April 2014 ttc thread - come on baby cupcake!

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Shiny new thread and this time I got the title right!

We're all waiting for baby cupcake to come along

How was it in there lulu? I just had to take gdad to the shops and it was horrendous, he can't see and it was completely rammed, he was walking into people/trolleys etc and everyone was really arsey.

I forgot to tell you, that meal with h family I have been dreading, they have now said they 'won't cater for ds dairy allergy so he will have to bring a packed lunch' which has caused lots of arguments etc.

Why you would invite someone to dinner and then say you won't cater for them is beyond me. I think I will take ds and me a packed lunch as I know that would really piss them off

It wasn't bad actually Ducky, no probs parking, loads of trolleys, queue just 2 people infront of us at tills. It was getting busier as we left.

Why on earth are you going to DH's family? He should be saying none of you are going.

I don't know why I bother- 10 minutes upstairs and DH brings DS up to our room so they can 'keep me company'. Him, DS, the bloody wand and the drum. I gave up. We are in the sitting room and DS is watching ' Raiders of the Lost Ark' Entranced and unfazed by it!

Yeah he asked her to message me!
N no he wasn't happy, he said they are his kids too so can do what he wants.
I said I'll have to limit visit to my house only because it's not fair to them to be shown a stranger n then next thing she's gone n uve moved onto the next one. He reluctantly agreed in the end but I think cuz he started to understand where I was coming from.

I'm struggling a lot atm with the pnd. I think I've also got stress as well. I have an apt on Wednesday with the GP so going to speak about it. Only so much crying I can do lol

There are anti depressants you can take when you are breastfeeding Cupcake. Don't be scared of taking them if the GP suggests them. I have taken them a few times and they do help.

Your H has not got a clue. Did he really think that was helpful or was he trying to get to you do you think?

Sorry you feel so crap at this time of year. It is a bad time when you are feeling down.

Ergh he's a tosser cupcake, how is it not in your face obvious that he shouldn't introduce random girls to his children I hope your appointment helps, is it with a gp or a therapist or something else?

Lulu I have no idea why we're going, tbh I think h is scared of his family. He keeps saying if they say anything to me this year he will kick off and we will both leave, I don't see that happening but we shall see.

But they have already started Ducky. What will you need to take for DS? Is it food they would not have or something? What do they mean they are not catering for him? He can eat veg can't he and Turkey? I am assuming DS will have veg and Turkey and a bit of ice cream or custard. Not sure about giving him sprouts or stuffing. He won't eat much at tea, just a little sandwich and a yoghurt probably. Your DS couldn't have the ice cream or custard but could he have the rest or is it more complicated? I just have the veg myself with veggie gravy.

DH reckons he fancies his chances tonight- I can tell. He has tidied up downstairs, made me a drink, is putting DS to bed after bathing him and been kissing me in the kitchen I think I might just play along by hinting things 'Ooh a cup of tea would be nice. I'll make one in a minute DH- d'you want one?' He will be at the kettle like a shot. He has no idea how obvious he is. I might mention the bed needs changing. I bet he goes up and changes it.

They aren't having turkey, veg etc. They're doing some fancy casserole or something that has milk in. I told h to ask if it will be df and she messaged back saying 'no, we won't be doing any dairy free food, I suggest you bring ds a packed lunch' I shall just take him some from the Christmas meal, just veg and meat and some df custard.

Oh lulu, tell dh my house needs cleaning! I want a h like that

Yes but he does it in hope of sex Ducky He is emptying the dishwasher at the moment.

Your MIL is a real piece of work isn't she!

His plan was foiled. SIL and BIL called round and he had 3 drinks and has done his usual falling asleep. And the gardener is comng round early in the morning to finish pruning our tree so no chance then.

Haha ahh poor dh, 5 stars for effort though!

Well I am up, showered and dressed and DS has had his breakfast, a wash and is dressed.It is pouring and blowing a gale. The gardener has just rang to say it is not safe for pruning the tree so he won't be coming.

DS is quiet- still has his bottle- but he'll switch on soon. I think I will take him to soft play at 10. Then there is a children's book thing at the big bookshop in town where SIL works. I don't know if I can face town and the crowds.

DH is still asleep.

What a miserable day it is.

Oh ducky that's so unfair on ur DS :( she should cater for his needs! I'd refuse to eat her dinner and bring u and DS ur own food!

Lulu sounds like a day to sit by the fire with a warm drink!

The exH has done something awful to me.
I didn't know any of this until last night where his co-worker messaged me saying i shouldnt be upset or angry that exH has moved on as he deserved to after what I did to him.(he's obviously been gossiping at work)
So I asked her what exactly did I do to him?
ExH has been feeding them a bag of lies! He told them the reason we broke up was because he came home and found me in bed with another man and also told them that DS2 isn't his!!!!!
I've never ever ever cheated on him!! Where he gets these lies from is beyond me!
And to even say DS2 isn't his!!! how dare he say that about his newborn son!!
I was so angry I called him up and just shouted at him telling him what a horrible personae rele is!
This was all on a post on Facebook. I don't normally use Facebook but I went onto this group I'm in to ask for some advice on how to deal with ex partners having new girlfriends and the kids seeing her etc.
His co worker had commented all this on the post and then went on to say that my exH isn't horrible and that I'm the slag and I act all sweet and innocent and people need to know what a disgusting person I am.

It was awful :( it's all people I know and live near. And I just don't get how he could make up these lies and then have someone spread them across the Internet and shame me :( when none of it is remotely true!
I don't know what to do about it all?

Why are men such horrible creatures? :(
I'm having such an awful time right now it's becoming funny!!

I can see what this is about- it is mch easier for him to tell people that story than it is to tell them the truth 'I treated her like shit and she kicked me out and said she would rather be by herself pregnant and with a baby than be with me'. Much, much easier to be the one people feel sorry for than the ne people would think was weak and awful.

Thank your lucky stars- you have really dodged a bullet with this one. You are so well rid. He is pathetic and so weak.

No one who knows you will believe any of it.

Don't be nice to him again. Never look back and think 'If only' just look forward and think 'Thank goodness'.

I am off to soft play. DH is taking DS up to town with him later so I have a whole afternoon to myself.

Wow cupcake. Just wow. That is as low as he could go. I am really in shock at how much of a dick someone can be.

Wow.

He's done that as lulu said because it's easier for him to say that than to admit the truth. He probably wants sympathy as well so he's playing the victim to give his ego a boost.

But denying paternity of his own son..... After what you went through.... I really don't know what to say.

Have you spoke to him since?

I had a blitz this afternoon- took a car full of stuff to a charity shop, stuff to the tip, got two new tyres for the front of the car and changed the bedding.
Then had 90 mins snooze on the sofa to myself before DH and DS got back.

DS is exhausted. They went out to tea with SIL after the book thing. He is having his milk and will be in bed in the next 15 minutes. I got some tapas and Peroni and DH and I are going to have a nice quiet night together, listen to some music and play Trivial Pursuit.

Tomorrow I have some last mnute bits to get- and the gardener said he will try to come if the weather is ok.

PIL and grandma are coming up tomorrow to stay with SIL. We said we would call in after lunch for an hour so they can see DS.I am going to put him in an outfit MIL bought which I don't like but at least she will have seen him in it. It is a little waistcoat, shirt and tie thing. Just not my taste but she was nice enough to think of him.

Yes I reckon ur both right. Just shocked me he could say such things.
I did speak to him and said that he needs to set everyone straight and tell them I never did that.

I'm exhausted. I didn't sleep last night. Which is a shame as DS2 slept 11:30 till 7am!

Oo I like peroni Lulu! Could do with some now :)

Lulu it sounds like you have had a productive day! I'm sitting with some wine watching love actually will pil and grandma stay until after Christmas now?

Cupcake what was his response? I'm really disgusted he could do that. Poor ds2 hope you manage to get some sleep tonight. I'm so glad you got rid of him

Ds has been up since 3 am, so we went and did the food shopping at 5 am, it wasn't too busy and I'm glad it's out the way!

Well done Ducky- might as well get something out of having to be up at that time.

I am sitting in bed with my breakfast. DH made me toast and marmalade and tea. He has DS downstairs. Apart from the fact I can hear that bloody wand and DS shrieking and giggling at it, DH is definitely in my good books.

Cupcake, I hope your Dr's appt goes well today and you start to feel a bit better.

We are off into the village once I am up and ready- the garden is too wet for the gardener but it isn't raining today and there is a tiny bit of sunshine.

Ducky he said he's at work today so he will explain to them. I said he better cuz I'll be down there telling them myself anyway!
Oh wow I bet the supermarket was blissful! I hate going when it's busy! I've started to go on a Monday morning and it's great! I get a car parking space straight away

Aw Lulu what a lovely morning! U do have a good DH :)
And my dr's apt went okay.
I've had to make a separate apt for after Xmas as the doctor wants to prescribe me some medication. I've also been referred to counselling, so that I've got someone to talk to.
I did burst into tears when I sat down and she asked me how I was feeling

DS2 has fluid on his testicle! She's having to refer him to the paediatrition at the children's hospital to have it looked at after Xmas. Poor thing :(

Lulu can we have a picture of this wand? It sounds ace! I really want one . Sounds like you have had a lovely morning

Cupcake he best bloody explain, I wonder what he will say 'sorry everyone, I lied, in actual fact I treated my dw like utter shite. That is the reason we split up, I also lied when I said ds2 wasn't mine' I'm glad your appt went well, do you feel better for going? The shopping wasn't actually that great, the one end was empty, then I got to the food bit and it was rammed I kid you not, there were people actually running round with trolleys piled high. I got to the tills and the ques were huge. I think it's because I had ds with me a lady came up and said she was opening up a new till so I could go to hers.

Here it is
Cupcake, DS had very large testicles when he was born. DH thought it was something to do with him Dr said it was hormones from me and they would go down. They did.

Have I told you the story about DH and his testicle that got bitten by an insect?

PIl are at SILs. DS has been the centre of attention and only had one crying episode when DH went to the loo and I was in the kitchen. nO idea why- he never does it usually.

The wand has been put away, as has the kazoo.

Cupcake, I know I am lucky with DH. He is a good, kind person and he loves me and DS.
But remember I am 36 and I went out with some absolute bastards before I met him- men who were liars, or cheats or just weak characters, mean, emotionally abusive, damaged. I don't know how I picked them. They were always slightly 'bad boy' but had a nice, funny front. But I knew with each of them there was an edge and it was part of the attraction. I had vowed I would never do it again and had 6 months to myself so I had got the last one out of my system and I was really looking after myself before I met DH. I had built up my self esteem a lot. When we met it just all fell into place. It felt really really different. I was different as well. I remember he was once an hour late for a date and he texted me to say he was going to be another half an hour. I texted him back and told him to forget it. He was but I just was not putting up with being let down. He never did it again. You will meet someone you deserve too. I was almost 10 years older than you when I met him.

I am glad your appointment went well. You will feel better once you get some medication.

Lulu that wand looks ace! And it plays music too

Please tell us the testicle insect story

Cupcake, I forgot to say last time, my friends ds had fluid on the testicle when he was born, it went away on its own afaik, I see her regularly and she's never mentioned he had to have anything done about it