Struggling to conceive No.2 after getting pregnant easily first time round

[Metalhead]

Still here, still struggling on, still hoping to get there in the end. Come on ladies, we'll all get our BFPs in 2015 (if not before)!

Awwww congratulations loves! Fabulous news.

I have found a home with the old cluckers in Pregnancy so feeling a little less scared now.

Congratulations New and Loves! I'm ?dpo as also got cheesed with the opks so just gonna wait and see what occurs. I actually feel quite relaxed about it. Have also had day 21 bloods done so feeling like i have done something productive.

lovesThats fab news. congratulations and a very merry xmas to you. let us know how it all goes and hopefully we will get another as it comes in threes. xxxx

Oh loves -that's fantastic! Lovely news. x

Yay loves. Delighted we have a couple of December bfps!! Let's hope we get more ib January! I'm on CD32 now but still testing negative and have all af signs. My cycle 32or 33 pre mini pill. Anyone still in for December or are we counting till fertile periods and the 2ww?

I walk across George square in Glasgow at least twice a day and work right beside it so rather than being despondent I am very thankful for what I have atm. Xx

crispieIm due to test on or after 4th jan. xx

Merry Christmas everyone! (It's Christmas today for me as I'm from the Continent, although we are spending it with DH's family in the UK this year.)

No Christmas BFP for mecrispie, tested again today and still a glaring white stick so awaiting the arrival of AF tomorrow. I'm ok with it though, in fact the more I think about the logistics of having two the more I think maybe this isn't such a bad thing... I still would like another, but I'm pretty sure I will be ok if it doesn't happen. It's more the constant frustration and feelings of being a failure that's getting me down, rather than the desperation for another baby. (Or maybe that's just what I'm trying to tell myself to make me feel better, who knows.)

I'm definitely ditching opks and temping next cycle, hopefully a slightly less obsessive approach will make things easier. If not I can always go back to it!

Happy Christmas and congratulations on the bfps! I will be rejoining this thread in a week or two. Let the stress begin again...

Y'know metal I think I'm a not the same. This last month I've been seeing more benefits of an only and I know few siblings who are close as adults. I'm wondering if all the testing us making it about getting pregnant as a success.... Something to ponder

I was trying to stay off mumsnet for a bit because I'm miserable & depressed & only have miserable depressing things to say however I'm too nosey & knew there was going to be another Christmas BFP so many congratulation loves

They do say these things come in three's anyone else due to test?

Well I'm in denial at the moment, I've stopped checking when I wipe & just watery pink or watery brown (sorry if tmi) on panty liner but most if the time there is nothing there. When I was pg with dd the implantation spotting I got mirrored the spotting I got before AF just didn't get the proper bleed, so I suppose it's not over until AF properly arrives on Thursday. I've also got it in my head that my boobs are more than normal I don't know if I'm imagining that though.

Metal and Crispie. I'm with you both on that, had lots of reasons why not to have another, going back to nappies & night feeds after 4 years! How would DD cope after having us to herself so long a baby could hinder the things we can do with her how & also when DD is being particularly difficult I think how would I cope with a baby as well as this! A part of me does long for a baby & I am envious of people who can have 2 or even 3 . I also do wonder if I can't allow myself to lose this battle especially after so long!

merry christmas ladies. hope you all have fab time. x

Merry Christmas ladies thanks for listening to me these last few months & your support.

Hoping that 2015 brings a rush of BFP's for us all x

Merry Christmas all xxx

Merry Christmas girls xx

Just wanted to add that I conceived second month with my dd but it took 13 months with my son

Turned out when I conceived that I was ovulating super early and the ovulation sticks weren't actually showing that! Month we conceived we dtd every day straight after af until bfp! Exhausting but obviously worth it!!

Good luck

Every day?! Good going owly!! How did you work out when you were ovulating? Did you just pee on sticks all month until you found it? Well done for solving the mystery anyway and thanks for passing on the idea.

Hope everyone has had a lovely Christmas so far? We've had rather more tantrums than I expected, but otherwise pretty good. Got some lovely new books and things so plenty to keep me busy in 2015. Am maybe halfway through the 2ww but given that I've had pretty much every possible variation of all pregnancy/pmt related symptoms over the past few months with no change in outcome, I'm not bothering to symptom spot.... yet.

Well I've just about decided to give up! tough decision & struggling but after 24 months of AF turning up its time to accept its never going to happen. I'm stressed every month about if we we'll DTD & if it'll be enough then stressing on 2ww. I think i can say that I have tried my best but its just not enough. Its had a major impact on my relationship with OH & not in a good way. DD can be a handful & maybe I wouldn't be able to cope with a baby as well. I still long for a baby & feel guilty that DD will never have a sibling (it was always so important that I had more than one child so my DC was not an only one). There's also my irrational jealousy I have towards friends/family/people i know who've managed so easily to have a second or even a third, when their DC 1 is younger than my DD, but I've got to find a way to deal with it.

OH hasn't agreed but I've told him that I'm not monitoring my cycle & won't be telling him when it's the right time. I've ditched my folic acid & vit b pills. Its not like I can have an 'accident' as I will no longer be instigating sex & I'm certain he won't. I'm feeling really down about it at the moment but I'm hoping that I will soon feel relieved that I no longer have to out myself through this.

I'm sure you ladies will all get your BFP's very soon & I'll probably still lurk in the back ground to see how everyone is getting on.

Bobsy

Awhile bobsy. Perhaps see how you feel in six months with some time off.. I am still waiting for af but all tests totally negative and I must be minimum 14dpo so just. so just a longer cycle. Which makes sense as I definitely ovulated day 21 ish. Also wondering how long to continue at 42. Certainly not more than another three or four months. Have had a fair few wines hence all the testing!!

Hope you all had a good xmas. bobsy sorry uou feel so down I hope you can stsrt to feel possative about your decission. migjt make oh appriciate you more.
Im cd29 and xmas eve I threw up unexpectedly and have had awful heartburn especially at night since. desperatly hoping its preg symptoms. Any one else ever had heartburn and dickbess before missed period?

sickness...

Hmmm. Afraid not love. At that point, I'm afraid sickness will be something you ate, but it doesn't mean you're not pregnant. Just that its not possible to have morning sickness before you're even able to test. x

I didn't but internet is full of folk who got symptoms before its biologically possible!!

I'm 6 days late but testing negative. I think it may be the start of the menapose

thanks ladies. I still have heartburn but no sickness.
crispie I hope its just a late period gor you or better still a late bfp. x

I have heartburn too. Mine unfortunately it's entirely caused by the almost empty box of Lindor truffles in the kitchen.....