April TTC girls! Lots of babies being born! And the rest of us are gonna grab those BFP's!

[Cupcake92]

Thought id start a new thread girls before the old one gets maxed out! :) let this be the thread where we all get out BFP's and babies!! :)

Yes lulu he's picked one he likes and has just sent the application in.
So won't be long. It's only a couple of roads away so will be easy for DS.

Lill Notts isnt far at all, I'll research her now :) I'd love a doula!

She looks good Lill! And u pay her in instalments which is really good for me.
Hmm I might contact her later on :) when do u actually contact them? 20 weeks? :s or longer ?

Lil I'll have to add sandwiches to my final list too, I'm pretty much packed for hospital now. The last few days have had me on alert . Just need to put my clothes in for coming home, snacks, breast pads and my toiletries. Oh I suppose pack DH stuff too ha! My bag is massive and I'm not over packing it just seems we don't get much at the hospital in the UK.

I've bought some plastic white flip flops in case I end up in the hospital (shared showers).

I'm afraid I don't have a clue Cupcake! I only found out about her because I was interested in joining her pregnancy yoga (but didn't in the end because it was a bit far away since I don't drive).
Siarie, I'm packing DH's bag for sure. I'm really worried he'll forget something important like the camera. We'll turn up there looking like we're moving in! I've got a changing/toiletries bag which is already full, and then I'll have another couple of bags for clothes and snacks, etc. I always pack for every eventuality whenever I go somewhere
I'm actually starting to get really scared about the birth I dreamed about it last night and it was very scary! I'm just really crap with pain but sooo don't want an epidural and now I'm starting to feel scared about taking pethidine or diamorphine because I'm scared of being sick and of baby coming out not breathing (which I've read can happen) I know if that did happen, they'd be able to get him breathing very soon, but I'd just feel so guilty if me not being able to manage the pain meant that he came out feeling poorly and also I want him straight onto me when he comes out, I'm very scared of them whisking him away to resuscitate or something

lil try to relax birth doesn't have to be scary, watch this video (it's not graphic).

I found it really great to see how positive birth can be. I'm going to try relaxing and not tensing up during labour. I'm not going to push until the very end and I'll assess pain management at the time, if it's too painful and something would help me relax then I've been told gas and air is pretty good (if you take it in before the peak of your contraction).

Aww her going home hat just arrived, handmade from Etsy!

Lil, I think it seems a lot more scary than it actually is, and you will be surprised about how well you will do. Gas and air is amazing. Should I have another one I will only use gas and air. I wouldn't reccomend the epidural.

I'd go the other way Ducky - this time the anaesthetist was busy and I got to 6cm on gas and air, I hated it. When the epidural finally came it was amazing! My sister had a really bad experience with pethidine which put me off that, but I had an epidural with DD and knew I wanted one again.

Lilla, I agree with Ducky. I am a total wimp with pain. I was for having any pain relief going beforehand but as it was happening I was coping really well.
I got to 7cm with nothing except a couple of paracetemol and two hot showers. Then I had gas and air and it was too late for an epidural by the time they got an anaesthetist. I managed with gas and air and your body and the midwife tell you what to do. I only had a bit of a panic once when I was tired of pushing and thought I couldn't do it any more but DS arrived very quickly after that.

I know I was lucky that there were no complications but if we do it again I would hope to go down the same route. I was up within an hour and recovered quite well I thought.

That's a lovely video Siarie I'd like to have a labour like that but it's probably quite rare to be that calm!
Yeah I'd like to try and stick to gas and air and I am planning a water birth. Just have to wait and see I suppose!

Lill birth is amazing!
Take it from me who actually had a pretty bad experience of it. DS not moving and being induced, water being burst whilst in middle of a contraction, active labour for 2 whole days, then to be given an emergency csection! Even though all that went on.... I coped so well better than I thought! And thought labour was amazing!! I loved trying to control it with gas and air as it made me go all funny! Hehe honestly Lill, it's so incredible and not as scary as u think :)
I'm excited for the next birth. I have so many plans which probably won't happen I want to go into labour on my own, I want a water birth also with nice relaxing songs playing, like the sound of the sea :) and I want DC to be placed straight onto my chest and have the cord cut whilst he's on me. I want this all done in the water lol! So then when DC goes to be checked and cleaned I can get out and dry etc
See I'm so precise! Haha!

Aww that sounds loads like my plan Cupcake
I feel a bit better about it now. I'm sure it will be fine, and the labour unit I'm going to is very nice.

Hope everyone has had a good day. It is freezing and rainng her tonight. DH has gone to the village pub with his pal. DS and I are tucked up in the back sitting room with the fire lit and the cats.

He had his injections yesterday and we had a badnight last night but he's been fine today.

I am having chhese and biscuits and celery sticks. Blue brie and blue stilton and Boursin. The bliss after all those months of pregnancy.

DH bought me some chocs today - Lindt stawberry and cream ones and they are to die for. I tried one and was standing in the kitchen sighing with pleasure they are so yummy.

Sounds like a great evening lulu Don't even get me started on blue cheese - bloody love the stuff and DP's mum gave us a huge one last weekend which of course I can't eat! It sneers at me every time I open the fridge!

So fucked off with DP right now. Been up since midnight as DS is either cluster feeding or screaming in his cot. Apparently "there is nothing DP can do", as stepping in and trying to get DS to sleep himself is out of the question because he doesn't have boobs.

What makes it worse is we had a chat last night because I'm worried about baby blues - I remember with DD on about day 4 I felt really miserable and panicky. I can feel myself going that way now and while I'm aware it's happening I still feel like I'm falling into a big hole, and I need him to tell me if I'm being irrational. So at 4am when I've had 2 hours sleep for the third night in a row, I asked DP for help, all he could suggest was phoning the midwife to tell her my newborn isn't sleeping . When I said I didn't think it was worth it he pretended to wave a little flag in my face to say I'm being irrational because of baby blues, and has rolled over and gone to sleep

Sorry that has turned into an essay! DP just seems to have turned into a cock. . Irony is if I do phone the midwives I would expect them to tell me to share the night wakings with my partner.

Oh Bears :( sorry to hear DP is being stupid! I think best thing is sit him down today and say to him, ur exhausted and would really really appreciate his help at night. Say once Uve given him a feed would he take over and get him to sleep?

I know how hard it is Bears. I did it all with DS I had no help day or night. It was difficult and ended up calling my mom round every other day so she could have DS while I slept for a bit. But I can't imagine how it'd be with a child already and a newborn as u just can't sleep in the day! I've got all this to come lol!!

I'm not a big fan of blue cheese lulu, it's too strong for me. But I love baked Camembert! Eat it all the time! I'm going to miss that lol!

Oh bears what a knob... Is it possible you could express aswell so maybe DH can do a night feed to let you get some sleep? I know that might not be ideal but it may help you feel better?

Ds had his injections Friday, he was very very sleepy the first day and has been off his food since which has messed with his routine a bit because he's not eating much before bed meaning he's waking earlier.

I had a bit of money spare last week so instead of waiting for the bills to eat it up I went and brought him a high chair and weaning stuff. So excited for that

I was thinking about expressing - I have a pump somewhere. At least MIL is here, she will look after DD today (and will be very unimpressed with DP if I happen to mention how useless DP was). I can't imagine doing it on my own Forever cupcake! .

I hated DD having injections. she didn't know what was happening so for her it only lasted a second, but I felt like I'd betrayed her :(. I know it's silly and it's for the best in the long term but I wished i could have them instead!

Bears I had baby blues. It was awful. I was so tired and your description of falling into a big hole is exactly how I felt. I was in quiet despair and spiralling.

The only thing that made a difference for me was going out and walking. We took DS for long walks. I walked him when DH went back to work (DS was 5 days old then) 2 or 3 times a day just for fresh air and to get me doing something and in the world. He was wrapped up like a bug in a rug. I know they say it lasts days, I had it about a fortnight.

I think also, because I am not breast feeding, DH could help more.

Oh Bears, how selfish of DH! I'd be furious! Of course he could help - even if he can't actually feed DS at least he could get up with you for moral support and burp him and get him back to sleep!
I'm planning to express once my DS is established breast feeding so that DP can help with some of the feeds.
I hope you or mil can talk some sense into him!

Exactly lilla, it was the moral support I needed because I don't think any thing either of us could have done would have made DS sleep! except gin.

Sorry you had baby blues too lulu, didn't realise it could last weeks :(. I do need to get out of the house more.

MIL has gone out with DD and DS is asleep. DP is being very nice today . DSis came yesterday and gave us a HUGE bag of Hotel Chocolat, which DP says is mine because I did all the hard work. I am taking him literally

I have had clinical depression several times Bears and I knew it wasn't that. It reduced as those two weeks went on but it did hang around that time.

DH was great, he did lots of night feeds to help but I still woke up because every wail of DS went through me. He is good- easy and settled but I just felt really low. I remember thinking very maudlin things and being very weepy and worried about all kinds of things.

It is a tough time and DH needs to support you.

Good idea about where to put the cotbed Tori - we have a bednest and it's brilliant!

I've never had depression but am aware of what to look out for - DP has something similar linked to his OCD, which is why I thought he'd be more understanding . DS is asleep now so I'm going to try and catch up!

Tori is that one of those Moses type baskets that u unzip one side off and put right next to the bed? Like u and baby are co sleeping but safer.
That's what I'll be getting as from experience it'll help DC to sleep for sure! Moore the 4D scan was good :)

Bears I hope ur feeling a bit better. I'm worried I'm going to feel like that and I have no one to help me lol!

Was a long day yesterday, got all the bedroom cleared out and sorted. Looks like a new room! Also had my bridesmaid dress altered!! She's having to let it out a bit I was already quite bloated and so she said I'd probably be a little bigger on the day due to water weight and more bloating haha! I hope I'm not huge at the end of this pregnancy