TTC - anxious over early pregnancy possible symptoms?

[PrtyPsn]

Hi,
First time post so please be kind :)
Been TTC for 4 months now (though month 1 we missed my fertile window)
I'm around 5ish days from AF being due but wondering if I could be pregnant for a few reasons: I e been really struggling to sleep the past few nights and when I manage to I have really vivid dreams (the kind when you aren't sure if they have actually happened when you wake up) I've been peeing almost double what I normally would and every now and then I get a weird feeling in my stomach, in a similar place to where I have period pains but it's not pain, it's more like when you over extend a muscle, just a twinge then it's gone.
Was wondering if anyone had similar symptoms? Sorry to pour all this in here (you've probably heard it a million times before) but nobody knows we are TTC so I'm kinda on my own with this!
Thanks

Just a thought ....where is everyone..always wonder when I talk to people on a forum like this where everyone comes from.

Originally I am from Essex, lived in Swindon for many years and now live in Cambridge.

My friend said yesterday, "it'll happen when it's the right time, everything happens for a reason." And I was like, no! I want it to happen now, I want to take control and I have planned to get pregnant now!! Lol hahaha so glad I have you ladies to tell I got a BPN this morning. Love the no soldier left behind! Hahha and please no!! Do not cross your legs!

When my hubby (after 10 years) finally said yes to trying he thought it would be instant ...trying to get through to him that it could take years.

Waaah neetie you are a threat to my anonymity can I generically say 'Yorkshire' for now? Born and bred! When I get my BFP I will happily tell you exactly where in God's own county, even my name (yeah, my parents weren't so cruel to call me PrtyPsn - that moniker is in hommage to a great love of mine!) but I have a... rather vocal online presence on other sites where I'm not exactly shy detailing my life. I sound stupidly mysterious now! I'm not famous or anything haha! Just overly paranoid that it will be too easy for someone with a bit of knowledge to work out that I'm me!
life for someone to say that is just like a slap in the face. Why don't non-breeders get it hahaha!!

No worries about people now saying..a rough area is fab :)

Sorry to hear that life. I tested early last month and it was kind of a relief to get it out of the way - but as the others have said, there's still hope! FX'd for you. The 'it'll happen when it's meant to' thing kills me! You just want to say, it's meant to happen when I stop being so bloody careful and decide I want it to happen now eff off with your greetings card platitudes!

Having thought I wouldn't tell friends we were trying I did actually tell a couple of friends the other day and it felt weirdly a bit of a relief. I still can't go into every ridiculous thought about TTC with them like I can on here but it felt good to say the words out loud.

neetie I'm also from generic Yorkshire but have betrayed my roots and now live in London.

Hahaha Annie that's a pretty good comeback! It's just sentimental tripe people feel obliged to trot out
I'm glad you have found friends have been supportive and that it was a weight off your shoulders. And we are always here for those extra crazy thoughts and details.
I wonder if your generically Yorkshire is the same as my generically Yorkshire... you'll never be allowed back now you've moved down to the Big Smoke!

I'm also Yorkshire born and bred! Haha! Fancy that.

Thank you ladies, I don't know what I would do without being able to vent and list all my (probably not related to pregnancy) symptoms on here haha. I'm off away now, won't have signal. Hope you all have a great weekend. I'm praying AF won't join me on my hols!!

Another transplanted northerner here, although the other side of the Pennines I'm originally from Manchester but live in London (for my sins!)

Well banana we'll just have to make sure our London kids represent our roots with proper Northern accents! xx

Hahaha like attracts like!! Look at all the Yorkshire ladies!! How weird!! Maybe there's something in the water up North that makes us crazy symptom spotters

Annie yep! Despite DH's best efforts it's still a bah-th not a barth

neetie - my OH was exactly the same - didn't want to start trying until feb as he didn't want a september baby !!( we have 5 in our family !) think he thought he had "super sperm"! I'm in the Midlands - not part of the Yorkshire tribe :(
How are everyone's OH with TTC ? Mine is very relaxed - took him ages to be comfortable with ttc but kind of feel like I'm the only one bothered about if it happens ( another reason why I'm loving this thread!) he does say " let me know when we need to do it" but when I'm stressing over wether to POAS or not I get " why don't you wait - it's not going to change anything " .... !!!

Stripes your OH sounds fab

My DH is brilliant about it, apart from not taking Wellman vitamins any more, because the consultant obstetric physician we saw about my epilepsy & ttc said they were a massive con. When we see the consultant gynae on Monday, as he's the one who'll be getting the results of DH's semen analysis, I'm gonna ask him if DH should be taking zinc and selenium for his swimmers. If he says yes I will be straight off to Holland and Barratt! If the gynae also says no it makes bugger all difference then I shall have to admit defeat haha

DH is 11 years older than me (I'm 33, he's 44) and in his words 'if we're lucky enough to be able to have a baby' I know he's dying for that to become a reality. And after DTD he's v sweet (and bloody hilarious) when he grabs my ankles to swivel me round and pops a pillow under my bum so I can lie with my legs up the wall. It's deeply unsexy and the Dr says it makes absolutely no difference whatsoever, but he reckons it can't hurt, and I get to chill out with my kindle for 20 mins

My OH is really desperate for it to happen for us but not in a way that I'm pressured or anything - after 15 years together I just know him well enough to know when something means something to him. More recently after we DTD he's been resting his face against my stomach which is kinda cute.
I keep all this away from him though. He's really laid back (too much!) and I'm the worrier but weirdly I cope well with stress whereas he doesn't! I flit between telling him when I'm fertile or not cycle by cycle depending on what else is going on for us and how we are both feeling.

Also, us Yorkshire lot are lovely and you can be an honorary Yorkshirewoman!!

Hehe I am a reet Yorkshire chuff n'all!! Who'd have thought it ?!

Loving all the stories of DHs on here. What lucky ladies we are to be supported even if some BFNs have popped up today and they will never truly understand the cray cray hormones......

Did I accidentally start this thread on 'Mumsnet - Yorkshire Edition' bloody weird (or you're all just copying me cos Yorkshire is oh so cool!)

I had to wait a long time for OH to say yes in fact we nearly split up twice because of it. He doesn't really like children an awful lot but always gets on well with my nephews who he has pretty much seen grow up. We got engaged because I had a chemical pregnancy and he thought it would be better being at least engaged when we have a baby but when it came to trying he changed his mind... it was a really hard time for me choosing between him and the chance for a child.
All of a sudden this year he started talking about it and we just started being less careful, I am very open about using the OV kits now and he has been fab.

Morning all! My OH is super excited about it all- he's been ready to try for a lot longer than me. He says, 'I think that was the one' every time after we DTD and he's been great when we've had BFNs. However, he is USELESS in the TWW. He talks down any symptoms I have- 'probably just phantom symptoms' etc. I think it's because he wants it so much so he's being cautious but I find it really hard being told the symptoms aren't real. He's also really good at switching off from it whereas I think about it almost constantly during TWW- going to try and have lots of things to distract me this time and of course coming on here to chat is brilliant!

Similar to annie my OH was ready before me. He always said 'someday' and I was always 'never having kids' and I genuinely didn't want to - it never bothered me! But when my 5th niece came along something just changed. I told OH we would think about it, my job was at risk of ending within 12 months so we said we would use that time to mull it over, make small steps that were reversible (saving money, sorting out the spare room) and assess it after 12 months about how we both felt.
It didn't take us very long at all to realise it was what we both wanted! We held off though until my job was secured and the threat removed. Then we decided to move house so that delayed things a little longer... in fact niece is now 2 and a half haha!
neetie that's a really emotional story, thank you for sharing that with us. I'm pleased things are on the right track for you and OH now and you are moving forward.

Hi All,
First time TTC this month, I tracked my ovulation etc and am now waiting to find out if im pregnant. Did a test yday and got a BFN :( but it is 4days before AF is due. Im not sure if im reaching, but I have experienced these symptoms over the last couple of weeks and am hoping they are pointing to me being pregnant; dizziness, tiredness, frequent urination, very dry skin on hands, bloating.
Do you think I could be? Im going to test again next week... hoping AF wont show up this weekend
Thanks, Bella

Aww that's great so many of your OH are really taking an interest , i kind of don't tell my OH a lot so maybe that's why he isn't so involved lol but that's because like neetie it's taken a while to get here ( he is 2 years younger than me) and so I don't want to make it scary and pressurised for him I think. I know that when ( not if!) I get a BFP he will be more supportive and in fact I worry that he will be too much as he likes to do everything to the book - oh and he has already looked at what baby gadgets we can get - he is a gadget hoarder !

Welcome bella! Those symptoms do sound promising and 4 days before is very early to test so fingers crossed for you. But as you'll see from the discussion above I think all of us have had pretty promising symptoms in the course of trying and so far no joy for a few of us so if it's a BFN take heart from the fact that it's only your first try and we're all here for you whatever the result x

Hi bella! Welcome to the world of crazy symptom spotting!! Sucks about the BFN but it is alittle early so not all hope is lost, FX'd for you and we are all rooting for you. Feel free to rant, laugh, joke, cry and pretty much stick on any random/crazy/worrying/happy thought you have about TTC!

Thanks for your support ladies, it means a lot. I will message you next week to let you no!! Fingers crossed!!