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Bring along any luck you can find ..This BESHly fred is brought to you by the magic number 3 - come on Hags, we can Foo it!

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Blue2014 · 06/03/2015 12:41

You know the drill by now ...

Rules of Entry - must be over 30, TTC no. 1 for over a year, be suitably evil and Hag like, willing to shout Cunt at the moon on regular occasions, consume extra gin when our fellow hags are unable to, and to get the nipple tassles out for any successful Hag ...

and now we've been trained by the government in our new MI5 roles, we are likely to get a little Ninja on your ass if you babydust round here ...

No admittance without a complete BESHtionnaire - see below.

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barkingtreefrog · 06/04/2015 04:36

It didn't work.

barkingtreefrog · 06/04/2015 04:36

Really hope it's better news for you Chez

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Blue2014 · 06/04/2015 04:50

Barking - does that mean you've tested?

And I'm sorry to be annoyingly naive on this but is there any chance it would help to wait a few more days?

If not I'm really sorry to hear it sweets hag many hugs arm punches to you right now

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barkingtreefrog · 06/04/2015 05:03

blue I've tested, and I've used two different brands, both of which gave me a bfp two/three days earlier in my iui bfp. I'd rather not aim for false hope right now. Blood test results this afternoon will confirm it.
Feeling lost. It's hit DCW particularly hard, he really thought this would work. In the last couple of days I really haven't.

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Blue2014 · 06/04/2015 05:12

Ah then I'm really sorry to hear it, and for DCW too. It's such a horrible time for you both and so fucking unfair. I'm sorry you are having to deal with this shit

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EricaJ · 06/04/2015 05:31

Barking I am so sorry, hag. And dissapointed and angry for you. Sending you hugs, we are all here for you.

Fabuluce · 06/04/2015 07:05

Oh Barking I'm so utterly gutted for you and DCW. It's just so fucking unfair.

cherrycoconut · 06/04/2015 07:31

BFN for us as well Barking. I'm so sorry it didn't work out for you.

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barkingtreefrog · 06/04/2015 07:48

Oh, cherry, not you as well Sad.
This fucking stinks. You'd have thought at least one of us could have caught a break Angry.
Currently queuing at the clinic. I think the first order of the day is to go back to bed, neither of us slept last night. I think weary is the word I'd go for. And really not looking forward to the progesterone crash Sad.

cherrycoconut · 06/04/2015 08:04

It's the hormone crash I'm dreading Barking. Wondering how I'm going to get through this week at work quite frankly.

EricaJ · 06/04/2015 08:07

Oh no Chez, life is so fucking unfair. Thinking of you and Barking.

I know it doesn't compare AT ALL, not remotely but the droid got me yesterday and I was gutted, I imagine you guys must be feeling a million times worse...

Easter 2015 sucks.

TheRainDrops · 06/04/2015 08:45

no words cherry and barking, absolutely gutted for both of you. Fuck this fucking shit. Sad

Fabuluce · 06/04/2015 08:51

Fuck, fuck, fuck it's just so fucking unfair ConfusedHmmConfusedHmm. Words fail me. UnBESHly hugs for you both Hags. It just feels so cruel.

MissHobart · 06/04/2015 08:58

Sad Sad Sad Angry Angry Angry

fuck fuck fuck, I'm so sorry, so fucking shit Sad Lots of hugs from me, wail away, that's what I did Sad

TheOriginalWinkly · 06/04/2015 09:08

Fucking hell, I'm so sorry. It's just totally and utterly fucking unfair :(

FrankelandFilly · 06/04/2015 09:39

I'm so sorry cherry and barking, it's is just utterly, utterly unfair.

cherry can you get signed off for a few days/the week?

Gin and hugs all round.

Tinkfromlovejoy · 06/04/2015 09:46

cherry and barking I'm so so sorry. How totally fucking awful for you both. Sad

barkingtreefrog · 06/04/2015 10:09

I'm so fucking angry. What the fuck else could I have done? Why did I put myself through all that shit?

And all I can hear is the four kids next door, two of whom were born since we started ttc Angry.
And what seems worse is that this was supposed to be the cut off. This is all the help we get, it's the end of the road. Only there's that frostie... But at the moment that is giving me no hope at all. All it means is that we can't fuck off abroad as we planned to do if it failed. By the time that has gone in and the result is known it will be too late for DCW to hand in his notice. But there's no point in him handing in his notice anyway, as if by some miracle it did work I wouldn't want to be moving abroad whilst pregnant Angry Angry. Ttc fucks up yet more of my life.
I just want it all to stop. I've had enough. Every other fucker has a bloody kid, why can't I have one??
I just want to get on my bike and ride for miles but I've been awake since 3am and despite going straight back to bed after the clinic I've failed to get any sleep. So I feel like shit as well.
Just Angry Angry Angry Angry Angry Angry Angry.

chez I don't know how I'm going to cope with hormone crash + work. I'm in charge of the bloody office this week as well, the rest of the management team are all out of the office or on holiday. Hopefully being busy will distract me. Got to hold it together....

I've got the standard 'I'm sorry' text from my mother. I imagine that's pretty much all the support I can expect from that direction.

cherrycoconut · 06/04/2015 10:38

I get it Barking it's totally shit, please rage away. I just feel flat and numb. Our FC is shut today but I want to stop the drucks ASAP to get this over with. That should be fine right?

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Blue2014 · 06/04/2015 11:25

Chez, I'm so sorry. I really wanted this for you both. It's so unfair

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Blue2014 · 06/04/2015 11:26

Chez, I'm so sorry. I really wanted this for you both. It's so unfair

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barkingtreefrog · 06/04/2015 12:28

I didn't do the bum bullet this morning chez, I'm already worried about the hormone crash and I've previously been on 200 for the iui not 400, please tell me I won't be twice as mental? Confused

badb · 06/04/2015 13:43

cherry, barking - my heart goes out to you both. I'm so sorry - this is fucking unfair.

barkingtreefrog · 06/04/2015 13:44

Just spoken to the clinic. Confirmed it failed. Nurse said we'd have to wait a couple of cycles for my body to recover before doing a frozen cycle. More waiting. That'll take us over 3.5 years. I said we wanted to see the consultant first before blindly trying again. If he won't test for nk cells and do a scratch (this is what he mentioned could happen in this situation last time we saw him, on the basis of two mc's plus one failed iui and a failed ivf) I'll look into doing it privately before the frozen cycle.
DCW is not taking it well. He's usually the strong one Sad. I know we will get through this, but right now I feel lost. And angry. And overwhelming sad. And that's before the progesterone crash kicks in.
A tiny part of me thought the nurse was going to tell me I was pregnant Sad.