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Bring along any luck you can find ..This BESHly fred is brought to you by the magic number 3 - come on Hags, we can Foo it!

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Blue2014 · 06/03/2015 12:41

You know the drill by now ...

Rules of Entry - must be over 30, TTC no. 1 for over a year, be suitably evil and Hag like, willing to shout Cunt at the moon on regular occasions, consume extra gin when our fellow hags are unable to, and to get the nipple tassles out for any successful Hag ...

and now we've been trained by the government in our new MI5 roles, we are likely to get a little Ninja on your ass if you babydust round here ...

No admittance without a complete BESHtionnaire - see below.

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barkingtreefrog · 21/04/2015 08:25

Can I just say the royal baby can fuck right off, and I couldn't give a shit whether it's a prince or a princess? Angry

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Blue2014 · 21/04/2015 09:13

I'll be back later to catch up properly but can I join in with the royal baby fucking off? "A crowd has gathered outside the hospital where she will give birth" seriously?!!!

When I give birth, that's bloody news worthy stuff, 3 years + of TTC deserves an audience. If not, then piss of!

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EricaJ · 21/04/2015 10:45

Welcome back Tink!

Rain Your relaxed shaggage holiday sounds great!

Blue I'm with you! Try TTC-in for 3 years and then tell me how speshial your birthing and baby are, love!

TheRainDrops · 21/04/2015 13:26

so true! Am doing remarkably well at avoiding royal baby news. it can most definitely JTFO.

on a deserted midday train home from work to get to dildocam appointment - deserted except for the ginormous pregnant woman who's just sat opposite me. Angry

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Blue2014 · 21/04/2015 13:36

Yep, those bumped up women are everywhere today (is it bad that my first instinct is now to yell "will you fuck off out of my face!!" And shove them out of the way?)

Hope dildocam goes well, seems like there is a lot of shoving things in foofs for our Hags this week!

Oh and welcome back Tink Smile

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Blue2014 · 21/04/2015 13:39

Hope the appointment went/goes ok barking

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TheRainDrops · 21/04/2015 14:21

somehow managed to totally miss barking's post - hope this afternoon goes alright hag.

barkingtreefrog · 21/04/2015 18:30

Appointment was yesterday morning. Everything went well, blah blah... Can't even be bothered going into it all. Outcome was basically more tests, more waiting. Arse. And in the meantime it's a fucking beautiful evening and I can't get on the bike as I've hurt my back and need to see a physio tomorrow instead Sad Angry. Usual problem, ttc gets in the way of exercise, I get excited when I can get back into it, over do it and then break myself. It would help if it was pissing it down.....

Fabuluce · 21/04/2015 21:17

Anything to do with Kate and that blimmin baby does my head in - stupid bloody people waiting outside the hospital - WTAF?? Who cares???

Good luck on all the dildo cammage this week Hags - you'll soon get used to it and hopefully it will all be for very good reasons. Smile

Hags I have some good news - we had our 12 week scan today and all was bloody brilliant. We had the results of all the tests and the chances of chromosomal abnormalities are less than 1:10,00. Massive sigh of relief. I think this shit has finally got real.

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Blue2014 · 21/04/2015 21:35

Oh congrats Fab! That's brilliant news GrinThanks

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TheRainDrops · 22/04/2015 07:22

woohooooooooo fab!!! . About bloody time one of us got good news!!! Grin Grin You're a proper Fred grad now!! Grin

EricaJ · 22/04/2015 09:41

Whooop Fab! So happy for you, hag!! Cake for you, Wine for me! Grin

TheRainDrops · 22/04/2015 10:53

My spidey-sense hasn't let me down - suspicious colleague #1 has just baby bombed me, complete with scan photo. Just glad I won't be in the office when it gets announced to everyone on Friday. Sad

EricaJ · 22/04/2015 11:01

I am sorry Rain. Today, my own 'suspected of being preggers' colleague mentioned that she has a hangover and I must admit, I felt relieved. Which makes me a pretty horrible person because she once drunkenly confessed to having been trying for a while...

Does anyone else spot anti-symptoms? I am having creamy cm, which I do post ov every month so I concluded that if I had got pregnant, my cm would be different so I should expect a BFN next week.

I think I'm trying to shield myself against yet another disappointment. As fucking if...

badb · 22/04/2015 11:21

Yay, fab! Brilliant news.

I got a flashing smily face on the CB thing today, which is a little earlier than expected. Annoying, because the doc told us not to make with the secsing till post-HSG spotting had abated. It's still there, a bit. Gah! We'll have to go for it tonight anyway. The absolute joys of ttc.

Sorry to hear about the preggers colleague, rain. I don't understand this scan-showing business. Apart from lack of awareness of other people's feelings, who really is interested in that anyway, outside of family and maybe (at a push) close friends. Lots of my friends put their scan photos on FB. I don't get it.

Erica, I anti-symptom spot too. Mainly using temperature patterns though, which is pointless for me really because my temps are completely erratic. I don't even know why I bother tracking it, sometimes. I could never figure out the cm.

barking, I hope you're feeling better.

Fabuluce · 22/04/2015 15:49

Thank you all Hags Smile I truly am still amazed this is really happening to me after over 4 years of trying. I couldn't have done it without the support of you wonderful people.

I will be announcing on t'other place but being that I'm out and proud about it all I'm doing it because I want to put it out there that this is a much wanted and tried for IVF baby and not a smug 'hell I just fell on TWH's cock and look what happened' differ. And to hopefully give a little hope to those who may be suffering in silence and encourage people to say it's ok to talk about these things.

And in closing, just to prove I'm a proper ESH just this: www.thepoke.co.uk/2015/04/22/royal-baby-checklist/[grin][grin][grin]

CaveMum · 22/04/2015 19:59

Hurrah for good scanage Fab, glad you've seen the wriggly fablet!

TheRainDrops · 22/04/2015 21:02

don't you just love it when your iPod reads your mood perfectly? on my way home feeling decidedly glum about colleague differ and got Please, Please, Please Let Me Get What I Want by The Smiths, followed by Big Girls Don't Cry by Franki Valli (which at least made me laugh!).
it's just the thought of having six months of her being around and preg (she's a close peer in terms of seniority, so I can't avoid her!) while simultaneously going through IVF. it's just fucking typical isn't it!!!

go you fab, set everyone straight. I will do the exact same when I get my win (must maintain positive mental attitude....)

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Blue2014 · 22/04/2015 23:25

Oh im so lucky I don't work that closely with anyone likely to get diffed, sorry to hear it Rain

Bad - damn that stupidly timed smiley face. This all sucks, hey?

Erica - I don't anti symptom spot but I do a lot of "of course your boobs are sore when you squeeze them that hard, you aren't pregnant stupid!" But I've mostly done a really good job of not focussing on it lately

Fab - well done on being out and proud, I went to a wedding last year where they announced an ivf win as part of the wedding speech

Well, shit just got real for me, got my choose and book a clinic letter for ivf today. Problem is my clinic of choice isn't on it! Anyone had experience of convincing commissioners to fund a different clinic?

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Blue2014 · 23/04/2015 13:35

hags, someone help me make a decision

  1. Option to book an appointment for treatment in soon (although I don't know how long waiting lists are from first appointment) at a clinic offered to me
  2. Delay the process by either weeks or more by requesting my funding is transferred to the private clinic of my choice.
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EricaJ · 23/04/2015 14:25

Hi Blue,

Depending on what you are basing your choice... if it was that they have a fantastic success rate, I may consider delaying.

But I would have to have some BIG reasons to consider delaying because I am really impatient (not a good thing, I admit)

EricaJ · 23/04/2015 14:37

Note to Erica - try and remember how to write in English! Jeez. Grammar. Hope what I meant came across though.

TheRainDrops · 23/04/2015 15:47

blue are the options they've offered one's you've already reviewed and ruled out? I'd be tempted to at least call your doc to find out how long it might take to get funding transferred or if it's actually possible (could well be wrong here but I'm assuming private clinics might not want nhs referrals?)

had a rare day at home today to catch up on some big looming deadlines and have procrastinated all day and basically achieved nothing. argh.

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Blue2014 · 23/04/2015 20:06

Ah I wrote out a long message and it deleted!

So in summary...
The private clinic do take nhs referrals and have taken from my area. I might have to fight long and hard for it but I think I would get it in end but time is not on my side. I move out of area in 8 weeks to a different trust who offer one rather than my current 3 cycles. Private clinic is (according to them) the best in the area (I will out myself now and say I'm in manchester - just in case anyone had recommendations) but they are the only one I can really find info on. Most of the clinics I've been offered don't seem to be on the hfea website and I don't know how else to research them. Could you wise hags tell me how it's done? According to my letter I need to pick a clinic in the next 5 days!

I also getting far to ahead of myself don't really understand what the nhs do with Frozen embies if I get any. I would like 2 children and would ideally like to use frosties for the second child (I do know this isn't that likely but it case it is) - I assume the nhs won't keep frosties after a successful pregnancy?

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FizzyFeet · 23/04/2015 20:27

Hola hags - sorry, have been AWOL due to work madness.

blue no idea about the referring to different clinics, or why some don't appear on the hfea website. Sounds odd. Re frosties - at my clinic they hold them for a year, and after that you pay a storage charge (£200 iirc). Not sure if there is a cap on the number of years. We get one funded round, so for any subsequent use of frosties you would need to pay for the drugs and the procedures.

I had a good scan today! Lining is 6.2mm, so not amazing, but given that my worst ever at this stage of proceedings was 3.7 I'm pretty chuffed. And the quality looked good too. The clinic have a meeting tomorrow to review scans and bloods, then we might be defrosting next week. Phone call tomorrow is due in the middle of a yawnsome training course - not sure how I'm going to be able to concentrate!