Struggling to conceive No.2 after getting pregnant easily first time round

[Metalhead]

Still here, still struggling on, still hoping to get there in the end. Come on ladies, we'll all get our BFPs in 2015 (if not before)!

Oh ladies -Sorry you're all having a shit time!!! I really thought we had some good news coming. Fingers crossed we still do. Can't believe that tesco test New-how awful if that really was a faulty one. Like its not bad enough month after month without getting a result like that. Grrrrrr.

So I got the mother of all opk positives on Saturday -about 5 days later than expected -so we've been doing our very best to dtd at every opportunity. Thank god for preseed, that's all I can say. Am hoping it will work its magic by helping those little tadpoles on their merry way, but its also a fabulous aid when you're dtd a bit more than you really want to! I'm nearly or of the applicators though even though there's a tube full of stuff left - has anyone found anywhere to get just the applicators from?

Out not or. Silly phone.

Little you can just use syringes, the type you can buy from a chemist. Spurt some out and suck it up with the syringe, and whack it up your fanjo, job done

Just dropped my son off at his last morning at crèche before Christmas. He has his special Christmas outfit on and looks really cute.

Bfn for me today as well! Boo! Xx

I just bought some more Tesco tests and I am currently locked in the gym toilet lol. BFP would you believe. I am SO shocked and shaking.

That is definitely a positive!! No doubt at all! I've heard clear blue are less sensitive?

A second lot of congratulations!!!!

Thank you. I'm just going to wait now and hope I don't start bleeding. Thanks for all the support while I've been shitting myself xx

Told you so new! Got everything crossed for you that this one will stick.

My acupuncturist is ordering some special granulated drink that's meant to help keep the baby in ( but not if it's chromosomally defective) and I'm going to carry on seeing her for the first trimester at least.

I feel like once my cycles got longer the egg had a chance to mature. So even if this one doesn't stick I think I still stand a chance for another one that could.

Wish you were coming over to the scary side with me Metal. If not this month then definitely next xx

Ah thanks new, I wish I could join you too!

Hello...can I join in?

Am currently in the middle of AF and celebrating 12 months of TTC We have one DD who is 3.5 and took 3 months to conceive so once we decided 'finance-wise' this was the right time I was even more on my game than last time (charting, OPK's etc) and stupidly thought we could get lucky first time (like all my friends did ) and now I'm thinking back to this time last year where we were full of hope expecting we'd have a baby by now or at least be pregnant. I'm so sad for DD - she would love a sibling and it would have been amazing to tell her.

I fibbed a bit to my GP to get testing started after 6 months (I was 34 then and am 35 now so don't feel too bad!) and I seem to be fine. I also had a HSG which looked clear to me and the radiographer so I was very hopeful but nada. DH got checked and we assumed he'd be fine - very fit, eats well healthy sex drive but his results were awful! Two tests on the NHS (both took over an hour to be tested) and another private test which was better but the very low end of normal. I've had him on a concoction of 20 odd pills for the last 3 months which he takes without too much fuss and he's going to book in again to see if it had made any difference and then if his results are ok and I am fine and we still aren't pregnant in 6 months....well then I'll have to accept it's unlikely to happen naturally for us.

I'm panicking and considering egg sharing but I'm not sure at my age I'd be much of an appealing donor.

Anyway I am very pleased to join this thread on the back of a BFP - congratulations NewEra I wish you a very happy and healthy 9 months!

yay new!! And boo to clearblue!! Have to say, I stick to the superdrug ones as they saw me right in the days when I could get pregnant. Great news though, and hopefully that shaky start is the last hurdle you have to go through. Really pleased for you. I think I'm a month behind you on birthdays and a couple of months less on ttc so here's hoping for the same result here soon. And thanks for the syringe tip-obvious really, I just hadn't thought of it. Just seemed a shame to buy a new tube when there's still half left.

Welcome Surrey, although sorry you're struggling too. Out of interest, what was the bad bit of you h's tests and what pills is he on now? My dh scored low on morphology but good everything else and they said it wasn't too bad but isn't ideal. Don't really know what to make of that! We've both been taking conception vits for 3 or so mths now and he's sticking to next to no booze as that's also meant to help a bit. A bit harsh over Christmas, but I had to stay off it completely for what felt like years with ds and the previous pregnancies so a few months won't kill him! And of course it'll all be worth it if/when we get a bfp. I think I'm maybe 1dpo so won't be able to test until the new year which is nice. Can forget about it (as if!) over Christmas and hang on to some hope that maybe shagging like bunnies has done the job this time. Otherwise I think I should look into acupuncture next year.

woo hoo newthats a def bfp, fab news.
welcome yo you surrey hope this thread brings luck for you.
So I def ovulating but no ewm this month when I normally do get it although very wet down there. Can any one explain this?

Thanks for the support ladies I'm really down in the dumps at the moment

Crispie I don't think you're saying anything you shouldn't just what everyone else on here knows that my relationship isn't that great & the TTC had caused so many problems. We both want another he just doesn't get what this is doing to me, he's told me today that I'm wallowing in it & should stop mentioning it! Sorry about BFN.

lovemyboy thanks. That's good about your brother & sister in law, although for me my age is a major factor & also the reason why I don't want to take a break if I did it'd be permanent one. I do want to give up but I long for another baby, if I can't have one why can't the longing to away! Unfortunately not TTC sex isn't an option for us as we've only been having sex to get pregnant, probably another reason why I'm not getting pregnant. That's strange about no EWCM if you normally get it but don't they say wet CM is fertile too I think.

New that's brilliant, I thought you were pregnant as highly unlikely to have a false positive. Hope everything goes well for you. It's not proper AF yet just the spotting that starts before but it's exactly the same as my past few cycles proper spotting starting at 10dpo & I still have that silly little hope that it's implantation when I know it's not! At least I don't have to waste money on pg tests I suppose.

Metal sorry about BFN, but it's still early.

Little Good luck.

Welcome Surrey and good luck.

I think my body is gearing up for a particularly bad AF this time I can feel it & boobs feel more saw than normal. I keep swinging between bursting in to tests & complete rage! Surely it was my turn by now, but apparently not & on to cycle 24!! So down hearted & wish I could bring myself to give up, I would love to adopt but OH not keen which is a shame. I really need some emotional support from him but he just can't understand how bad I feel & ends up shouting at me when I'm already in tears

Girls I can't deal with the pregnancy threads. I tried to dip my toe into the positivity after mc thread but hearing other people panicking about blood has sent me into a tail spin. I honestly think I'm going to have to do this on my own off the boards.

New - stick with us honey. I always found the pregnancy boards hard going. We can hold your hand and keep you company! At least until these first tough few weeks are over. x

Bobsy sweetie - it just sounds like you and your dh need to sit down and have a proper talk together. Not about the ttc - just about stuff in general and how you both feel and why that seems to be so mismatched at the moment. I know the ttc is a major thing for you both, but it doesn't sound like that's the problem here - just a secondary part of a general communication problem. Probably best to wait a few days for the raging hormones to settle down, but you just can't carry on like this! Have you asked him how he feels? Why he's so off with you? What would help him open up and be at least a bit more involved with you? I really feel for you Bobsy. It's just not a good situation at all, ttc or not. xx

Bobsy- Thinking of you. I hope your ok. xxx

NewEra - that is just the most wonderful news!!!! I had no idea they could pick up on pregnancy that early and i assumed the digi ones would be more sensitive than the supermarket brands. So happy for you!

According to my period tracker, i'll be fertile from 27th dec to 2nd jan so i better prep myself for some serious bedroom fun

I agree with what others have said bobsy, you really need to try and find a way of sorting things out with your DH. Even if you did get pregnant now, you can't carry on in a relationship where you don't get any kind of emotional support. I know that's all very easily said, and I don't ally know what you can do to make things better. Have you thought about getting some counselling?

new stay here for a while if you want, we won't throw you out!

I'm definitely out again, temp drop this morning and no other signs so AF should arrive as scheduled on Xmas Day. Bah! I can't even get angry anymore, I'm just so fed up. Seriously considering ditching the opks and everything for a month, though I'm not sure the control freak in me will allow it...

I'm wondering about ditching them too metal. It seems to cause me more stress and the endless days till or past calculations are getting old!

This cycle I did take that approach but I think it's coincidence that it helped. We did have sex across the cycle as opposed to concentrating on the fertile window only. We also had sex on the night of the full moon which is meant to aid conception but again that's probably bollocks.

Feel ok today. Had a kind of trapped-wind-tummy that's a bit uncomfortable but otherwise had some creamy cm which is a good progesterone sign. Meant to be going to my Mums in a bit but DP is ill and has just gone upstairs to lay down and DS is asleep! Think I might end up going on my own which will be embarrassing as she has done a 'buffet'

Thanks for your support ladies I appreciate it, it does help to just put everything down but obviously at this point in my cycle my hormones are raging & every little thing feels much worse than it probably is. Oh & I'm still very stupidly hoping this is implantation! I need to get grip but isn't it cruel that my body starts spotting 9dpo & it goes on for 5 days before the arrival of AF!

As for me & OH we do need to sort ourselves out were just going round in circles he won't he does anything wrong & he doesn't understand how bad this is affecting me, my GP gave my tablets to help me cope with how bad I feel every month. I've thought about counselling myself but haven't yet broached the subject with OH as I know what his response. I keep getting told I need to relax & chill out a bit but if only it was that easy.

I've thought the same thing about the OPK's they do seem to add pressure.

hi just checking in im cd24 and roughly 3dpo as I only had 2 opks left in cupboard.
crispieand metal I agree that opks cause more stress each month but just too tempting to use them. I used them month before when ttc my ds and I got pissed off with them so stopped using them and got my bfp. if only that would happen again.
newlooking forward to hearing more goss on uour bfp its so exviting stay with the thread for a bit you may bring good luck.

congratulations newera

Erm I just got a BFP too :) I was three days late so did a test and got a proper positive. Best christmas present ever :)

Fingers crossed for everyone else.

Yay, congratulations loves, you can keep new company then on the pregnancy boards!