Institute of bodies doing strange and unexpected things, but we're still gonna get our Bfps! (the loveliest group of hand-holders you ever did meet)

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Tww thread #2! Best wonderful group ever, wishing you all the best with your bfps! Thanks for keeping my chin up when I've been at my lowest and celebrating the highs with me - all the love xxx

Congratulations on the engagement, Molly. Have fun planning the next adventure - we loved planning our wedding last month!!

Welcome Annie! great to have a new person in our little group.

If you have any questions we're all very happy to help

Thank you, looking forward to getting involved with the group xx

Molly congrats, you must be so excited.

Annie welcome.

Remember and Doom hope you're both doing well.

My news, I'm on day 20 and still showing as high on my CBFM, this is the first time in nine months that I have shown a peak reading at all. I'm not even upset about it I'm so fed up.
Had a pap smear yesterday and my cervix faces backwards. I was told this before at a smear test and the nurse was so rough practically shouting 'I can't find it I cant find it' then 'OMG it's facing your back!' which actually really traumatised me at the time, yesterdays nurse was much more gentle and it wasn't painful altho not the most comfortable of procedures., I think it might actually be a reason why it takes me so long to conceive, everything I've read says it shouldn't but I think it does form e specifically.

Altho right now as I do not appear to be ovulating this cycle that would be the reason why I'm not getting pregnant grrrr.

I'm doing ok fuzzy, struggling to take it in still. Started taking B Complex vitamins as well as upping my dose of vit D to see if it will make any difference. Will ask GP if I can pay for an AMH level in 3 months time (if necessary) and am also waiting for the letter to come through to have the HyCoSy as I need to not ttc for the cycle I have it done.

Think I might try and book a gp appointment just to talk things through with him.

Thanks for asking Fuzzy I'm not too great. Didn't get the job so now I'm at risk of being unemployed by March. Really scary as I now risk getting pregnant when unemployed. DP says not to worry because we can afford it. But I can't help thinking that's not very sensible.

Really scared as my boss wants to talk about preparing for future interviews and career development. All I want is a job to last till I have a baby. Might not even go back afterwards. Have been considering a complete career change, but was going to wait till I had some time off on maternity leave to decide.

I am now left not knowing what to do.

Sorry to hear about the job Doom.

How do you feel about job hunting? Are you looking for something similar again?

Im thinking about job hunting soon if ttc isn't successful. Want to have fun instead and be challenged in my career, current one is quiet and boring but stable (which is a blessing).

Remember if you've got a good GP, it will probably be very informative to discuss your situation and the options open to you. Hope the extra vitamins help as well.

So I'm cd 19 and still high's on CBFM, no peak as yet well beyond my normal cycle readings. Feeling rather bemused by it all.

Thanks Fuzzy I'm going to have to job hunt now. I'm a mental health nurse so wouldn't be able to change easily. Done years of training and experience to get to where I am now so if I change it needs to be really well considered

Feel like everyone else wants me to challenge myself in my career right now and all I want is what you have, stable and boring so that I can focus on ttc. No-one else seems to understand.

Now DP is annoying at me for beating myself up over not getting the job and I've started having ewcm tonight.

Ive also studied towards my career I'm an accountant. I figure if the ttc doesnt happen I'm going to see if I can go work somewhere overseas for a bit, just a vague idea.

Listen to your DP, don't take it to heart you'll find something better job wise, I don't know much about your forked but I would presume you're essential and there will always be a big demand for qualified and experienced mental health nurses.

Before I got my current job, I went for a job I desperately wanted but didn't get because they wanted an immediate start and my notice period was too long for them.

I ended up being promoted instead at my current workplace, forced to work with DP who I previously found standoffish (turned out he was painfully shy), and ended up falling in love and getting together with him. To the utter delight of the entire office (so embarrassing).

There is definitely a better job out there for you, which will fit better than the current one. It will happen I know it's stressful right now, good luck in the job hunting and ttc, go pounce on your DP.

I don't think he's finding me very attractive right now after arguing over me putting myself down and crying the past 2 days

He's off out to see his friend for a bit. It's only day one of ewcm so hopefully we'll have a few more days and we'll both be in a better mood. Going to get an early night myself.

Yesterday was a good day in work, everyone was really supportive over me not getting the job and offering to help me when another vacancy comes up. So now I'm in a better mood...

Let the BDing commence . I'm on CD12 today and we BD'd last night. Ewcm is present and based on previous cycles I should ovulate on Sunday.

Just gotta keep up the momentum now.

How is everyone else doing?

Morning all. How is everyone?

I'm feeling pretty negative still after our appointment last week. As I said before we've decided not to do any opk's, bbt or SMEP this month; Dtd has gone out the window too as DH has been on 7 earlies at work so out of the house by 5:15am and snoring his head off by 8pm.

Have booked appointment to see gp on Friday morning and will have a long chat about what we do now - I know this should be with consultant but she was so dismissive with her 'yep, donor egg ivf only; oh you can have HyCoSy to tick a box in your mind, won't actually make a difference; nothing else we can offer' response.

I've started taking Vitamin B Complex double the recommended daily dose (taking 2 Boots tablets a day rather than 1 - glad they're only £3.29 or so for 90 tablets). Have upped my colecalicferol (vit D) from 800iu/day (have low levels anyway so take it daily) to 2400 units and also taking my calcium supplement at 1500mg twice a day. Already take folic acid 5mg/day as I take steroids for my arthritis. So many tablets I rattle!!

Not sure where we're going now - I looked into the donor conception network planning parenthood conference but, at £400/couple it's a lot of money!!

Whoops that was longer than intended and a bit 'woe is me'!!

Remember sounds like you are really having a tough time. Try to relax and not over think things. I know that's easier said that done .

Be careful with the high dose of vitamin B complex. I took it for about a month and a half and it made me have diarrhoea and feel really fatigued and actually reduced my ewcm.

I know £400 sounds like a lot of money, but if you get there in the end it might be worth it.

Hope you're ok! X

Thanks doom, will watch for fatigue and bowel habits. I have reduced B12 levels anyway - all my vit deficiencies are as a result of bariatric surgery 4 years ago meaning my food intake is restricted (but also led to me losing 8 1/2 stone in weight, having the confidence to join a dating website and, eventually, my adorable husband - so it's not all bad!!)

I'm lucky my GP is very supportive and hopefully will be less dismissive of our chances and also might support our using vits to possibly improve my AMH levels and our chances of conceiving!!

Remember could you ask for another consultant? I wouldn't stick with an unsupportive consultant.

Stick with the vitamins, up your fruit and veg intake, drink loads of water, I've started drinking a cup of green tea a day to help ewcm, think it's working.

I'm currently cd24, have put away the opk's for this cycle only got highs this month no peak. AF due Monday or tomorrow. C'est la vie.

Fuzzy, the month that happened to me I ovulated much later than usual. I usually ovulate on CD14/15 but that one month I ovulated on CD20.

I got my peak on opk this morning and we BD'd on Wednesday and today. Based on last month I won't actually ovulate until Monday so need to keep it up .

Try and keep up the bding doom good luck.

My cycles are normally 25/25 days I have a 10 day luteal phase. So will be interested to see when AF arrives. Going to keep up bding as well.

My cycles are usually 25-26 days too and my luteal phase is usually 11-12 days. That cycle was just a dud cycle I think.

I think the fact my cervix faces backwards has something to do with the difficulty I have in conceiving, dr's always say not but for me it is playing a part I think.

Maybe BD from behind would be better then?

I think actually that will be better, but it's uncomfortable. So sorry about tmi

I don't mind the TMI lol. DP went for BD from behind, but I agree it's a bit too deep and hurts a bit. He thinks I'm moaning cus I'm enjoying it. I'm actually thinking ow that hurts.

The things we put up with in the pursuit of getting pregnant.

Ok guys, I had a temperature dip this morning which last month was the indicator that I was about to ovulate. This month we have BD'd on O-4, O-1 and O.

This month I have had an abundance of ewcm which didn't coincide with opk and temperature shift, but this month it has.

If temperature rises tomorrow as expected we'll have done our best.

Good luck to anyone else entering the 2ww.

X

Temperature is still low, so same as last month, I won't have gotten my temperature rise until 3 days after peak opk. This might explain why we've had no bfp yet. If I've been thinking I ovulated the day of or day after positive opk, we may have been stopping BDing too soon.

Not sure if DP will still be up for it tonight, we've done past 3 days. Will try and see how he responds. I just hate it If he says he's not in the mood cus it makes me feel like I'm not sexy.

I know that's not true, but I am very insecure