Cake I'm glad that your dh has managed to open up to the psychologist and get a diagnosis, as that must be better than bottling it up and will hopefully lead to some way forward for you both. Big hugs
Vicky, I didn't bother with my GP, I did a self referral to the hospital I want to use, with the name of the bereavement midwife written on the top. But I have so far only been sent appointment for the booking in (which I phoned and checked, and it IS with the bereavement midwife) and 12 week scan. As I don't have a history of mc or ectopic, I wasn't expected to be offered an early scan, and indeed I wasn't. I'll be asking plenty of detailed questions at my booking in appt about the care for the rest of my pg, as I will be expecting something more.
However I did go for an early scan because I had bleeding which was enough to panic me. I would have waited patiently otherwise, honest! I did make sure they were aware of my loss when I went to A&E and asked to be checked, no idea if that influenced their decision to scan me, but it didn't hurt to point it out.
Kayleigh, nice to see the consultant sooner rather than later, I'm sure its just an admin/communication error (wouldn't be the first) that this time has worked in your favour.
April, I'd have probably run home and burst into tears if that was my gym! You're doing fine. Thankyou for thinking of me yesterday.
Anna, sorry we all missed your post, but glad it was all ok and the meeting went well.
Lake, only one suggestion, pop your walking shoes on and get some fresh air. It's free!
Nightmare having DHs bday on valentines day, means you can never take him out for a nice meal.
ATM hello! I'll think of you on Sunday, hope you're feeling ok and not too anxious.
AFM its been a tough and varied week so far. There's a major conference at work, so I've spent the last 3 days being wined and dined, making small talk, handing out business cards, trying to remember if I've met people before or not. This should be amazing fun (my colleagues have been telling me all about how much of a giant party it is since I started this role back in August). But for me it has been complicated by:
- it was 'G's birthday on Tuesday. DP went to the cemetery on his own, and I felt like I had a cloud of sorrow surrounding me all day. We are going together to the cemetery for the anniversary of her death, in 12 days time. In some ways it was good for me to have the distraction, as her birthday is the one which gives me nightmares and flashbacks. But I was sad that my lunch hadn't finished by the time she was born (3pm) so I had to wolf my main course down and rush out to call DH at the right time. Not exactly giving myself time to grieve and remember.
- I'm pg so not drinking! It's not too bad, but would be a lot more fun if I could drink. And easier to talk bollocks make small talk. I have mastered the art of holding a wine glass and pretending to drink.
But the exciting news is that I had my second early scan today, and all was good. 1cm diameter, and little heart beat fluttering away. They dated me at 7+1. I'm very relieved, and its starting to become very real.