April 2014 ttc thread - come on baby cupcake!

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Shiny new thread and this time I got the title right!

We're all waiting for baby cupcake to come along

Oh no cupcake! I think it is just a GPs/Dr who can prescribe them. How can you tell, is it swollen. Hope it's sorted for you asap!

I know for a fact that h wouldn't want ds full time so if he did do anything like that it would be purely out of spite. And it also worries me that if he got his own place it would be filthy and he would expect my ds to go there

I think the midwife can arrange antibiotics Cupcake.

DH looks awful. He is exhausted. He is worried about work, his dad, how he has been with me and DS. He needs some proper sleep. I have a couple of sleeping tablets and I might give him one of them tonight. If he goes to bed at 9, it will knock him out for 9 hours. He says he would take it.

Him and Ds are lying on the sofa together looking like two peas in a pod

Ducky, a court would give you joint responsibility probably but you residence.

Ducky it's gone bright red at the end on the right and feels hot to the touch. I put a pad on it for a few hours (they recommend u do this to help dry it out) and it had a bit of blood and goo on it. Only very slightly but deffo means an infection, I also had one with DS1.
Would u want DS to come over to urs to see DS?

I hope the midwife can prescribe them Lulu, I'd like to go on antibiotics ASAP as I was hoping to drive again soon
Lulu bless ur DH, he needs a weeks holiday of relaxation. Send him to a spa :)
Hope he feels refreshed soon.

DS2 is being such a hungry boy today, he's fed loads. I fed him at 7:30 and he's already hungry again.

He has just had a week off- but his grandma died just before so he hasn't had a good few weeks Cupcake. wE have said that at Christmas we are not doing much. Lots of sleep, fresh air and relaxation. He has gone to bed with my sleeping tablet. He wanted me to go and have a cuddle but it's the last episode of Downton Abbey and he'll be asleep by now.

Did DS2 get weighed today? I bet he has put weight on.

Hope the midwife can sort it for you cupcake, sounds very uncomfortable. How is ds1 doing at being a big brother? Is he sleeping well?

Lulu, hope your dh gets up feeling better today, is he able to take compassionate (is that what it's called?) leave or anything because of his grandma? Even if it's just a few days off to relax. When will he break up for Christmas?

I don't know tbh about h, I think it could go one of three ways. Either he will walk away and I will not hear from him again, his mother will be nasty and make him get a solicitor and go for full custody, or, he will just get drunk and kick off. As much as I would like to I don't think we could have an easy split.

Lulu I bet that will be nice to have a relaxing Christmas :) DS2 is getting weighed today, the midwife changed the day to today. She's coming this afternoon. I have the health visitor coming at 11am tho.

Ducky I hope she can too. I want it all healed fast as I'm so desperate to drive again! It's awful being stuck in.
DS1 loves being a big brother, he kisses DS2 and always asks to hold him (with my help) he's been sleeping well tbh,
I'm just struggling to actually get him to sleep, it's been taking about 2 hours to get him to sleep. But he's been waking up about 7am.

Ducky, will u be telling him he has to leave the house ur in now?
As I was told to have someone with me when he came to pack his bags etc.

I have so so so so so much washing to do. It's like piled high. Being in hospital that week rele put me behind on my washing

Well at least he's sleeping better, it's a start don't get me started on washing! Mines piled up everywhere!

No I won't tell him to leave as I know for a fact he would flat out refuse, so I am currently trying to sort somewhere for me to go (either db's or a private rent) until I get back on my feet. I will tell him we have to sell the house (or he can buy me out which he wouldn't), but I recon he will have problems with that too, so I am stopping paying the bills when it ends. I cannot afford to pay for 2 houses. So much to organise. I feel quite sad that it's all come to this, but I have been so desperately unhappy for such a long time and we both deserve to be happy again, I can't see that happening together.

Went to drs and he's moved me onto different medication (metoclopramide) so fingers crossed I start to pick up, next step is hospital if I don't which I'd obviously like to avoid!

Hope you can get some meds for your infection cupcake

Oh no iam! Is it that illness you get when pg? The severe morning sickness one not even going to attempt to spell it

Ducky I've managed to do half the washing
Yeah deffo don't carry on paying the bills for him. I think it'll give him a reality check of how much u actually do for him tbh.

Oh Iam poor u! :( I do hope ur ms gets a lot better for u, it's a horrible feeling.

Well my scar is mega infected midwifes words were 'oh god, yes, u need to get to the doctors asap for that'
It's right where my beaded stitch was pulled out, she reckons because it left a slight open wound the infections got in that way.
So off to the doctors at 5:20 and get antibiotics and cream.
But good news is, she's said I'm able to drive from Sunday onwards!! :D yay!!!!! Freedom at last!

Bet you can't wait to get out the house cupcake! Hope the infection is sorted quickly for you. Sounds painful.

Ducky I just walked to the doctors now.....
Omg I wish I could have just drove....
It's dark, it's cold, it's raining and the wind is so strong it was hard to push the pushchair

But the weird thing is I'm sat here roasting hot now and look shiny faced

Yeah I reckon it is hg (I won't attempt to spell either!) Dr didn't say so but it's what I had last time so I'm going on that. I've manged to eat dinner for first time since Friday! Woohoo

I feel for you cupcake DH is taking do to beavers in in a minute, they're meant to be going on a walk but I reckon it'll be cancelled as the weather really is hellish!

No Ducky, a grandma is not close enough to qualify DH for compassionate leave. He had a really good sleep last night didn't get up until 7 am and is home now.

I have cooked a proper meal so he is eating properly. Then he is going to do an hour's work and that is it. So by 8 o'clock he will be done and we can have a bit of time together. We were going for a walk when he got home but it is rainy and windy and cold so he played with DS and is bathing him now.

I had a very bizarre dream last night that he had a flat because DS and I had been exposed to the plague! We went round to help him decorate and while DS was painting the kitchen I noticed DH had got himself a Jack Russell dog. He said he would be staying in the flat with the dog because it was quieter and cheaper than me and DS. DS said in a very gruff voice , 'C'mon mum we're not bothered. I'll do your decorating for you. We don't need him' and I put him in his pushchair and we went home.

Cupcake is walking ok? I can imagine that can't be too comfortable for you. The weather has been miserable here too.

Iam, good news you got dinner what will they do if it comes to a hospital stay? A drip? Hope your dh has been helping you out a lot and giving you plenty of rest.

Lulu, is your dh in a better mood now? Your dream made me giggle I can just picture it in my head

Yes Ducky, he has been his usual lovely self since he got back yesterday.

And he has finished his work early tonight so we have got the heating on and are tucked up together on the settee just relaxing.

Is your DS walking by himself yet without hanging on to something? Ds is not quite. He can stand but can't quite balance without hanging on when he moves.He is so close to doing it but just not quite.

That's good to hear no he's not walking yet, but gets around really fast holding onto things, and he's started climbing he has a little square box from one of his toys he couldn't bear to part with, he pushed it over to the sofa and used it as a step to climb up nowhere is safe!

I don't know if to be a bit worried, tmi but, before getting pg with ds I had acupuncture to help with irregular cycles. After having ds my af was bang on 28 days, it has gone haywire again now but it's so so heavy and painful I don't know if it's just as I was pregnant for so long with ds straight after dd so I can't remember if this is normal or it's something I should worry about. I had a smear test not long ago though. I get so paranoid about things like this.

Mine were wonky for a few months. I had a couple, missed one, had one that lasted almost 3 weeks and was really heavy (never had one like it ever) missed one and then they were normal. Now am on pill again and have been normal for last few months.

See GP if you are worried but I bet they just say it is your body adjusting after pregnancy.

Ducky, the other day DS wanted to get a toy I had put on the dining room table and he managed to climb onto a dining chair to get it. I was standing watching and was He just stood on a cushion on the floor and climbed. I caught him when he stood up on the chair incase he overbalanced but you are right, nowhere is safe. He was pulling the oilcloth on the table to haul himself - which was moving.

He likes the dining room because he can stand on the chaise longue and see out of the window and wave to people. If I have closed the door he bangs on it and shouts 'No'

i hope it doesn't end up a hospital stay Iam! It's good uve managed to eat some dinner! :)

Lulu that is a very strange dream! I wonder how u got the plague?
It's good DH is feeling more himself now :) that nights sleep must of done him good.

Ducky walking is alright, I can walk to the shop okay but it's then walking back I start to ache a bit. It helps having the pushchair to lean on. I don't think I'd be able to do it without the pushchair
As for ur af, it does get whacky after pregnancy, mine were never normal after DS. It would vary in length and heaviness each month. One month it'd be very light and last 3 days, the next it was heavy and lasted 7 days.

How old do u need to be for a smear?

Lulu it's mad watching what they get up to! Although ds new thing is trying to climb the TV stand which I can't see that ending well.

Cupcake I think it's 25, but I had one when I was 24 not long after having ds. Wasn't pleasant but it was quick!

Ducky ask to get your iron levels checked because lack of iron can mean heavier AF

Thanks sunny, I am waiting for some blood tests to come back at the moment so hopefully that will tell. I usually take iron tablets as I'm anemic but only slightly I forget to take them all the time maybe it's got worse.

Yeah hospital means iv fluids and admittance. Only been sick once since new tablets but only seem to be able to eat meals - i tried a snack between tablets earlier and it came right back up

Hope everyone is OK