out the room and leave him with h

Exactly, one day ull find someone who treats u like a queen :) I can't wait for the day! lol but ull realise then how crap ur relationship with h rele was.

I hate contact. cuz I know ExH won't keep a close eye on DS2. He's okayish with DS but I have to keep telling him not to feed him chips all the time!
DS1 has only just started doing to his house and he only goes twice a week for about 4 hours. On a Monday and then Thursday's after nursery. But sometime he comes back an hour early on a Thursday for no reason whatsoever!
He only sees DS2 when he drops DS1 off for half hour.
When we first split up he came to my house and saw DS1 cuz I felt better doing that.

I suppose we will see what happens.

I would love it so much if he just agrees we need to split and we can stay friends/have contact for ds sake, but I just know that will not happen. Why do they have to be so childish about all these things!

Did your h threaten you with the custody thing? Saying he will try to get custody? That scares me.

I'm just waiting to hear back about this house, then once I know what will be going on with it I will sort it. Hopefully I will find out about the house this weekend.

Oh yeah he threatened with custody all the time. I'm still waiting for him to apply to the courts for it they never do it ducky. It's just to try and gain that control that they are so quickly loosing.

That's good ducky :) hope u hear about the house soon.

I had a long day yesterday and DS1 and DS2 slept bad :( ds2 has a cold so he kept waking up not able to breath properly.
I'm so tired right now.

I've not heard anything back from Lulu ducky :(

I'm worried about her it's been a long time for her to go quiet. Really hope she's ok.

Still waiting to hear about it. It would be so good if I could sort it so I could go straight there.

I think my plan is to try and force him to be sensible about him. I will tell him that we have a child together so we need to get along for his sake. Fingers crossed it will work.

I know :( she would always pop in and quickly update even when she's been quiet. Hope she's alright.

Yes that'd be good if u could go straight there. I think saying that should work u saying u should get along for DS's sake. Cuz if he cares about DS he'll want to get along for his sake.

I really want to go back to bed but have so much washing to do haha

Well I'm really hoping it goes smoothly but knowing him he won't let it.

I've got sooo much housework to do but ds won't let me and won't nap! I managed to get the shopping in from the car but now it's just sat in the hall.

Fingers crossed for u it does go smoothly :)

I've only just finished the housework :( the kids have been on and off all day! Praying for a good night but I doubt that will happen!

Can't believe none of the gang are here still :( I keep wondering how everyone is getting on

I know it's gone so quiet! I don't know what's happened.

Your a Wonder Woman cupcake, I have one and don't get anything done! How you get stuff done with 2 I will never know

Fingers crossed we both have good nights

And any idea about this....

Ds now gets hysterical if left alone with h, like he screams the house down and as soon as I come in he puts his arms up to me and calms down.

I would have thought separation anxiety but he's usually ok with people

Haha I wouldn't say wonder women

I have like no time to sit down until bedtime 😂

DS had finally fallen asleep!! DS2 is having his last bottle now. I need a good night!!

Hmm it sounds like separation anxiety or maybe it's cuz he's not rele bonded with ur h or senses ur uneasy when around him so he is too. I'm not sure

Hope you managed a good night! Ours wasn't too bad. Ds was in bed with me in the morning and he bit my bingo wing it bloody hurt! He's dangerous with these teeth!

I'm in total shock! Both kids woke up at 6:30am! DS1 stayed in his bed and slept all the way through. That is the first time in about 10 weeks maybe more he's done that! Deffo won't happen again

Hahaa oh dear! I hope he's not left a bite mark !

That is wicked cupcake!!!! Did you do anything differently in the day?

I haven't checked for bite marks but he's doing this thing at the mo of biting people then laughing

Nothing different at all
I cleaned all day and did washing haha.
Tho tonight's already not as good. I'm still trying to get him to sleep.
Thinking about it tho... He ate really well ... He ate all his lunch and almost all his dinner. Could that be it? plus it was good food full of veg which normally he won't eat much of the veg.

Oh dear ducky children all have that biting stage!
Talking about teeth ... DS2 is teething and I can feel a tooth! He's only 3 months old DS1 was 1 before he got his 1st tooth!

Could be to do with the food then cupcake, although ds ate loads yesterday and it didn't affect his sleep he ate all of his own dinner and half of mine! Then had two lots of desserts!

Wow ds2 will be an early teether! Hope he doesn't have too much trouble with it. Ds got his first tooth on the week of his 1st birthday, he got 4 within a week. Now they seem to have stopped again.

Got some pretty exciting/scary news. Everything with the house should be ok, I have to speak to the person in the week to check everything:

I'm feeling slightly more confident about telling h now too. I'm just going to stress how important it is to get along for ds sake and will say he can see ds whenever he wants.

A very early tether! He keeps crying when having his bottle but put teething gel on and seems okay now :)

Oo that's good ducky!!
And good :) confidence is good!
Have u spoken to ur friend about it again?

No I'm meeting up with her next week probably. Hopefully will know the plan for definite then. I just really hope the whole thing goes ok.

I'm really amazed, since getting with h I lost most my friends. I have a few but I don't see them often & can't go out because of ds. I have finally let a couple of people I am closest to know what's gone on and everyone has been so helpful and supportive.

Have you tried the anbesol (or what ever it's called!) it's meant to work really well for teething

Aw that's good ducky :) glad u have friends supporting u! :)

Not heard of anbesol? Where can I get that?

Had an awful awful night with DS1 last night. He woke at 3am and screamed to go downstairs and cried and everything! Thankfully DS2 stayed asleep!
And amazingly DS2 slept from 9:45pm till 8am!
I just wish DS1 would sleep like that :( he's been such a difficult child today as well and I've been feeling pretty crap myself too.
I have my docs appt next week to discuss my pnd questionnaire.

I'm just fed up of feeling like this

Oh no cupcake that sounds really rough I wonder why he did that.

It's a liquid that you rub on their gums, people call it 'liquid gold' I got some from asda but you have to ask at the pharmacy.

I hope they sort you out at the appointment and don't make you wait again, they seem to have really dragged it out.

Had a bit of bad news. Spoke to the house people today, they didn't know I have a mortgage so it's a bit more complicated than they thought. They're going to get back to me about it but there should be a way around it.

I've no idea ducky but he did it again last night! But he woke up at 11pm this time!
And again DS2 slept well he's only just woken up!
Making me late taking DS1 to nursery tho

Yes I hope they sort me out at the appt too Ducky. I don't like looking miserable when the kids are about as DS1 will always ask 'what's wrong mummy' I love them so much and just want them to have a happy mum lol how cheesy!

Oh no what does that mean? U can still get the house right? Really hope they get round it quick for u

Oh btw I'm going to go pharmacy and that that teething stuff

Our ds's are in sync then as I don't think I got more than half an hour a time last night, he was just screaming. Tried nurofen, drinks, food, holding him, nothing worked. He's ok if I hold him but the second he goes down he wakes straight back up. We have our sleep clinic 16th so if they give me a magical answer I shall share it with you I doubt it will help though.

And wow at ds2! He's doing great! Does exh have them much to give you a break?

There should be a way around the house, it just means telling a few fibs I think like I will have to tell them I have already moved out, but I will wait and see what they say. Fingers crossed.

Yes please share what the sleep clinic says!! he had an awful night last last! Woke up nearly every hour :(
But again DS2 slept through.
Don't know what to do anymore :( I'm so tired n he just won't sleep!

N no exH only has DS1 4 hours 2 times a week. He only sees DS2 for half hour when he drops DS1 home. Says he doesn't feel confident enough to have DS2 yet cuz he's small ...

Well fingers crossed u still get the house ducky

It's shit isn't it cupcake, I have friends posting pictures on Fb of their babies falling asleep all over the place and mine I have to pin down and he still won't sleep!

That's shit of h to say he doesn't feel Confident

I know I was starting to feel bad for h cus he seemed like he'd been trying recently. I still couldn't stay with him as too much has gone on. But then this morning he reminded me that he is infant still a dick.