April TTC girls! Lots of babies being born! And the rest of us are gonna grab those BFP's!

[Cupcake92]

Thought id start a new thread girls before the old one gets maxed out! :) let this be the thread where we all get out BFP's and babies!! :)

Oh no Cupcake sorry about your ms
Yes, I'll book for one with my 6 wk check.
It is a bit scary when the results come back abnormal Ducky but it doesn't necessarily mean there are any cancerous cells.
I'm feeling rather underwhelmed with DP at the moment. I feel like he's being a bit childish about some aspects of becoming a dad. I really wanted to get an amawrap sling because they've got such great reviews but he said he'd look stupid wearing it because it's not manly enough (didn't care that that style is supposed to be more comfortable for baby!) so we ended up getting a baby bjorn which hasn't got nearly such good reviews but which he insisted on because it's black and has straps etc. he's so obsessed with what people think of him, it's so childish I think
He also told me yesterday that he wished it was the 50s where men aren't expected to be at the labour and birth and that he doesn't believe any man genuinely wants to be there and if they do they're "mad" and he's only going to be there because it's "expected" of him and he doesn't want anyone to think badly of him so that's why he'll be there, didn't even mention supporting me or being there at the birth of our first child etc
I was really nice to him about it at the time but now I'm starting to think that actually he's a bit of a baby and quite selfish and immature...

Oh lil, sorry about dp when I was pg with dd h said he didn't want to be there (this was before we found out she had passed) so I said fine, I was just going with my mom, but then everything happened and when I went hosp I didn't know I was in labor so he came, he said from the start that he wanted to be there when I had ds, then one night we went out and he said something similar to what your dp said so I said your not coming then, he then begged to come and admitted he'd only said it cus his friends were around

I think men can be v childish when it comes to this stuff, I got a sling but h said he would never wear it but that's fine with me I love it

Lilla I don't think they have a clue really, men. DH always wanted to be at the birth and read up on it but he had no idea.

He complained I was hurting his hand by squeezing it too hard.

When I was pushing, he said ' I could see him but you've sucked him back up Lu'.

When DS was born, he said 'He's covered in gunky stuff, is that right?', then whispered to me 'He's got really big balls Lu'.
The midwife told him it was because of my female hormones affecting a baby boy and that they go down in the first few days/weeks. He looked disappointed, I think he thought it was to do with him.

He was great and really supportive but he didn't have a clue. At one point, after he got over the initial panic about being at the hospital, and we were in the delivery auite and settled ad I was walking aound alot, he asked if I wanted to 'do a quiz' he'd found on his ipad to see who had the best historical knowledge. I was about 7 cms by then and told him to bog off.
He had a snooze not long after that and when he woke up said 'I needed that, it's been a long night'. You don't say DH!

He also offered me a ham sandwich when I was fully dilated- as he sorted through his picnic bag. I am a vegetarian.

Hahaha Lulu that made me laugh!!
I think I should have just chosen a sling for myself to wear Ducky, he'll be at work a lot anyway.
It seems a silly thing to be annoyed about, but it just feels a bit like he's been quite childish in a lot of ways recently, including about the birth and it's kind of putting me off him a bit I read a thread on mn last night that was asking should partners be banned from the delivery room as some studies had shown that it can make labour longer, and nearly every woman who'd commented on it was saying how amazing their partner had been at the birth and how strong/supportive/involved etc and I just thought, bloody hell, there are clearly lots of sensitive, wonderful men out there who really want to be involved etc (bearing in mind my DP not only doesn't actually want to be there for any other reason than what other ppl will think of him if he's not, but reeeeally also doesn't want to see any of the 'action' and wants to stay at 'the head end' and also won't cut the cord because he's squeamish) and why am I with such a childish big girl's blouse? I think I'm learning so much more about him around now that I wish I'd known before, and he really isn't the type of guy I imagined I'd have a baby with

Oh, that post was me btw!! I changed my name to do a thread on AIBU re the sling issue and forgot to change it back!!

Haha lulu

Lil my h wouldn't cut the cord either! My mom did it. I'm happier with that will you be taking any one else? Dm? I found that helped

Yes, DM's happy to come along and take over from DP halfway through so he can go and have some sandwiches and chill out for a bit.
Who knows though, it might all be over very quickly (fx!!!)

That was me again obvs
Damn baby brain!
I'm totally knackered today! I actually slept quite well for a change until about 7 and then I got up, had some cereal and a cuppa then went back to bed until 12:30! And I still don't feel like I've woken up properly I think I'm going to have to go back to bed again. It's really weird. I'm having some friends over this eve too so I need to recover before then!

Lilla, I don't know if you remember. but in the weeks up to me having DS I was incredibly off DH. He drove me mad, upset me, I doubted wanting him anywhere near me ever again and half- decided I wasn't having him at the birth.

The midwife said lots of women get like this. She said you don't want anyone near the baby because it is you and the baby and that you just form this little pod. Unfirtunately, DH /DP gets pushed out of your little pod and you question everything about them. It doesn't happen to everyone but it isn't uncommon.

I have never doubted wanting to be with DH but I did for about a month before DS was born. I was pretty awful to him. I would have liked him to go to another planet. It disappeared about a week before he arrived and I feel really bad about it now.

Maybe you are going through that stage.

Lulu that was funny labour story bless ur DH!

Lill my H didn't cut the cord either as he was too afraid to come into the theatre for my csection but they asked my mom to do it so she did and she was so over the moon for the opportunity :)
Tho H actually wanted to be at the birth he looked forward to it. But he expected the natural way to give birth and seeing the babies head etc.. So he paniced when surgery was mentioned.
I have discussed this baby with him and the birth and scans etc. he said he wants to come to scans and be there for the birth. I've not decided yet what will happen but I'll get to that nearer the time lol.
I'm determined to have a Vbac so need to concentrate! :p

It's nice you want him there at the birth cupcake - you guys must be getting on a bit better?
Yes Lulu, I was actually thinking earlier about how you were about your DH before you had DS and wondering if it's a common thing. I'm relieved that it is!

Oh sorry cupcake, I think you meant you hadn't decided yet? There was an interesting OBEM on the other night where the couple had split up but the exH was there. It seemed like they were good friends still though... I suppose you'll have to wait and see

Yeah Lill he wants to be there but I've not decided if I should have him there or not. I think it'll depend on how he's behaving at the time. And I saw that OBEM :) I'd like to have that relationship with him for the kids as itd be so nice for them

Maybe see how it goes cupcake, it would be nice if you could get on but he might make that difficult.

Any baby siarie?

I'm feeling a bit sorry for myself ATM ended up in hospital last night, couldn't walk and my leg is the size of a tree trunk. Turns out I have an infected tattoo on my leg can't move much, have to hop everywhere. Stairs are nearly impossible and all my trousers are skinny jeans so I'm stuck in my pajamas. Have to go and pick up another prescription in a min with my jimjams on they're not even 'are they aren't they' pajamas. They're in your face pajamas

What makes it better is my foot is swollen too so I can just slip one of the ballet pump shoes on over my foot. I look a right mess

No baby yet, I've got an appointment today with the midwife so hoping I can get him/her to examine me.

I also want to check that my blood test for OC that I had was liver function and bile as apparently not everywhere tests for both and one can be elevated while the other not. The itching is driving me crazy and anti histamines don't seem to help. They make me sleepy and that's all they do really, I was up most of last night itching my skin raw.

Oh no Ducky ad Siarie, what horrible symptoms! I hope you both get better very soon

Ouch Ducky, how recent was that tattoo?

lil, I had the babybjorn sling for DD, it was good for the first 5 months or so but then she outgrew it. I also had a long wrap but never really got on with it - was scared I hadn t tied it properly and she would fall out! This time I have an Ergo which is great so far!

I had it Friday

Did you sort the sling situation lil? Mine was cheap it was £16 off e bay, it's not a big brand one it's just a long black thing that you tie up but I think ds is a little big for it and I was scared of it coming undone too

It was ace when he was little tho, especially when he was poorly

Well the BB came today and it actually looks good, plus I read some research saying that it's actually not bad for babies' hips, its a common misconception apparently. And a kind mums netter who saw my thread in AIBU is sending me her old Kari Me sling for free!
Those of you who've had babies, how many weeks+days were you when you went into labour? I'm getting sooo impatient!! This little man is so heavy now that I have to hold onto my bump when I turn over in bed to support it!!

Im not much help cus I was induced! And I don't think ds was ready to come! But they started at 37 +2 and he was born 37+5

Really confused now, I asked for my blood results because I wanted to check liver and bile acid seperately. Given I'm still itching etc it just seems odd. Midwife went to get them and came back.

She showed me the results and my liver results are raised but bile acid is like 13 (anything above 14 would be high). So i had my bloods done again which I'm glad about as I just read on the main OC website that often only one result can come back raised at first.

I hope I don't have OC but I kind of also suspect I do have it. Because at least it would explain the itching and the fact I swear I looked yellow for a day weeks back.

If I Do have it then they will probably induce me next week.

Lil, I was induced for DD and 39+5 for DS .

Hope you're ok Ducky, that sounds grim :(

Sorry Siarie, what is OC?

Bears I was just about to ask the same thing! What is oc?

Feeling a tiny bit better today, if I put my foot flat my toes are almost touching the floor yesterday they were no where near because my foot was so swollen!

www.britishlivertrust.org.uk/liver-information/liver-conditions/obstetric-cholestasis/

It's a pregnancy condition which is normally highlighted by itching etc.

Lilla, I was 39+1 when I went into labour and DS was born the next morning.

What do they do about that then Sairie? How many weeks are you now?

How may are you Lilla?

DS slept 10.30 ish until 6 last night! Almost there.