April 2014 ttc thread - come on baby cupcake!

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Shiny new thread and this time I got the title right!

We're all waiting for baby cupcake to come along

Hi all, sorry I have been so absent for so long, I have a proper sleep thief here and time has completely got away from me. I hope you're all doing well!

Ollie is 7 months on Sunday, eating like a champ, and has just started to sleep in his own cot at night so just started to feel a bit more human. Hope you all have a good Christmas xxx

Pic of Ollie all ready for Christmas.

Hi tori! Omg 7 months that's gone so quick!!! That outfit is so cute! Ds had that last Christmas, it was a favourite, let me see if I can find a pic

You can't see it but that was ds in the same outfit

Ducky, DS1 hated Santa haha he cried and ran away from him.
So i had to get his present off Santa for him :)

Oh no I hope ur DS is okay after his jabs!!
I couldn't get DS2 in till 7th Jan for his 1st ones!!!! He'll be bloody 11 weeks old by then! I was so angry.

I hope DS went to sleep for u Lulu and tired himself out

DS1 is cluster feeding again tonight and is taking forever to go to sleep. I'm so tired now
Also, he's 8 weeks on Sunday and I've still not had AF is that normal?

Oh no I didn't realise there was another page!!

Hi Tori! Aw bless him he's so cute! :) hope ur all well! Nice to hear from u :)

Aw ducky look how adorable it DS looks there!

Meant to say ur DS**

I didn't stop bleeding for about 10 weeks after ds cupcake and af was a few weeks after that, I know I got to 12/13 weeks and asked on here if it was normal

Ds slept bad again last night, he's been up since 4,30ish and is now exhausted and refusing to sleep

Oh good at least it's normal. Thanks ducky :)
Oh no about DS sleep :( I'm sure our DS's are in sync because ds1 woke at 2:30 last night n wouldn't go back to sleep. He ended up in my bed again just so I could sleep. Annoying thing is DS2 slept 11am till 5:30am!

they were right when they say ur 2nd is always calmer

11pm!! Haha!
Would have been some super sleep if it was from 11am

What is everyone doing today?

DS and I are going to Durham with SIL.
DH is coming with us but wants to go off shoppng by himself because he hasn't done much shopping yet. We'll meet up for tea somewhere. BIL is visiting his mum who lives near Durham.

Well sounds like you have one good sleeper cupcake!

We've not got much planned today, have to go to the shops in a bit but I know they will be mental.

Ds is going through one of his phases where he's obsessed with h, it annoys me. H does nothing but when he gets like this with him h thinks he's father of the year, which he is most definitely not.

Cupcake...I had my first af at 10 weeks, but not had one since and Ollie is 30 weeks now.Until the last couple of weeks though, Ollie has fed a gazillion times a day.

We went to Ollie's sing and sign Christmas party today, he did not like Santa one bit! Then swimming this afternoon. I'm glad to be home now and snuggled up with Ollie x

It is chucking it down here again. Northumberland never has hosepipe bans! We sell water to other bits of England 'cos we can't use it all.

Lovely afternoon in Durham apart from waiting for DH for an hour in a tea shop. SIL was chatting to BIL on the phone so I went on mnet! DS was asleep in his buggy. DH arrived with lots of bags very pleased with himself.

He has bought DS a flashing pink glittery fairy wand with a flashing star on the top and given it to him. It plays music. DS is running round with it - delighted

I know what you mean Ducky. Ds's little face lights up when he sees DH. He shouts and holds his arms up and runs to him. It is lovely to see but he gets all the nice bits and very few of the crap bits of parenting. Not that I begrudge him, he works really hard and he is a good dad. probably just feeling a bit tetchy having been hit on the leg again by the wild toddler with his flashing fairy wand which is playing Frosty the Snowman for the 10th time

That wand sounds like something my ds would LOVE!

Do you have any ideas what dh has got you for Christmas?

I think all our eyes light up at your dh tbh because he sounds lovely

He is lovely but he would drive you mad Ducky, just like yours does maybe not quite as much He has been in the bath with DS. I went up to have a bath and the floor is wet and all the towels are soaking- they have had to go in the washer on a spin and then a dry. Just left! Asked him to change the cat litter, hasn't done it. I have done it. But he has poured me a large gin and tonic and taken stuff out to the bins and we are cuddled up on the big sofa together. So he has his good points.

No idea what he has been buying. We don't buy anything big at Christmas for each other- treaty small things.

He just got the wand in the covered in market- he said it was cheap.

Well I had a shit day yesterday. Excuse my french!

ExH is seeing someone. And he made her message me because I said it upset me that he was seeing her because of course I loved him so much at one point n that it feels too quick to move on. She messaged me saying 'I'm sorry if I've caused u to be upset because I've been seeing 'exH' we got talking at work and found things in common'
Yeah I rele don't care so please eff off and don't message me!!!!
Why did he feel the need to make her message me??? Just makes me feel even more crap like he's rubbing it in my face!!

Sorry, rant over :( just had a bad day.

Oh Cupcake, men are crap at things like this. Most of them are just not as emotionally intelligent as women. They don't think about it. It was a stupid thing for him to do but in his mind he probably thought it might make things easier if you saw it was not her fault and that she is ok. Stupid, unthinking idea from plank of a boy (that is what he is really- needs to grow up).
He was not good enough for you. He will treat her badly too. Of course you still have feelings for him but just keep reminding yourself how awful he was at times. You deserve better.
He is single and can and will do as he pleases. Be glad- it means he is not making your life horrible and there were times he really did.
You don't need to hear about it though - make that clear and don't let him tell you anything. Andmake sure she is nothing to do with your boys for a long long time (likelihood is it will be over after Christmas anyway).

DS has his wand. Have hard Frosty the Snowman half a dozen times already.

Sorry to hear that cupcake that was a shit thing for both of them to do, surely she would have seen that too? Or maybe she just messaged you as xh hadn't told you. I don't know. Lulu get ds to wave his wand and make cupcakes xh grow the hell up?

As lulu said, it won't last, at least he's not making you miserable. It amazes me how people can get over marriages so quickly

I would lay down some rules with him too, maybe wait a bit to talk to him until you have calmed down. But I would make it clear when he sees both the ds, she isn't to be around.

DS doesn't wave his wand, he bashes with it

Hope you are ok Cupcake

My concern would be ex-h introducing casual girlfriends to DCs. You need to sort out the rules there from the start.

Even better lulu, your ds can bash some sense into him with it

I have confiscated it! Between him and DH they have driven me mad with it. So instead they have been playing with his drum and a kazoo? I am sick of the pair of them. DS shrieks and giggles when DH blows the kazoo.

DS has gone to bed early tonight- he was up early and was very tired.mSo we are having a bit of oeace and quiet. DH is writing letters and christmas cards to his cousins in Australia and America- some hope of them getting there in time!

Hope you have had a good day after yesterday Cupcake. The weather here has been awful- high winds and heavy rain. We have not been out.

I've calmed down at bit lol.
She just kept messaging me saying 'sorry if I've caused u any upset'
So I said to her , I'm trying to be polite as I don't know her but please piss off texting me. I said to her her messaging isn't what should be happening so I asked if she could stop and not contact me again.
I've spoken to 'him' and said the kids are not to be around her or any girl until they have been together for a year. I told him I'm not having them be shown girl after girl and ruin their stable lives. So I said please don't arrange to see her when u see the kids.
I'm usual there when the kids are there because he can't cope with DS2 as hes a baby but he sometimes takes just DS1 to the park.

Hope everyone's okay! And ready for Xmas! :) I've still got stuff to buy!

Hope the pair of them have calmed down today lulu

Cupcake, was h ok with what you were telling him? Did he know she had messaged?

I have been to Marks and Spencer to do the Christmas dinner shopping. At the last minute DH decided he would come with me which meant DS had to come. I wanted him to stay at home with DS but he wanted to come along (Grr!) He said he would be a help

We ended up rowing in the car park after me getting more and more irritated as we went round. He kept picking stuff up and reading the labels then telling me about them and putting some things back and looking at the label on other things. He was putting things in we would never use. I started ignoring him and just kept going. Then we got snappy and were silent at the till. DS was his usual sunny little self. It was pouring with rain and we got soaking going to the car. When we got to the car we squabbled over how he was stuffing the bags in the boit and it turned into a row.

We got in the car and Just sat for a minute or so, wet through and angry and then he started to laugh. It made me start and we just couldn't stop. It was all just ridiculous.

Anyway, fight over and we are friends again. When we got home DS had a packet of cashew nuts in his jacket front.

I can't believe that woman kept emailing you Cupcake. I thought you meant she had sent one message. That is pathetic behaviour. You have done the right thing in what you have said.

I am leaving DH and DS to play and I am going upstairs to sort out our bedroom which is untidy. Taking a cup of tea and my ipad so I can listen to music.