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23 year old single and have been thinking about having a baby

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Tannedbarbie1 · 20/02/2015 03:27

Hey girlies,

So I'm 23 years old 24 in may! And I've been thinking about having a child for the past 6 months, i would love to be a mother and have a beautiful baby. But I'm single so don't know if it's the right move. Financially I can definitely do it I work from home so no worries there, but the responsibility does scare me! Most my friends are having babies now and I'd love one, but im single. Alot of my friends have supportive family, i don't really have a big family at all, i only live with my mum and I live miles from the rest of my family. But I know I can do it. If anyone has had these feelings let me know, I get the feeling I wont meet a guy and il leave it to Late

Xxx

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FiftyShadesOfGreen4205 · 22/02/2015 07:07

Why is anyone even entertaining the intelligence vortex that is brooki?

And I don't believe for one second that the OP was seriously considering having a baby.
Oh I really wanna baby
Ten strangers on the internet say don't do it yet, it's pretty tough.
Oh ok, I won't then.

Hmm

The whole thread is a waste of time.

Arsenic · 22/02/2015 07:32

It was a record breakingly fast capitulation, wasn't it?

sizethree · 22/02/2015 07:42

I'm hoping she may pop back up today with some other gems of knowledge.
I'll get the popcorn ready.

munchkinmaster · 22/02/2015 08:04

Well my bladder caught to my whom and I'm only 17. This bizarre medical anomaly can happen to anyone!

temporaryusername · 22/02/2015 08:28

FiftyShades

I think that is a very good summary of things Grin.

MyCrazyLife · 22/02/2015 08:42

Oh dear. Brooki for gods sake, don't make the stereotype worse!

Barbie -

I had my three children young (I was 19, 21 and 23).

I got pregnant easily, had pretty easy pregnancies, gave birth easily, breastfed easily, got my body back quickly, and have the energy to look after them all. Usually!

BUT. I'm 26 this year, and oh my god, the difference! Apparently the frontal cortex isn't fully developed until 25. This helps to control emotions etc. for me, it's absolutely true.

When I was 19/21/23, I had no fucking idea who I was, I tried to be someone else. I was jealous when others had babies, and wanted one. I chose a twat of a father for my first child, and I regret that. I dropped out of uni twice to have babies, and now can't go back as I have no funding left. I developed anxiety and god knows what else. I rented a horrible damp flat with my first baby and lived on benefits.

But now I feel like I've come through all that. I'm a confident, mature, strong young woman. I'm married to a lovely man and we have a beautiful house that we have the money to slowly decorate. Ironically, after three children I think I'm done childbearing but I think that only now, at almost 26, I'm just about ready to have children.

Your 20s are for finding out who you are. It's bloody hard to do that when you've got children!

FiftyShadesOfGreen4205 · 22/02/2015 11:06

Arsenic, quite. Wink

Now, anyone else have any life changing plans they want to run by us?

Enormouse · 22/02/2015 11:56

I've put ordered the book of Logan's run off Amazon. Mumsnet is probably the only forum that sets homework.

mycrazy are you me? I went through similar experiences in my early twenties.

I assumed that the op and brooki were the same person.

Tannedbarbie1 · 22/02/2015 17:11

Wow there are some real judgmental women on here! I just wanted advice on having children, and no I'm not the same person as brooki, even though I'm 23 I feel like I'm ready but I should live my life first, maybe I'm just being selfish about wanting them now

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MyCrazyLife · 22/02/2015 18:16

Enormouse - ooh interesting! I rarely meet someone like me, hence "MyCrazyLife" :)

jellypi3 · 23/02/2015 09:32

Barbie I personally think you should wait. I am a similar age to you (24) and am TTC my first, but I'm also engaged to my DP I have been with for 6 years, we own a house together and have jobs in the city. I don't believe the whole "live you life" thing, because for me I've never wanted to go travelling or go out partying etc. But I do think you need to focus on meeting the right person before jumping headfirst into having children.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

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