BUMSNET - where bums (and hopes) are raised in the quest for a BFP.

[purdiepie]

Are you sick to the tits of baby-making sex? Or are you squelching with rabid lust when the lickle hand strikes cock o' clock? Have you already picked Sophia and Hugo as your baby names? Do you want to gouge out the smug eyes of the pregnant women in Sainsbo's? Do you shove balloons up your Boden sweater and pretend you have baby in your tum-tum? Have you already picked out your Farrow & Ball nursery paint? GREAT! Then you're just like us: We are the friendliest, wittiest, gayest, animal-lovingest, cervical-hunting women you will ever meet.

Come on, you frightened little trying-to-conceive mice...come join the fun on the Bumsnet bus. You know you wanna

5 solid hours of weeding and sowing seeds at the allotment and it's back to looking how I want it. Onions, broad beans, peas, beetroot, Kohl rabi, potatoes, lettuce, rocket, spinach are all growing well. Carrots and radish's overcome with weeds and given up for lost. Tomatoes, courgettes, squash, kale, chilis, more radishes all started. Amazing how out of control it can after 2 weeks of neglect!! Knackered.

Now let's all have a group hug and get back to supporting each other.

Still no AF.

Just read back as I only lurked briefly yesterday.

Sorry for bfn ibeka. I'm hoping you just tested too early.

Woolly I usually feel deflated before AF is due but know I'll get there one day but sometimes I just gets me down. These feelings do pass thankfully. You definitely will get there.

Dizzy DH has been so busy with work and also an assignment so it's been a bit stressful for him, which I think is partly the reason for me feeling down as he's mostly the positive and bright one when it comes to ttc sex. He seemed more relaxed this morning so hopefully we can enjoy some romantic sex tonight!

Oyster temp drops are awful but mine didn't even drop last cycle and AF arrived!!! It can shoot back up tomorrow and you're not out so I've still got my fx for you.

Night I hope you enjoy your weekend with your grandparents.

Sammy have a lovely holiday.

Rainy sorry AF arrived. Onwards and upwards to the next cycle. I want chocolate cake now

Tessie you are always welcome here so please don't feel you can't come and chat to us and support us. I hope you're ok

tessieall I can say is sorry you all feel ignored , I can't speak for others but all I can offer is my apology,

Oyster, you are not out yet. There are lots of charts with dips in the FF gallery, but they still got their BFPs.

Tessie, I am really pleased all went well for you at your scan. I am sorry if I am guilty of not asking after you.

Rainy, sorry the witch has arrived. It never gets any easier. X

Night & Sammy, I hope you enjoy your trips.

I am feeling very headachy & dopey today. Not been sleeping well all week, and as a consequence I think I slept in too late today. Anyone want to come & do the housework for me?!

I'll send DH round Nomio, he's a star for doing housework

I've just temporarily cheered myself up by looking at some pregnant charts on ff, lots of them are all over the place. People test and get their bfp's really early. I think I tested early my first month but quickly realised that AF hurts less than the shocking whiteness of a bfn.

Thanks Oyster!

When will you test? I think I am weird, I seem to be the only person on here who finds Bfns easier than AF!

Thank you Nomio, I appreciate that. I would just like to be acknowledged sometimes. I am still contributing to the same thread that I have been for the past 6 months. I feel a strong loyalty to you guys and to now feel as though I don't even get acknowledgement hurts

If AF doesn't show tomorrow I'll test Monday as I'll officially be late and that would be unusual. I've got a heavy, crampy feeling so I suspect she'll rock up shortly.

I am very sorry if I have ignored any of our bfps :(

Thanks to everyone who has wished me a good weekend! Today has been awesome, so sunny and we have been exploring the Devon countryside :)

Now getting ready for Eurovision!

How is everyone else?

Sorry for AF Rainy

Glad to see that you are still in the running oyster :)

Well if I have to spell it out for those less capable of understanding: Sparkly was asked specifically by Rainy how many weeks pregnant she was. Moreover, Sparkly has been missing for reasons other than her pregnancy; she has been in acute pain and I specifically related her more pressing woes to you all after she was the cause of all our worries on here. You all wanted to know where and how she was and I contacted her privately. Sparkly has been exceptionally poorly and you, Tessie, have not. I'm sorry you are not content to discuss your early pregnancy over on the GRAD THREAD and that you feel horribly unloved

I have said what I felt appropriate to say to Chops both in my initial comment to her and my last one. I have been a member on other TTC threads years ago where the grads stick around 'supporting' the others whilst being incapable of understanding that scan news, bump developments, nursery purchases and pregnancy symptoms are simply depressing and upsetting for those left behind. I honestly don't see how a 'Yay for the 10 week club!' can be anything but tactless and it is tacitly different to someone responding to a question about how far along they are.

You may think this is 'political' or harsh, but where would you draw the line? Do you want to hear how big and smooth someone's bump is? What colour nursery they are planning for the new baby? Because this is precisely what happens when enough grads stick around and no-one pipes up.

Purds, no-one wants you to leave, but at the same time, a lot of us like getting occasional updates from the grads.

I honestly don't think any of them would dream of being so insensitive as to describe their bumps or nursery plans. If they did, then I for one would let them know that it was not appropriate.

I did not mean anything by my stupid comment, you know I would never go out of my way to offend anyone. I'm a bloody nice person if you knew me in real life. Sometimes I just act before I think. This will haunt me for a long time.

Plus my stupid think brain sometimes thinks that if I put someone's name in between ** next to a statement, only that person can see it so I was thinking I was talking to sparkly and sparkly only. Yes I am that dense, ask my husband

Chops please don't beat yourself up over this. You said nothing wrong.

Purdie don't leave. I will just echo what nomio has said.

Chops I dont think you meant anything by your comment, do not let it haunt you and i am sure you are a lovely person,

purdie Dont leave the bus!!!

Sammy, enjoy your holiday

Tessie, sorry you feel your been ignored. I've been terrible at keeping up recently, apologies if I've missed you xx

Oyster, sorry for temp dip. Good to hear you thinking positively about spending time with your new hubby. Your time will come soon. Wow what a day you've had in your allotment! Super impressed with all those veggies.

Rainy, sorry af's arrived. Tis shit yay for the chocolate cake though.

Merry, good going on the dtd. Hope you get that solid smiley soon!

Nomio, pleased you're feeling better about the dtd, so nice when you can enjoy it. Dp and I enjoyed it this cycle, first time for a while!

Ahh I know who it is! Lovely news.

Going to reply separately to today's events

Goodness. What has happened here?!!

These buses used to be so supportive, everyone cheering each other on and genuinely pleased when one of us got a bfp.

I like to see the grads pop back on with updates, especially those who have been waiting for sometime for their Bfp. I never feel that anyone oversteps the mark in what they share with us. Usually it's a quick update of how many weeks they are. I keep an eye on everyone on the grad bus, that's my choice as I like to see how they're doing but I understand not everyone wants to be that involved.

Victoria, I see nothing wrong with what you said. And I agree that it can't be one rule for one and another for someone else. That's not fair or kind.

Come on ladies lets make this bus a fun place to be again, full of support for everyone xxx

Watch out ladies - as soon as you get you bfps Purdie won't give a shit about you anymore!!!!!!

Maybe we should have a vote. People obviously feel very strongly about this, so I think we need to settle it for good.

I personally like the grads popping back to update us on their progress, and I think they always do it in a sensitive way.

Bloody 'eck. What has gone on here today? This is terrible! I came here to catch up but there has been so much drama.

I think a lot of it has escalated unnecessarily.

Sending you all .