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[juneybean]

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BFPs for everyone!

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I love parkrun Daisy my local one has a massive hill though, no chance of a good time.
My brother came first in his for the first time recently

Heir, please come back and tell us how your scan goes

Thanks Ibeka, I've been having cuddles with ds before bed which cheered me up
I think a trip to epu to get checked out is a good idea. Sorry you're having to go through this.

Sparkly, oh goodness I don't know what to say. I'm so very upset for you., life is so bloody unfair sometimes. Hang in there lovely and know that we are all here to support you when you need to talk. Sending a big hug xxx

Sparkly I am so sorry this is happening to you. I will be thinking of you, lovely. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

I really hope you get a proactive response from the fertility clinic. I wish I could offer you some comfort. If there is anything I can do to help, please let me know.

Ibeka did I miss an update from you are you ok?? Are you still getting positive tests? Sending

Marys oh I know I remember you saying and I said that my experience had been similar. I don't get it. I took my tests to the hospital too and they didn't want to see them?! How can they treat such a sensitive emotive situation like this? Don't get it. Hope you are feeling positive for moving forward lovely

Thanks Spins what can I do though? Just going to have to keep trying, however I have to say that after twice now I'm gonna really struggle with keeping confident . Once was hard enough to get past. But so many women go through worse and multiple times. I just need to pick myself up I think.

Pixa the only thing I ask is you get yourself a BFP that may do the trick? Agree?! Deal!

Pixa or lend me your Mr Grey? Joking . kinda shouldn't even joke really poor dh.. About ten minutes ago I had a complete meltdown of tears and the usual "I can't do this anymore" bla bla and he was so sweet, he said "if anyone can do this, you can. We can do this, you are the strongest woman I know"..he's so lovely. I'm lucky .

Sparkly, yes others do go through it and it's so sad. Purdeys right you need some answers and they have to accept that you've had these bfp's and that there is then something going wrong. They need to help you and if needs be your dh will have to take control and be firm with them.

Ah Sparkly, your dh is a wonderful husband, I'm a little bit in love with him myself. You've got a good one there!

Sparkly thinking of you

melon I love that dress

daisy I've looked again and again at my local park run but I've always been too scared to go. I peeked at the time sheet as they put on facebook after the run and I'm pretty sure I would be a good 20 mins behind their slowest runner!

ibeka I love Northumberland. I'm from near there originally but been living in the North West the last couple of years. DH is a southerner and originally he was pushing for London but now he is content with Liverpool/Manchester

Just a quick questions for all you knowledgeable ladies...as far as I'm aware the cb pee sticks show a smiley when ovulating. What I don't get is what does the cb fertility monitor do any why would it be of benefit?

Spinning that's the problem, I think I feel so intimidated by this stupid nurse, and it's not like dh can come to a phone call with me. He will be at work tomorrow. If I was going to see them it's different as he would back me up and id feel better. But I imagine it will be a quick fire phone call with her and that will be that. I'm worrying too much about her I know. It's just like Marys said, I felt so utterly disrespected that clinic app where they kinda just glossed over my pregnancy tests that it's really made me feel uncomfortable about it

Sparkly, if this nurse doesn't take you seriously tomorrow and listen to you and dismiss you then you must make a complaint and ask for a different nurse. It is not acceptable. If you don't feel up to doing this then could dh phone from work or after work?

Sparkly it sounds like you have a lovely and supportive DH. I am in absolute awe of you, your DH is completely right, you show such strength.

Purdie has said it more eloquently than I ever could about needing to get the fertility clinic into gear.

Alpha I kinda felt the CB fertility monitor is pretty much a two in one- the sticks and basically it charts for you. I didn't feel the need for it as I chart myself and from what I could tell the app does more or less what the monitor does and I use the sticks anyway so I felt id be better sticking to that

Sparkly could your DH help you to prepare for the phone call? Maybe take some time out to jot down some points and questions. I know it doesn't come close to having him.at your side, but that way you'll have a (DH supported) prompt with you?

Oh sparkly. good luck tomorrow, we'll be thinking of you. Xxxx

Spins and Pixa thanks for being so nice. The thing is I think it's common NHS practice re two mc or chemicals .. You have to have three for them to do anything you see. So I guess she is just sticking to those rules which I suppose I need to understand. Urgh I don't know I'm so confused by it all.

Yes good idea Pixa I'll go through it with him later. He isn't exactly as clued up on TTC as me.. Obviously.. Ha.. There is no dadsnet!.. But sure he will go through it with me anyway. Thank you

Oh and my letter was in the fridge under the ham Not sure it's safe for me to have another baby!!

Spinning how the eck did it get in there?!?! Moment of madness?! Ha ha

Sparkly I am so so sorry this is happening to you, I am almost sure this as Kerry says is down to your progesterone lowering, You have every right to feel emotional but I know this might not sound positive but least this proves that you can get pregnant we just need you to get the help you need to keep pregnant, demand that you want answers and if the nurse dismisses you, write a formal complaint , you need this sorting, you will get your baby, dont loose hope, its going to happen!!

I have my doctors appointment tomorrow, i am going to mention about the spotting, oh thinks i should act daft and ask why i am spotting rather than go in and tell her what i think, I think my plan of action is to tell her i am spotting and tell her I'm sure that is why i am not getting pregnant and ask what i need to do next and then if she says it will be fine il tell her i feel that my progesterone is lowering and that is taking my lining away ,

Oh sorry Nomio totally forgot you had app Tomor. How you feeling about it? I think your plan of action is better! If you appear clueless they will think they can fob you off and you won't get answers.
Thanks, I know.. I am trying to focus on fact I must be quite fertile given I conceived twice without months and months of trying, it's just the keeping it in there. The progesterone seems the most obvious to me. But there's no tests that prove that to them which is the hurdle I need to get over.

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Why did I write Nomio ?!? Sorry Rainy !!!

Rainy, good luck tomorrow. Your plan sounds good, I always forget to ask things, have you written your questions down? I hope you get some answers you're happy with.

Ooh it's time for Poldark

Sparkly I am dreading going tomorrow, makes it all the more real but it has to be done, I might mention to her that my friend has the same problem as me but has got pregnant twice and then miscarries and see what she says, to see if i can give you any advice x