ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #3

[northdownmummy]

looking forward to new beginnings in the new year

Congrats snoop, both my pregnancies were on ICs - they are pretty sensitive I think. I will keep everything crossed for you (apart from when ttc )

thanks carrot he said he just needed to get his head around it!

AF arrived. I thought I would feel disappointed but I actually feel fine. Only the first month. To be honest, I'm thinking we might take a break for a couple of months now. Things are a bit... up in the air at work and I'm not confident that I won't have to look for another job soon. Don't know.

Commiserations guy. Sounds like you have a lot on your plate- hope the work stuff resolves itself as well as possible.

Morning all

Congrats Snoopy what lovely news! And I echo what Carrot said in regards to successful pregnancy after mc, the odds are even more so on your side so try not to worry too much. Today you are pregnant, yay!

MrsE sorry to hear about your car situation, I hope you have recovered and are alright now. Also very glad to hear your OH has come round.

Guy sorry to hear AF arrived but like you say, only the first month. Hopefully you won't need to job hunt anytime soon.

So we 'popped our dtd cherry' over the weekend after all my worrying but how to start again after mc. Turns out it was quite effortless, we just both got drunk lol! CD10 here so will be starting to DTD eod as of this evening. The month I got my BFP we dtd 10, 13, 14, 16 & 18 so will go with that again and see what happens.

Molly and Sasha how are you ladies getting on?

Snoopy congrats!

I'm due on next week. This cycle seems an eternity (bet next one is even worse) and I'm having a wobble. I'm terrified I'm going to mc... have complications or a trouble birthing. C sections are my worst fear and it's enough to put me off trying. I'm worried being 4 St too heavy will feck it all up for me. What is I don't manage to keep on top of my weight during pregnancy and make it worse?!

chasing u have the same weight worries as you but i often see articles of very very overweight people with multiple children. i know we read lots of bad stuff about being overweight and pregnant but people do manage to have healthy trouble free pregnancies regardless.

you can keep on top of your weight during pregnancy by trying to eat healthily and possibly weekly weigh ins just to monitor it and keep on top of it. i wouldnt let it become too much of a worry but i can understand as its all in the back of my mind too.

Ginger I think it bothers me most because we want 2.. so next successful pregnancy will be my last and I'd be utterly devastated if I had a terrible time (was 4 St lighter and fit when I had dd and had a great pregnancy and birth)

It's so hard it really plays on my mind! I'm 9 lbs down and would do my best to stick to sw during pregnancy but worried about my motivation or sickness putting than down the sh*tter lol

teenie good news on popping the cherry! I'm fine but still spotting on CD 9 . DH is coming down with a cold man flu so there may not be much ttc going on in the next while. I have a long cycle though so probably another 10 days to the fertile window.

chasing understandable that you are scared, but one day at a time- I'm a terrible worrier too (about everything) but I try to tell myself that I am not changing or helping anything by worrying about it, so there is no point in worrying.

Hello all, and for everyone who's worried or doubting themselves, it's so hard to stay positive isn't it.

I know I said I was going to wait until Af is due but I spent about £25 on pregnancy tests in boots today so I've just done a first response and it's positive! DH is finally smiling, he trusts first response because it's so expensive haha

So far today I've cried in the kitchen, in boots pharmacy, eating out and again in the kitchen for good measure. I am all over the place.

The next problem is what do I do about work. I'm a police officer on response team and I have a new inspector staring tomorrow, we are already so far below minimum team numbers, she's gonna hate me.

congratulations snoopy!

Thanks mrse and congratulations to you too! I'm trying to read back through the thread after my break.

I might stay here for a while, not confident enough to go anywhere else yet. And I'm going to take my first cyclogest pessary tonight

Thanks for the snoopy and hooray for spending loads of dosh on pregnancy tests! Pleased its a positive result!!

Sorry to hear you're having a wobble chasing. It's so tough this TTC business sometimes. Next week will be here before you know it. Have you much planned for the rest of the week? To help keep your mind off things...

Woohoo for fuel shagging teenie. It's good to get that one over with. I can never figure out whether lots or eod works best and each month we wear our selves out and say we'll just alternate days next month but i force him to perform everyday we never stick to it.

carrot hope ds's cold is less stinky today. Usually its Ds with the snot monster nose here but we seem to have swapped over for a change.

Well I've had a miserable day. Kept busy doing my crazy stuff with Ds but just keep getting sad about the last year. Even started panicking what if it never happens. Ever. Again. I know we are blessed with Ds and I don't mean to sound ungrateful because I am... A billion million trillion percent grateful. I need to lay off Dr Google. I think my craziest search today has been about low egg reserves in 33 going on 34 year olds. 4th day flashing smiley. I haven't ovulated therefore I must have nothing left. and I even managed that moment of madness after a day with no internet access until after 430pm. God knows where I would have got to if I'd have had access all day!

youll be fine chasing well done on the sw and weight loss. im waiting till i know im definitely out this month then im going to really watch what i eat and start exercising. i'm petrified of getting even bigger but would hopefully bf which is said to help.

Congratulations snoopy I'm delighted for you. At least they're happy tears now.

chasing I just rejoined SW a few weeks ago, it's helping having one thing I feel I can have some control over. I need to know I'm doing everything I can.

Sw is giving me somthing to focus on so it's definitely helping in more ways than one.... hmm keeping myself busy- anyone else get ideas stuck in their heads... currently arguing with dh because I'm convinced we should move!

i want to move. in all honesty if a baby comes our way we'll have no choice. one bedroom tiny mouldy flat. still annoys dp when i go on about it though

Yep. OH tells me I'm not happy because I keep wanting to change something - either house, another baby, different job. What is happiness anyway?!???

oh gr33dy i'm a bit like that get one thing i want then straight onto the next but i think i just like to kp mt mind busy and be prepared. no harm in that ha!

Haha Greedy that is exactly what dh says.

We have a lovely 4 bed in a desirable area. . It would be crazy to give it up (we rent private and have a great deal we'd never ever get again)

But the commute to work and my friends is hard (we live country.. work etc in city)

Dh says he'll only move if we live with my mum for 18 mo and save a deposit to buy. . I'm not sure I can face it! But truthfully don't know how else we'll ever get on housing market!

Just realised AF due this month on the EDD from first mc. Ugh. It's really starting to hit me, rap as good friend due pretty much same time. I will be strong, I will be strong, I will be strong.

Aw MrsC, it's not fair is it? Do you have anything planned for the day as a distraction or do mark it somehow? Hugs to you. x

Aww mrsconfusion life is so cruel isn't it, but you're not alone

Just before I miscarried a colleague's wife gave birth and I'm ashamed to say I was so jealous every time he told stories about 'the little guy'. What I didn't know was that he'd confided in my DH that his wife had miscarried before her successful pregnancy. Another two blokes confided in me that the same thing has happened to their partners and they all have healthy, happy children now and we will too.

I just need to remind myself of this and stop worrying so much!

Hmmm watching a programme about alaska, reminds me of my honeymoon in September. chasing and greedy at least you don't dream about living on the other side of the world like me haha

Oh MrsC

snoopy Alaska!? ... no no no.. Cornwall!

I'm afraid I haven't had a chance to read back, but I just thought I'd pop in to see how AlltheQueens is doing. I've been thinking of you.