April 2014 TTC Girls- babies almost all here and last one on his way!

[LuluJakey1]

Here is our new thread everyone.

I just know I could not manage two very small children at the same time Ducky. The more adventurous DS gets the more I know. The cats don't show much interest in him, he is grabbing at the moment as well.

He's up in bed now, asleep. The bath and his milk made him sleepy. DH is sleepy as well- worn out by him.

Hope DS sleeps tonight Cupcake. Have you thought of shopping online and getting it delivered. If you get the time right with Sainsbury's they will deliver it for a £1 and carry it into the kitchen for you.

I'd be very cross about the fire too Ducky. I hate inconsiderate neighbours! We've got some really loud ones even though it's a family area they make a noise late in the evening.
Thanks very much for the offer but I didn't use the nutramigen in the end, or rather he had the one bottle of it when I went out that time but his poo was so gross afterwards I think it must have disagreed with him! Anyway I started eating dairy again quite soon after giving it up and his tummy didn't get worse so he's obviously not allergic after all I haven't given him for a while now, the bfing is going fine apart from the last few days when he's wanted to be constantly attached to my nipple

Aww Cupcake what a troublesome DS you've had today Inhope he's calmer tomorrow for you.
And I hope all the babies sleep well tonight for everyone!!
I sorted out DS's clothes earlier and had to put some of the things he's
Grown out of away I don't want to chuck them but also there's no point in keeping them really. Cupcake if you like I'll bring them next week as well and you could see if you want anything for your new DS? I won't be offended if you don't like them though - choosing baby clothes is such a personal thing, I gave away a lot of the second hand stuff we got given because it just wasn't to my taste.
Good night all!

Lulu there will only be 2 years and 2 months between my 2 DS's.... I thought it'd be a good idea having them close, which I do believe as they get older it will be as they will play and be into the same age group things etc. but atm being pregnant and having a small child is very exhausting lol
And yes I've had a look at the delivery which to me sounds perfect. I've seen asda also do £1 deliveries when u get it delivered late in the evening. I always end up buying the same things anyway so might be handy for me :)

Lill ur DS may just be having s growth spurt, I know they tend to eat more on a growth spurt for a few weeks. And thank u for the offer of clothes! I've got a lot of clothes already for DS2 as I've saved almost everything from DS just brought brand new newborn and 0-3 clothes. I'm only missing size 3-6 months. I have nothing of DS's in that size! He must have completely skipped that size group!

Well DS actually slept all night and in his own bed! he was playing up last night and was still up at 9pm! Then suddenly he lay down on the floor in the lounge and fell asleep it was about 9:15, so I put him to bed thinking he was going to scream but he didn't :)
So I went to bed and went to sleep as well!
I have work today so get a little break from DS anyway, then off to see my nan and grandad. So I'll be having a day off from DS today

I'm so so so so angry!!!!!!! i finally got through to the physio department to ask why my referral is taking so long as the doctors surgery told me today I should have had an appt within 2 weeks so I need to complain and see where it is..... The physio dept said "oh we sent u a letter ages ago but u didn't respond so we've discharged u" I've had no letter at all!!! I've waited every day for post to see if it arrives and I've had nothing! They checked my address and my address is right so the woman said "oh it must have got lost in the post then, u need to see ur doctor again and be re referred" so I flipped at her and said "are u kidding? I'm in agony! I've waited 7 weeks and constantly called my doctors up asking where my referral is to which they have had no response from urselfs, to now u telling me my letter is lost in the post!! Someone should have informed me I was discharged!! I can't wait another 7 weeks for an appointment I'm in pain!" Told her I'll be speaking to my doctor and making an official complaint as this has affect my day to day life when it wouldn't have done have I had had my physio on time.
I'm fuming I'm so so so so so so fuming!!!!
Today has been the worst as Well, my left side of my pelvis has been very painful and walking has hurt today.
:( pisses me off so much.

Cupcake that is bloody awful I'm so angry for you!!!!! Make sure you do put in a complaint!

I went to gp this morning for ds appt. I was sat in the waiting room and there was an old couple in there, then a fat man walked in. Ds sighed and he threw his hands over his ears and went on a rant about how irritating it was and how he couldn't sit here with that noise and he'd have to wait outside in the rain every time ds made the slightest noise he was sighing and tutting and covering his ears. Then when I got called through he went 'thank god for that!' Really loud, at which point I got very angry and gave him a piece of my mind

The annoying thing is I never even got a letter Tori. Nothing's come through my door and I don't get how a letter has got lost in the post. Either they misspelt the address wrong or actually forgot to post it, I don't know. But they never informed me and the doctors haven't received anything either.
I hope I get a very fast appointment!

Ducky I hate people like that! Glad u gave him a piece of ur mind!
How did DS get on ? Did the doctor say much?

Cupcake that is ridiculous!!!! Put in a complaint ASAP and hopefully they will put you through quicker although that doesn't make up for the weeks of pain you have been through because of their mistake! I recon they made an error, afaik you get a letter telling you when you have been discharged too!

She checked him all over, said there's nothing physical at all that could be affecting his sleep, his gums did look a bit lumpy and red but she couldn't spot any teeth about to come through. She has gave me baby gaviscon to trial for 4/5 incase he has reflux which is very common on his milk as it's thinner than normal formula and if not the only thing she could suggest was something like cc which I don't want to do. I brought a book today on baby sleeping, hoping il have a light bulb moment reading it!

That is shocking Cupcake. Did you speak to your GP? Surely they can ring the hospital and get you an urgent appointment. They can do it but they have to be willing. I think I would have wept at that point.

Well that is good news Ducky, that there is nothing physically causing it. Did you ever try that lnk I posted a couple of months ago of the technique on YouTube for deal g with crying. DH does it with DS and it really works and soothes him if he has got in a state. I can't remember what it was called - it would. be on our last thread. It was great.

Ducky I'm complaining tomorrow! Just so annoyed at it all.
And aw well I hope the gaviscon works! And if u find a good sleeping tip in ur book let me know!! :)

Lulu, I'm speaking to my GP tomorrow he's calling me up in the afternoon for a chat. So I'm hoping he'll get me an emergency physio appt. I can't wait much longer at all.

My washing has been on the line for 2 days now it's finally dry so I think I should bring it in

It is pouring here Cupcake and the sky is black. DH is supposed to be walking a group of students in the Cheviots tomorrow. Might be cancelled.
DS is still awake but looking sleepy.

Hope you get sorted tomorrow!

I'm currently sat on DS's bed with him watching Thomas the tank engine. I'm trying not to bring him into my room so trying everything to get him to fall back to sleep in his own bed! So far he's rele rele forcing himself awake! I'm hoping he'll just give up and lie down and go to sleep.

Would putting on a recorded story help him? DH recorded a story and we play it to DS if he wakes up before we have gone to bed and he often just falls back asleep. He likes the sound of DH's voice and DH reads to him before bed anyway so he is used to associating his voice with being sleepy. Is it worth you recording you reading a story he knows?

Hope they sort it for you cupcake. Ha, my washing has been on the line 2 days too can't be bothered to bring it in.

Lulu I think with ds that might wake him up more.

Just been up for the 6th time tonight he's been up for half an hour wide awake.

Lulu I don't think DS would even listen to it if I'm honest. He's had the worst night of his life. He's scared of something but I don't know what. He cried until he was sick, was shaking and he even refused to be in my bed and just wanted to be downstairs. As soon as I brought him downstairs he calmed down and sat and hugged me. But he was shaking. I just don't know what else to do anymore :( I've been awake the whole night now as I can't move him upstairs and I'm not able to sleep down here as DS is on the sofa so if I was to lie down itd be the floor and I'm in too much pain to lie on the floor. So as u can imagine I'm so exhausted :( I think I've cried about 5 times!
I text his dad last night and told him what was going on that I needed a break one night as I can't keep being so tired and exhausted as being pregnant I really need a bit of energy!
Well he responded by saying that I'm a bad mom and that I can't cope with my own child. And if it's this bad he will have to take him and look after him as I obviously can't cope and be a mom. Oh and to make it even worse he said "don't u dare hurt him, just make sure ur nice to him if he's upset"
Is he taking the piss?? Don't hurt him? Why on earth would I hurt my son because he's upset??! Why would he even say that? Makes me think wtf is he like when he has DS and DS is crying?
He made me feel so crap last night and so low. All I asked for was a bit of help as I'm tired and it's exhausting doing this nearly every night, and to him, that apparently makes me a rubbish mom who can't cope.

Just hoping DS will soon get over this, whatever he might be scared of. I think once he starts nursery that will rele help as well. I'm so tired :( lol

Oh. My. God. Sorry for the language but what a fucking prick what the hell is wrong with you stbxh!!!!! I can't believe how someone can be so horrible!!!! You poor thing cupcake

Can you maybe get him checked over at the gps? I wonder if they can do anything for night terrors or if it's just a matter of riding it out.

I'm really shocked at his behaviour cupcake. Absolutely mad.

Did you respond?

I just replied saying 'don't u even dare say I can't cope and that I'm a bad mom, I look after ur son and if it wasn't for me he wouldn't be the healthy young boy he is'

And I've called up the health visitors today, I'm waiting for a call back from them today, hopefully going to have them come visit and see if they can help with techniques or anything

I really hope these poor boys start sleeping better soon!
Cupcake I'm so shocked and appalled at your exh and about your physio appt!!
And Ducky, what a horrible man at the doctors waiting room!!
Some people are unbelievable.
I really hope both your DSs start sleeping better very soon. Have you considered co-sleeping with them? I know a lot of ppl say not to and that it'll get them into bad habits but I'd definitely try it anyway if my DS started sleeping so badly. After all, it was the normal thing for parents and babies (and siblings too!) for centuries and it's still the norm in a lot of cultures. The way I see it is that it must be better to try anything to get them through the phases they're currently going through, and later when they're more secure they're sure to be able to go back to their own beds.

Hahaha tori! Cockwomble!!!! Love it!

Lil I can't co sleep as h smokes

Ds sleep has been awful today I actually just had a bit of a breakdown. He's slept about 10 mins this morning and that was it. He was so tired he could hardly keep his eyes open and they were red but he wouldn't sleep. He would scream if I was holding him and would scream if I put him down. He just went to sleep for 30 mins then woke up screaming for 30 mins

Well, confirms you made a good decision Cupcake getting rid of him. What a shit.

Hope the health visitor has some good ideas that help. Maybe DS had a bad dream. It must be exhausting for you. Could your mum not come round and stay for a couple of nights or your brother? You need someone to take a bit of pressure off you- even if they took DS out for a day so you could get some rest and sleep.

We have been to baby soft play today and DS crawled all over the soft play. He is tired, I can see it. He is sitting on DH's knee while DH is eating his tea and is fighting going to sleep.

Haha Tori cockwomble, I like that word!

Lill I end up co sleeping with DS sometimes but past few times he's been too scared to even be upstairs and won't even settle in my bed. And exactly I don't rele want to force him in his bed as I don't want to make it a negative place.

Oh Ducky :( I think we need to have a break down together! Maybe our DS's need a chat with each other and solve their sleeping problems in baby language

Lulu I'm thinking he's had a bad dream too. And my brother is only 13 he has autism tho so can't rele look after himself. So it's also hard for my mom to stay over as she has to keep an eye and look after my brother as he's quite unpredictable. My mom doesn't rele go out a lot either. Will help when ds goes to nursery as I'll be on Mat leave by then so I will get 2 and a half days to myself. Which will rele rele help. He doesn't go till September.

I'm seeing the health visitor next Tuesday, she said she's going to weigh DS and talk about his diet, his sleep patterns and his lifestyle and she can see what to advise me. So that's good. It's like he's having a service done lol
Also my doctor called, he's doing the referral letter agin but is fast tracking it and trying to get me an appt in the next week. Woo lol