Who wants to buddy up...thread 2!

[Issie339]

Hi everyone,

Here's our shiny new thread continuing from the old 'who wants to buddy up' thread (sorry, don't know how to link). I'm sure some regulars will be along in a minute and also anyone else who is ttc and would like some company is very welcome to join- we're very friendly!

I'm 12dpo tomorrow, and I know I could test, in that its not unreasonably early to test. But for some reason I don't want to. Last month seeing the BFN really made me think its over for that month, maybe I should live in my nice "hmm might be pregnant" bubble for a day longer... Someone tell me I'm being silly!!!! Also got the achy legs (which precede every AF for me) on and off for last couple of days and some lower back pain, so probably out anyway.

Issie you never know, your relaxed month could have worked for you. Fingers crossed for you. When are you testing?

aw violet your not being silly at all. I'm 6 weeks no af and 2 pregnancy tests bfn and I'm still thinking "maybe I am and it's just not picking up!!"

I think all the worrying where af is is sending me doolally . ..I took a spa bol out of freezer tonight to defrost for kids tea tomorrow (it was homemade not micro meal lol) and put it on side....bit later I thought hhhmmm where did I put it?? couldn't find it anywhere and me and my eldest spent.good 10 mins searching kitchen. cupboards, freezer,fridge, bin and outside bin. no luck. next thing I look up and I'd put it on top of cupboard Do not ask as I don't even remember putting it there or why I even would!!

violet I think you're doing the right thing waiting to test, I've learnt it's best to live in hope for a bit longer than do the test early and get a bfn. Really keeping fx this is your month though hun. Think I'm about 4 or 5 dpo at the moment so a little while to wait for me.

I tested oops!! And ruined my lovely "hmm maybe im pregnant" bubble - BFN obviously. AF due tomorrow or Friday. Was having some nausea on and off yesterday and this morning which encouraged me to test, but obviously not the pregnancy related kind!! I know i've opened the floodgates now and now wont be able to resist testing until AF makes its appearance.

Where is Shoos??

Oh violet that sucks. Keep testing though until AF arrives.

Who else is testing around now, I can't remember?

aw violet sending hugs. keeping my fx af never shows x

I didn't test this morning, thought I would wait and see. No AF yet, but getting some twinges on and off and some backache, will let you know what happens. Maybe she will do what she did last month and make me wait all day and then turn up at 2am tomorrow morning??

Hi all! Wow so much to catch up on! Nicky you sound just like me a few weeks ago! If you don't know when AF is due every negative test you get your just like 'ohh it might still be too early!' Fx you get put out if your insert either way sooner rather than later!
Duck good to see you back in the game
Voilet try and hold out testing but I know it's easier said than done!
I'm CD7 with my app telling me my fertile window is next week. We have been DTD every other day this month so far (apart from AF days) and aiming to carry this on all month and every day during my fertile window. I was going to try opks this month but thought I would give it a shot this month? Hope you don't mind me asking but how frequently is everybody trying to DTD? Are you trying all month long or only in your fertile window or only when you get positive opks which sound as though they are only a few days each month (sorry not sure never used them)
Xx

Duck Glad you are back!! Once you get that solid smiley face then at least you know you can expect AF/BFP in two weeks time.

Nicky good luck at docs tomorrow? Or did you change the appointment?

Belle This month we dtd once daily on CD9,10,11, 13, 14, 15, 16, twice on 17 and 18 it was the weekend and once on 19. Oh an I'm not testing again, not unless I'm late which would be Saturday.

Haha violet of your not pregnant it's got to be a miracle with all that rumpy pumpy! Lol

Wowee Violet!! Good job in your double DTD days - that's what did it for me!!xx

Morning,

AF came about 1am this morning, so my new stats are:

Violet, 27, cycle 5, ttc#1, OTD 15/08/15.

I'm surprised I'm not that emotional about it really. Maybe it will hit me later like last month, but for now I'm ok. Maybe its because AF doesn't seem so bad this month (yet). I get really painful and heavy AF (like tampon and sanitary towel at the same time heavy). For this one I've only taken 2 ibuprofen, and the cramps are really not that painful. Also its no where near as heavy as usual, and has started kind of browny red rather than bright red (sorry for TMI). So maybe im just grateful AF is being kind to me this time!

I think this month I will try and concentrate on some other things rather than just ttc, as its got a bit all consuming now. I'm trying not to worry about something being wrong as its only been 4 months with properly tracking ov etc (although been off pill since beginning of Jan). I need a hobbie to take my mind of things, think I will look into gym membership at the local leisure centre or maybe just swimming?? I don't know yet. So far I haven't been doing anything in the way of strenuous exercise in the 2ww, been scared that on the off chance i was pregnant a spinning class etc would harm the potential baby. Think I was been a bit silly and need to get on with stuff a bit more!!

On a more positive note, we have a viewer finally!!! Next wednesday! So hopefully something will come of that!

Also asked OH yesterday what he thought about getting a dog! I know I really want a dog but not sure how much of a good idea it actually is. But then again I'm always reading about how we shouldn't put things on hold for ttc as nothing is guaranteed. He said we should think about a dog when were in our new house, which is what I thought he'd say!

Sorry for the long post, but it's been a bit quiet on here, so i'm filling the thread up with the nonsense in the inside of my head!

Po sticks galore??!!! Well that phrase made me laugh Duck so thanks for that, as well as the reassurance. You're right if it was a friend saying they had tried seriously for four months, I would be saying it's far too early to think somethings wrong and it just takes time. I'm just a worrier, especially about AF how it usually is, my sister has endo and that makes me worry more! I would take that you managed to conceive so quickly as a positive, it must mean your highly fertile, rather than thinking you have a certain amount of luck and youve used up a great chunk of it. Going to do some puppy googling now...

Violet sorry to hear AF arrived but really glad to hear you're feeling upbeat. A new hobby is a great idea, you should defo do that! Exercise as much as you want, drink coffee if you want and just relax- that's what I'm trying to do now anyway. I've almost got to the stage where I'm a bit 'over it' if you know what I mean.

Great news on your viewing too- eek! Fx they buy it :)

Equally with the dog news, soooo exciting, I LOVE dogs. What breed are you thinking? I may have to start posting random cute puppies on here for your perusal

Ahh Violet sorry to hear about AF! It's good to have other things going on so it's good that you're looking for stuff to keep your mind occupied!
It's so random that your AF comes in the middle of the night!!

Hi all

violet sorry af turned up. I think a hobby would be good to tale your mind off ttc a little. after a while it can be draining on a person. Def look at the distraction of a puppy maybe a more relaxed approach might be the way forward.

I've had my doc appointment and things have taken a bit of a different turn than I hoped. she says it's not uncommon to have no af for a while and wouldn't think of doing anything until it had been 6 months . I'm on 7 weeks at present. On the downside she is concerned about my weight (I knew it would come up eventually ) I am very overweight and she said it can lead to "ovaries going to sleep". she hasn't said mine have and said on flip side I could have no af and could find myself pregnant so it's just a case of wait and see, opk test and pg test every could of weeks just to be on safe side. . as for my weight I am actually heavier now than ever and I'm 2 stone heavier than when I was when full term pregnant with 9lb 11oz baby which is bad news.i know it's bad as she has given me some weight loss tablets to try and help me lose some weight and wants to see me in 2 months. .

sorry for the long post x

How much do you weigh Nicky?
I am absolutely dreading seeing the midwife cause I already know they'll be horrible to me for being obese.
I genuinely thought it would stop me from getting pregnant but it didn't obviously!!xxx

Mrs I work in healthcare and no midwife or any HCP should be being horrible to you, don't go in expecting that. Whatever your weight you should still expect to be treated respectfully and with dignity. They do have a duty though to point out things about risks, and you may be monitored more closely, but it should be explained in a way that its all about looking after you and baby and without judgement.

Nicky Sorry you have to wait 6 months, hopefully your period will show up way before then though!! have you had any positive opk's yet/are you temping? I don't know if I should make an Dr's appointment soon, just about how heavy and painful my periods are and with family history of endo, I'm sure its not normal, but then this time its not been as bad as usual?? I hate going to the doctors, especially for womens problems as I think theres a bit of a school of thought among some docs that we should just get on with it and not complain! I have been years ago and Dr just sort of said yeah some women can find periods painful and offered me a prescription for painkillers or suggested i go on the pill, (which obviously won't be helpful now).

Issie I'm open to dog suggestions, I think that's what this thread needs, the odd dog picture now and again. It definitely won't be for a while though until we are settled in new house, in case we have to rent in between the moves!

nicky how horrible for you, it's never nice having a doctors appointment like that, I hope you're not feeling too down about it all hun are you going to take the tablets do you think? Hopefully AF will show up very soon for you.

violet I agree doctors are rarely helpful with these things. Could you afford to go and get it checked out privately if you're worried?

Dog suggestions- well my faves are greyhounds or maybe Salukis (any sighthounds really) or labradoodles

Woof woof!

Issie Do you have a dog? If not I forsee a slight issue with you looking up pics for me...??? That puppy is beautiful! My brother has a sighthound, he's a lovely boy, really friendly and if you fake dog whine at him he sings to you!!

Talked to OH last night about plan for new cycle and he's agreed a relaxed approach and EOD sounds good for this time, this cycle is going to coincide with the busiest week for him at work, so EOD will be better for him and a chance to check out if thats luckier! He agreed temping was a good idea, and said that it would be good to know that I am ov'ing incase we did need to go docs in the future, he thought they might just send us away for a few months to temp and find out, not sure they would, but its good he's on board and doesn't think its a bit crazy lol!

Day2 of temping went well this morning, I forgot! Oops! Well I remembered when I woke up but I'd forgotten the night before to put the thermometer near the bed, it was in another room! Fail!!

Anyone got any interesting plans for the weekend? Sparks are you testing today?? Good luck!!