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It's a difficult dizzy and I'll be honest that for the most part I didn't like ttc sex. The thought of eod filled me with dread but unfortunately we all plough on as we just have to. Try sending him the articles and let him have a read on his own. Hopefully he'll come round otherwise we'll do a stop at your place and we'll all have stern words with him!!!

DizzyN what about if he didn't want to DTD EOD but could provide a sample? Would be think about that?

boris so sorry x

spinning are you testing lovely?

Agh I need locking away for my own sanity. I was just emptying the bathroom bin when (and please don't judge me too harshly) I checked the old hpts and they all had a second line or mark on them, in the exact same place where the positive line should be. I assume age does that to them. I tested again and bfn. This tTC lark is messing with my head, driving me nuts.

Boris what are you using to test is it sensitive enough? If Af stays away until morning perhaps a frer with fmu

I'm on Internet cheepies which are pretty sensitive, better than clear blue etc. More likely to give a false positive rather than negative.

I'm just being stupid.

boris we don't judge get a frer like beaut said. If af isn't here by the morning then that will give you the definitive.

It's very rare to get a false positive boris. I got a very very faint line on an IC but a clear positive on a FRER. Get a FRER and test I say!

boris it all depends on the colour of the line - evaps appear after the time slot for looking but these are grey in colour. If hormones are lower a pink line may show up after a while and this would still be a true positive.

They are great not pink :( but as AF is still not really here properly I might go get a frer anyhow.

Grey.

Boris my ics had such a faint line I've had stronger evaps! Even now they are not that strong.

Frer and cb came up straight away

Grey sounds like an evap but with no AF def get a frer

Kir, no I won't test. I really don't think I'd get the result I want. If af isn't here on Monday then I might!

Boris, I hate it when af toys with us. A grey line is probably an Evap but I'm still keeping fx af stays away.

Dizzy, dp says to me at ov time, 'what again? It only takes once'
Maybe for some but clearly not for us! I don't think we have enough sex through the month to keep the supply fresh and dps diet is terrible! I make him salads to take to work and he'll eat that and then get a takeaway
It's a bloody miracle anyone gets pregnant I think!

My boobs feel weird - like an ache deep deep inside them. Never had this... Notsymptomspottinghonest.

The frer is definitely negative. :( boo

Boris that is boo!!!

Big boo for the negative, boris. Hope af arrives soon for you so you can get on with getting your bfp.

That's rubbish boris

Oh Boris that's totally shit!! Get yourself a big glass of wine and some chocolate xx

Oh boris I'm sorry it totally sucks seeing that blank space month after month but chin up lovely, your time will come

dizzyn that sounds tough with your DP, agree with the others though perhaps educating him a bit re fertile window etc may help to go for the EOD approach. It's Cycle 9 for us too now, it is tough to keep going but we will hit the jackpot one day!

Slightly soggy weekend away but never mind, drying out nicely in the hotel now

So sorry Boris how dare AF get your hopes up. Big hugs x

dizzyn I believe that if you know when you ov and then DTD a few days either side then you should be fine. It took me 26 cycles to get my bfp but that's coz my dh's sperm weren't amazeballs. The month we conceived we didn't even flush the pipes! It was a half ditched attempt the cycle before fertility treatment. We DTD cd10 and cd12 only all month and I got a pos opk on cd11. That's all we did. It was just particularly well timed with the right egg and right sperm. We'd done very similar things many other cycles too with nothing to show for it but I guess this is the child we were meant to have. This strong little boy in my belly was meant to be made when he was. And now I wouldn't have it any other way :-) your designated sperm and egg combo is still waiting x x

Boris Sorry for BFN. It's shit isn't it

I spoke to the consultant's secretary earlier this afternoon. He wants me to up the dose of clomid to 150mg, as I expected. I did ask her what would happen if this round didn't make me ov, and she said that I would have another face-to-face consultation to discuss it with the consultant. She didn't give any further details.

Hope everyone's ok x x

Forgot to add that I spent a couple of hours visiting my friend's week-old baby girl. I've never been the type to coo over babies and am generally not fussed about them at all, but I did have a hold and was in wonder at her. Mostly, I just felt a sadness that I may never have one of my own. I know it's still early days, but I just find it really difficult to picture it being me. I just don't think the clomid will work for me.