Institute of bodies doing strange and unexpected things, but we're still gonna get our Bfps! (the loveliest group of hand-holders you ever did meet)

[haquoi123]

Tww thread #2! Best wonderful group ever, wishing you all the best with your bfps! Thanks for keeping my chin up when I've been at my lowest and celebrating the highs with me - all the love xxx

it's the sort of thing that you can't really talk to a friend about.

Need to stop crying because I don't want to have puffy eyes when I'm around all my sister's friends tomorrow.

doom I'm so sorry things are so difficult for you and your dp. It seems like you're both on different pages even though the chats you've had make it seem like you both want the same thing. Do you think is worth getting some support? If not from a friend then from a counsellor? A bit of external advice can be really useful. I also don't think it's fair for you to carry the burden of ttc, especially if he wants a baby as much as you. Maybe if he knew when you were ovulating he would know to expect your advances?

lovely and hewy, massive congratulations

Hiya, I'm new to the site. 43 and ttc #1 have been with dh 10 years and married just over a year. It's been a long journey getting where we are today twice we nearly split because he wouldn't say yes to children. I had a chemical pregnancy 2 years ago but it did result in our engagement.
Since then it's been up and down, our sex life was good but he would never 'finish off' (couldn't think of a better phrase) but suddenly he started talking about it properly and this is our second month of trying. Currently on tww due af I think on the 21st July. No major symptoms as yet so we'll see but did have metallic taste in my mouth last night for ages.
x

Doom I'm so sorry your going thro a tough time.

I think Haquoi has a point, your DP is saying he wants baby but his actions tell me he's worried/not feeling strictly ready maybe?

Have to say sometimes if DP is tired or stressed he can't finish off either, but it's not happened since he started taking supplements he says he started to take them due to his anxiety not sure if that's strictly true or if he did his own research.

Talk to your DP totally all cards on the table, does he really want children how's he reckon that will happen if he doesn't want to BD often. It's not fair to you to be the one with the stress of it all. You're going into this together you love him you both want this. He needs to really be on the same page.

Also would you be able to have a break away during your fertile time, together as he feels more up for it when you're away?

Was talking to DP last night and he misses when I initiate, we've agreed roughly what he'd feel comfortable with, I think for us we're not bding enough. Which sounds silly but I was looking thro my CBFM and it looks sparse! We'll see. With work and stuff it does get tiring.

Lovely I'm so happy for you :) I'm sure your DP wil progressively get more excited as your pregnancy progresses. Must seem a little surreal to him right now. Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy :)

Hi Neetie, welcome to our little thread, we're currently averaging one/two bfps a cycle on this thread :) good luck on your tww

Btw Doom that's a gorgeous cake, hope your sister had a good birthday :)

You all seem to be very concerned about DP being unsure. Of course he's unsure he's male. Most people I know have said their partners were the same at first.

But he has been fine the past few months. It's usually better when he knows my best days are approaching.

He works from home and doesn't see anyone else all day so feels isolated and unsociable.

He thinks this is the problem and said he's looking at taking on a new contract so that he can work in a team for a while.

We were talking about his ex the other day and that she had a child (with someone else) that has a lot of health issues. He said one of the things that makes him feel so confident in us is that as far as he knows I am healthy and able to have healthy babies.

doom, as a young healthy woman with a low risk pregnancy that went tits up at an unexpected time, I can assure you that health isn't a given. All you can ask for in life and in relationships is love, understanding, compromise and forgiveness. Communication is key. I wish you all the best doom. Your cake was also awesome.

diamond, finding and remember, I've missed you all and have my fingers crossed for you. You all deserve your bfps so much!

Best of luck to everyone else as well (sorry if I haven't named you)

Over and out.

hewy - absolutely delighted for you!! Well done, wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy thank you for your kind wishes about a bfp too x
haquoi - I miss you too, glad you pop back and I am thrilled for you with your little bean, you deserve it so much.
Sadly my pre af spotting has started today, gutted. Only on cd22 so feel like it's very unfair, I don't ever even get the glimmer of a hope of a bfp because of my stupid body

Hi all, thought I would pop back in and say hi. I'm afraid I had to leave the board for a while as I was finding it difficult as it felt like it was becoming a bit of an early pregnancy board at one point (not that I do not wish you all your BFP and every health and happiness - I was also ecstatic for you all who got BFP) I just felt that with my BFN AGAIN! that I had to bow out until I was stronger to cope with it.

Diamond I am sorry AF has got you ..it really sucks!

hewy I think that what people are trying to say is that sometimes not being able to finish is associated with stress and the intended bd also takes the romatics out of it. I know that dh doesn't particularly enjoy sex when it is for bd but he now wants this baby as much if not more than me. I did laugh at him this month - I told him I had ovulated, that night was the first time he had approached me in a week. I was joking I should just tell him that every night. I think its also important to remember is that you can't guarantee a healthy baby as hauqoi said. there is around a 1% risk to any pregnancy and thats with no family history of any conditions. Also just because it has happened in one pregnancy does not necessarily mean other pregnancies are at increased risks. However we all accept that 1% risk as it is low and we all have this possibility. I guess it is good to clarify from your respective though that this is not something he is stressing over!

I always also make sure and show dh attention after ovulation so he doesnt feel like I am using him for one thing only and to try and not lose all our spark.

Outside of ovulation time do things go better for you, or do you still have this issue? If you are still having this issue I think its important for you both to try and work out what is causing it as it will be upsetting for you both and cause tension in your relationship even though you will try not to let it. However you will continue to fell upset like you have been (even though you shouldnt be) and dh will feel upset that it is hurting and upsetting you.

I am sending hugs your way

Since ttc we have only been BD around my fertile week (with the exception of being on holiday). The first few cycles it (DP not finishing finishing)was a bit of an issue, but the past 3-4 months we've had no issue until this month.

That's why I feel it is stress related as he says.

Think cus at first he said I was trying too hard ie) wearing sexy underwear and nice perfume etc, since then I've been conscious of that and maybe stopped making an effort. I know I'm not all that sexy in my dressing gown and slippers.

Think I need to find a happy medium and he needs to sort out his stress levels.

Party wasn't as good as expected either which hasn't helped.

We decided to go out in Liverpool after the meal, but it was really busy in town and I had a major panic attack and my DP brother and sister got really angry with me cus they thought I was just kicking off cus I didn't want to be there.

Needless to say DP probably isn't looking at me and thinking God she looks sexy after that.

If you seen me first thing in the morning no one would find me sexy! You dont have to be seen as sexy 24/7 - thats what love is about!

Forget about dp bro and sis - they dont know what is going on for you. are you prone to panic attacks? It sounds like you both have some anxiety/stress related difficulties - do you think removing some of the stress of trying to conceive for a month or two would be any help to you both? I recognise its so hard to make this decision when you want a baby so badly. But in long term would it help to put things back on track for you by removing at least that one stress (not that you go on contraception - but maybe just go back to dtd for fun when the notion tickles you) or maybe it would make you more stressed? i dont know whats your thoughts?

Hello,

I used to post quite regularly, but due to a house move have been quite busy. How is everyone? Lot of names I don't recognise. I'm due my AF on Wednesday. Keeping fingers crossed it doesn't arrive. Only symptoms I've had is needing to pee all the time and an increased sense of smell. Will get a test and out myself out my misery!

Hope everyone is well

I could stop ttc for a couple of months but doing the ClearBlue trial next month so want to make use of that. Also as I am so used to checking cm every month, don't think I would be able to ignore it.

I just think I need a rest. I've had so much stuff on for weeks, between going on holiday, a dress making course and preparing for my sister's birthday, that I've not had an early night or a day to myself in about 2 months.

Now that's finished and the course is finished I'll probably be in a better position to have a few days/evenings rest.

Just hope DP is able to move on from it all soon too.

Would yoga/pilates exercise help you unwind Doom?

I'm doing it and I find just taking the time out for myself helps. Otherwise I've been feeling really wound up by this whole ttc.

You don't necessarily need to exercise, just at the end of the day when you're done, sit in the garden with a cold drink and enjoy the tail end of the sunny days.

I used to get panic attacks as a child and they're horrendous, not least because people don't understand.

Fingers crossed for your BFP and you Birchy, Browneyed those symptoms sound promising :)

I usually do go to the gym 4 days a week, but because of everything else going on I have had a couple of weeks off.

I have my gym kit in the car so planning to go tonight. Might even go in the jacuzzi afterwards.

Afternoon ladies. Good to see lots of new posts on the group. Im now almost a week into the Clearblue study and will be due to start opks later this week.

I'm taking soon to be step daughter to the airport at silly o'clock tomorrow morning so will be staying at hers overnight - have to remember to take everything with me to get my sample in the morning (and remember to collect it!!)

DP on earlies this week so think we'll be having early nights except the night we go out to celebrate bil's family restaurant being open 25 years - they're charging 1990 prices so going for dinner (would be rude not to! !)

Right, back to work now!!

Hi ladies! So happy to see some BFP's congratulations ladies!
I'm cycle day 11 and hubby is on lates so my alarm is set for 5.30 in the morning to give him a nice wake up call!

Ladies please help! CD11 but would you say this is a peak positive OPK???

I'd say it is either a peak, or about to become a peak. Get BDing as soon as hubby gets home.

Hi ladies sorry i disappeared for a bit still getting our heads round the fact we r expecting again
Quite nervous to say the least due to last mc. Aching to get past 6wks bit time seems to be going by so slowly!! :(

Oh Lovely, so sorry you're stressed, listen to your body and try and take it as easy as you can, keep taking the folic acid. No words of wisdom I'm afraid, I do know a little how it feels I ad a chemical pregnancy two cycles ago, and I've never ached so much I know I sound stupid, sorry.

If it helps my GP told me to go straight to the EP, as did the lovely ladies on MN (the nest of vipers are normally spot on in an emergency). So if you have any worries just ring up your early pregnancy unit at your local hospital.

I sincerely wish you a happy and healthy pregnancy, you would be 4weeks at your missed af so you must be near to five weeks now right, nearly there sweetheart.

Red, that looks like you will hit peak today, sorry didn't see this. It is looking very like a peak or near, grab your DH and BD for the next few days, and one for luck.

Thanks ladies. I will test again later and see I'm CD12 today. Managed to get some in last night although I was half asleep. Early night tonight so he can wake me when he gets home from work and maybe try and get some in tomorrow morning as well! I've had some cramping this morning so feel like I will ovulate in the next 24-36 hours! Fingers crossed

Doesn't sound stupid at all fuzzy! Ive been taking high dose of folic acid for 3wks anyway as well as b6 so hoping that helps. Have drs on wed and hoping for early scan if i can get one!

Ok so top one was yesterday and bottom today. I think I peaked yesterday so should ovulate today. My temp dropped yesterday to very low as well So now to see if my temp rises tomorrow

I agree with your thoughts on the opk's Red good luck with the 2ww!