April 2014 ttc thread - come on baby cupcake!

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Shiny new thread and this time I got the title right!

We're all waiting for baby cupcake to come along

I think DS would be scared of Santa DH was playing with him the other night and being a tiger. He did a loud tiger roar and Ds went for shrieking with laughter to sobbing. A stranger in a santa outfit ho ho hoing would be a bit too much.

You just have to get on with it Ducky- I don't need to tell you that- and it us there with you every day but seems harder some days. Thanks though for being nice.

We went to a garden centre the other week and ds saw some Santa statues, he wasn't impressed will see how it goes! We will either take him to a grotto or there's one that comes round the village on a sleigh.

Is your dm's grave nearby? Are you able to visit it? I haven't been to dds in a few weeks I have got a little snowman statue to put up for her and a small potted Christmas tree

My mum was cremated, there is no grave. But I think I will buy some flowers for her and have them in the house to remind me. She always did that at Christmas in memory of my grandma so that seems like a good idea. Last year I bought a big bunch of pussy willow and it is still going!

Our village is too small to have anything very christmassy. It only has white lights in trees in the house gardens on Front Street and in the trees in the churchyard. Nothing else! It looks very pretty though and unfussy.

I am going in the bath and off to bed. DH has already gone. He says he needs his sleep tonight. Honestly!

Do you have her ashes lulu? Dd was cremated and buried with my nan.

Hope dh is fully recovered by tomorrow!

No they were scattered in the same place as my dad's.

DH will be fine. He has just shouted for me to hurry up and go to bed so we can have a cuddle

Lulu
And ducky
Must be hard for both of u this time of year. Big hugs to u both!

I hope u both had nice days today.
And ducky I hope I managed to get that nap earlier!

I've had a bit of a difficult day, feeling rather down. I'm off my food as well, I ate one sausage at dinner and just couldn't be bothered with the rest at all :/ didn't bother with lunch either. I just don't get why I'm feeling like this and I don't get why I can't just shake it off. I've been given a beautiful son after loosing my 2 babies, and have a gorgeous older son, but I feel so down! I should be feeing the happiest person in the world!
I got my mom round tonight and sat and had a big chat with her. Going to phone my gp on Monday and see if I can talk to them.

Cupcake definitely speak to your gp, could be pnd. It doesn't matter what you have been through it can affect anyone . Hope your feeling yourself again swap.

I think we're all a bit down tonight. Ds sleep is still awful. He's been up for the past hour and a half screaming. H was not in bed so I text hi asking if he could come help as I'm so so tired. I didn't get a reply. After a while I went downstairs to get da a drink, h is passed out drunk on the sofa. I actually can't wake him up.

I just think to myself I sure know how to pick 'em

Ya know Ducky, us moms could never imagine being able to drink to the point we pass out. Even if we wanted to we can't because we know we have our children to look after! I don't get why that doesn't run through men's heads?

Like I text exH last night asking if he was taking the boys to his dad's for lunch tomorrow (he's supposed to once a month so they see their other grandad and great gramma) well he text back saying 'no. My dads gotta work.' So then as I asked what time he's gonna have the boys till then and is he gonna give DS1 lunch and he replied back with 'no, I won't be having them now we not going to my dads. Plus I'm going out tonight for a drink so dunno if I'll be up to anything tomorrow'

Bloody great! Know what comes first aye!
men. Eugh.

Oh my look at my spelling in that last post I'm sure you got the point

at your ex cupcake, what a dick. I honestly have no idea how their brains work if their brains work at all .

Maybe it is the time of year that has us all miserable. I do think lots of people find it difficult.
You are doing the right thing talking to the gp Cupcake. How big a factor do you think your exH possibly having met someone is in all of this? I would find that hard to deal with. But he has shown you last night that he is still just selfish and you are well rid.
Yours sounds like a catch Ducky! He sounds a bit like DH on Friday night
Speaking of whom, he has got up and made us tea and toast in bed this morning at 7. DS has just woken up- and he is all rosy cheeks and smiles, sitting in our bed having his milk.
Everything outside is frozen solid here this morning- bird bath, puddles in garden, tree branches, frosty grass.

I think most men do not have brains ducky! I think lulu's has a decent sized brain on him. I still think we should duplicate him and have one for ourselves
Sorry Lulu!

I think ur right tho Lulu, I think this time of year is stressful for everyone. What with buying presents and also how it's meant to be the happiest time of the year so u feel pressurised to make urself happy and cheerful.
Also Lulu I think the exH and that has a lot to do with how I'm feeling also. I am finding it rele hard. I'm upset but somewhat angry and annoyed. I know we aren't together anymore but he was supposed to love me and care about me and to think he's moved on and got over me kinda hurts. Also I know for a fact it's probably not serious, he's probably just wanting fun. But then that makes me angry too that he's so desperate to get out there and get it off some girl.
I still love him. He was the love of my life at one point, for me it's gonna take a long time to get over that. But clearly he's over it already.

Whatever happens I've got my boys :) and I'll always make sure they have me and can come to me for anything at all.

My mom told me something last night. She said when me and exH got married my cousin had told her she didn't think we'd last as she said she thought I looked unhappy all the time. Shocked me as I just didn't see it at the time but other people did.

Cupcake, it is about 20 months since I first met you on our first thread and I was shocked by what you were putting up with from him and how he was treating you and DS1. You have a much better life now, much more secure. There were times you had no money and he would not pay for food or nappies but would buy himself food. And he was unkind physically. You have made a much more stable home for you and the boys and Ziggy- he was nasty to Ziggy as well. I think you have done amazingly well and you are upset about what you had hoped your life would be like with him- but it never was. You will meet someone nice.

I met lots of rats before I met DH.

I read him the comment about him having a decent sized brain on him and he raised an eyebrow - usually means he is insulted

It's awful of him to just not have his kids because he's going out drinking cupcake. You would have never been happy if you stayed together. When the time is right you will meet someone amazing who treats you right with the right sized brain

Ohh lulu that sounds lovely, it's just miserable here and all rainy.

Anyone got any nice plans today?

We are going for a walk to the lighthouse and back. It is really sunny in that wintery sun way that you get when it is cold. So should be a nice walk. Calling in for tea and mince pies with SIL and BIL- think he is out of the doghouse
And we have discovered the owners of the NUFC top and Sunderland hat- DH will return them on his way home from work tomorrow- they are on his 5 aside team. One of them has his scarf.
Are you doing anything nice?

Sounds lovely lulu, haha how did you find the owners?
We just went to a garden centre didn't manage to see Santa though as all the slots were fully booked. Don't think ds would have thought much of it anyway tbh

The one who had DHs scarf - from his 5-aside- rang up and asked if DH knew who had his NUFC shirt! He also knew another one had lost his hat.

BIL has been in bother for it- spilled large carton of egg fried rice over back of car and was sick in their garden. Is just about forgiven. Says DH had 5 pints. DH seems angelic in comparison to what some of them ended up like. These are men in their 30s and 40s. One of them is a Dr!

DS is doing very well with his toddlng- we are up to about 10 steps now and he is delighted with himself. He is still just going from one thing to another eg from me to DH or DH to the sofa. He isn't exactly walking confidently around and still likes to hang on but he is doing well. He has had some sliced omlette for his tea and tomato salad and three chips- he scoffed it off. Quite a lot ended up on the floor though. Then he had a yoghurt and some stewed apple.

Haha I think your dh is quite angelic lulu

That's great of ds to do that! I have no idea when my ds will start taking steps, he doesn't stand without holding onto something, although he is able to and has stood independently a few times.

We've had a bad afternoon ds had a reaction. When we were in the garden centre dm had a scone, ds swiped a bit when we weren't paying attention and has been awful since

Is that a reaction to the milk in the scone Ducky? What effect does it have?

DH is NOT angelic. He is a typical Yorkshireman- big, a lot to say for himself, down to earth, quick to look tough, soft as muck really, passionate about things and VERY untidy.

He does make me laugh though. He has been explaining Christmas tonight to DS doing lots of silly voices- all very seriously and DS has been completely uninterested and just keeps wandering off.

It was only a small reaction, his eczema flares up bright red, he gets a rash on his face and was just screaming in pain for about 1.5 hours it's horrible I just wish I could take the pain away. The worse reactions he vomits and has bloody poos.

Does ds prefer to walk places now rather than crawl? Your ds always sounds like he's a very cheery little man

He is cheerful, he wakes up cheerful. I'm a bit like that, so is DH actually although we both get a bit grumpy. DS is only really off if he is tired or unwell. He still crawls Ducky. He toddles with someone encouraging him but chooses crawling if he is just playing or following me round.

That sounds awful what happens with your DS if he has a reaction. Is that to milk? What will happen with it? Will he grow out of it or have to avoid milk and cheese and anything with milk in it?

Fingers tightly crossed he grows out of it, apparently most children grow out of it by 1, a few more grow out of it by 5 and a tiny amount have it for life he was doing the milk ladder where they very slowly start introducing milk starting at a tiny bit and working up but we have failed a couple of steps so have to go back down a step.

He isn't allowed to eat anything with milk/butter/cheese etc in it.

He's now moved off his formula and has one bottle of soya milk before bed.

I'm actually thinking about going vegan because of it I don't cook meat I cook vegetarian, and I use ds butter for everything so the only thing I would need to cut out to go vegan would be milk in my tea and cheese, I have tried oat milk and it is very nice. I do love cheese though

Sorry I've been quiet today!

Lulu, ducky... Ur both right in saying I made the right decision about exH. I text him today and said it wasn't right that he didn't want his children at home today. And that he should want to spend time with them alone. (They have never ever been to his house by themselves. Ever. Not even DS1.)
I said he should want bonding time.
All I got off him was 'u don't see how much of a twat u sound'
Yeah cheers for that exH.

I took them to see my mom instead and ate McDonalds lol.

Hope DS is okay from his reaction ducky :(

Wow Lulu ur DS seems to be getting the hang of walking! :)

Omg cupcake I actually have no words.

Your exh is actually somethings else

I don't know what to say to you Cupcake. He just sounds ignorant. It will be his lost ultimately.