April 2014 ttc thread - come on baby cupcake!

[zombiemeow]

Shiny new thread and this time I got the title right!

We're all waiting for baby cupcake to come along

I am fine thanks Cupcake. Exhausted because I have been at work and DS has been at nursery.

You should have told the HV you feel so down. It might just be tiredness and the time of year- Christmas stressful I think, everyone looks like they have happy families and it makes you aware of anything you are unhappy about in your life.

Would it upset you if ex-h had met someone? He was very unkind and mean to you

Do you have a finishing date lulu?

I have a bit of a dilemma and really don't know what to do so I have decided to put it to you

Before I was with h, I was with someone for almost 2 years. We spilt up as I found out he had been sleeping around a lot. Anyway, after we broke up I found out he also had another girlfriend for the last few months of our relationship (as well as sleeping around). I only knew her name and had no idea who she was. That was 8/9 years ago now. I was on fb the other day and ex popped up as a friend suggestion. I looked on his profile and was relieved to see he had lost his looks and it turns out ha is still with the other girlfriend.... Who happens to be a distant relative of mine . They are also engaged.

I know that after we split up he continued to sleep around loads for at least 2/3 years as we tried to stay friends. Didn't work out as he used to text me trying to get me to hook him up with people

I feel very sorry for her as little does she know she has wasted the last 8/9 years of her life. But I don't want to tell her as I can't be doing with the drama and he will know it has come from me

Today is my last day but I get paid until next Friday.

I got a huge bunch of flowers and some lovely gifts from the staff today.

Don't tell her Ducky. Just keep out of it. It is their business and after all this time she must know him. Feel sorry from afar and glad you got out of it.

Tonight is DH's 5 aside Christmas night out- there are 10 of them!. He is going for a curry and drinks in a place called Tynemouth- just down the coast. It is a Friday night hotspot. BIL is going too. God knows what state he will be in. SIL is dropping them off and picking them up later on. He says he is going to be sensible

Bet they will miss you lulu... And bet dh will come home feeling romantic

I was thinking I will just stay out of it. I told my friend the other day and she said if it was her she would tell them, I can't be doing with all the drama tho

He is more likely to come home daft and then almost comatose tonight Ducky. He will never stick to 2 pints. He is so not a drinker and will just be silly and then pass out. How silly is the worry

Ducky that's what I thought Gp may be better as didn't know if the HV would be all judgemental as they can be!
And I agree with Lulu I wouldn't tell her. Like u said far too much drama
Just be glad it isn't u he's still with! Don't get why some men are just animals.

And I think exH has met someone because everytime he's come over to see the DC's he's constantly been on his phone. And always seems 'dolled' up.

And yes Lulu, it would upset me if he has. I've married him, I have 2 children with him and it was supposed to be forever :(
I know he was mean to me, but it's hard to completely let go of someone who u really really loved at one point.
Aw Lulu will u miss everyone? How do u feel being ur last day?
Haha I hope ur DH doesn't come back half drunk and try to wake u up Lulu

I had my repeat glucose test today. I was talking to 2 other moms my age. It felt nice to speak to other moms and even tho I was at the hospital it was nice to be out and socialising! Not going to lie, I have about 2 friends. One who has 3 children, the other none but works full time. So I hardly see any of them.

Lulu give him a smack if he wakes you up!

Cupcake, I know it's really difficult but it is his loss, that seems really quick to move on from a marriage.

I will just watch from afar. tbh it has upset me a bit as I was totally head over heels for him. But looks like he just can not control himself at all. I hope she finds out for herself soon though before they get married.

I think being a mum is quite isolating Cupcake. I don't see friends the way I did. I spend most days just with DS and then DH when he is at home. I hardly ever ever go out to socialise- just shopping and walking Ds and then DH and I do the same at weekends. Can't remember the last time I got dressed up. I have worn a dress to work this week but I mean proper dressing up for a night out.
DH wanted us to go out together for a night but everywhere will be full of christmas parties and drunks. I said after Christmas.
He wants to have SIL and BIL and a couple of friends who live near us here on New Year's Eve and I am happy to do that- have a meal and a few drinks.

He has gone off (looking very attractive I must say) for his night out. I have made him leave his wallet and cards here - he let it last time and we had to cancel everything. His last words to me were 'I won't have more than 2 drinks and I won't be late love'. There is not a hope that is true.

I won't go to bed Ducky. He will be in a stupid state and I want to make sure he gets to bed without falling over. I will however be sleeping in the spare room when I get to bed.

Actually, Cupcake, I was fine about leaving. I just wanted to get back to DS. I have missed him this week!

Omg lulu, your dh sounds so sweet hope he doesn't keep you waiting up

DS is in bed, I have a large glass of dry white wine and some crisps and the channel changer. Bliss.

Sweet would be one word for DH -although not my first choice
He has phoned to say he has only had a pint and a half and is 'fine'. It is only 8.30!

I hope when I check the thread in the morning your dh has come back after his usual 3 and done something entertaining

But your night so far does sound like bliss to me!

Yes Lulu ur night definitely sounds bliss!
I wish I had wine :(
I have bad heartburn for some reason and ds2 will not go to sleep!

Lulu yes being a mummy is very lovely sometimes. I forget what being an adult and socialising with friends is like.

Ducky I suspect it won't be anything serious probably a fuck buddy knowing him. ( sorry for my French!)
The truth always comes out in the end ducky. So she'll either find out or she already has and has forgiven him.

Im tired tonight!

Did you have heart burn in pregnancy cupcake?

Ds decided to wake up at 4.30 this morning, he screamed until I got up, now he's exhausted but fighting sleep

Yes ducky, I had it pregnancy when I ate spicy food

Oh no :( is that DS up for good now ducky?
I fed ds2 at 3:30am and now DS1 has woke up at 7am. I've got tonnes of cleaning to do today including washing. Eugh I cba

I've been thinking about moving. I'm in a 2 bed atm, but if I stayed the DC's would have to share a room. I also don't have a dining room and would like one to have as play room and just use the kitchen as a kitchen diner. So after Xmas I think I'm gonna look at some 3 beds. Think it will be good to move as this is the house me n exH shared.

Well, I got a phone call from DH at half 11 last night to tell me, in a very slurred voice, that he was getting us an Indian takeaway, would not be long and was 'absolutely fine'. Bear in mind he had already had an Indian meal in a restaurant. I said not to get me anything.His reply was 'I have been dancing in the pub' and he dropped the phone at that point.

He arrived home half an hour later clutching a foil balloon with the words ' Happy Birthday' on it, and two extra large cartons of egg fried rice and a large bag of prawn crackers- presumably his Indian takeaway. He was wearing a Newcastle shirt over his shirt- he did not go out in a Newcastle shirt- a woolly hat that wasn't his and was staggering. BIL was leaning out of the back car window singing ' So here it is merry christmas, everybody's having fun' with his arms outstretched after DH. SIL drove off looking cross.

DH tripped up the steps into the house- but didn't fall over. He was muttering on 'Oops, nearly fell, musn't wake DS, sssh, sssh'

He put his 'Indian takeaway' on the floor in the hall and wrapped his arms around me saying 'I love you. I just love you Lu. I really love you. I love you more than I ever thought I could love anyone......ever.....in the history of eternity'

Then he wanted to put some music on so he could dance but gave up when he couldn't co- ordinate anything. He 'performed' 'Baby I Love You' in style of The Ramones , in the sitting room and dedicated it to me and DS and I had to pretend to be the audience. Then he said he thought he should lie down. I helped him up to bed - 'sssh, sssh DS, sssh musn't wake DS Lu, sssh' - and helped him undress- to find a huge smiley face drawn on his belly in what looks like marker, and signed by BIL.
He fell asleep sitting on the loo for a pee (he couldn't stand) and I had to wake him up to get him to bed. He then fell over face down across the bed and just passed out. I could not budge him, so just put the duvet over him- feet on floor- and went into the spare room.
I heard him in the bathroom about an hour ago having a very long pee, then a shower.He is in here with me now and is fast asleep.

Oh Lulu thank u so much and please thank ur DH for making me laugh this morning! I needed that
Oh dear I'm guessing 2 pints turned out to be a lot more!

I'm guessing Cupcake

He is still in bed but I have told him he is getting up at 10, having breakfast and we are walking along the seafront - in the freezing cold- to the Winter market so Ds can see the lights and music and go on the train. He just said 'ok love' in a pathetic voice. The fresh air will do him good and he can tell me about his night out then.

DS is practising his toddling

Cupcake I would say go for it. It must be strange living in the house you shared with exh. Yep that was ds up for the day, he's fallen asleep so in going to attempt to put him in his cot and grab 30 mins myself!

Lulu, that is hilarious!!!! really made me laugh.

He is up and has had another shower, some tea and toast and a couple of Hedex. Looks 'fragile'. It is pouring so we can't walk along the seafront. We are going to the market by car.
He thinks he had 4 or 5 or maybe 6 pints but says he drank some water inbetween to dilute it.
Is mortified by the Newcastle shirt- dyed in the wool Bradford City supporter. Remembers hugging NUFC supporters and having a pint with them.
No idea who the hat belongs to. It has a Sunderland badge on it Apparently BIL drew characters on everyone's belly and people in the pub were queuing up for a belly face.
He has a bruise on his back from falling over in the chinese takeaway when he dropped his phone.
He feels 'tired'

He has gone to have a 'bit of a lie down' with a large glass of fresh irange and soda water and some more headache tablets.

DS is asleep too so I am watching TV by myself.

DS loved the train. We bought some mince pies for tea.

Haha sounds like he had an eventful night! Did you enjoy the Christmas market? Buy anything nice?

It was very nice but it w pouring. It has only just stopped. We bought Mince Pies, some Northumberland cheeses, local jam and honey, a fruit cake and some holly.

SIL rang to say DH and BIL were just stupid and noisy in the car and BIL spilled his carton of fried rice! She was

What have you done today Ducky?

TBH Ducky, much as I am trying to be cheerful and keep busy, I am really missing my mum at the minute and today was hard. It was such a rainy, dull day and I feel flat inside. I think it is because she died a couple of weeks after Christmas almost two years ago and it all just feels worse at the moment. She would have adored DS and seeing his first Christmas. I want him to meet her and have her as his grandma and he just won't ever know her. The last Christmas we had with her she was so frail but full of cheer and enjoyed every minute of it. I just miss her. Lots if things remind me of her every day. Even now, I am watching Strictly Come Dancing and she loved it. It is with me every day just now. I know I will get through it and be ok. DH is great, really lvely and supportive about it but I can't keep going on at him about it.

Lulu that is heart breaking, you have been so strong. I'm sure your dm would think your ds is amazing and she would be very proud of you.

We haven't done much tonight, we did take the dogs a walk round the roads so ds could look at all the Christmas lights, he loved it.

We might take him to see Santa tomorrow although I'm not sure how he would feel about it