TTC after MC#6 - the lucky one for all of us!

[Romeolovesjuliet]

New thread. Hoping for lots of lovely BFPs over the coming weeks

keys it's really hard to tell as it varies from woman to woman anyway without the whole mess of a wtf cycle. On average you'd ovulate around day 14 if you have a 28 day cycle....but I have a 28 day cycle and I'm more like day 11/12.

This last month was my wtf cycle - had a 27 day cycle but ovulated on day 20 so totally messed up.

I understand the desire to fall pregnant again straight away before a proper AF - we tried lots last month - but please bear in mind although it happens it's not usual - try not to pin all your hopes on it xx

I know hun I just want this month to go quick so I can try and get back to some normality :( feeling very sad today.

Welcome mummy and lion. You'll get through these first days keys- it does get better.

drifting- I've still not had a positive opk and my cycles are wonky. Pre mmc you could have timed your watch by them. But I think they are steadily getting better so hopefully this month will be a bit clearer. I've taken the plunge and decided to temp this month. I'm on day three. I reckon I'll be a bit of novice for a while but I hope it can give me reassurance that there was at least an egg there waiting!!

keys I was told by the hospital to test 2 weeks after the surgery. I did so on an IC and it was completely negative, which was a relief. I am now on CD30 (taking CD1 as surgery day) and I have had a positive opk the last couple of days, from CD28! I only had one cycle off the pill before getting my bfp but that was 33 days with ov on CD17. Your wtf cycle may be a normal length, but don't be concerned if it isn't. I know exactly how annoying it is not to be able to plan to be with DH around what you think will be your fertile time; we were going to sit our first cycle after mc out (this one) but then I found out I'd be away from home on & off for first 2.5 weeks of June and thought that would be when I would be ovulating. So when I finally did get this positive opk I decided to just give it a go. In the end though, I now expect my next fertile period will be at the end of June which will nicely coincide with our 2 week holiday

And I know exactly how you are feeling; I felt surprisingly ok the first few days but then about a week later it hit me that everyone was getting back to normal (including me) but I didn't want to be back to normal. I hope you will be able to feel more positive in a few days.

lion Welcome to the thread but so sorry you find yourself here.

Welcome mummy and lion ... I Too am sorry you find yourselves here.

Good luck pug ... Fingers crossed this is your month ... And if not ... How fun will your holiday be ... Perfect timing! I know what you mean about the getting back to normal ... I wasn't ready to either and you feel like people are over it so quick. Really, they're prob just trying to make us feel better :)

Fx for temping red ... Like you say to even give you reassurance will be a good feeling.

keys I hope you are ok, it's so tough going through this. I feel fine mostly but then I'll remember something or realise I don't need to plan for this or that anymore, if that makes sense. It's just so desperately disappointing!

Sorry for the others I've missed, Im still remembering names etc! Hope you lovelies are all doing ok.

Started spotting again on Sunday ... 9 days after d&c after thinking I'd stopped on Thursday. Bleurgh! I guess it's my hormones settling down ready for a bfn when I poas in Friday (told to wait 2 weeks). Just want it over with now!

On a plus, I've now booked myself onto a hen do that I was going to avoid due to expecting to be 6 Mths preg (not a pregnant person friendly hen do!) So at least that's something to look forward too ... And may attract the attention of Sod's law ;)

Gosh ... Mammoth post!

Thanks for the welcome everyone.

I've just done a clearblue preg test and still coming up at 5+ weeks pregnant. I'm worried I've perhaps got retained products as I was only 6 wks when the miscarriage happened 5 weeks ago. Has anyone else had this? I feel absolutely fine though.

At least I'm seeing the dr tomorrow so something else I can mention. I've got a big list going! Just want to get it all over with so I can try again.

Honey hope you can take it easy and it is nice to have things to look forward to.

honey Yes I'm sure Sod is keeping an eye on our social plans and will strike just when we're getting excited about something fun/alcohol-centric. Hope your spotting stops again soon.

lion That sounds like there must be a lot of hormones still whizzing around your body. Were you given a scan afterwards to check everything had gone? I was 7 weeks (baby measuring 6) when I mc at more or less the same time as you, but as above I had a negative test within 2 weeks. I hope your Dr can shed some light and get it sorted out so you can get back to ttc as soon as possible.

Fingers crossed pug ... If not I'll be having a bloody good knees up!

lion agree it's worth mentioning to doc, if to put your mind at ease at least. It's such a roller coaster isn't it!

keys this will be my 6th cycle post MC (not counting the wtf cycle). That's the first time I've properly counted how many-can't believe how long it is taking. In terms of fertile time, it's hard to predict-it was only by temping I discovered I ov late (cd17/18), so I think we missed the fertile time the first couple of cycles. Hope you are doing ok. It's an emotional roller coaster, I find that even now.

pug was it you saying about feeling sad that everyone was getting back to normal? I totally get that. Sometimes I feel upset that no-one ever talks about it to me, well I mean my mum and sister I guess. I'm sure they just don't want to upset me, but still....and then I feel like I don't want to talk about it anyway...ugh-I don't know what I want!

lion sorry you are here too. That does sound unusual about the 5+ weeks on the test. Definitely mention it to the doctor. was it you asking about vits? I've been taking regular prenatal vits but just recently added in extra B6 as worried about a short luteal phase. This was off my own back (Google research) and am not sure that I've done the right thing (time will tell!).

red I wouldn't worry too much about lack of Opk-I think they can be tricky and you can miss the surge. Hopefully temping will be useful. I wouldnt worry too much about it being exactly the right time, my charts are a bit rocky because of that but I can still see a shift.

honey - yes to invoking the law of sod! Hen do sounds fun anyway. We have an all inclusive holiday booked around my fertile time for next cycle. I'd happily forgo the alcohol if it meant getting pregnant now though. But if not, hopefully being on holiday will help the process!

drifting Yes that was me and what you said is exactly what I felt (feel?) too. It's like I want to say "hellloooo everyone, can we not forget that I was making a baby and it was going to be your child/grandchild/niece/nephew etc but don't even think of mentioning it because I'm pissed off that my body failed and I don't have a baby anymore and I don't know if/when I will again so leave me alone "

It's just so unfair, isn't it?

On a more positive note, where are you off on holiday?

Thanks so much guys for the lovely supportive response. It has hit me tbh hard last few days. I feel so tired today but at least the sun is shinning.

lion I dont want to upset you here so please excuses me if I have got it completely wrong. However if you had your mc in march/April and you havent really got a negative test is there any chance you have conceived again within that time frame and could be pregnant again without knowing it? The only reason I say that is it is very unusual (but not unheard of) that the pregnancy hormone goes down not up. I think you need to see your doctor to see whats going on because it would be so fantastic if where pg but if you were you need your vitamins. If not you need to find out why this is happening to you because obviously you want to try for another baby and with no pregnancy and the hormone still so strong you need to find out why your body is producing the hormone still. Big hugs hun this must be so confusing and upsetting for you.

drifting This is your 6th month? Have you been really trying hard to conceive again hun or was you in the mind frame let my body heal if it happens it happens? I try and talk to my mum about it all and how I feel but she says can we try and move on now so that threw me back a little. :(. Good luck for bfp this month how long have you got until you can take a test?
Where you to on your hols hun?

pug Thanks for lovely advice hun. It is hard you put on a brave face then bang lol. So your in your 2ww now? Im keeping everything crossed for you huni.

honey I have my SIL hen night july 25th and then my brothers wedding August 15th so I have two sod laws haha I also turn 30 in October my OH said lets plan something nice and if you fall we will cancel but is it wrong of me not wanting to plan anything just yet?

red Good luck this cycle huni lets hope it found your egg. I cant wait until were all near enough to test I love these forums I get so excited for other people. :)

I am going to try and relax this month and wait for AF and not try so hard. Then if it happens it happens if not then I get a chance to start over again on a more accurate cycle. Think I need to stop acting so desperate and take your advice. Thanks lovely ladies you have helped me so much last few days

pug yes that's it exactly-it's so unfair I could scream sometimes. We are off to Greece for a week-i cannot wait! It is at least timed well as it would be over my fertile time (if this cycle doesn't work!) so hopefully....

keys no we've been trying all that time..well not so much in the wtf cycle as my head was all over the place and it was Christmas etc. However, I think we were wearing ourselves out with too much dtd too early in the cycle initially (then giving up second half). I then realised I ov late and so pretty sure we weren't doing it at the right time. Now I dunno-think we haven't had the luck we need really. We are on a time limit-we have two kids already and so DH isn't prepared to try indefinitely, which I agree with-it becomes all consuming. At some point I will have to accept that this is our family (and on my good days I know that this will be ok and I am beyond lucky to have the kids I have-I am grateful). That's a really tough comment from your mum-she probably just doesn't know how to make it better. It's so early for you-the pain was so raw for me for a really long time, it's only recently that I can talk/write about it without crying. It gets a little bit better every day though.

CD8 here so just gearing up for the fun bit!

Just wanted to send to all you lovely ladies struggling.
Good luck for this cycle drifting, fx it's the one for you.

romeo congratulations! So pleased for you and what a lovely anniversary present!

mummy hi. This is my other bus too. Glad you have joined us. I wrote you a message on bumsnet but just to reiterate, every wild emotion you feel right now is part of a journey that is all too painfully familiar to all of us here and we are all here to hold your virtual hand and listen to your rants whenever you want.

lion welcome, sorry to hear of your loss. I hope the doctor can give you some answers re. the 5+ test....

I have had a lovely long weekend in Devon/Cornwall. Feeling a bit glum to be home and on CD5. After posting on Friday I got faint positives on 4 ics that night and the next morning but then AF arrived in the afternoon. I'm not sure if they were all weird evap lines, if I had a very very brief CP or if I just produce hcg without being pregnant. Very confusing....

romeo I noticed your on a thread I used to be on the ladies are so lovely in there. Can you let them know I said hi and hope their all ok and Amyyy's sickness has stopped for her. And as soon as I feel stronger I will post in there to see how they all are. Congratulations again hun.xx

drifting Oh wow losing a baby before xmas is heartbreaking losing a baby at anytime is hard but xmas thats so cruel :(. Me and OH wernt trying for last pregnancy we dtd once in March and late in cycle so I think I ovulate late as well. However now ive had the pregnancy and lost it I want another baby so bad you know. I can see you getting a positive soon dunno why just have a feeling hun. I hope you have a lovely holiday its coming round quickly for you :) sun sea and ;) sangria haha. I have 2 other children as well they get you through the tough times dont they. As much as my heart is breaking I also feel truly blessed I have two others and if it dont work out I will have to accept a family of 4 and not 5. But I feel so lucky to have them.

ibeka Oh thats so horrible you go the faint positives and then AF hit id be devastated. Your nearly back again to dtd and the 2ww will be here before you know it. Can you book another holiday away in August give you something to look forward to?

Well looks like there going to be lots of bums in the air over the next few weeks good luck lovely ladies.

I took my last pg test today completely negative now I am hoping thats a good sign right? :(!!! Hormones is all out my system so shouldn't have trouble getting AF at some point.

keys a negative test is good news, the hospital gave me an ultra sensitive one to use 2 weeks after medical management to check all was clear. Also from mc to af was 41 days, so only about a week longer than my usual cycle.

ibeka that must have been a real blow. I got a very faint line on an ic this morning, but am not getting my hopes up because I've now heard a couple of stories like yours. Good luck for this cycle.

At the suggestion of my rmc consultant I am now taking high dose folic acid as well as low dose aspirin - thought this might be of interest to some.

Hi,

I posted on the conception board and Marysprayer suggested I come to this board.

I had a miscarriage at week 12 (scan showed baby had stopped developing at week 9). natural miscarriage went on for 4 weeks, had retained products so had to have the surgical option. Waited for first period and am now TTC again.

Im feeling really excited about TTC again. If I do concieve again though will be cautious about telling people this time until 12 week scan.

Im 37 and my partner is 35. This will be our first child.

Best wishes to everyone on here.

temp 15 days after it is a good sign? I didnt want to phone the doctors I did worry a little thinking was it to early that the hormone had disappeared and something was wrong with my body.

Thats really interesting what you say about the folic acid and aspirin hey did say when I fall pg again the aspirin is something they will look into for me.

Most reliable hun its first response and clear blue digital. Not clearblue lines. With DD2 I got no lines with clear blue knew i was pg got a first response there were two lines faint but defo a line so went and got cb digital pregnant 1-2 weeks so one test was completely negative two were positive.

Omg hun im keeing everything crossed for you I really hope its a positive :). How many days past ov are you? How many days until you expect AF to arrive? Im so wishing you it positive xxx

Hi butterfly So sorry youve ended up here hun :( I know how you feel hun I lost my baby at 12 weeks stopped growing at 9. I still have not had a period yet was only 1 days ago so im waiting to get back to normal but also hoping I fall again soon. There is some great people on here with lots of knowledge hun so sorry for your loss hand holding with you as I know how you feel. I had d+c though straight away.

Good luck to getting a bfp very soon and enjoy trying ;).

What are your stats hun how far are you in to your cycle? I am 15days since d+c so waiting for ovulation to start for me however after d+c heard alot of stories of late ovulations so could be a very long 2ww for me plus hubby away 4th-9th June so hoping it dont happen then.

xxx

Well the gp was a litlle surprised that still coming up so strong on the clearblue preg test over 5 weeks after miscarriage. He was going to talk to the on call gyna person and call me to let me know but it may be that I have to go in for a scan.

Keys I can't be pregnant again as haven't dtd since the bleeding as really not in the mood as was waiting for af to arrive.

Arrgg just want to get on with trying but hey ho. Fingers crossed for everyone on this board.

*15 days ago sorry

lion I really hope it gets sorted for you soon huni. It be so confusing for you. xxx

Sorry hun could you of had twins and lost one of the twins it happens alot. or did you have a D/C xxx

keys I will do, Amyyy, guy and some of the others were on this thread before they got their BFPs - I'm sure you will be back on the grads thread in no time. A negative test is a big step forwards for you - I know it doesn't feel like that at the moment though.
temp keeping everything crossed for you - I will check back in for updates.
lion it took me 4.5 weeks to get a negative test after medical management but they were really faint for the last week or so. I would insist on a scan otherwise I can't see how they would know what is going on. If it is retained products it needs to be sorted ASAP (not being negative but don't want you to be ignored). Hope you get to the bottom of things soon.

Thank you all. I thought CP but was hoping it could not be... I don't feel too bad, just a but glum about it all. Anyway, only 11 days til a new ovulation...

temperamental I hope I didn't make you feel more anxious - apologies if so. All my fingers and toes are crossed for you.

keys that's good re. the negative. Now you know where you are and can get going again.

lion sorry it's such a confusing time for you... I hope the gynae has some answers for you.

Welcome, butterfly. Sorry to hear about your loss. FX it's not long before you're pregnant again.