April 2014 ttc thread - come on baby cupcake!

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Shiny new thread and this time I got the title right!

We're all waiting for baby cupcake to come along

They are fine and have gone out now. No more fireworks and they have gone across the garden into the fields hunting.

DS is awake so that has put paid to DH's early night Instead he is giving DS some milk. I am in bed now. It us so warm here tonight, I have put the fan on in our bedroom.

Sorry for the lack of talk from my end!!
It's been a long day haha.

As for Halloween and trick or treaters, I wrote a note saying 'please no trick or treaters! Newborn baby inside please do not knock' and actually had no ones knock so it worked!! :) hahaa!

It's been freezing here lulu! No fans needed for us.

Cupcake good idea! Do you usually get many? How is ds2's jaundice levels now?

Same here Ducky, stone cold! Jumpers on for sure! :)

N yes we have tons of kids round here, the adults are just as bad tbh!
Oo and ds2's jaundice levels dropped from 209 to 170 :) so they are happy with him now.
He's looking less yellow today.

How ur DS's sleep going?
DS1 slept in my bed the other night as he would not sleep. But last night he finally fell asleep at 10:30 but slept in his own bed till 6am.
Ds2 seems to always wake at 2:30am and 5:30am. Last bottle around 11am then I go sleep.

I've been cleaning this morning. Can't stop myself! I need everything organised again upstairs in my bedroom is a complete mess because I've just chucked clothes everywhere and DS2's nappies etc.

Had an asda shop delivered yesterday for only £2 :) and the man was nice and put all my shopping on the sides in the kitchen so I didn't have to bend down on the floor

Sorry to chatter on and on haha

Great news about the jaundice levels

Ds is still sleeping terribly, he woke up a few times and I went to bed around 11 when he decided to wake up, until 1 am then he has a few wake ups and was up at 4.

I am soooo tired!

Hot again here today and tonight.
DS is asleep with no quilt over him, and DH and I just have a sheet on our bed.
Good news about DS and his jaundice Cupcake and good about DS1 sleeping in his own bed and until 6am.
Sorry to hear DS is going through a bad patch again Ducky. It would be great if he could just settle into a good pattern.
DH is at work tomorrow.
I have two months maternity leave left now.

I'm pretty jealous lulu we have the heating on! Only two months left, that's gone so quickly. Ds does full days at nursery soon doesn't he?

Another bad night here. I'm quite worried because I just don't know if there's anything wrong with him I've tried feeding, changing, calpol and nothing seems to make a difference.

I have a mini AIBU for you guys way to scared to post it there incase I get a flaming

It might be a bit long so you get the background.

H's nan makes no secret of the fact she really dislikes me. I've only met her 2/3 times before and she has beer horrible to me.

A few Christmas' ago sil went nc with mil, because of this mil decided that h couldn't go round theirs for x mas as 'it wouldn't be a real x mas without sil'. This was before we were married so h and I just used to go to our own parents for x mas and see each other Boxing Day. Mil didn't question where h was going to go and for all she knew he was spending x mas alone. My family said he can come to ours. Which he has done for the past few years.

Last year sil started speaking to mil again who went in a major strop as she demanded we go there for x mas and I said no. So she arranged for us to go to her mums Boxing Day. It was awful. Ds was tiny and no one spoke to me at all or even looked at ds so we mainly sat in a separate room alone. When it came time for dinner no one told me it was ready so I went in and everyone was on dessert and my dinner was still sat there. As I sat down at the large table h's nan started making comments about me loudly. She was saying just general horrible things like 'oh isn't her hair horrible, she certainly doesn't look like a mother with hair like that' and 'I don't think she'll cope'. It was just a horrible day and a long one.

This year mil has said we need to go round again on Boxing Day, it's already causing me to stress out and panic.

Here is the AIBU part. I have said to h, if we go, he is to drive (last time mil drove so we had to stay all day with her). We will not stop all day, only a few hours as ds will not nap anywhere else and I have said that before going I want his nans address as if she makes a single nasty comment I will walk out and dm will come to pick me up. H thinks I'm over reacting .

Don't go. If DH thinks you should go he is off his trolley. Just don't go. No need to discuss it. Tell DH once then write a reply to MIL saying 'Thank you for asking me but DS and I won't be coming on Boxing Day. I am sure DH will be coming and I know you will have a lovely time'.

Then either stay at home or go to your DMs.

Don't get drawn into a row about it.

It is just horrible Ducky. Why on earth does DH want you to go? He must have seen what has happened in the past.

Ducky sorry ur having such a rubbish time at night with DS :( I don't know what to suggest :/ I really want to come and help u and get up at night for u so u can sleep

Ducky I'm with Lulu on that one. Don't go at all. I certainly wouldn't go. If they made Xmas that awful last time and they can be that mean to u, then stuff it! I certainly wouldn't go.
In fact i would have probably laughed at the fact they would think I'd want to go if that was me.
(My DS never naps anywhere but at home either! They are so alike lol!)

Gish Lulu where's ur hot weather come from? It's cold here, heating is on as well!
How do u feel about only having 2 months mat leave left? Do u know what u want to do with work yet?

My Xmas is weird this year.
ExH is coming over in the morning to see the kids open their presents and to give them his ones. Then he goes at about 11am and I go to my moms for the whole day! :) with both children lol
But Boxing Day he's having DS1 for lunch and taking him to exH's dads house. Then he'll come back to me for tea.
We agreed that DS2 would just stay with me this Xmas as he's so new lol. Which I'm glad cuz I don't think I could let DS2 go just yet.

Well she has only seen ds once and I know there will be a huge argument about me 'keeping ds away'. Ds will not like them. He is very strange like that, he can just sense if I don't like someone and if they come near him he is hysterical. He does it with mil.

I'm ok to go I think as I know dm will pick me up in a heartbeat and I'm not going to sit there quiet like I did last time. No doubt she won't cater for ds with his allergy either. Maybe we'll take our own packed lunch

Id keep DS close to u the whole time. And I bet deep down it'd be quite nice to be able to speak ur mind to them
I always imagine what I would say to the ex mil if I was to see her again. She's not seen DS in a year and couldn't care less.
ExH text her when DS2 was born she said congrats but that was it. Never asked to see him or anything.

Btw the packed lunch is an amazing idea! deffo do that !

Both boys have been lovey today! :) behaved well actually.
I'm venturing out tomorrow for the first time!! Going to walk to my aunties with DS2 and see her :) she only lives around the corner so it's a nice short walk to start me off.
ExH is coming to take DS to nursery in the morning for me.

I am at your mil cupcake. What a horrible person to not want to see her grandson.

I would love to give them a piece of my mind and ds will stay close anyway, he's a bit wary of strangers and picks up on my vibes.

Hope you have a nice adventure out tomorrow. How has ds1 sleep been?

My ds went to bed exhausted at 6 and is now back up. I don't know what it is he gets hysterical until he comes down stairs

Well I won't be making excuses for her when DS's are old enough to ask why they don't see her.

DS1's sleep has been okay the past 2 nights, he's stayed in his bed till about 5:30/6am but it's getting him to go to sleep atm, he's been taking till about 10pm to go to sleep. When I first came home he wouldn't sleep in his room and kept waking up.

Ur DS seriously sounds like how my DS was at that age! Honestly, I used to end up staying up downstairs till DS fell asleep on the sofa because I knew he would just scream and cry if I tried to get him to sleep upstairs. Then I started the routine I have with him now by going up to my bed every night at 8pm and let him watch his iPad and I'll watch tv in bed till he's asleep, then carry him to his bed.
It's been working okay tho, until i ended up in hospital a whole week

I rele do hope ur DS starts to sleep better for u soon

Thanks cupcake, it makes me so so happy to hear it isn't just me! I get seriously worried incase something is wrong and I'm missing something. Think I need to invest in a TV for the bedroom.

Tv for the bedroom is a life saver!
I used to loose my mind because DS didn't sleep, I got so down and cried all the time because I didn't know why he wouldn't sleep. It's got a lot better now he's improved a lot so I hope ur DS does too

Walked to my aunties today n it's made me so sleepy now !

Why the hell did I decide to watch Hollyoaks. say crying now.

I know cupcake and me brings back so many bad memories

Hi everyone! Hope you're all ok.
Cupcake, great news that you're settled back home nicely with your two good DSs! How's the bf going now? Are you still expressing too? How often has DS2 been waking up in the night?
Ducky, I would totally refuse to go to your mil's - they sound like a horrible bunch of people! And I cannot believe how out of order your H's nan was before - is she senile or just completely socially retarded?! How anyone can say stuff like that is totally beyond me! Sorry your H has been an arse as well
Iam, I hope you've been coping with the ms ok. Do you have another DC? I got the impression you did but wasnt sure.
Lulu, you've been making me laugh with your descriptions of your DH! He sounds like mine with the mouldy mugs etc although I've been known to leave mouldy mugs around too!
Siarie, How is your DD getting on? I think she's the closest baby in age to my DS - what date was she born again?
Ducky, you asked how weaning was going. It's going quite well - I started giving him a bit of puree/baby porridge etc at 5 and a half months and have just started giving him 'grown up' meals. Sometimes he loves his food, sometimes he isn't bothered and just wants milk. He's been using a sippy cup without handles for his water and can drink from it totally by himself sometimes!
Yesterday he had some mini baby pasta shells with a homemade organic spag bol, grated cheese and veg mash from M&S, and today he had chicken soup with homemade bread (because shop bought has too much sugar and salt in I think, and couldn't find any organic bread in the shops so made my own). He had root veg mash with that too and he loved it all so much that he shouted at me when I had to take his spoon off him to reload it I've been trying to give him organic stuff wherever I can, but then thought back to the first weeks when I was combi feeding and how I didn't even think to give him organic formula (I think there is such a thing but I don't know how good it is).

Ducky, I forgot to say sorry to hear DS's sleep has still been bad Fx he grows out of it - I'm sure he will!

Lil sounds like he's doing really well with his food!
She's not senile, just completely nasty. His family are a bit like that though. I remember we had to go to his dad's party (a 3 hour drive away) and they took pictures of all of the guests but asked me to 'sit this one out' it was so strange.

I think if I refuse to go it will result in a huge argument that I'm keeping ds away from his family so I'm going but am making sure I have the address and will leave should anything be said at all.

Why can't I have nice in laws

Hello everyone :) Lovely to hear about how all the babies are getting on. Time goes so fast, they all seem so grown up already! I go back to work a week on Monday :(

DS loves his food - purees, finger food, anything! For lunch yesterday he had carrot and coriander soup, ratatouille hotpot and apple crumble, all home made (which is very unusual!). Just wish DD would eat as well as he does

I am trying not to think about work so keep thinking about Christmas instead! We have had to spend a lot on the house and I'm on SMP now so we are quite broke but I really want a new Christmas tree - I only have a tiny one bought for my one bed flat 10 years ago! I think we should buy a new 7ft one but DP thinks we should save and get everything next year!

Oh bears Argos have a 7 day sale on at the mo! I just brought a Christmas tree for £20. They're £35/£40 everywhere else. Don't know when it ends though, I got mine yesterday.

We're having a nightmare before Christmas theme this year

At the weekend my job is to go in my 'Christmas cupboard' and have a stock check to see what I have and what I need to get.

I love Christmas.

We have an elf on the shelf, although ds won't know what the hell is going on, he will arrive 1st dec with a Christmas DVD, Christmas jumpers and festive pajamas then when he leaves on 24th he will leave a bigger hamper.

I may have gone a bit ott as ds won't understand but I won't admit it's for me too

Hey Lill! The bf is going okay, I've been bf in the day but at night I've been giving him bottles of formula as for some reason he just will not stay latched on, and I can be sat there for like an hour trying to get him to feed :/ so I just get up and make him a bottle and he drinks it and falls straight to sleep lol. It's working for me atm so I don't mind :) he sleeps good at night! Bottle at 2:30am and 5:30am :)
I go to bed with both DS's at 8pm and DS2 has a feed at about 8:30 and by 9 both of them are asleep so I'll go to sleep too :) then wake at 11:30 for DS2's bottle.
I get about 7 hours sleep in total so its good!

Wow Lill ur DS has a brilliant diet! :) glad he's eating so well :)

Ducky, I think nice in laws are very rare!

Oh gosh Bears I've not even started to think about Christmas yet. I have a white tree :) it's only cheep from b&m home stores. I think it was PS10 6ft one.

Yes I do have other children lil two dds who are 7 and 11 so it will be a shock to the system to go back to the baby stage!

Booking appt is at home next Thursday, I'm on medication for the ms already just hoping she will put it on repeat as I only have a week supply I was on it until I delivered last time.

Oh Iam I feel for u and the ms! I wore sea bands religiously, because if I took them off I would have just threw up all the time. I even wore them to bed!

My spd is still there I think :/
I still can't lift my legs ups properly to put shoes on and trousers on etc, it still hurts. And I still can't lie down on my side as it hurts to roll back onto my back.
I'm not sure if it's spd or just because of my csection I rele don't know.
I have an open appt with my physio so I might just call them and book an appt just to see if all's okay.