April TTC girls! Where there's a new baby! Tons of BFP's! And lots more to come!

[Cupcake92]

New thread girlies!! :) hope this is okay.

Sorry should say 18lbs

Awe how you feeling about leaving work?

Fingers crossed 21!

OK actually Ducky. Always need the break this term and by the time it is time I would be going back, baby will be here, or almost!

DH is home with two huge pizzas. I might manage a slice, I haven't had my healthy roasted veggies yet.

Cupcake - being a 12/14 is not a 'destroyed' figure!

Good luck 21 I hope cramps are a good sign! I got them about 6 days after Ov.

Hope u had a good last day at work Lulu! U can now relax! Make the most of it and chill out and drink lovely cups of tea and lie in to ur hearts consent! :) and I know 12/14 isn't a bag size, it's just I have an awful stomach. Due to my csection I have like a kangaroo pouch! It's so gross, can't seem to get rid of it either no matter how many sit ups I do

Had such a busy day at work today and my Back aches so bad! At work Monday then off for a week yay!

Hope everyone is okay :) and hope baby Ducky is good!

It must be awful to feel so crap Tori. It has been the mood swings with me more than anything physical. Hope you feel better soon. I am in bed already. Have been here an hour nearly.

Going shopping early tomorrow for food and to stock up freezer and then that is us done really. Not intending to anywhere near big shops again over holidays.

House to clean for Tuesday when PIL coming up with Grandmas for a few hours then we are just going to have a quiet, relaxing time by ourselves.

Cupcake, get some rest and enjoy your week off from Monday. Bet DS is going to love Christmas.

What happened to DH and his army application- has he had the interview yet? Just remembered about it.

Glad your enjoying your job cupcake.

I have realised, after x mas I really need to look at my relationship and see whether we can continue I just don't know where I could go with baby and dogs if anything happens.

Love my little boy and don't want him having to be stuck in this wierd atmosphere. It's not fair on him.

Hope you start to feel better soon tori

Oh Ducky. What has happened to make you realise that? Horrible time to feel so bad with Christmas and DS so young.

Your little boy sounds so sweet and good. I hope mine is like that.

Tori I hope u feel better soon! :( it's good work are being nice to u and said u can cut ur hours of u need to.

Lulu sounds like ull have a lovely Xmas :) nice and peaceful! And he's temperarily stopped the army application as he's got quite a good job atm and is happy :)

thanks Ducky! And why do u think ill need to leave? :(
U and ur babys happiness is the most important. Children can sense tension too trust me, Jayden always changes behaviour when me and DH have been on bad terms. He doesn't sleep well or eat and is very mischievous. He always know lol.

There's lots of things, I think he thinks he can carry on all his things as he did before ds (drinking/going out/smoking like a chimney etc) but I just want what's best for my baby I stopped smoking when I was pg, I'm so so so tempted to have a ciggarette and finding it really difficult but I don't because thts money that can be spent on ds and it wouldn't be nice for him to smell that all the time , h now smokes more, coming in stinking and touching ds and I get so angry maybe I'm just over sensitive ATM.
It's also like he doesn't care about me at all, he never says anything nice to me, we never kiss or anything.

Big hugs Ducky
It's not nice having smoke near baby, I hated DH smoking and stinking of it when he came in and we lived in a flat and he sometimes had one over the balcony when I was in bed. I'd smell it in the morning still lingering and I'd go mental at him!
It was hard for me to stop smoking, I started again a few months belfry TTC but stopped again as I wanted a baby and disn't want to make my body bad. DH has cut down, he will only smoke if he's out or on breaks at work. He doesn't smoke at home anymore.
Could u suggest that to DH? Maybe not smoke when he's at home?

I'm so tired, I need a wee all the time and ive got backache but I'm so glad I'm pregnant! honestly this is the best Xmas present ever, can't wait for my scan, even tho im nervous im still very excited!

Yes, big hugs Ducky. We aren't having anyone smoking in here- we don't now and don't actually have any family or close friends who smoke. And the baby is not going to anyone's house where there is smoking.

Your DH doesn't get it does he. You have said it for months, he just does not do the things you need a partner to do. You and DS are what is most important now- and the dogs.

If you decide it is over, can't you keep the house and stay and him leave? You pay for everything so why should he stay?

Anyway, just try and get through Christmas and have a lovely time with DS and give yourself a bit of time to get used to being a mum before you decide.

Cupcake, how many weeks are you now? I feel really odd because last weekend I was just coming round to DH again and now he's back to being my bees' knees - these mood swings are scarey.

I have no idea what he is up to. He is sitting in the other sitting room with a pile of bits of paper writing things on them all and folding them up. I am not allowed in. He's got one of the big preserving jars I usually make sloe gin in. God knows what it is about. Some silly Christmas Day quiz I bet- I always win.

I am tucked up on the sofa with a blankie and two cats watching a film about Princess Margaret.

Having a supportive partner is do important. But maybe have a chat with him Ducky first? Men doesn't always get our hints, they need to be told directly.

Me and DH have had a really nice day, he's off work now (only went back for three days) since the holiday but it's going to be great. I love spending time together, he's my best friend and it feels like Christmas has kicked in now.

Tori sorry to hear you are still feeling well, honestly I know how you feel and nothing anyone says will make you feel better. But it will get better, one day you'll wake up and realise you feel sort of normal.

Feeling very pregnant today

He would be too stubborn to leave lulu and id be screwed over because his family are very very wealthy and legally minded so would end up getting everything, that terrifies me will see how it goes over x mas some days I think he's changed and he seems nice then it all goes back to how he is.

I know I shouldn't have but I looked at his phone last night, he has been texting one of our mutual friends saying some pretty nasty stuff about me but I can't say I know cus he'd know I looked at his phone

Good your feeling positive cupcake

Ducky- what a shit! Has he no loyalty at all?

And if his family are so wealthy why doesn't he pay for anything? I am so angry for you! Do you own the house? If not, there won't be much to split. If he has money though, you are entitled to half.

That is just disgusting about text messaes being horrible about you. All the horrible things I have done to DH recently and how sad and upset he was and he has not told anyone, even his mum or sister who he is really close to. I asked him why he hadn't and he said 'It's our business, no one elses's and you just weren't yourself. I knew you loved me really'.

Ducky, I am just so upset for you. Has your DH no integrity or conscience? That is just horrible of him.

Sorry, I need to calm down.

It's in joint names, even though he has never made a single payment.

Oh well, what ever happens I have my babies

Are you feeling any better towards DH recently lulu?

Ducky that's awful!! go and speak to a solicitor and they can tell u exactly what would happen and who would get what. He'd only legally be entitled to half. BUT! If u can prove that ur the one paying the mortgage by either receipt or on ur bank statement and shown he's not paid at all for the house then u are legally able to keep the property as he's not contributed.
Honestly Ducky go and speak to a solicitor as they can tell u exactly what to expect, then make ur choice from there.
U deserve to be happy and in a happy home. U and baby.

Yes Ducky- hormones seemed to shift at the start of last week and I am back to myself with him. It is very strange and I am just so grateful he takes it all in his stride. I was so awful but I just could not get my head around my bizarre emotions. He didn't deserve any of it- except the bit of a fall-out that started it off (which normally would have provoked a few minutes row and him apologising and it being forgotten about in 10 minutes).

Hopefully the moodiness I have had will stop once my hormones settle down after the baby arrives. We are not a couple who argue and we try really hard to treat each other with kindness and love. We get on well and love spending time together. But I have had 3 or 4 of these moodies since I got pregnant and I have just been awful to live with when I have had them.I have been quite scared by how I have felt because I am usually easy going.

Anyway, he put up with it and we are back to normal and he is just as loving and just forgave me. I would have found it much harder to forgive if it had been the other way round.

He is still doing whatever it was he was doing yesterday afternoon with bits of paper and a big jar.

Do you have a joint mortgage or joint tenancy? If it is a tenancy, he either pays or goes. It is that simple.

Cupcake is right- you should see a solicitor and get some advice. Because you are married, he would have to pay maintenance for DS. If it is a mortgage you have, you could keep the house until DS leaves school! I can't believe what he has done. Why was he being nasty about you to someone else? That us just awful.

I need help!!!!!!!!
Tmi but I went to the loo and when I wiped I have brown bloody discharge! Only the once when I wiped the first time. I'm so scared! what if I'm loosing this baby???

It's a mortgage he was texting him
Because I said I don't want him drunk around ds and smoking around him so he sent all these texts saying because I have had his kid I think I can control him and keep him prisoner and asking what the other persons wife is like regarding smoking and drinking he said she lets him as long as he's in the other room so of course h starts on about what a bitch I am.

Oh gosh cupcake I have no idea, how many weeks are you now? I've read loads of threads on here about people bleeding and everything being fine.

Would think that as it's brown it's old blood and would be ok? Could you ring your mw?

I'll be 6 weeks on Tuesday. I've not had any cramping or anything like that. Nothing feels wrong. But it's worrying me now just want things to be okay

I'm gonna call up epu tomorrow, my Mw told me too call up between 6 and 8 weeks to book scan, but call sooner if I have any blood or pain.

I had a tiny amount of brown blood around the same time, just blood left from implantation. In fact my 8 week scan showed it up so relax cupcake. Honestly what will be will be and you can't change it.

We're built to be like this. Sad but true, chances are you'll be alright and the blood won't be there tomorrow.

I think it sounds like old blood cupcake. I know it must be awfully worrying for you but I think they say it should be ok as long as there's no bright red blood and pain. Give them a call tomorrow, I had my first scan at 6+2, I couldn't see much, just like a baked bean () but they saw the HB, and that baked bean is now lying on top of me giving me a dead arm