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23 year old single and have been thinking about having a baby

136 replies

Tannedbarbie1 · 20/02/2015 03:27

Hey girlies,

So I'm 23 years old 24 in may! And I've been thinking about having a child for the past 6 months, i would love to be a mother and have a beautiful baby. But I'm single so don't know if it's the right move. Financially I can definitely do it I work from home so no worries there, but the responsibility does scare me! Most my friends are having babies now and I'd love one, but im single. Alot of my friends have supportive family, i don't really have a big family at all, i only live with my mum and I live miles from the rest of my family. But I know I can do it. If anyone has had these feelings let me know, I get the feeling I wont meet a guy and il leave it to Late

Xxx

OP posts:
Brooki25 · 21/02/2015 22:11

I love being a young mum. And I think I just have my reasons why I think being an old mum is selfish

TerryTheGreenHorse · 21/02/2015 22:13

Don't be so daft, people can be selfish and DIE at any age.

Focusfocus · 21/02/2015 22:13

Brookie,

Sod. Off.

Brooki25 · 21/02/2015 22:14

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TerryTheGreenHorse · 21/02/2015 22:14

Well I didn't actually say that so you obviously didn't read it hard enough dear.

Why don't you have another flick through.

Arsenic · 21/02/2015 22:14

And I think I just have my reasons why I think being an old mum is selfish

Rightiho dear.

There are many pluses and minuses to both sides. You are just presenting as a big fat minus.

brickiemum2 · 21/02/2015 22:15

Firstly the op asked for opinions and advice, just because you don't agree with it doesn't make it dickhead advice.
Secondly, if you find yourself in a hole...stop digging. It's good advice and a lesson you clearly need to learn.

Brooki25 · 21/02/2015 22:16

Yes but realistically having a child at 40 makes you unlikely to see grandchildren, if your own children follow suit

Notrevealingmyidentity · 21/02/2015 22:16

Well you are either
a. stupid or
B. on the wind up

for saying being an older mother is selfish. Pick which one.

And the fact you think an older mother is 29. Rather unfortunately younger people die too not just those over 30 Hmm

zinher · 21/02/2015 22:17

I would advise to spend time with your cousin. It would give her parents a break too :)

Notrevealingmyidentity · 21/02/2015 22:18

I'm not really sure what seeing your grandchildren has to do with it. Plenty of people choose not to have children... Even if you have your child young it's not a guarantee of grandchildren.

How bizarre.

Focusfocus · 21/02/2015 22:18

Brookie, your post at 22:14:15 has been reported. Where do I even begin.

TerryTheGreenHorse · 21/02/2015 22:18

I'm going with A.

Everyone was perfectly ok to the OP on this thread. No one started being unkind about younger mothers, by that I am assuming we are going for early twenties.

You are the one starting with the nonsense.

Arsenic · 21/02/2015 22:20

Brooki you are presenting a wonderful argument for why dim people shouldn't have children? Did you realise?

Run along and play with your puppets, there's a dear.

Arsenic · 21/02/2015 22:25

TBH I thought some people had been sneery about younger mothers.

But all the advice to the OP for her to wait in her circs was good.

Women have a 20+ year window in which to procreate. This 'two camp' situation is false and faintly silly IMVHO, since competence and preparedness for parenthood is an individual thing.

I wish we could all drop it.

TerryTheGreenHorse · 21/02/2015 22:34

Oo a camp let me in for a Brew

I'm not sleeping in a tent though dear, not at my age. Grin

Brooki25 · 21/02/2015 22:37

A bit more than sneery!

So I'm dim, unpleasant, stupid and nasty? Because you don't like my opinion, after what some of you lot said about young mothers & needing a perfect dad for said child.
Wow!
I don't care what any of you think of me, I just told the young woman what I thought.

It seems like a lot of bitterness on this site. Ironically I only became a member for advice on the morning after and stumbled across this thread.

Thankfully I did, as I think you lot have forgot what a discussion is (without insulting)

Two side to every coin.

Original poster
Tannedbarbie1 · 21/02/2015 22:39

I don't think age matters when becoming a mother! Being younger or older does not make you a better mother. But as I've read it's alot easier on your body younger as it's been proven, but that doesn't mean older mum's can't handle it because they can, but I've always wanted kids younger because id like to be very active with my kids and be around when they had kids, I'm not saying younger is better but it is easier on the body. Age has nothing to do with being a good mother.

OP posts:
TerryTheGreenHorse · 21/02/2015 22:45

Gosh Brooki I wonder why people didn't like your posts.

It's nothing to do with your age and everything to do with your rude ill formed opinions.

Notrevealingmyidentity · 21/02/2015 22:46

brook you are most certainly coming across as stupid and nasty. I have no opinion on young vs old mothers but even I can see your "opinion" that older mothers are selfish is a load of rubbish.

Enormouse · 21/02/2015 22:47

Jesus Christ, a lot's happened since I last posted.

I thought the mums with more life experience (don't want to be ageist here) have been lovely, fair and balanced. And have offered sound advice.

You otoh brooki have not. And your posts about older mums (at 29 ffs!) are bonkers and misinformed. And offensive.

Brooki25 · 21/02/2015 22:48

Me rude.... Pot kettle lv

Do you have any knowledge on the morning after pill, how effective it is ect? If not I really don't want to continue this friendly chat with you Smile

TerryTheGreenHorse · 21/02/2015 22:48

She is probably just trying to pick a fight. Luckily no normal person gives a shiny shit what age other people decide is right for them to have children.

TerryTheGreenHorse · 21/02/2015 22:49

Teenager? Nicked your mums ipad?

Notrevealingmyidentity · 21/02/2015 22:50

Mage must be. I refuse to believe people can be that ignorant.