TTC and still breastfeeding? Thread #4: Pull up a chair for some support from others on the journey!

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Yes, we know all about how emotional and hard it can be! All the pros and cons, all about missing Aunty Flo's and wtf cycles with no ovulation, all about children being cute and pointy. No matter if you are five months or twenty months down the breastfeeding timeline, if you're ttc again, this is the thread to join! Welcome!

I'm thinking 9-10 days, and I know less than 10 is not good

Hope you enjoyed your relaxing evening, Pear - been trying to keep my mind off ttc but it's so hard

I've been reading about vitamin B and Agnus cactus

pear - probably because you're relaxed and not putting pressure on yourself!

My temps are following the same staircase pattern I had back in March when I was convinced I was pg. I even had an implantation dip and awful cramping at 10 dpo. The 2ww is cruel

How's everyone else doing???

Not good. Didn't get a smiley face this morning even though I was convinced that I would. I'm kicking myself for not buying more dual hormone sticks I feel like I've just added to the confusion by using different sticks. At least if I saw a flashing smiley I would have some sort of hope to being close. I don't even know if I should continue dtd?

Definitely continue dtd if you can, don't give up hope

OK, after my stress out this morning I've found some (what could be) stretchy Ewcm. However, it's more cloudy then translucent so I'm not really sure

This morning I started looking back at all my cycle lengths and realised that maybe just maybe I'll OV on cd20 this month like in April. I put all my hopes on having the same results as last month but it looks like my cycles are still inconsistent. Have to keep going with my dtd mission

On another note. To anyone using the dual hormone sticks...if you run out of sticks you only have 3 days to get new ones. Past day 3 the holder resets. Hence why I can't now buy more sticks this month

Gosh this thread is quiet! I keep checking in to catch up on others' progress - Pear is hanging on in there, Wax is busy packing her house up (obvs) and hopefully in the 2ww but .... where is everyone else in their cycles??!! Sorry if I've missed anything - think I'm showing classic signs of transference - please help me keep my mind off my crazy ass cycles...

Just checking in... I miss you ladies! Hope all is well!

Hi Ava, I've nothing new to report. Today would be 14pdo if i did Ov but probably didn't lol! No AF, took an IC earlier and BFN. It's ridiculous! I finished BF over a month ago and still nothing. I've been wondering if there could be something medically wrong with me for AFs t return whilst BF then disappear then still not start up when finishing BF. I haven't posted much as I'm sure you must all be fed up moaning about the same thing over and over lol! That being "where the f* are my cycles?!"
It's just so unfair that I can't even try effectively for a baby even though it's what I want most in the world. :(
We have slowed down with the DTD too EOD is tiring (especially when you know it's probably for nothing), sorry for bit of a negative post, feeling down today. Going to have an early night tonight and hopefully will be feeing more positive tomorrow.

Oh Lea you can moan to us about TTC any day! God knows I do!! ;-) How annoying for you!! I know how frustrating it feels once you've stopped bf. You just want to get on with it!!

Evening ladies. Hope everyone is feeling a little more positive. It's tricky though I know.

Pear these stick things are really expensive! I bought my 'kit' in Superdrug on a whim and it was about £30 does that sound about right to everyone? And the fact you could need 2 a month is crazy money. I guess they know how desperate we get ????

So I've now had 3 days of flashing smileys and I'm starting to slide from confident I'm definitely getting pg this month to doubtful that I'm ovulating yet. I know it's early days to fret but well, you know! It does seem cruel that you can get several days of supposed 'high fertility' when actually if you don't get the peak you haven't been fertile at all. Have I been reading it right?

Hello everyone! waves sorry for the radio silence, am bogged down in house packing as Ava rightly guessed. And also a good friend had her DS yesterday, 7 weeks premature...so I've been frantically trying to put together a package of provisions and visit her today, and looking after her DD for a bit tomorrow. Crazy busy! But it is keeping my mind off the tww at least...

Sorry Ava and pear for your awfully confusing signals this month...really hope it all works out in the end for you this month!

Lea, I do sympathise - it's awful feeling like even ttc isnt within your control as you have to wait for your cycles to come back. I hope you don't have long to wait. Xx

Oh and I'm 2dpo. Soooo long to go! I think I'm going to test next Saturday (13 dpo) if I can hold out. I dont think I could face the turmoil of a BFN and wondering whether it was just too early...

Ahhh, thanks for the updates ladies

Lea, I have read that it can take a few months for hormones to sort themselves out whilst/post-breastfeeding. Hang on in there, it will happen, but in the meantime please feel free to moan here as much as you want I'd be a nightmare in RL if it weren't for this thread, I'm sure, dealing with and trying to figure out this ttc whilst breastfeeding malarkey with people who don't know or understand what you're going through

ISpy, I tried using digis for months after my cycles returned last August, but they only once in all that time told me I was ov'ing, so it was frustrating and I found it such a waste of money. I now spend £2.95 every month on ic opks and am much happier I do, however, think my cycles were probably anovulatory for the first 6 months or so, I just wish I hadn't spent so much money figuring that out

Hi Wax! Gosh moving house with a toddler would be keeping you busy enough as it is! Your life must be like a whirlwind right now! Lovely idea about the package of provisions for your friend, I did this for my sister when she had her DD in Feb, but she was only 2 weeks early so not that much of a shock hope all's well with your friend and her DC, and that the packing is going well too (I remember that from last year like it was yesterday, it's back breaking, and after that I vowed never to move again ) I'm also 2dpo (I think) but I should know if I'm pg in 8 days time without testing as that's when AF is due (my cycles have never been longer than 28 days) 13dpo isn't too early to test - good luck

I'm saying in 2dpo as, looking at my temps, they didn't increase past my cover line until yesterday. But, I got a dip and a positive opk 3 days before that, with a rise to my cover line the next day I know the temps rising is what confirms ov, so that's what I'm going by. I just think my super long surge of 2.5 days of strong positive opks indicated that the egg struggled to be released or that, maybe multiple eggs were released??? I'm 35 so guess it's possible? Glad I've got DDs playhouse makeover to take my mind off the 2ww (will post finished pics a la Wax ) and I'm in work now for 2 days, so that should hopefully occupy my mind too x

Can I have a medal please? Took all night to get DH in the right "mood" and hours later I'm finally dangling legs. Seriously!!! I am Soooooooo ready for my bfp now please

Lovely to hear from all of you

Ispy - have you got the 20 pack dual hormone pack? Those are the ones I have. In theory 20 sticks should last 2 months but thanks to my unpredictable cycles I didn't quite stretch to it. You should be paying about £23/25 per 20 sticks. I think Boots have an offer and Amazon is always a good place to look. You're right, anything more than 9 flashing smileys probably means you haven't ovulated. The average is 4 before getting a peak.

This week I've finally started tackling all the annoying little-ish jobs around the house that I promised myself we'd complete before we get pg with DC #2 - (and hypermesis no doubt takes over again ) been procrastinating far too long! I'm with you, Pear, sooooo ready to move on now!!! Well done, we will graduate soon

I've not got a medal, pear - will a do instead?

wax hope your friend and her little one is OK. I love packing up houses. Can I come and help?

Nothing to report here. DS has settled down at night again so no more night time BF thank goodness!

Let - hmm not sure what a "do" is?! :)

Ava - well done on getting the small jobs started...I keep saying the same thing but then my mind wonders back to TTC and I get side tracked.

CD19 for me...still no smiley face. I am now convinced that I am going to OV on cd20/21 like in April which would give me a cycle length of 33 days (my average cycle length according to My days app). I'm going to have to pull all the stops out to convince DH tonight :-( It's v important that we tick the box because we can't dtd tomorrow. I feel far more positive today. The second line is still there but faint, exactly like yesterday. I must be close! Long cycles are really hard but I can do this...providing I get my smiley in the next couple of days!!

hello, sorry I've not been around over the past few days. I've been trying to keep myself busy during the boring part of the cycle, but on cd 10 now so I'm ready for opks and obsessing from tomorrow onwards .

Pear I don't know if this is relevant to you but my hormones where all over the place (due to coming off bc) when I was ttc ds and I had a lot of cycles where my body would start gearing itself up to ovulate (so opk test line getting darker, ewcm, etc) but for whatever reason it wouldn't happen and I would end up ovulating 2 weeks later. I got pregnant twice on cycles like this. Just wondered whether maybe that could be happening to you?

Pear, Cupcakes gave you a star and asked if it'd do instead of a medal, maybe you can't view the star on your phone?

Pear, I'm sure ov is really, really close for you and I'm sure DH will dtd tonight given you can't tomorrow. Good Luck!

I'm massively upping the calories since ov - anything to increase my chances of implanting fx fx fx

Got a good feeling about the dtd we did on the afternoon of the day after ov for some reason - guess we'll find out soon enough

Oh, and the main character in the book I'm currently reading has just found out she's pregnant. I didnt know that was coming. Read that bit on the train on my way to work this morning. Hmm, if I keep looking at all of these coincidences as 'signs' I am surely going to drive myself mad and be even more disappointed if I'm faced with a bfn when it's time to test...

Good luck Ava & Pear!